Oh man, this whole fussy baby for the first half of the day thing is wearing me down. I actually got her to sleep a minute ago and I'm just hoping it will help her sleep patterns overall to get some rest during the day. We'll see.
Nothing on the calendar today, might go look at lighting for our kitchen. I've been putting it off forever and dh is desperate to find something. Fun times.
At the car dealership getting my oil changed and headlights adjusted, it's supposed to take 1 hour- 1 1/2 hours. I'm so freaking bored and I really just want to nap right now.
Stupid question - how does everyone make this work?! I want to get out of the house more, but it's either fussing/awake baby asking for food, or sleeping so hard you can't wake her. Then for hours it's just eat and sleep.
Do you just leave when you need to, regardless of what baby is doing? And do you worry about baby sleeping too long while you're out?
Also, Last night we let her have more than 3 oz and she wouldn't go down forever... then she promptly spit it all up the second I got her to sleep. She's constantly giving us hunger cues, it's insane.
Winnifred I don't go out much but when we need to, I try to leave after baby has been fed and hope he sleeps thru it all. Usually he'll cry when we first put him in the car seat but once we're on our way he'll fall asleep.
Has your pedi given any advice on feeding? Maybe your baby prefers snacking all day? Mine is still eating on avg every 2 hrs, sometimes 1.5 hrs. He's almost 5 wks old.
Winnifred, I just leave whenever I need to. She will just go back to sleep in the car or will fall asleep if she needs to. When I get where I'm going I get her out and put her in my sling so it wakes her up a little, that seems to help keep from her sleeping too much.
Winnifred not stupid at all! It's tough to figure out at first, but I usually try to feed baby first then head out. That way I know what kind of time I have before he needs to be fed again. Some errands I can run in that amount of time, but if I'm still ahead I can kind of plan ahead for around when he'll want to eat. It becomes so much easy and less stressful after doing it a few times. I need to figure it out better this time around because breastfeeding and 2 other kids. I'm determined to get out though. Need my sanity! Good luck!
ETA: baby will usually sleep most of the time I'm out. I don't worry about how long. Never wake a sleeping baby! 😂 That and it lets me get thing accomplished.
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Post by harfamilyof3 on Jan 5, 2017 14:08:58 GMT -5
It's DHs last few days of child bonding leave before he goes back on Monday- this morning we went to Kohls, Lowes and Old Navy- felt super productive and bought both girls some new outfits.
Have to go down to the basement this afternoon and find Paige's bin of 3 month clothes to wash and bring up for Nora. Then we have to take all the newborn clothes and put them into the basement. I know we're not planning to have any more kids but I can't get rid of them just yet!
Also- forgot how much clothes switching out you do with a newborn! Paige has been in 18-24 months for at least 8 months so we've been spoiled!
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We've only gone to the doctor so far, and to walk trails for less than an hour. Otherwise, we leave in shifts. I want to take her out slowly to lunch or whatever, but that can wait until after this cold spell and her one month appointment.
There's a work dinner next week that I got invited to go to. I'm planning to stop by to say hi because we have a lot of people in town from other countries that I haven't met yet, but I won't be able to stay long to make sure we keep on her feeding schedule. Hopefully I won't cry leaving her. I'm such a sap now.
@kc295905 putting Leo down to sleep is the most stressful time of the day. Today it took 40 min and that's good. There's been times it's taken 1.5-2 hrs (bedtime). I miss when it only took 15 min.
I feel like I've been in a car wreck. Between the 48 hour labor and then c-section there is no part of me that doesn't hurt. I can't lift my arms, i think that's from being on my sides dealing with my epidural, but at least all my gas pains seem to have passes.
Last night was bad, our feeding system which worked at the hospital is just plain exhausting. I have no indications that my milk is coming in and these feeds are a two person job. I'm giving it until Monday then I'm going for formula because this exhaustion isn't worth it,
Post by requiressnacks on Jan 5, 2017 15:43:20 GMT -5
Winnifred, I just feed the babies and go. Mine eat every three hours like clockwork so it's always a race against time. (Unless I want to feed them in public, which sounds impossible)
I also make sure that the car is already packed while they are napping so that we can feed, burp and go.
Mine don't sleep in the car or in the stroller, but as long as we are moving they seem to be ok. I started with family-friendly places (ex. Target) so if they completely lost their shit I could just leave.
Maybe you should just go to your local mall and walk around? Test run.
Also, re: feeding. Is it possible the baby has reflux? DS does and a key indicator was fussiness and spit up. I can't recall about your babe though.
Post by requiressnacks on Jan 5, 2017 15:45:24 GMT -5
@cahistoryteacher, big hugs lady. It's so, so exhausting. When the twins were born I was BFing, pumping and supplementing with formula. I basically lost it and decided I couldn't do it all. I was at my wits end.
Lucy, just think....you'll have such jacked arms soon.
Winnifred, I feel like a FTM all over again. I feel like it was easier when I had a baby and a 13 month old to wrangle. I don't remember how I did it though. I feel like I should know this stuff, but I don't know what the hell I'm doing half the time. I try to leave as soon as Cora eats, but it always feels like it takes 30 minutes to get out the door after she eats -- and during the day she refuses to take full feeds. She wants to snack every hour.
Last night I had to go pick DD1 up from Girl Scouts and Cora was sleeping. So I grabbed her, buckled her in her seat and left. I completely forgot that she'd want to eat and would need a diaper the second she woke up because it was her first long nap of the day. I didn't bother grabbing the diaper bag when I left because it was only going to be a few minutes. 30 minutes later I'm standing there waiting for the stupid running late GS meeting to end with a screamy baby looking like I had no idea what I was doing.
Sometimes babies can give hunger cues when they're feeling discomfort in other ways. Gas, tired, hot, cold, etc. They want to suck for comfort. Cora will give hunger cues when she needs a diaper or to be burped. As soon as the issue is fixed, the hunger cues stop.
requiressnacks, do you feed both babies at the same time? I was a nanny for twins once in my former life and remember the mom insisting they be fed at the same time -- literally the same time. So they'd both be in bounce chairs while I sat in the floor between them with 2 bottles.
When they got older and were being spoon fed, I'd just use the same spoon for both of them (also at the parents insistence). The reasoning was that they both put their mouths all over the same toys and each other all day long anyway, so spreading germs wasn't a big deal, and it was just easier to hold one bowl/jar and spoon at a time instead of trying to juggle 2 of everything.
I feel like I've been in a car wreck. Between the 48 hour labor and then c-section there is no part of me that doesn't hurt. I can't lift my arms, i think that's from being on my sides dealing with my epidural, but at least all my gas pains seem to have passes.
Last night was bad, our feeding system which worked at the hospital is just plain exhausting. I have no indications that my milk is coming in and these feeds are a two person job. I'm giving it until Monday then I'm going for formula because this exhaustion isn't worth it,
I'm so sorry we felt similarly about everything and ended up going to formula only by day 9.
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