@wicky, I have the same experience as springbeduk. Lots of chewing happened, probably a good bit of swallowing as well. I never really tried too hard to stop it, except maybe to give him something else to chew on. He seems okay. The poor books are pretty ragged though!
+1 @wicky anytime I see DS chewing on something I give him this chunky silicone spoon to chew on. I think redirection is most effective way to change behavior at this age. He's still teething too at almost 22 months but I think his last two finally broke through this week.
Post by saltandvinegar on Feb 8, 2017 13:43:19 GMT -5
Did anyone have a hands-free pumping bra last time around? I didn't have one last time but I spent enough time pumping that I think it would probably be worth it. Especially if I were to have to pump at home with DS around too.
Follow-ups- Did you like it? Did you get a good fit/suction? Do you wear it all day or just put it on when it was time to pump? I was looking at this one but I'm not sure I would want to wear it all day long. Simple Wishes Hands Free
Did anyone have a hands-free pumping bra last time around? I didn't have one last time but I spent enough time pumping that I think it would probably be worth it. Especially if I were to have to pump at home with DS around too.
Follow-ups- Did you like it? Did you get a good fit/suction? Do you wear it all day or just put it on when it was time to pump? I was looking at this one but I'm not sure I would want to wear it all day long. Simple Wishes Hands Free
Yup! I think that's the exact one I bought and it worked great, especially for pumping at work. I could attach the pump and scroll through photos of DS on my phone to stimulate letdown. You also will find it easier to pump both sides at once (which is more efficient) with a hands-free bra.
I definitely wouldn't have worn it all day though. It was supportive enough to keep the flanges on my nipples while pumping, but there was no proper support for wearing around, like you expect from a normal bra.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
Post by CoachTsWife on Feb 8, 2017 14:22:38 GMT -5
saltandvinegar - the Simple Wishes bra is great. Someone gave me a Medela one that I thought was good. After several months it started to get holes along to top edge/seam and I ordered the Simple Wishes one. BIG DIFFERENCE! I wish I'd had the Simple Wishes one all along.
You do not wear it all day. I pumped at work in a privacy room, so I would raise my shirt, unclasp and fold down the cups of my nursing bra/tank, then put the pumping bra on.
Small rant, but also - am I crazy? DS is young to be using the potty, I know - 19 months. But since the start of the new year he spends all time at home (except sleeping time) in underwear and it has been pretty successful. He tells us when he needs to go, he pees and poos in the toilet, and we have on average one accident a day (only ever a pee accident). We are not pushing him, just encouraging.
Two weeks ago we decided to start the same process at daycare. We told them to ask him if he needs to go every 30 mins or so. If he says no, don't force him. If he says yes, take him and help him go. Also, be aware and listen - he will say "poo?" and point to the toilet if he needs to go (for pee or poo). He has tons of changes of clothes and usually has 2 or 3 accidents a day. By the time I pick him up he is usually in a diaper because he ran out of clothes. All of this is fine with me. I expect it to be a process, for it to take a while till he is comfortable and develops the same communication with his teachers as he has with us. There are also way more distractions at daycare so that will be hard too.
But this morning, after less than 2 weeks, his teacher told me that she doesn't think he's ready! She says he is not progressing quickly, and maybe I should bring in some pull-ups. She said yesterday he wanted to go to the toilet but then said "all done" as soon as they got there (so what? try again later). Also twice this week he has had poo accidents at school, which is very unlike him. He's pretty vocal when he is going to poo (no shame haha).
My concern is that she finds it to be too much work and can't be bothered. Or maybe that she is not listening when he says he needs to go. Or that because it's a 17-24 month room, she has never had to do potty training before? But what if she's right and I am traumatising my poor kid by insisting they continue? Cue mommy guilt . . . . .
Last Edit: Feb 9, 2017 9:08:36 GMT -5 by salmon2017
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
salmon2017, my DD was fully PT by 20 months. It took 5 days to get her fully trained during the day and 1 month to get her night trained. Although, she has random weeks that are few and far between where she pees the bed. I don't think I traumatized her at all. She was ready. He sounds ready. I wouldn't stop, I would just push through. It will be easier to get it done now when he is in the "pleasing mommy/daddy" phase. If you wait, you could end up with more issues than you have now.
I'm not going to lie, I was aggressively PT my DD and I have zero guilt about it. PT is like giving your child his dignity back. It isn't normal in our society to pee and poop our pants. The sooner they learn it, when they are ready, the better. Your son definitely sounds ready to me and I guarantee you if you give a little push, he will be all the way trained in no time.
