Confessions or UOs - Take your pick

[jewel441]

Dec 10, 2016 8:48:46 GMT -5 @pennycandy said:

Dec 9, 2016 22:16:01 GMT -5 katespade said:

My confession is I was like 99% OAD and now I'm thinking I want another baby someday.

I'm struggling to handle the one I have since he's been sick for 3 months and yet I desperately want another. I see a tiny, squishy newborn and I pretty much melt. It's a damn good thing I have an IUD. 

We fully plan on having 2 more if possible and I refuse to go on birth control but I am still like not yet!!! LO still seems like such a baby to me. And everyone has been asking when we are gonna have more, in like slow down!!!

[chatterbox]

Dec 10, 2016 9:56:55 GMT -5 blackbird said:

Dec 9, 2016 21:46:03 GMT -5 chatterbox said:

Are you living in the house they shared together? If so, have you considered moving? Or just having a massive purge of anything that was theirs together?

I'm team you. It's completely unacceptable. My husband was married before and there is no trace of it anywhere and never was from day one of our relationship. I forget that he was even married. He's only ever mentioned her when I asked questions. It would really bother me if there were little reminders all around.

Yes they built this house, & she left him 6months after they moved in. I would love to move, but it's not so simple since it's a ranch...not just a house.
The thing is she packed up & took 98% of their belongings (while H was out of town). So all the things/reminders left are small, non-valuables. Like the list of ph #s. If you need some of the #s, why can't you rewrite them on another piece of paper?
I'm sure most people thinks it's petty. But seeing your H's name written with another woman's stings. H & M LastName...that's MY position


Eta...to clarify M is the ex wife

I don't think it's petty at all. And your feelings are more important than your husband getting a free magazine.

[chatterbox]

Dec 10, 2016 10:55:56 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Dec 10, 2016 8:48:46 GMT -5 @pennycandy said:

I'm struggling to handle the one I have since he's been sick for 3 months and yet I desperately want another. I see a tiny, squishy newborn and I pretty much melt. It's a damn good thing I have an IUD. 

We fully plan on having 2 more if possible and I refuse to go on birth control but I am still like not yet!!! LO still seems like such a baby to me. And everyone has been asking when we are gonna have more, in like slow down!!!

Confession: I regret having two so close together in age. I was just looking at pics from the day we brought DS home from the hospital and DD still looks like such an baby herself. Obviously I wouldn't change it now because I love my son, but I wish I would have had more time to enjoy DD just the two of us.

[cinnamonsmiles]

Dec 10, 2016 16:33:27 GMT -5 chatterbox said:

Dec 10, 2016 10:55:56 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

We fully plan on having 2 more if possible and I refuse to go on birth control but I am still like not yet!!! LO still seems like such a baby to me. And everyone has been asking when we are gonna have more, in like slow down!!!

Confession: I regret having two so close together in age. I was just looking at pics from the day we brought DS home from the hospital and DD still looks like such an baby herself. Obviously I wouldn't change it now because I love my son, but I wish I would have had more time to enjoy DD just the two of us.

+1
I was just telling MH that it makes me sad that DS and I had a great relationship that really changed when V was born. I wish I had more time to spend with him one-on-one before adding another. Even though the situation will be different next time (2-3), MH has agreed that we should try to wait longer next time if possible.

[jewel441]

Just want to say for the people with kids really close in age who are feeling the pain now, my brother and I and just under 2 years apart and H has 2 siblings so that they were almost 3 under 3 when his brother was born. I am sure that was super difficult when they were little. But as you grow up it's amazing to have a these siblings and we are all really close now on both sides. Now my brother is getting married and it's the last of the 5 of us, and H's brother has a baby a few months older than our LO and I'm sure we aren't far off SIL or my brother. It will be so fun to have all the cousins near to each other in age, etc. Even though I had my brother we were the youngest by about 12 years on the cousin front.

We are really looking forward to taking big cousins vacations in the future!


All of this is why I originally wanted them as close as possible. But now I am trying to figure out the maximum benefit point. Lol. Close enough that I get those benefits but far enough that I get a second to catch my breath.

[jewel441]

I'm pretty sure my kid eats more paper/tissues than solid food.

[halfahippy]

Dec 11, 2016 8:10:30 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Just want to say for the people with kids really close in age who are feeling the pain now, my brother and I and just under 2 years apart and H has 2 siblings so that they were almost 3 under 3 when his brother was born. I am sure that was super difficult when they were little. But as you grow up it's amazing to have a these siblings and we are all really close now on both sides. Now my brother is getting married and it's the last of the 5 of us, and H's brother has a baby a few months older than our LO and I'm sure we aren't far off SIL or my brother. It will be so fun to have all the cousins near to each other in age, etc. Even though I had my brother we were the youngest by about 12 years on the cousin front.

