Oh danib, I'm sorry you're having a bad time. You are not a bad mother. Every child is different and responds to different things. And some babies just don't respond! This has nothing to do with you. You love your child and are doing everything you can for your him. Your body just spent 10 months growing a human?!?! Like, you grew a person from scratch! Imagine how hard that is to do. It sometimes takes more time to recover than what you want. The important thing is that you are healthy and taking care of yourself. Love and hugs. Be easy on yourself.
I'm here and alive! LT-ing as much as possible! L slept 8 hours last night which is yay, but we're struggling to get him to nap during the day! Don't babies know they are going to want those sleeps back when they are our age?
Gross warning: Balance is hard! I feel like I got a handle on this baby stuff, but now my boy dog (8 years old) has started eating poop!?! He's never done that before, everything online says it's due to boredom/lack of attention! I feel bad because they (3) used to go for walks all the time and car rides but it's too cold for L to be out for 30 minutes 2-3 times a day! I'm struggling to get a shower in and now this!?! DH gets home tomorrow night and I'm hoping he can help with this! I've started putting pineapple in his food in the hopes that'll deter the poop eating but I know that doesn't always work! /gross talk
danib I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Big hugs. B and C are similar in many ways, but there are also some differences that are throwing me for a loop (ex: C refusing to take any sort of bottle). It's frustrating bc you feel like you should know what to do as a STM. I also feel like I've forgotten so much from B's baby days--DH will remind me of something and it's like, oh yeeeeeah...
Can you get out for a bit while your H is home just to get a break, maybe treat yourself to a pedicure or something?
Hugs danib! I can commiserate on feeling like I should know how to console L, but just don't know what to do sometimes. It's not my first rodeo either and I still struggle everyday. With E, the boob would console him immediately, with L it takes a production sometimes.
FFWC, when both kids are fussing, I ask H if he wants to take E or L and I secretly hope he picks the baby because with the toddler I know what to do and know him so well. I look at L sometimes and think, I don't know you as well and still don't know what you want from me.
cheshie6, no personal experience, but our best friends had a poop eating dog and they took him to a doggie daycare a couple of days a week. Could you do that? Or is there a teen in your neighborhood looking to make a couple of bucks? Could you pay them to walk the dogs for you?
Morning! Nothing on the agenda today, which is nice...I am still fighting this cold and was up MOTN with ear pain. Fun. Luckily it has eased up this morning.
I might take the kids to the park in a bit, it's super warm here this week (so much for all those nice winter clothes everyone got for Christmas!)
dashook, if L isn't up (which he hasn't been yesterday or this AM) I've been pumping! I love it because it gives me 6oz bottles which I may need handy when the in laws are visiting! danib, I hear you on the body stuff! I signed up for Weight Watchers for that reason! I thought breastfeeding was going to be this miracle fat burner!?! tjanca22, the girls go to doggy day camp but Tanner is easily overwhelmed with other dogs and tends to get aggressive especially when other dogs play with his girls!?! So he's not allowed to play with other dogs. I do have a few teens in the neighborhood who I can ask! I just hate asking for help, makes me feel like I'm not enough!
dashook, if L isn't up (which he hasn't been yesterday or this AM) I've been pumping! I love it because it gives me 6oz bottles which I may need handy when the in laws are visiting! danib, I hear you on the body stuff! I signed up for Weight Watchers for that reason! I thought breastfeeding was going to be this miracle fat burner!?! tjanca22, the girls go to doggy day camp but Tanner is easily overwhelmed with other dogs and tends to get aggressive especially when other dogs play with his girls!?! So he's not allowed to play with other dogs. I do have a few teens in the neighborhood who I can ask! I just hate asking for help, makes me feel like I'm not enough!
Don't feel bad about asking for help! I've heard that we all go through seasons in our lives when we need to give and take. We're at the stage when we need to take a little more because, well lets face it, we have babies that require our attention and we're busy people. When the kids get older and we have time to give, that's when we can give more of our time and energy to others that need it. 😉
Post by tallblonde on Jan 18, 2017 11:49:10 GMT -5
Hi all! Look at all those cuties!
N and I had a nice morning, walked to get coffee and library, then hardware store and variety store on way home to get stickers and clips to make pacifier clips for N (pretending I can find some time to see in the next few weeks). She slept the whole time:)
I am watching Scandal but may try to switch to something lighter since between that and my Facebook feed, it's getting confusing between what is truth and what is fiction:(
Post by goldenlove3 on Jan 18, 2017 12:16:10 GMT -5
Hi ladies. Nothing on the agenda today. It was supposed to be nice out so I was going to attempt to take Colin and Gracie for a walk, but instead it's cold and soggy. Tomorrow is supposed to be sunny and 50 so that will be our plan.
Hugs, danib. Not seeing results when you know you're working hard is such a ridiculous buzzkill.
After I had DS, it took me only 11 weeks to get back to prepregnancy weight. Then I gained back about half of it in the next 12 months before I got KU again. This time I lost 32 pounds in the first week after I gave birth! But the scale has not budged since, and I'm closing in on 9 weeks PP. I'm really hoping to see some progress when I weigh myself again on the 31st. I definitely already feel better all over, but still, I have trouble staying motivated when I don't see a tangible change.
