Tmi: I have hemmeroids. Ugh. I've wiped blood two days in a row now. I need to get some Tucks. I'm not constipated though so I'm not sure what the deal is.
Ugh I'm sorry. I got them at the end with DS but they never really went away although they aren't bothersome now. I used to do a combo of tucks and prep H.
Yeah they are no fun. I got them pretty bad after having DS. I don't wish them on anybody.
Post by sleepymonkey on Dec 22, 2016 11:36:20 GMT -5
MH and I got into it last night when I told him that I thought since I'm having a RCS, I think we should just tell the families that they can come to the hospital after baby is born. My main reason is because it is very important to me that I be there the first time DD sees/meets her baby brother. I remember when I had DD, I saw her for a brief minute and then didn't see her again until over an hour later when I was in recovery. At that point, everyone had already seen her in the nursery (for a lot longer than I got to see her), which bothered me a little but I got over it pretty quickly. But I really don't want everyone at the hospital, including DD since one of the grandparents will need to watch her, and then DD sees her brother while I'm not there. It's just important to me. MH doesn't understand and is more worried about "offending someone" by telling them they can't come until after baby boy is born. That's why I said we'll just tell everyone not to come, rather than just the person watching DD. He still doesn't get it.
TL;DR: I don't want DD to see her baby brother for the first time without me, MH doesn't understand the big deal. I'm frustrated and needed to vent.
sleepymonkey that would upset me too! Even with DD, the only one who spent time with her while I was getting stitched up was DH. I went back to my room, we hung out for about 15 mins just the 3 of us, and then everyone came back. I could not care less if anyone was offended by that, because honestly if they're that insensitive, I wouldn't want them there at all! My mom was the only one who was mad, so I told her point blank that her choices were wait or don't come. Maybe my UO should be that I'm heartless lol
I'm in shock right now guys...the beach, shopping and Elf are three of my favorite things!
UO: I love folding clean laundry, though I hate all other household chores and just wait for DH to do them.
sleepymonkey I am 120% with you on that! I know that will be a special memory for me and I wouldn't want to miss it. Since I'm the obe getting cut open I get 500 extra votes, right? 😀
sleepymonkey Yeah, no. I'm totally with you here and since YOU are technically the patient then you get to dictate when you allow visitors. It's also important to me that DS gets to be the first to see his sister/brother.
sleepymonkey im with you. You are the patient. I'm going to have to have that convo with my H as well, apparently his family "always" waits in the waiting room for the baby to arrive... umm no. I want at least an hour to bond with baby and start learning breastfeeding. I do not want his family in the room with my boobs exposed. I figured we'd just call when we were ready for visitors. But I also found out DHs boss is planning for MIL (they work together) to be out a day or two when I go into labor. I was like uhh can't she just come visit after work?!? Not looking forward to that conversation at all.
I don't like the movie Elf either. Or Will Farrell for that matter.
I don't mind the snow but hate the cold.
I'd rather swim in a pool than an ocean or lake.
sleepymonkey- I feel the exact same way as you and had the same convo with DH. It was very much the same reaction from him (even though we didn't tell anyone before DS was born).
Post by rosesquared on Dec 22, 2016 15:09:49 GMT -5
icedtea your post cracks me up!! I also get annoyed by showers lol. For me they just take so much time haha!
hpnegirl I'm soooo with you about snow!! Unless I'm inside and never have to go out in it and then it's gone by the time I do lol.
sleepymonkey I'm also super afraid of heights and it's just gotten worse the older I get! I love rides but I have become a big baby lol. Also I totally hear you about the hospital visiting! Your point makes total sense to me! I plan to wait a while till I'm good and ready to tell people they can come visit!
BabyStandish ugh I'm sorry! I get them pretty much every time I go to the bathroom lately! It's awful.
Me: 32, Wife: 38, Together for 5 years, Married for 2 years IUI #1 (8/2016): Letrozole, Ovidrel, Crinone = BFN IUI #2 (9/2016): Letrozole, Ovidrel, Endometrin = BFP!! EDD 5/26/17
Post by rosesquared on Dec 22, 2016 15:16:18 GMT -5
I finally have some time to relax and am 99% done with Christmas shopping... finally! DW and I have been fighting a bunch this week over our stupid holiday card lol. I thought I made it clear that I want to be able to put it in the mail as soon as the a/s is over next Friday (it's a new year's/announcement card so if we mail it Friday by noon SOME people will have the card by new year's eve)! She procrastinates on every single design I want her to do and leaves everything to the last minute which means rush printing and rush shipping! I just got so angry that she was clueless about the deadline that we'd talked about multiple times! She finally came through but only after long nights and lots of arguing lol. Ugh!
Tonight is our last free night then we start the holiday craze tomorrow but I love it. Yay!
Me: 32, Wife: 38, Together for 5 years, Married for 2 years IUI #1 (8/2016): Letrozole, Ovidrel, Crinone = BFN IUI #2 (9/2016): Letrozole, Ovidrel, Endometrin = BFP!! EDD 5/26/17
sleepymonkey, 100% on your side. Boundaries are important, and so is alone time with just the four of you. You're getting cut open, you have final say *gavel*
For everyone dealing with the unwanted 'roids... EMAB momma bottom balm (the balm, not the spray) works really well at treating those bad boys.
I had bad ones with DS1 and they're back with a vengeance this time around... not that they really went away but they were more manageable when not pregnant
Post by cubbiebear325 on Dec 22, 2016 22:26:10 GMT -5
sleepymonkey Totally with you. With dd, we didn't even tell any family or friends when we went in and called only after I was out of the CS and had nursed DD for them to come up to see the baby. We didn't even tell them what she was until they got there since they were team green. You do what you want to do and I totally understand wanting to see dd seeing her brother for the first time! Also, your hospital doesn't let the baby stay with you in the OR? That's a bummer. Dd stayed with me and even did skin to skin while I was getting closed back up. She didn't leave my chest in the OR and being wheeled back to my room to recover then I nursed. You should really try to push for skin to skin or at least baby staying with you. I really pushed for the skin to skin and got it even though they didn't usually in the OR. In fact, the LC on staff at the hospital was shocked, but I plan on pushing again. And we also won't be having anyone come up until I'm recovered and baby has nursed this time either =)
sleepymonkey, I totally get that! I was crazy and wanted to make sure DD was the first to know if the baby was a boy or a girl (and she's only a year and a half so she has no clue what that even means). I hadn't really thought about how the hospital will play out yet, but all of this is good food for thought! It would definitely bother me if everyone including big sister got to meet the baby without me there. Hopefully it will all work out!
sleepymonkey, that bad ILs board that I continue to spiral on has a couple "Best of Birth" threads with a bunch of horror stories to help sway your husband to your side. If you want the link, let me know!
My MiL still thinks she's going to be allowed in the labor and delivery room because she didn't get to see DS1 be born and my grandmother (who's like my mom) did. Hahahaha no.
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