Last NST today! DS 'failed' this one (38&4, threw a decel) and they induced us, so I have some feels about it. I don't really want to have surgery today but I'm going to be anxious even if she passes. Maybe I'll ask them to keep us a little longer for peace of mind.
I can always call L&D over the weekend if something seems weird but I like the testing lab ladies better
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marshian, I would love to look into a nanny share with our friends as well.
I don't really know how nannies work in general. Do they have predetermined time off (e.g. a specific week(s) off in the summer/winter/whatever) like some home daycare providers or do they ask for time off as they need to and you have to make alternate arrangements? What about when you want to take time off and won't be needing her - do they get paid for that time?
PirateCat - I believe we would have to work that all out with the nanny in our contract. Personally, I would expect to not pay her for time we don't need her (e.g. when we go on vacation) given a set amount of notice. We could offer PTO as a benefit to working with us. I'm going to have to ask around and see if that's typical for our area.
The daycare we would likely go with if we don't do a nanny is reduced rate (half) for any 5 consecutive days or longer if you give them a few weeks' notice. And they actually have no weeks where they are off during the year, just standard holidays. So we would need something which will work for us with a nanny to beat that.
I'm going to go ask in my local group now about the PTO thing. Thanks for bringing that up!
marshian , that's another thing you'd have to work out with friends, how to handle situations where one family goes on vacation and doesn't need the nanny but the other family still does. PTO and benefits are interesting to think about and I wonder how that is typically done.
PirateCat - I got quite a few responses already in my local FB group. Seems the norm is to pay all 52 weeks of the year and give two weeks off (PTO). One week of the family's choosing (family vacation) and one week of the nanny's choosing. Also seems to be typical to offer sick days with a written agreement on what "sick" means. That all seems to make sense so far.
Ugh. DH's car failed inspection.. needs new tires, rotors, brake pads, and emergency brake pads. Sigh. There goes our chance at getting a new couch next month 😭
Oh no! M is still so low that she only kicks me in the stomach. DNW baby in my ribs.
H is high and E is low. So I get kicks everywhere. However I think it's hilarious that I can tell when one baby wakes the other up and they battle it out for a few minutes before calming down.
As I mentioned, boring day here at work. But I'm heading out a little early so I can tour a second daycare option.
This weekend we're discussing the possibility of a nanny share with our friends who are expecting two months after us but will need child care around the same time (she gets less time off than I do and her H works with mine and only gets one week PTO). Anyone have any experience with this or looked into it at any point? If it won't work logistically or would be more expensive than daycare, we won't go this route. But it would be nice if it worked!
Oh, A tried to hide from the Doppler today but he's too big to do that now 😂 My MW even got to feel him move away and was a bit shock. She was all "did he just roll away!?" Lol
icedtea we plan on trading it in at the end of the year for a newer car (2004 Honda Pilot approaching 200k miles) so we're going to get the cheap, only last a year or two, parts but still. If it comes in under $1k, I'll be estatic
hpnegirl - Oh man, that sucks about your H's car. Pretty funny A is hiding from the Doppler! Ours did that last night when H was trying to find the heartbeat. He would get it, and then have to move a little, lose it, move a little... it was amusing.
icedtea - I also do not have Monday off. My company doesn't do MLK Day or President's Day. But my client has President's Day off, so I'll be off then as well.
Post by moutonrouge on Jan 13, 2017 14:56:11 GMT -5
marshian We've thought about a nanny or nanny share, but I think we will only do one if a daycare spot doesn't open up in time. In general, having a nanny in my area gets complicated fast - they have overtime rates and guaranteed hours plus you need to find a service to deal with payroll tax and other withholding. The nanny our friends use had a sudden family emergency a few months ago and they had to find a back up option for a week while the nanny was back home.
From what coworkers and friends tell me, you really want to make sure if you do a nanny share that you find a family with similar parenting views. And that everything you'd find in a daycare parent policy/handbook is laid out very clearly - how do you deal with sick kids, activity costs, etc.
Post by onesweetworld on Jan 13, 2017 18:32:55 GMT -5
My SIL is coming over tonight to bring an art project for M's room. I'm super excited to see what she made. (She's 19 so I don't have a ton in common with her but I like to pick her brain on family stuff H won't share)
One of my friends asked if I wanted to go meet them to see our friends' band tonight... they go on at 9pm. Lol to me being awake at 9, let alone out at a bar...
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