Also 100% on the different babies. This one is a gem of a nighttime sleeper (90% of the time) and loves the bath (unlike DS on both counts), but also is a lot more serious. She still rarely smiles, even though I can tell she's happy (when she's playing on her activity mat, for example).
Following your concern re: crib napping waitwhat. My baby naps in her car seat, on my lap, in the carrier, and occasionally in the rocker chair. I don't particularly mind, though, because my toddler is in daycare. It would be extremely frustrating if he were home with me like you.
Post by goldenlove3 on Jan 18, 2017 13:56:47 GMT -5
waitwhat C does the same thing with crib naps. He doesn't sleep long if he's not moving. I just put him in the RnP in his room and he napped for 2 hours. He woke up to eat then passed out again in the swing. I definitely want to try to get him napping better in his crib but it's nice to have time to do stuff right now.
Post by ClassyMrsA on Jan 18, 2017 16:05:04 GMT -5
danib I can relate. With Lillian and now Lilah, I lost a bunch after giving birth, but I'm haven't lost anything since I had Lilah. After Lillian I didn't see much improvement until closer to 6 or 7 months pp. Also, being a stm I thought I'd feel a lot more confident and I don't. I worry that I'm not feeding Lilah enough or giving her enough tummy time or I'm somehow hurting her development. Especially with this weird low weight gain thing, I'm really questioning myself. Every baby is different though and I know you are a great mom.
Just heard one of my friends is going into labor and needed to share my excitement somewhere! This will be someone I'll spend a lot of time with on my mat leave so in very excited for her and us.
danib I can relate. With Lillian and now Lilah, I lost a bunch after giving birth, but I'm haven't lost anything since I had Lilah. After Lillian I didn't see much improvement until closer to 6 or 7 months pp. Also, being a stm I thought I'd feel a lot more confident and I don't. I worry that I'm not feeding Lilah enough or giving her enough tummy time or I'm somehow hurting her development. Especially with this weird low weight gain thing, I'm really questioning myself. Every baby is different though and I know you are a great mom.
That is helpful, we have an appointment for Tanner early next month! They will run all of those tests to rule out the items on that list but vet thinks it's most likely due to the arrival of baby limiting the things he used to do!
waitwhat can you try white noise or laying a shirt that you've worn beneath him? The smell of you on the shirt might keep him asleep longer?
good idea. I also just found the mobile I used for B that plays music and moves so maybe staring at that will make him eventually fall asleep.
We bought a baby shusher that puts C to sleep instantly. But we could have saved the money because there's a bunch of YouTube videos that so the same thing and work just as well.
Post by cookswithwine9 on Jan 18, 2017 17:51:10 GMT -5
danib I'm sorry your having a rough time. I also heard the extreme fussiness (colic?) should decrease around 12 weeks so you are almost there. On the weight loss topic, my scale is not moving either... it's frusterating for sure.
waitwhat O naps best in his crib. I think it's because he appears to be a very light sleeper. In his room I have the white noise going and I shut the door so it's quiet. I also have black out curtains so it's dark. I swaddle him and use the pacifier. Basically pull out all the stops lol. Sometimes it doesn't work and I'm back in there every 15 mins. But it's also the only place he's taken 1+ hour naps.
Post by goldenlove3 on Jan 18, 2017 18:30:14 GMT -5
We're attempting to go to Costco for the first time with C. Should be interesting. Do you guys carry around your diaper bags at the store? We have a backpack and for some reason it seems weird to carry it around at the store.
We're attempting to go to Costco for the first time with C. Should be interesting. Do you guys carry around your diaper bags at the store? We have a backpack and for some reason it seems weird to carry it around at the store.
I don't carry mine in the store anymore. I just leave it in the car. I only carry it with me if we are going somewhere for an extended amount of time, like a friend's house.
We're attempting to go to Costco for the first time with C. Should be interesting. Do you guys carry around your diaper bags at the store? We have a backpack and for some reason it seems weird to carry it around at the store.
I don't carry mine in the store anymore. I just leave it in the car. I only carry it with me if we are going somewhere for an extended amount of time, like a friend's house.
waitwhat I tried a crib nap with D this evening. She was in her Merlin suit with white noise on. In a 45 minute period she slept 17 minutes, woke up and fussed/cried for like 10-15, then went back to sleep for 18.
I will be sticking with the RNP for nighttime sleep lol
Post by goldenlove3 on Jan 18, 2017 19:46:37 GMT -5
I was just paranoid that he was going to either have a blow out since he hadn't pooped all day or start crying for food. We fed him right before we left but that hasn't stopped him from screaming for more not long later. I did end up carrying it on me but I might not take it in next time. He did great and either slept or just looked around!
For something like costco, ikea, the mall, or the grocery store I prefer to use my stroller because it's so much easier to maneuver than a car seat in a cart. So I just throw my diaper bag in there. I've rarely needed it in situations like that, but I would rather have it than be sorry.
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