Wed-nes-day!

[ginabini]

How goes it ladies?

[madamewaffles]

Hi! I've been MIA all week. Crazy times for the Waffleses. We are balls deep in nap training and it's going well! Anywho, I'd like to just TP my mom right now. She is SO hell bent on us staying overnight on Christmas Eve at my parents' house for reasons I don't quite understand since we celebrate Christmas Eve with them anyway. Christmas Day morning we have to schlep 2 hours to MH's family so I really don't want to have to go home, drop off gifts received from Christmas Eve, reload with gifts for ILs and deal with a 6 month old who is probably not appreciative of the hit to his routine all in the morning. Newp. Did I mention my parents live only 20 minutes away? I just don't get it. So now she's being all butthurt about my declined offer.

[melody330]

I'm pumping at work. There is a chorus concert In the gym, and kids are standing outside the door. Ugh.

[madamewaffles]

Dec 21, 2016 10:11:32 GMT -5 melody330 said:

I'm pumping at work. There is a chorus concert In the gym, and kids are standing outside the door. Ugh.

Do they know you're in there? My co-workers try to talk to me outside the door when I'm pumping. WTF. Go away, Come back later.

[katelou]

Dec 21, 2016 10:06:07 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Hi! I've been MIA all week. Crazy times for the Waffleses. We are balls deep in nap training and it's going well! Anywho, I'd like to just TP my mom right now. She is SO hell bent on us staying overnight on Christmas Eve at my parents' house for reasons I don't quite understand since we celebrate Christmas Eve with them anyway. Christmas Day morning we have to schlep 2 hours to MH's family so I really don't want to have to go home, drop off gifts received from Christmas Eve, reload with gifts for ILs and deal with a 6 month old who is probably not appreciative of the hit to his routine all in the morning. Newp. Did I mention my parents live only 20 minutes away? I just don't get it. So now she's being all butthurt about my declined offer.

Ooo, my MIL wanted us to do that when we got married. That is a big fat Nope. It was because she was jealous of her friends with kids who lived out of town, and would stay at their houses over Christmas so they got to have perfect cozy Christmas mornings with everyone having coffee in their jammies (my MIL idealizes everyone else's family gatherings, that's another story). I was like WTF, I am not going to all the work of packing an overnight bag (and probably forgetting something like my deodorant), sleeping poorly in a bed that isn't mine, and then having to go home and unpack when I live 10 min away, just so you can have your perfect moment.

And the packing part would be 10x worse with a baby, not to mention the sleeping. Ugh. Don't feel bad!

[mcktymck]

madamewaffles we're having a similar issue with my mom! She and her bf are having a big Christmas Eve party for his family even though mine usually celebrates on Xmas Eve. She wanted us to spend the night because we're coming back the next morning to spend the day but Sam can't even nap in a strange place so no way am I trying to get him down for bed when 30+ people are being loud in the next room. Plus we'd have to bring so much crap to sleep over, no thanks. We were planning on going out for a couple hours and then driving back home, but after a crappy weekend of Sam's schedule being thrown off (and him constantly crying as a result of it) H and I decided we need to skip the party all together and just do Christmas Day. Haven't told my mom yet, I'm guessing it won't go over well...

[madamewaffles]

Hugs mcktymck and katelou . Solidarity! Hopefully our families understand (and maybe, IDK, try to remember) the stress of dealing with infants and their fickle, finicky sleep habits. I have back up food at home in case it blows up in our faces. I think my mom is upset because the timeline will be different because ever since I can remember, we have always celebrated in the evening (we usually don't leave until at least 11:00pm) and with A, we have to leave by 5:00pm in order to arrive at home with ample time to wind down, do bedtime routine, and have him sleeping by 7:00. Sorrynotsorry, but my kid's sleep takes precedence.

[ginabini]

I so understand madamewaffles, mcktymck, katelou. We actually ARE traveling to stay with family for Christmas, and I'm already dreading how much crap we have to bring and how awful M is going to sleep the whole weekend. Luckily we'll be staying at my parents, so I at least feel comfortable to tell them to shut the frig up when M is trying to sleep. But with the constant bouncing around to visit 3 families (DH's parents are divorced) and sleeping in a strange place I have zero hopes for a well rested baby. Should be a fun weekend for me.. not. Fingers crossed your families understand!

