Announcing!

[kellum]

How and when will you be announcing?

[kellum]

We told my mom last night. We will tell my inlaws after my 10 week appointment. I think I'm going to put DS in a big brother shirt and see how long it takes them to figure it out.

[LittleStarSweeper]

I like your idea, kellum , for the "I'm the Big Sister/Brother" shirt. That's sweet. ❤️

Last time around, we got together with my parents and in-laws for my dad's birthday. I gave my dad an envelope with the 12-week sonogram picture in it as one of his "gifts." That was how we announced to our family. Everyone else, I just kind of told as I went. LOL I'm so boring. I felt kind of awkward announcing, actually.
Anyway, I will probably will do something similar this time. I think I'll definitely tell my parents and family sooner, though. I probably won't start telling my friends until more like 12-weeks.

Edit: clarity. Not awake yet 😴

[savigirl]

We are very open with our family and would lean on the for support if anything went wrong. So that being said. We had a family get together the day I found out. Mh was out of town, but we decided he would FaceTime during the party and I snuck Ss away to put her in a big sister hand me down shirt we'd gotten. So we announced to my parents and inlaws the day we got our bfp! It was sweet to have everyone there.

Mh and I will tell close family and friends before 12 weeks along the way, but will wait til around 12 weeks to announce publicly.

[cnf2013]

We told both sets of parents in person already. We told them right away last time too.

We'll announce publicly after my 8w ultrasound. Not sure entirely what we're planning to do yet.

Last time we just post sonogram pictures to Facebook. Then when we found out it was a girl we did a picture where we had our dog sitting with a sign around his neck that said "I'm getting a sister" and her name in wooden letters across our fence boards.

[CK1]

I've told my best friends the day I found out because I talk to them all day everyday and there's no way I could keep it a secret but we haven't told our families yet. My parents live a couple hours away and we're seeing them next weekend so we'll tell them then but I'm not sure how exactly. I want to do something cute and definitely get my mom's reaction on video. I'm her only child and she's going to lose it lol. We'll tell H's mom, who's local, after that and his dad via Facetime because he lives in Georgia.

[saltandvinegar]

Both sides of the family and our close friends know already. I figured that these are people that I would talk to about it even if things don't go as planned. I am planning to tell everyone at work around 12 ish weeks. I probably won't make a big fb announcement or anything this time around though.

[caybeh]

I've told my sister but basically because she had literally asked me if I was pregnant a week earlier as I was complaining that I felt off. I'll tell my parents and brother this weekend. DH wants to wait to tell his parents for awhile. We probably won't tell our kids until we are ready to tell friends as I don't trust them to keep it a secret. We will publicly announce after our first appointment which is close to 12 weeks.

I haven't decided how to publicly announce it. I kind of out did myself with our daughter's announcement. Our son really liked Blues Clues at the time. So we dressed him up as Blue and made clues that had to do with babies. We took pictures and posted it on fb. It was super cute.

[salmon2017]

We have told our parents and one set of friends who we spent NYE with (the lack of drinking was too obvious). Everyone else, we will wait till after my cerclage probably. Too much uncertainty. Not sure if there will be "public" announcement. Neither of us are on Facebook and we are not super Pinterest-y at all. Probably people will figure it out when my belly grows haha.

Just re-read what I wrote and it sounds like a total bummer! I guess we are just quite private people ....

[mambo]

We told everyone because I've been very open about our losses. We put out kiddos in A, B and had a C onesie

[kellykapow]

We haven't told anyone yet (other than online friends), and I'm not totally sure how we'll do it. I was thinking about announcing it at DS's birthday party in March, or maybe just having him wear a "big brother" shirt there and let people figure it out. I'm hanging out with a group of girl friends next week, and I know they are going to be super suspicious when I'm not drinking. I may tell them, but it just feels so early to me.