I read the book, "oh crap" potty training and it was amazing. She breaks it down so it's 3 easy phases. Once they graduate one phase they move on to the next one and anytime you see regression you just knock them back a phase until they get it.
Post by saltandvinegar on Feb 9, 2017 9:21:31 GMT -5
salmon2017, - I'm interested to see what others say because this is similar to us. DS goes well with us at home but wants nothing to do with going on the potty for the sitters. I decided to just wait awhile since he is still pretty young.
The only thing I wanted to add was that if you look at it from the teacher's perspective she is probably frustrated too. She hasn't seen his desire to go and is having to change him constantly when she has other kiddos to take care of too. It doesn't sound like she has seen signs on her end that show he is ready yet.
So I know this is probably not helpful at all. Just trying to see it from both sides. If it were me I would probably put him in pull-ups but still have her ask every 30 minutes. I'm curious to see what others say though.
salmon2017 , my DD was fully PT by 20 months. It took 5 days to get her fully trained during the day and 1 month to get her night trained. Although, she has random weeks that are few and far between where she pees the bed. I don't think I traumatized her at all. She was ready. He sounds ready. I wouldn't stop, I would just push through. It will be easier to get it done now when he is in the "pleasing mommy/daddy" phase. If you wait, you could end up with more issues than you have now.
I'm not going to lie, I was aggressively PT my DD and I have zero guilt about it. PT is like giving your child his dignity back. It isn't normal in our society to pee and poop our pants. The sooner they learn it, when they are ready, the better. Your son definitely sounds ready to me and I guarantee you if you give a little push, he will be all the way trained in no time.
I read the book, "oh crap" potty training and it was amazing. She breaks it down so it's 3 easy phases. Once they graduate one phase they move on to the next one and anytime you see regression you just knock them back a phase until they get it.
Thank you! This echoes exactly how I feel but since this is my first PT experience I felt like I had a hard time standing up for myself in front of the daycare teacher. I also remember you mentioning that book in a previous post but couldn't find it, so thanks for reminding me of the title
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
salmon2017 , - I'm interested to see what others say because this is similar to us. DS goes well with us at home but wants nothing to do with going on the potty for the sitters. I decided to just wait awhile since he is still pretty young.
The only thing I wanted to add was that if you look at it from the teacher's perspective she is probably frustrated too. She hasn't seen his desire to go and is having to change him constantly when she has other kiddos to take care of too. It doesn't sound like she has seen signs on her end that show he is ready yet.
So I know this is probably not helpful at all. Just trying to see it from both sides. If it were me I would probably put him in pull-ups but still have her ask every 30 minutes. I'm curious to see what others say though.
I agree that it must be frustrating for her, especially because he is out of sync with other kids. But....... not my problem? I pay good money for her to do her job, and I consider this part of her job. Too bitchy?
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
Post by saltandvinegar on Feb 9, 2017 9:30:30 GMT -5
salmon2017, - That's so tough. Will he go on the potty for you during pick-up or drop-off? This might help show the teacher that he is actually ready and may help him become more comfortable in that environment as well.
salmon2017 , - That's so tough. Will he go on the potty for you during pick-up or drop-off? This might help show the teacher that he is actually ready and may help him become more comfortable in that environment as well.
I like that idea! It also occurred to me that at home he likes his pants completely off (which they might not do) and he likes to read a book while he sits there. Maybe little things like that would help him be comfortable.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
salmon2017, my kids all stay home with me but I had a bad experience with a gym D.C. The woman refused to take her potty and told me she needed to be in a pull up when she came. I told her no, she doesn't wear diapers anymore. She tried to tell me a pull up wasn't a diaper. I laughed right in her face (my mama bear was in full force). She also said my daughter had multiple accidents when she had only had one and it was when I was picking her up. I was so livid. The whole problem was that the worker didn't want to deal with a newly PT kid. It was laziness.
I wrote all this just to say, some people don't want to deal with the newly trained kids bc it is a lot of work. So then they try to force pull ups. Putting a kid in diapers sometimes and underwear at other times is confusing. Unless you state, "these are just your DC diapers but remember we pee pee and poo poo in the potty, not our pants or D.C. diaper."
