Post by musicfrk2002 on Dec 30, 2016 2:13:53 GMT -5
I haven't been in a good place mentally for awhile. I had a pretty traumatic birth experience almost 19 months ago due to other medical issues, and was in and out of the hospital for a solid month. My OB had suggested that I might have been dealing PPD but I refused medications, and never got around to seeing a counselor or anything.
The medical issues caused a job loss from being on disability so long, so I was offered a part time position. I finally secured a full time position a couple months ago, but a 90 minute drive each way. I thought that's what I wanted -needed- but I'm not so sure anymore. I feel like all I do is drive, work, clean, and sleep. I'm gone at least 12 hours a day during the week, and of the 12 I am home, I only see my son for 1.5-2 hours. I don't have any friends. I did have a mom's group that met, but I can't attend anymore due to work.
I don't even know what to do. I feel like I'm trapped inside a box, alone, and no one cares. I've turned back to stress eating, causing a 40+ weight gain. I'm not sleeping well. I don't know what to do. Or where to start. Or anything.
big hugs to you musicfrk2002 and sorry to hear about your traumatic birth and medical issues. I initially refused Meds in the beginning and was pretty much in denial about my PPD. It eventually got to the point where I was ready to drive off a clif. I wish I got help a lot sooner as I feel like I missed out a lot of my daughters first months of life.
I feel the same about only driving, working, cleaning etc. The days get so mundane sometimes.
Do you have a therapist or psychiatrist? I would talk to someone about possible medications. I hate that you are feeling this way. Since going on medications I feel a lot better but still struggle sometimes. But the Meds help so much. Please consider it.
I hope you stick around here. You can PM me if you ever need to talk. Hope you feel better soon!
Hi musicfrk2002, I'm glad you intro'd here. You are on such a tough schedule. And it is possible any post partum mental health issues could be lingering if they weren't treated. Have you ever talked with anyone about post partum PTSD? Can you get a referral from your OB, or find a mental health provider through your medical insurance, to see a counselor at least? You might need medication, or therapy, or both. At the very least it would help to start talking to someone, I think. Let us know how we can help.
big hugs to you musicfrk2002 and sorry to hear about your traumatic birth and medical issues. I initially refused Meds in the beginning and was pretty much in denial about my PPD. It eventually got to the point where I was ready to drive off a clif. I wish I got help a lot sooner as I feel like I missed out a lot of my daughters first months of life.
I feel the same about only driving, working, cleaning etc. The days get so mundane sometimes.
Do you have a therapist or psychiatrist? I would talk to someone about possible medications. I hate that you are feeling this way. Since going on medications I feel a lot better but still struggle sometimes. But the Meds help so much. Please consider it.
I hope you stick around here. You can PM me if you ever need to talk. Hope you feel better soon!
I haven't seen a therapist or anyone yet. I've been in denial for quite some time now, but the severity of it changes so much that the good days I have make me think it's gotten better...then I plummet the next day. I'm not even sure I can make the time to go see someone, because I am not willing to give up the little bit of time I have in the mornings with my son.
Hi, glad you are here. Sorry your situation is stressful. I also have a job with a huge commute and don't know how it will be feasible with baby in the mix. Sounds like spending more time with your baby is something you want. so if it's financially possible I would consider ditching that job. Also I agree with speaking with some people about PPD there can me med alternatives to coping. As a person here not on meds my therapist/ psychiatrist still see me and support me. But I think meds make everything easier and I want to be on them this time next year.
I wish we could financially afford me dropping back to part time, but right now it's not feasible. Now that it's january, we will get slammed with medical bills until we meet our deductible. I'm hoping that a position within my company will open up closer here, or that we can find somewhere between my H's job and mine, and maybe that will help some. The area we have been looking in we haven't found anything yet, but if we can, it would save me at least an hour of drive time per day. It isn't much time, but I would take it.
Hi musicfrk2002, I'm glad you intro'd here. You are on such a tough schedule. And it is possible any post partum mental health issues could be lingering if they weren't treated. Have you ever talked with anyone about post partum PTSD? Can you get a referral from your OB, or find a mental health provider through your medical insurance, to see a counselor at least? You might need medication, or therapy, or both. At the very least it would help to start talking to someone, I think. Let us know how we can help.
I haven't talked with anyone yet. I know I need to though. I believe my employer has people I can call to help set things up, I just need to look into that more.
Hi musicfrk2002, I'm glad you intro'd here. You are on such a tough schedule. And it is possible any post partum mental health issues could be lingering if they weren't treated. Have you ever talked with anyone about post partum PTSD? Can you get a referral from your OB, or find a mental health provider through your medical insurance, to see a counselor at least? You might need medication, or therapy, or both. At the very least it would help to start talking to someone, I think. Let us know how we can help.
I haven't talked with anyone yet. I know I need to though. I believe my employer has people I can call to help set things up, I just need to look into that more.
Yes, at my former employer we had an Employee Assistance Program. They had counsellors I could talk to and people to help me find all kinds of other assistance. Definitely look into that. And, I know it's hard to justify giving up time with your son when you have so little of it each day. But the quality of your time together will improve so much if you're feeling better. Happy mama = happy baby. Your mental wellness is a huge benefit to your family.
Post by roseinbloom on Jan 8, 2017 14:02:24 GMT -5
Hi and welcome.
I hope that you were able to get some guidance last week on counsellors available to you, and that you're feeling better about taking some steps forward to care for yourself better.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
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