Post by sophiegrace on Jan 13, 2017 9:55:19 GMT -5
We ended up going to the office yesterday to watch them film the commercial. So glad we did because my day went by so much quicker. M lasted about 15 minutes both ways before deciding that the car seat was Satan, but I'm getting better at just handling the crying. While at the office she was great, even let H hold her for a few minutes.
Today, if I do nothing else, I need to trim M's nails properly.
D had another outstanding night. She slept from 9:30-5:15 and then nursed and went back to sleep in bed with me until about 9. I wish I knew this would last and be our new normal. God that would be nice.
Currently drinking a green smoothie and watching Armageddon while she nurses. I think we're both enjoying the hell out of being able to do this without a toddler constantly trying to sit on her head.
Is it bad that my kid will stare at the TV while we're sitting on the couch. I mean.. it's way too early for screen time, right?
I'm kind of in the middle regarding screen time. There definitely needs to be limits of course. But right now, it's not like you are propping baby in front of the TV while you go do stuff. I don't worry too much about baby looking at the TV. Most of the concern about screen time about taking away interaction, so even screen time accompanied by conversation isn't on the same level of just sitting and watching.
Thanks that makes me feel better. I've tried putting on Baby Einstein Youtube for him, but he's much more interested in 30 Rock. He loves when I sing and dance to the theme music. I'm just nervous about it in general because I see my nephew get sucked into the phone or tablet and it's impossible to snap him out of it. He had a meltdown about the battery dying when we were on vacation this summer. I don't want C to be like that.
Hi from the road! We have about 2.5 hours to go but the kids have been amazing--Haven't even had to break into my emergency stash of M&Ms. C fell asleep shortly after we left at 10 and just woke up to nurse for the first time at 2 when we stopped for a bathroom break. She's already passed back out, and B has been happy to nap, read and look out the window.
goldenlove3 yup, do not want screen-zombie child. Our phones are the absolute last resort when we need to distract B if we're out to eat, etc. I hate seeing families where everyone, kids included, are glued to devices around the table. We bring things like playdoh or coloring supplies and expect him to join in the conversation (within reason), and we'll play games like 'I spy'. It's more work for us but I feel pretty strongly about it.
ETA: re: screen time, I'm not a complete philistine I do let B watch TV, and C finds it interesting. I just don't like the dependency on devices for little kids. My sister, an SLP, has definitely influenced my opinions on stuff like that, she sees the results of kids who do nothing but play on tablets and it's not pretty. All things in moderation.
I totally disagree. Toddlers cannot measure time, so if you let them watch it for 5 minutes and take it away or 5 hours and shut it off all they know is you're the asshole who shut it off and they will protest.
We'll have to agree to disagree on this one.
I would say both are correct. Kids don't know time so yeah they are likely to melt down but the infrequent use generally means they don't ask for it as much and they are easier to divert to a different source of entertainment.
Kids will watch TV, I don't fret over it too much. I do get sad at my brother's favorite restaurant is bw3s because each kid can have a tablet but at the same time it does occupy time, there are awesome educational shows and games out there and it's not all consuming for my kids so why not.
I do think we have lost the art of facing boredom, I plan on teaching my kids how to face boredom.
goldenlove3 the fact that you a cognisant of screen time and not wanting to form bad habits for your kids speaks volumes. Your kid will watch TV, your kid will likely melt down sometimes when you turn it off or just say no, but that is normal and OK. Don't let it be the primary entertainer and you will be fine.
A has started starring at the tv a bit too. Usually when everything else has lost its appeal. DS was the same way, but I wouldnt say he's much into tv now. A few shows here and there. But way too busy for the most part.
My last weekday of leave! I am part excited, part devastated, part trying not to think about it. Motherhood is always such a mixed bag of emotions.
Any general advice for pumpimg at work from STMs? Tips or tricks I must know? I didn't breastfeed with my first and must admit I am feeling a bit intimidated now.
Post by cookswithwine9 on Jan 13, 2017 15:26:00 GMT -5
I also hate seeing young children staring at IPhones at the dinner table. I'm sure the parents just do it because it's the easiest way to get some peace and quiet. However I do not want my child to be dependent on a screen and not know how to interact socially.
So my washer was delivered and set up! Doing the first load now.
But riddle me this, the old washer was too big to get out. Like the stairs are too narrow. It's an unfinished stairwell. So brick on one side and joist/beam on the other. There is only one window in the basement and it is smaller than a washer. I literally can not guess how they got the washer or dryer in. So now we have an extra washer in the basement. Awesome, I was hoping for more clutter.
Post by tallblonde on Jan 13, 2017 16:16:47 GMT -5
rory5280 sorry it's your last day:( I'd just make sure you have a good pumping bra and then I'd throw all the pump parts in a gallon plastic bag and stick it in the fridge between pumping sessions in a larger paper bag. Snacks and water are also great. Hope it goes smoothly!
