Dh and I were discussing New Years resolutions today so I thought I'd liven up the boards. I really want to focus on myself this year. I love working from home but I don't necessarily love what I do. If I'm not going to switch jobs then I need some hobbies. I used to take tap lessons and I'd love to get back into that. I also want to try out a therapist. I'm not depressed but I need to vent a little and get some help with how to deal with overwhelming feelings. I also want to focus on myself by getting to the gym and losing the 9 more pounds I need to lose. Lastly, I want to work on my marriage and other relationships that have been put to the side as I raise little ones.
ETA: I want to cook more. I cook every night but I want to be more creative and cook like I did pre children.
DW and I talked the other night about making Friday night date nights. 99% of the time this will be home dates after kids are asleep. But no phones. No to do lists. Maybe a movie if we aren't just going to sleep to it. Just us.
We also want to assign/guarantee 1-2 hours or so a week for each of us to do something for ourselves. This will usually involve exercise like a yoga class for me or long run for her. Or meeting a friend for a drink or dinner or coffee. We need the self care time.
Ohhh I like these and am stealing some of your ideas:
-Date nights at least once a month -Find a counselor, definitely still struggling postpartum -Starting a new job next week and the kids are starting daycare -Have friends over for dinner once a month
txmommy14, I didn't know you were going back to work! Congrats and good luck! Are you teaching again? (or am I crazy and you never did? also a likely scenario, haha)
I definitely agree that I need to work on the self-care. Honestly, if I resolve to actually going grocery shopping consistently and meal-planning I'll be doing 10x better than I am right now. But I'd also love to find time to sneak away for a yoga class. I can't make it to the free one on Wed evenings at work, which is a bummer.
I also need to focus more on DH. In the evenings I get so wrapped up in avoiding cleaning the house while he plays video games or we just watch TV while I stuff diapers. We need to focus on each other more.
My marriage truly needs to be a priority. It has sort of falls to the wayside. Between my masters program from 2014-2016 and a new baby and new job and the four year old we have done nothing for each other. We will probably start some counseling this year.
Re-instituting no-wine-weekdays I'm a wine with dinner girl, but I think it would be a good thing to cut out of my regular routine. Overall I need to be eating and drinking more healthily and I'm not going to try to do it all at once. Hydrating more during the day is the other goal I'm starting with.
I'd like to lose the baby weight but I'm more concerned with just feeling healthy first, and continuing to breastfeed as long as I can, so no big diets for me yet.
I want to continue to take my me-time working out on Saturday mornings and encourage DH to find his outlet too.
I want to work on my friendships and have people over more often.
I want to drink more water and eat more vegetables.
I want to go to the gym on the weekend days. I need to be more organized at work. DH and I should be better about date nights. I also want to watch The Wire. I'm not sure people put watch more tv as a resolution, but I've wanted to watch forever and think while I'm pumping would be a good time to start.
I want to go to the gym on the weekend days. I need to be more organized at work. DH and I should be better about date nights. I also want to watch The Wire. I'm not sure people put watch more tv as a resolution, but I've wanted to watch forever and think while I'm pumping would be a good time to start.
I love watching TV as a resolution. Why not? Think of it as an experience. I'm totally tickled.
Post by woodengirl07 on Jan 1, 2017 9:39:41 GMT -5
You guys have deep resolutions. Mine is to do at least one load of laundry during the week. I spend too much time each weekend with the stupid washer and dryer.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Jan 1, 2017 13:45:19 GMT -5
1. Keep the house clean and de-cluttered. It's a new home for us so we're motivated. We started a chore chart!
2. Save money. We've worked out a budget and will stick to it. It involves putting every extra penny into retirement or a college savings account for DS.
I definitely agree that I need to work on the self-care. Honestly, if I resolve to actually going grocery shopping consistently and meal-planning I'll be doing 10x better than I am right now. But I'd also love to find time to sneak away for a yoga class. I can't make it to the free one on Wed evenings at work, which is a bummer.
I also need to focus more on DH. In the evenings I get so wrapped up in avoiding cleaning the house while he plays video games or we just watch TV while I stuff diapers. We need to focus on each other more.
Sorry I just saw this! I did teach for 6 years, good memory! I'm working for a school district but I'll doing in home autism intervention and parent training-it'll be a whole new thing!!!
1. Keep the house clean and de-cluttered. It's a new home for us so we're motivated. We started a chore chart!
2. Save money. We've worked out a budget and will stick to it. It involves putting every extra penny into retirement or a college savings account for DS.
I definitely agree that I need to work on the self-care. Honestly, if I resolve to actually going grocery shopping consistently and meal-planning I'll be doing 10x better than I am right now. But I'd also love to find time to sneak away for a yoga class. I can't make it to the free one on Wed evenings at work, which is a bummer.
I also need to focus more on DH. In the evenings I get so wrapped up in avoiding cleaning the house while he plays video games or we just watch TV while I stuff diapers. We need to focus on each other more.
Sorry I just saw this! I did teach for 6 years, good memory! I'm working for a school district but I'll doing in home autism intervention and parent training-it'll be a whole new thing!!!
Survival. We are still in survival mode. Between both of our careers and two kiddos, breastfeeding and pumping, and everything else...survival is key.
I also want to really implement a weekly dinner rotation. I have a pretty good grasp of it, just haven't executed it yet. Also a weekly shopping list to make it even more efficient.
For example shop on Sunday. Monday salmon and veggies Tuesday crockpot chicken tacos Wed chicken and veggies Thursday turkey and beans with rice Friday pasta
My resolution and MH's too is to focus on us a bit more. Sounds like we aren't alone in this, but I was so thrilled to know that he thinks it needs to be a focus as well. We get so wrapped up in the girls that when we get a free moment he watches TV and I get on my phone/internet. It leads to resentment between us. We started watching the New Girl as a way to focus on something together. We get all the chores done so that we can take an hour or so at night to just sit together on the couch and watch.
Also - declutter. We are signing another year on our tiny apartment and it's too crowded. I must do something to keep my sanity!
Survival. We are still in survival mode. Between both of our careers and two kiddos, breastfeeding and pumping, and everything else...survival is key.
I also want to really implement a weekly dinner rotation. I have a pretty good grasp of it, just haven't executed it yet. Also a weekly shopping list to make it even more efficient.
For example shop on Sunday. Monday salmon and veggies Tuesday crockpot chicken tacos Wed chicken and veggies Thursday turkey and beans with rice Friday pasta
I'm with you on all of this. I keep trying to do more but in reality we are barely surviving due to the exact same things you list above. Maybe I'll be better when i sleep some day?
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