Post by saltandvinegar on Feb 15, 2017 15:23:11 GMT -5
salmon2017, - How is potty training going? DS woke up this morning & the first words out of his mouth were asking to go potty. He hasn't seemed too interested lately so I pretty much dropped it. I picked up the Oh Crap book from the library though as leviosa, mentioned so I am thinking that maybe we will try again soon. Hopefully he stays interested this time.
salmon2017 , - How is potty training going? DS woke up this morning & the first words out of his mouth were asking to go potty. He hasn't seemed too interested lately so I pretty much dropped it. I picked up the Oh Crap book from the library though as leviosa , mentioned so I am thinking that maybe we will try again soon. Hopefully he stays interested this time.
So, not awesome. Last Friday I met with daycare and read them the riot act. They tried to convince me DS is not ready, but I was having none of it. I promised to bring more changes of clothes so that he doesn't run out. I also suggested that when we arrive in the morning I immediately take him to the bathroom so he gets more comfortable with it.
The weekend was a disaster, it was like he had forgotten everything. We had tons of accidents and he hated going to the toilet. I felt like daycare had stressed him out so much he regressed. Oh Crap arrived on Saturday and I have been reading it this week. I feel like we might need to re-set with diapers for a week or so and restart.
Through this week we have been following the plan I set out with daycare. Monday morning I think I determined the problem. They have "kid" sized toilets at the daycare but even those are too big for my DS's tiny bum. Someone has to hold him up to stop him from falling in, and as soon as he is on there he starts saying "no" and "all done". He is super stressed. This makes sense with the pattern they are reporting - he says he needs to pee, runs to the bathroom, refuses to pee, and has an accident two mins later. I asked if we can bring in a seat insert, like he has at home. They said that is a safety issue according to their licensing rep. My response: more of a safety issue than him possibly falling in the toilet while someone is holding him??
But it is what it is. I don't know what to do now. Do we continue at home and stop at school till his bum gets bigger? I do want to re-start at home and follow the Oh Crap stages - might need to take some time off work for that. But then he will have to go back to school. Maybe he can compartmentalize that diapers are for school but we use the potty at home? I don't know. I am frustrated on his behalf because he must be so f*cking confused about when it is and is not ok to pee in his pants.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
Post by saltandvinegar on Feb 16, 2017 12:10:48 GMT -5
salmon2017 , - That's so tricky. I can see why he would be traumatized though. What about one of those 2-in-1 seats like this (link.) I'm not sure if it would work on the kid size toilet but I feel like they could probably just find a smaller seat if they wanted to make an effort. That would frustrate me. Or, it wouldn't help with pooping but DS likes to pee standing up when we are at stores/restaurants. Maybe you guys could practice peeing while standing at home? Maybe this goes against what the "Oh Crap" method says though.
The Britax recall has me curious about strollers. We have the B-agile travel system and planned on using the car seat for #2 but I'm wondering if a double stroller is the way to go. DS will just turn 2 the month before this one is due and I assume I will still need a stroller for him. I do have a few baby carriers (happy wrap and ergo but I also want a ring sling) so I can wear #2 and push #1 but I won't always be able or want to do that. Any 3+ moms have suggestions/ recommendations?
We have a double stroller. DS was 2.5 when DD was born. It was nice for when I would go to the mall alone with the kids and things like that. I have a sit and stand but it's a little bulky. I've heard side by sides doubles are easier to manuever.
caybeh I couldn't remember if it was side by side or front and back that was easier. I have a hard enough time making it through doors as it is so side by side makes me nervous for that. You would think after basically a year and a half I would have got the hang of it but I struggle so much sometimes it's embarrassing!
True. Front and back is a little easier going through the doors. I personally have no experience with a side by side. I probably will just stick with the one I have and use it for the next one.
The Britax recall has me curious about strollers. We have the B-agile travel system and planned on using the car seat for #2 but I'm wondering if a double stroller is the way to go. DS will just turn 2 the month before this one is due and I assume I will still need a stroller for him. I do have a few baby carriers (happy wrap and ergo but I also want a ring sling) so I can wear #2 and push #1 but I won't always be able or want to do that. Any 3+ moms have suggestions/ recommendations?
I have a double jogger for things like the zoo and a regular double for shopping. I can't keep DS2 in he carrier the entire time I'm shopping. Especially if it's a long day. I still put my 3 yo in the stroller for dr appointments and shopping. There is no way I want to her running wild in the stores. I also use my single stroller when I know I can just carry DS2 in the wrap and switch DD out of the stroller (going to the museum).
salmon2017, the Oh Crap book has a section on daycares. It also talks about compartmentalizing being at home and daycare. So it is definitely doable to have him PT at home and not at daycare.