[cnf2013]

I'm going to need help telling my best friend. I want to give her a heads up before we go public. She broke down over the holidays and told me her and her H have been trying for like a year and half unsuccessfully. They went for testing and there's literally nothing wrong with either of them. She's so devastated. Then I got my BFP a week later. I plan to text her so she can have time a space to process it, but like, what do I even say. She's going to be so upset

[salmon2017]

Jan 12, 2017 11:26:02 GMT -5 cnf2013 said:

I'm going to need help telling my best friend. I want to give her a heads up before we go public. She broke down over the holidays and told me her and her H have been trying for like a year and half unsuccessfully. They went for testing and there's literally nothing wrong with either of them. She's so devastated. Then I got my BFP a week later. I plan to text her so she can have time a space to process it, but like, what do I even say. She's going to be so upset

I am sorry cnf2013, this will be tough. I think your friend may surprise you. She will be sad for herself, but ultimately happy for you. When I was pregnant with my first, a close friend had recently gone into pre-term labour and lost her son at 25 weeks. I was so nervous about sharing my joy with her. I wrote her an email before I told anyone else, so she wouldn't hear through the grapevine. It was very carefully worded and told her that I had no expectations and wanted to give her space. She came to me the next day, literally grinning from ear to ear, so happy for us. I remember after my loss it hurt me to hear of other people's pregnancies - but at the same time I hated people tiptoeing around me. It is a hard balance to strike, but since you know her so well I am sure you can do a good job

[saltandvinegar]

cnf2013, - I agree with salmon2017, - I was in a similar situation last go around but after talking with my friend she reassured me that just because they were having difficulties ttc it didn't make them any less happy for others. As long as you are respectful in the way you tell her I think that she will be excited for you.

[kirabou]

I'm really awkward and not cutesy, so I have no idea. We've already told my parents and sister, and two of my close friends. I told my husband it's on him to tell his family, lol. The rest of our friends and acquaintances likely won't find out until we make some sort of Facebook announcement at 12 weeks, but I'm currently looking at Pinterest to find something cute using my daughter to announce. I'm so bad at this, lol.

[caybeh]

Well, I just told one of my close friends. I wasn't really planning on telling her, but she was super helpful when we had a loss before so figured why not tell her. And she asked if DD is in a bed yet and if I just didn't have a need for the crib yet. So....yeah.

[laurenash323]

As soon as I tell my boss I will announce publicly. We were very open with our loss with our son last year and if anything were to God forbid happen like that again I would want all of the support we could get. By the time we announce we will hopefully have had 3 ultrasounds anyways (I work remotely so don't see my boss often).

[Mom2Ms]

I've told a few close people. A lot depends on when I "have" to start telling people. It's my 3rd child and I'm very petite, so I won't be able to hide twins for very long. I usually get a bump pretty early on, so my doctor said to plan on it showing sooner.

We are going to get pictures taken for any announcement. DD is going to hold a #1 balloon, DS will hold a #2 balloon, and I will hold a #3 and #4 balloon. 😁

[springbeduk]

I don't know. Definitely nothing cute ... I'm bad at cute and h is very anti-facebook so no fb announcement. I told my best friend already because she lives like 10 states away and so even if she tells someone it doesn't matter, and i would talk with her about it if we have a loss, so why not. Plus wanted to tell someone IRL.

Would rather not tell anyone else until after ultrasound results and preferably also materniT21 results but probably won't have the latter back before our Feb. vacation visit to DH's family in India and it'd be weird to be there with them and not tell, so ... I don't know. but I'm expecting dd to be a blabbermouth so don't want her to know until I'm ok with everyone knowing (and she is in daycare with some of my students' siblings)... But she will have to be with us for that first ultrasound so that will depend on how we do at saying "we're just taking a look at something inside mommy - isn't that cool?" And leaving it at that.

Last time I didn't tell people at school until around 22 weeks.
Eta most people have openly assumed we weren't planning to have another (mainly because I'm so old and that is not typical around here - more people are having first grandkids at this age) so I'm curious what the reaction will be. Plus the timing relative to the school year sucks but oh well.

[leviosa]

I have told all of my close friends and my mom. So the only ones left to find out are my in-laws and FB. Last time I didn't announce on FB. I happened to post a picture late in my 2nd trimester with all the kids and that is how everyone on FB found out.

I have a friend who has struggled with infertility for years who I'm friends with on FB so I don't like to do anything big. Especially since this is my third pregnancy since she has been trying for a second. I don't want to cause her any pain.

[Flick]

Mostly everyone knows anyways because my mom is really excited but we are waiting to announce online to extended family until February 16 or so after my ultrasound. We are planning to do a little collage picture that says "First came Maddie, then came marriage, now there'll be a baby in the baby carriage." Obviously have to work around with the wording but I wanted it to go along with the little rhyme.

[wells2010]

I'm not sure yet. I like to tell people in person, but I'm not sure when we will get a chance to see the family.

I think we will figure it out once I go to the OB and if everything checks out ok.