Post by tallblonde on Jan 13, 2017 16:21:57 GMT -5
We were pretty strict with J about no screentime until close to 2. Only sick days and FaceTime for the most part. He's definitely watching more lately and he just discovered train videos on YouTube and he begs for them.
It's easier for us to not watch it at all rather than him begging for it/freaking out when it's time to turn it off. It definitely helps that he is at school 40+ hours a week, otherwise we'd watch more I'm sure.
I don't have N facing the TV at all so she can't really see when I'm watching.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Jan 13, 2017 16:40:10 GMT -5
DS plays with an iPad. He uses it to play ABC Mouse mostly, but he also likes watching YouTube train videos. He'll ask for it sometimes and there's always a mini meltdown when I tell him no or take the ipad away. I don't really think it's because he's obsessed with the ipad. He has the same reaction when I tell him he can't have a cookie for breakfast, ride the dog like a horse, try to feed the baby cheese or flush his bath toys down the toilet. He's upset that I'm telling him no in general.
But who knows, maybe I'm ruining my kid for life by letting him have screen time.
Post by goldenlove3 on Jan 13, 2017 16:42:55 GMT -5
I'm at my parents house right now and about 15 minutes after I get here, H calls and says the alarm at home went off. It was the glass break sensor. I just got a box of glass bottles and it's on the counter next to some boxes so I figured it somehow fell but the alarm company sent the police and H went home. Turns out that my decorative clock that's been hanging over my fireplace for years now fell of the wall. Wtf? And C's swing is pretty close to it so I'm glad we weren't home.
DS plays with an iPad. He uses it to play ABC Mouse mostly, but he also likes watching YouTube train videos. He'll ask for it sometimes and there's always a mini meltdown when I tell him no or take the ipad away. I don't really think it's because he's obsessed with the ipad. He has the same reaction when I tell him he can't have a cookie for breakfast, ride the dog like a horse, try to feed the baby cheese or flush his bath toys down the toilet. He's upset that I'm telling him no in general.
But who knows, maybe I'm ruining my kid for life by letting him have screen time.
I agree. My kid has a meltdown every time I say no so I don't think it's the iPad/kindle viewing so much as it's the word he doesn't like.
Toddlers definitely have a love hate relationship with the word No. They love to say it, hate to hear it.
Are you all talking about a dinner out at a restaurant where kids are on the Ipads/kindles while the parents eat. If kids have ipads the parents are judged for that, if parents have screaming children they are judged that they can't keep their kids quiet.
It's a lose-lose sometimes so be careful of sounding judgey ladies
Eh. How did parents 10, 20 or more years ago handle children in restaurants? I don't think that an iPad is the only way to keep a kid entertained unless he's been conditioned that way. And kids have always acted up in restaurants. It's not an either-or scenario.
Post by tallblonde on Jan 13, 2017 18:44:32 GMT -5
Screentime is definitely a newer parenting challenge since it's now on phones and tablets and doctors don't really even know what the impact is, seeing that they just released new more relaxed guidelines a few months ago.
MH is pretty by the book about following their guidelines closely, so the pediatricians word is gospel to him. You do what works for your family and I'll do what works for mine. I am confident I'm screwing my son up in multiple ways regardless of screentime.
I don't think vinolove was implying that a kid should have screen time at a restaurant to prevent screaming and that's it.
How I look at it, is you have no idea what that family or child has gone through that day or week. Maybe in restaurants is their only screen time. Maybe mom or dad had a horrible day at home with them and needs quiet time. Maybe they exhausted the crayons, books, and toys you brought. Maybe the child is teething or sick or going through another transition and the only calming thing right now is the phone. There are many maybe scenarios.
If this was a friend and every time we went out to eat the child immediately and only had the phone or every time we went to their house the tv was on, I would be concerned. But I am not going to immediately judge a family after seeing them once.
If this was a friend and every time we went out to eat the child immediately and only had the phone or every time we went to their house the tv was on, I would be concerned. But I am not going to immediately judge a family after seeing them once.
We have friends that do this...no sooner are fannies in seats then out come the phones--and the kids are older, too (elementary age). If you ask one a question, you get no response because they're so engrossed. I'd never say anything to our friends bc not my business, but I don't think it's ideal.
I will never say 'never' because of course we have given B our phone at times (although he actually got the iPad for the first time ever today in the car). But for us it's a last ditch resort.
I'm not sitting in judgement on anyone and I don't think others were either--we were just saying being dependent on a device is not what we want for our own children.
ETA: I'm sure there are things I allow my kid (juice or an occasional Sprite as a treat, for ex) that would give others a coronary. Screen time (specifically hand-held devices) is something I have strong feelings about, but obviously others will disagree.
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