GL obi. I would be nervous too, I think that's normal. It's the unknown. You could always start a thread for some advice from some previous C section M15 mamas? I bet you'd get lots of good advice!
I think you're absolutely right. Logically, I know it is best. Yet even after a bad experience with a vaginal delivery my brain is still like "but you know what to expect." Really though, you can never know what will happen. We all clearly know that!
Maybe I will start a thread. I definitely trust the opinions here more than other places. I do feel a bit guilty busting back in here after being so inactive and asking for help. I'll try to get back in M15s good graces for a bit first
GL obi . I would be nervous too, I think that's normal. It's the unknown. You could always start a thread for some advice from some previous C section M15 mamas? I bet you'd get lots of good advice!
I think you're absolutely right. Logically, I know it is best. Yet even after a bad experience with a vaginal delivery my brain is still like "but you know what to expect." Really though, you can never know what will happen. We all clearly know that!
Maybe I will start a thread. I definitely trust the opinions here more than other places. I do feel a bit guilty busting back in here after being so inactive and asking for help. I'll try to get back in M15s good graces for a bit first
Yeah, it sounds like your dr is making the right choice for your and DD's safety but it's still different.
Yesterday I felt like this weekend seemed long. Today it suddenly feels like it has gone by too quickly. What the heck?
We have lots to do today since we were OOT until last night, but my H just passed out on the couch and I dont want to wake him. He's been on the late shift for the last 2 weeks and definitely not getting enough sleep. I also haven't been super nice about it because "Im huge and round and in pain so I dont f***ing sleep well either buddy!" Pregnancy rage is real.
Also, I found out on Friday that I will be having a cesarean this time around because of C's shoulder dystocia, but also that DD is measuring so far ahead. I am happy this is our course of action but feeling really, really scared. I didnt expect to react this way, especially since I have been anticipating a cesarean. I need to do some reading about it. I think that will calm my nerves.
Post by bethypoo83 on Jan 15, 2017 15:05:55 GMT -5
J is napping, DH is gaming. I've done the dishes, cleaned up our bedroom, changed the sheets, put laundry away, swept the floors and now I'm sitting down to watch Beauty and the Beast. I got it for Christmas on Blu Ray. It's my favourite Disney movie. Here's hoping J sleeps long enough to let me watch a good chunk of it.
Yesterday I felt like this weekend seemed long. Today it suddenly feels like it has gone by too quickly. What the heck?
We have lots to do today since we were OOT until last night, but my H just passed out on the couch and I dont want to wake him. He's been on the late shift for the last 2 weeks and definitely not getting enough sleep. I also haven't been super nice about it because "Im huge and round and in pain so I dont f***ing sleep well either buddy!" Pregnancy rage is real.
Also, I found out on Friday that I will be having a cesarean this time around because of C's shoulder dystocia, but also that DD is measuring so far ahead. I am happy this is our course of action but feeling really, really scared. I didnt expect to react this way, especially since I have been anticipating a cesarean. I need to do some reading about it. I think that will calm my nerves.
Did you have a cesarean last time?
No I didn't. As a nervous FTM I wanted one though, which is another reason I am surprised to find myself feeling anxious about having one this time around.
Post by marygracerich on Jan 15, 2017 17:39:25 GMT -5
obi I understand your feelings completely. You and I are in the same boat because G has shoulder dystocia as well. That's one of my big reasons for not wanting a second yet. I don't want a c section. I understand that it's for baby's safety but I hate the idea of having surgery and choosing the baby's birthday. However I will say that everyone I know that had a SCHEDULED c section said it was a good experience. It's the unexpected ones that seem to be what women struggle with the most. Just remember that you will walk in to the hospital and usually within an hour or two have your new little squish.
obi I understand your feelings completely. You and I are in the same boat because G has shoulder dystocia as well. That's one of my big reasons for not wanting a second yet. I don't want a c section. I understand that it's for baby's safety but I hate the idea of having surgery and choosing the baby's birthday. However I will say that everyone I know that had a SCHEDULED c section said it was a good experience. It's the unexpected ones that seem to be what women struggle with the most. Just remember that you will walk in to the hospital and usually within an hour or two have your new little squish.
Im glad you understand. I've been thinking of you actually. Its weird how you can have such a difficult experience but still find comfort in the familiar.
When I was pregnant with C I was hoping for a csection because most moms I know (mine included) have had one and said good things. Yet now, even after what happened it seems scary somehow. I really thought Id be happy to hear my OB decide on it.
I hope one day you can feel comfortable enough to TFAS, if it's what you want. I was never told after C was born that my next would have to be by cesarean. I think if that were the case, like it is for you, I would be feeling a similar hesitation. You've got this though. If you can make it through the hell that is shoulder dystocia, you will get through a csection too! I give all the props to csection moms.
Post by marygracerich on Jan 15, 2017 19:37:54 GMT -5
obi surgery is scary. Being afraid is a perfectly valid feeling. We are considering having my iud removed this year. We were going to do it in March but next month we are going to a Zika infected area so we may wait at least 6 months after the trip as a precaution. Also it gives me time to decide for sure. Sometimes I would love for G to be an only child just so I can spoil her 😛 decisions decisions. I remember you saying that your OB never mentioned it. As much as I don't want to have a c section (I have nothing against it, surgery is just no fun) it really is the best option to ensure baby is safe, especially if she is measuring big.
Post by bethypoo83 on Jan 15, 2017 20:45:15 GMT -5
Just finished beauty and the beast. 💕
J is in bed. DH is gaming (again). I am trying not to be angry since it does no one any good but Jesus men are so not helpful. I made dinner, cleaned up from dinner, gave J a bath and did bedtime. All while DH laid on the couch screwing around on his phone. I wish he would help out without always having to be asked (told).
I may head to bed soon since I have to be at work for 7 but I'm staying right until 5 due to meetings. Gonna be a long one.
No I didn't. As a nervous FTM I wanted one though, which is another reason I am surprised to find myself feeling anxious about having one this time around.
Let me know what questions you have or what info would be helpful. I don't want to overwhelm you with info you don't want/aren't ready for.
I will say the worst part was the unexpected part am how scary that was. I think if I had to do an RCS, I would ask for a family centered c-section and hope that worked out.
Post by radtechgirl on Jan 15, 2017 23:39:06 GMT -5
obi, I had an "emergent" c-section. I feel that because I a feeling I was going to have a c-section,I was more mentally prepared and it was fairly easy to recover from.
robotpcr your kid kills me with calling her self 'tuna'
No I didn't. As a nervous FTM I wanted one though, which is another reason I am surprised to find myself feeling anxious about having one this time around.
Let me know what questions you have or what info would be helpful. I don't want to overwhelm you with info you don't want/aren't ready for.
I will say the worst part was the unexpected part am how scary that was. I think if I had to do an RCS, I would ask for a family centered c-section and hope that worked out.
Thank you! I really appreciate that you're willing to share.
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