We are really looking forward to taking big cousins vacations in the future!


All of this is why I originally wanted them as close as possible. But now I am trying to figure out the maximum benefit point. Lol. Close enough that I get those benefits but far enough that I get a second to catch my breath.

This is a huge reason I had my kids so close in age. My brother and I are 25 months apart and we were best friends growing up. We are still very close and we were actually roommates for about 2 years. It's hard right now, but I know it'll be great in a few years.

[rachelilly23]

My older two boys are 28 months apart (3 years in school based on how their birthdays fall.) I love the 3 year school gap. They aren't super close, but that's because of DS2 being on the autism spectrum and DS1 having little patience for it. They are only 6 and 4 though, so I imagine that will get better over time.

DS2 and the baby are 3.5 years apart. We wanted a bigger age gap between the second two. They are 3 years apart in school also. So I likely will only have two years where there will be 2 kids in college at the same time. I'm going to be paying college tuition for 10 years

[chatterbox]

Dec 11, 2016 8:10:30 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Just want to say for the people with kids really close in age who are feeling the pain now, my brother and I and just under 2 years apart and H has 2 siblings so that they were almost 3 under 3 when his brother was born. I am sure that was super difficult when they were little. But as you grow up it's amazing to have a these siblings and we are all really close now on both sides. Now my brother is getting married and it's the last of the 5 of us, and H's brother has a baby a few months older than our LO and I'm sure we aren't far off SIL or my brother. It will be so fun to have all the cousins near to each other in age, etc. Even though I had my brother we were the youngest by about 12 years on the cousin front.

We are really looking forward to taking big cousins vacations in the future!


All of this is why I originally wanted them as close as possible. But now I am trying to figure out the maximum benefit point. Lol. Close enough that I get those benefits but far enough that I get a second to catch my breath.

Thank you. Reading this actually made me feel better.

[paloslee]

Dec 11, 2016 8:10:30 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Just want to say for the people with kids really close in age who are feeling the pain now, my brother and I and just under 2 years apart and H has 2 siblings so that they were almost 3 under 3 when his brother was born. I am sure that was super difficult when they were little. But as you grow up it's amazing to have a these siblings and we are all really close now on both sides. Now my brother is getting married and it's the last of the 5 of us, and H's brother has a baby a few months older than our LO and I'm sure we aren't far off SIL or my brother. It will be so fun to have all the cousins near to each other in age, etc. Even though I had my brother we were the youngest by about 12 years on the cousin front.

We are really looking forward to taking big cousins vacations in the future!


All of this is why I originally wanted them as close as possible. But now I am trying to figure out the maximum benefit point. Lol. Close enough that I get those benefits but far enough that I get a second to catch my breath.

My kids are 18yrs apart. Huge age gap. My oldest loves his baby bro but I know they won't have much in common. We'll have to see.
My sis and I are 5 yrs apart and we get a long very well. Our children are close I'm age. DS1 and nephew are only 8mos apart.

[carissa325]

Dec 11, 2016 11:52:33 GMT -5 chatterbox said:

Dec 11, 2016 8:10:30 GMT -5 jewel441 said:

Just want to say for the people with kids really close in age who are feeling the pain now, my brother and I and just under 2 years apart and H has 2 siblings so that they were almost 3 under 3 when his brother was born. I am sure that was super difficult when they were little. But as you grow up it's amazing to have a these siblings and we are all really close now on both sides. Now my brother is getting married and it's the last of the 5 of us, and H's brother has a baby a few months older than our LO and I'm sure we aren't far off SIL or my brother. It will be so fun to have all the cousins near to each other in age, etc. Even though I had my brother we were the youngest by about 12 years on the cousin front.

We are really looking forward to taking big cousins vacations in the future!


All of this is why I originally wanted them as close as possible. But now I am trying to figure out the maximum benefit point. Lol. Close enough that I get those benefits but far enough that I get a second to catch my breath.

Thank you. Reading this actually made me feel better.

Me too!

[songbirdsinging55]

Dec 9, 2016 10:55:26 GMT -5 peachesncream said:

My holiday spending is out of control but I still have only bought one gift for DD2.

I just had to return a bunch of stuff because I realized I went overboard. I have a huge family and we do secret Santa. I always end up buying something for everyone anyway. There are 7 kids alone to shop for and 12 adults.

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Confession: DH is home alone with J today. I kind of hope J gives him a hard time just so he has a little taste of what it's like.