[mcktymck]

Most of my guilt over not going Christmas Eve pretty much went out the window Monday night when, in the middle of Sam having a complete meltdown because he missed his evening nap and was beyond exhausted, my mom got down in his face and called him a "fussy asshole!" Have fun at your party nutjob, see ya Sunday.

[katelou]

The "respect my kid's naps and bedtime" fights have been going on for 4 years over here haha. I feel like they've slowly relented. madamewaffles mcktymck ginabini don't give up because all the same problems will still exist next year and the year after! It's so hard because I feel like they DO forget and have this idea that babies and toddlers can just pass out and sleep anywhere and its NBD.

[katelou]

Dec 21, 2016 11:36:42 GMT -5 mcktymck said:

Most of my guilt over not going Christmas Eve pretty much went out the window Monday night when, in the middle of Sam having a complete meltdown because he missed his evening nap and was beyond exhausted, my mom got down in his face and called him a "fussy asshole!" Have fun at your party nutjob, see ya Sunday.

Wtf?!

Does that mean you have permission to call her an asshole?

[melody330]

Dec 21, 2016 11:36:42 GMT -5 mcktymck said:

Most of my guilt over not going Christmas Eve pretty much went out the window Monday night when, in the middle of Sam having a complete meltdown because he missed his evening nap and was beyond exhausted, my mom got down in his face and called him a "fussy asshole!" Have fun at your party nutjob, see ya Sunday.

Wtf? No way. I can't fathom this.

[melody330]

Dec 21, 2016 10:15:18 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Dec 21, 2016 10:11:32 GMT -5 melody330 said:

I'm pumping at work. There is a chorus concert In the gym, and kids are standing outside the door. Ugh.

Do they know you're in there? My co-workers try to talk to me outside the door when I'm pumping. WTF. Go away, Come back later.

No, they aren't but they are knocking on the door. There's a sign on it that says come back in 20 minutes. I'm sure they will all want to know what I'm doing in here.

My pumping room use to be a DIFFERENT supply closet when I was pumping for DS1. It was near the teachers room. There was one teacher that would knock on the door and moo like a cow when I was in there. It was a huge problem, and I addressed her directly many times.

[glaze]

Dec 21, 2016 12:33:38 GMT -5 melody330 said:

Dec 21, 2016 10:15:18 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Do they know you're in there? My co-workers try to talk to me outside the door when I'm pumping. WTF. Go away, Come back later.

No, they aren't but they are knocking on the door. There's a sign on it that says come back in 20 minutes. I'm sure they will all want to know what I'm doing in here.

My pumping room use to be a DIFFERENT supply closet when I was pumping for DS1. It was near the teachers room. There was one teacher that would knock on the door and moo like a cow when I was in there. It was a huge problem, and I addressed her directly many times.

Omg I would have all the rage. Especially if you addressed it and she kept doing it! WTF is wrong with people. Sorry you had and have to deal with that crap!

[acorn99]

Dec 21, 2016 12:33:38 GMT -5 melody330 said:

Dec 21, 2016 10:15:18 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Do they know you're in there? My co-workers try to talk to me outside the door when I'm pumping. WTF. Go away, Come back later.

No, they aren't but they are knocking on the door. There's a sign on it that says come back in 20 minutes. I'm sure they will all want to know what I'm doing in here.

My pumping room use to be a DIFFERENT supply closet when I was pumping for DS1. It was near the teachers room. There was one teacher that would knock on the door and moo like a cow when I was in there. It was a huge problem, and I addressed her directly many times.

This was my face as I read this. WTF IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?!

[acorn99]

Dec 21, 2016 11:36:42 GMT -5 mcktymck said:

Most of my guilt over not going Christmas Eve pretty much went out the window Monday night when, in the middle of Sam having a complete meltdown because he missed his evening nap and was beyond exhausted, my mom got down in his face and called him a "fussy asshole!" Have fun at your party nutjob, see ya Sunday.

Huh. 

I'm sorry she said that. 

[ginabini]

Dec 21, 2016 12:33:38 GMT -5 melody330 said:

Dec 21, 2016 10:15:18 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Do they know you're in there? My co-workers try to talk to me outside the door when I'm pumping. WTF. Go away, Come back later.

No, they aren't but they are knocking on the door. There's a sign on it that says come back in 20 minutes. I'm sure they will all want to know what I'm doing in here.

My pumping room use to be a DIFFERENT supply closet when I was pumping for DS1. It was near the teachers room. There was one teacher that would knock on the door and moo like a cow when I was in there. It was a huge problem, and I addressed her directly many times.