[lightside]

We have our first scan booked in at 8w (2/10) and if all goes well we will announce to our families and close friends that weekend. It's so tempting to tell them now but H and I decided we would probably just want space and privacy if we had an early loss. Plus we know they will all struggle to keep it quiet for long.

No plans for a public announcement but I will probably tell my boss and start letting the rest of the world know early 2nd tri as long as the bump stays under control until then...

I'm not sure when we'll tell DS, but I'm pretty excited about it because he's really into babies right now!

[salmon2017]

Jan 16, 2017 3:11:11 GMT -5 lightside said:

We have our first scan booked in at 8w (2/10) and if all goes well we will announce to our families and close friends that weekend. It's so tempting to tell them now but H and I decided we would probably just want space and privacy if we had an early loss. Plus we know they will all struggle to keep it quiet for long.

No plans for a public announcement but I will probably tell my boss and start letting the rest of the world know early 2nd tri as long as the bump stays under control until then...

I'm not sure when we'll tell DS, but I'm pretty excited about it because he's really into babies right now!

My son is a couple of months younger than yours and right now he is most excited about dogs and buses. Hopefully he will start getting into babies soon! He seems so young, I am not sure he would understand if we told him I am going to have a baby. I guess we have 9 months to get there

[Deleted]

We will definitely wait because of my balanced translocation. I think maybe if I make it to this weekend, and based on good beta results, we will share with parents and siblings shortly thereafter. We will probably tell our oldest at the same time. NO ONE in my family can keep secrets though so we'll see. Honestly, if this ends up not ending in a CP, I will probably want to tell everyone right away.

[lightside]

Jan 16, 2017 9:25:08 GMT -5 salmon2017 said:

Jan 16, 2017 3:11:11 GMT -5 lightside said:

We have our first scan booked in at 8w (2/10) and if all goes well we will announce to our families and close friends that weekend. It's so tempting to tell them now but H and I decided we would probably just want space and privacy if we had an early loss. Plus we know they will all struggle to keep it quiet for long.

No plans for a public announcement but I will probably tell my boss and start letting the rest of the world know early 2nd tri as long as the bump stays under control until then...

I'm not sure when we'll tell DS, but I'm pretty excited about it because he's really into babies right now!

My son is a couple of months younger than yours and right now he is most excited about dogs and buses. Hopefully he will start getting into babies soon! He seems so young, I am not sure he would understand if we told him I am going to have a baby. I guess we have 9 months to get there

Well, he would definitely be more excited about seeing an ambulance or a clock over a baby right now. But he's started pointing out babies in books and strollers when we're out. It will be really interesting to see how they interpret the news and the arrival!

[Deleted]

I just saw a super cute idea that I think I am going to use. There is a pic of three kids and the first one has a sign that says "been there," second kid has a sign that says "done that" and the third's says, now it's my turn to be a big brother, September 2017. But I might do shirts instead of signs or just do that for an official announcement instead of telling family that way.

[RajahMD]

We're telling my family tomorrow. I'm both nervous and excited. Eek!

[pascal]

I want to tell now!!!

And also I want to wait until we go to our first ultrasound. So another few weeks to go.

[andtheheartbreakers]

I found out Christmas day and told MH that night. We were doing scratch cards and I said "oh it's a winner! You win....a baby!" He didn't get it.

We told our parents on Boxing Day. I made up a shirt that morning that said "Big Sister" and put it on our daughter, L, then we facetime'd with MH's family and just waited for them to notice. Then with my parents we went to their house and just left her jacket on and waited for my parents to take her coat off. Finally my mom took it off and didn't even have it totally unzipped before looking at me and saying "what is this?!" over and over again. Then she started bawling, so my dad was all "what happened why is she crying?" so I said I made her cry, and he started to get this annoyed look and was like "whatever. I don't even want to know what's going on" So I said well actually L did and he finally looked at her and got so happy.

Then my sister and her husband came over later and they didn't even notice. L was walking around, my sister even held her and started lifting her shirt up to tickle her belly and didn't read it. Then my sister started talking about her new shirt so I said "yea, L has a new shirt too!" and my sister was like "yea I saw, it's nice, so anyways MY shirt...." so I had to pretty much yell at her to read the shirt.

Last time we announced to Facebook land around 9 weeks after my first scan. We took a picture of MH and I each holding our guitars and then a ukulele in the middle with her ultrasound pic in it saying "our band is growing". So I don't know if we'll play on that this time to announce or do something different.