WT actual F!!! I can't believe people. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I don't understand how we went from "this is the only way to feed our children" to so many people thinking its gross, weird, funny, etc. I totally don't get it.

[acorn99]

We celebrated Christmas with my immediate family last weekend and it was a giant clusterfuck of over stimulation and missed or shortened naps and cousins and presents. I am really happy we have it behind us. My aunt is hosting on Christmas day and food is being served at 2pm. I really want to go, but she lives about 40 minutes away and this is smack dab in the middle of the 2yo's nap time (assuming he feels like napping on Sunday). As much as I want to go, I am torn on how much I want to fuck with everyone's sleep yet again. I guess I will play it by ear.

[littlesthobo]

Dec 21, 2016 12:33:38 GMT -5 melody330 said:

Dec 21, 2016 10:15:18 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Do they know you're in there? My co-workers try to talk to me outside the door when I'm pumping. WTF. Go away, Come back later.

No, they aren't but they are knocking on the door. There's a sign on it that says come back in 20 minutes. I'm sure they will all want to know what I'm doing in here.

My pumping room use to be a DIFFERENT supply closet when I was pumping for DS1. It was near the teachers room. There was one teacher that would knock on the door and moo like a cow when I was in there. It was a huge problem, and I addressed her directly many times.

Wow. That is so disrespectful. Why do people care so much about how others' babies are fed??!

[littlesthobo]

Dec 21, 2016 11:36:42 GMT -5 mcktymck said:

Most of my guilt over not going Christmas Eve pretty much went out the window Monday night when, in the middle of Sam having a complete meltdown because he missed his evening nap and was beyond exhausted, my mom got down in his face and called him a "fussy asshole!" Have fun at your party nutjob, see ya Sunday.

Yeah, I would not feel guilty at all skipping that party! Wtf!

[littlesthobo]

Hugs and solidarity to everyone working out plans with their families. Luckily my ILs are super relaxed and I can put L down for a nap there (I have little hope of getting DS1 to nap, though!). Then we are in our own beds Christmas Eve and hosting my family Christmas Day, which means I can run on my schedule. And get the boys down for a nap before everyone arrives!

Out and about with L today, finishing up some last-minute errands. Picking up pizza for dinner, and then swimming lessons for DS1. Busy day!

[mcktymck]

katelou and melody330, she had been drinking before we all got together for dinner and when she drinks she gets even more loud, obnoxious and inappropriate than she usually is. You better believe I snapped at her as soon as she said it and told her he's a five month old BABY, he's exhausted not an asshole! Her comment came after an hour of calling him a brat because he was crying so I was seeing red. Still kind of am.

[ginabini]

mcktymck, 1 bazillion % valid!! I would be livid too!

[madamewaffles]

mcktymck, I am so angry at her with you!! WTF.

[jenn83]

mcktymck I am pissed for you. I can't even fathom what I have done in the moment but can almost 100% guarantee that it wouldn't have been pretty. DH even more so.....

melody330 That's straight up BS!!

Finally got a little rest. Stayed home with HK because of her fever/ear infection. Waiting for her to wake up so we can go pick up her antibiotics. I look like a hot mess with no shower, no makeup and messy hair. Winning

[glaze]

jenn83 I'm glad you got some rest! Hopefully the antibiotics help quickly and she starts feeling better fast!

mcktymck I'm sorry about your mom. Even her calling him a brat is ridiculous. I would be seeing red too.

[sarcaztic10]

(((Hugs))) to everyone dealing with family gatherings and all of the problems that brings.

Currently playing pumping. Kind of want to stay in this room for the rest of my shift. I am the only one doing my job right now... somehow the other person that does this got the 2 weeks at the end of the year off. This is our busiest time so right now everyone wants me to do everything and it sucks.

S is starting to look and feel a bit better but now I am sick. Trying to hydrate but I really just want a big long nap.

[melody330]

I went from feeling fine at lunch, to absolute death by dinner. My throat hurts, my head is pounding and my whole body aches. Whyyyyy?

[rungirlrun]

Wow so many wtf situations today. To be honest, I generally dislike holidays these days. They add so much extra stress and pressure, and if you have to travel, traffic and jacked up plane flights. Just let me see my family on a random day where we can just have fun with no added stress.

melody330 wow to your coworker. I feel like that's harassment. So unprofessional. She should have been disciplined. I'm sorry you had to deal with such crap.

[littlesthobo]

Oh no melody330! I hope you feel better soon!