Also, for public potties (even the little ones) I sit DD on the side instead of straight on. The gap isn't between her legs and she feels more stable. Maybe you can practice when y'all are out and about and he will get comfortable with the potties at daycare.
Post by saltandvinegar on Feb 17, 2017 20:44:12 GMT -5
With DS I gained about 40 pounds and lost it relatively easily. This time around though I can't stop eating. It's all I do. If I don't snack every 30 minutes or so I start to feel sick. Between eating a ton and not pooping normally I feel huge already. Did anyone feel like this last time around? Did it improve in second tri? I already feel like it's going to be harder to lose the baby weight this time.
With DS I gained about 40 pounds and lost it relatively easily. This time around though I can't stop eating. It's all I do. If I don't snack every 30 minutes or so I start to feel sick. Between eating a ton and not pooping normally I feel huge already. Did anyone feel like this last time around? Did it improve in second tri? I already feel like it's going to be harder to lose the baby weight this time.
Can you get healthy snacks? That way you can eat more and not get all the calories? I try to remember that I'm not eating for two but just need 300 extra calories (which is only needed starting in the second trimester). I have been eating lots of starches because it's what I can tolerate right now. I probably should be eating more often because when I don't, I get sick but I just don't. I think, once we all get in the 2nd trimester it will be better. Hopefully we won't have food aversions and nausea.
With DS I gained about 40 pounds and lost it relatively easily. This time around though I can't stop eating. It's all I do. If I don't snack every 30 minutes or so I start to feel sick. Between eating a ton and not pooping normally I feel huge already. Did anyone feel like this last time around? Did it improve in second tri? I already feel like it's going to be harder to lose the baby weight this time.
I gained more weight my second pregnancy. I was hungry all the time pretty much the whole pregnancy. I lost most of it. I think I had like five pounds that I didn't loose but I was fine with that.
Post by salmon2017 on Feb 20, 2017 14:10:32 GMT -5
anniebn, 22 lbs! That is impressive. I was pleased that I kept it to 33 with DS. I remember having hardly any weight gain (like 8-10 lbs) until I hit 3rd tri. Then I became enormous, very quickly.
saltandvinegar, I feel the same as you, much larger than I did by 12 weeks last time. I can't tell if it's weight gain though, or if I am just expanding into my pregnant shape more quickly. I didn't eat more during first tri, but definitely worse. S&V chips, sour patch kids, milkshakes. Will report back after weigh-in at the OB tomorrow. Duh duh duuuuuuhhh...........
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
Is dairy sensitivity while pregnant a thing? I've never had an issue with milk or any dairy products and now it seems like I feel so sick to my stomach after eating cereal, ice cream, coffee, yogurt, etc. I have this on my list of things to discuss with my doctor next week but figured I'd see what you guys say in the meantime.
Is dairy sensitivity while pregnant a thing? I've never had an issue with milk or any dairy products and now it seems like I feel so sick to my stomach after eating cereal, ice cream, coffee, yogurt, etc. I have this on my list of things to discuss with my doctor next week but figured I'd see what you guys say in the meantime.
Are you still experiencing MS? It could be related to that. I can't eat yogurt. Just thinking about it makes me nauseous. Pregnancy can bring out sensitivities to certain things. For ex: I can use coco butter all I want when I'm not pregnant but when I get pregnant and I use it, I break out in a horrible itchy rash.
Is dairy sensitivity while pregnant a thing? I've never had an issue with milk or any dairy products and now it seems like I feel so sick to my stomach after eating cereal, ice cream, coffee, yogurt, etc. I have this on my list of things to discuss with my doctor next week but figured I'd see what you guys say in the meantime.
Are you still experiencing MS? It could be related to that. I can't eat yogurt. Just thinking about it makes me nauseous. Pregnancy can bring out sensitivities to certain things. For ex: I can use coco butter all I want when I'm not pregnant but when I get pregnant and I use it, I break out in a horrible itchy rash.
Yes, I thought I was in the clear last week (ha!) but these last few days I just feel miserable. I haven't thrown up at all, just almost constant nausea since Saturday again. Even when I was feeling good last week, though, I noticed I didn't feel great after a bowl of cereal and whatnot which is what got me thinking.
Post by saltandvinegar on Feb 23, 2017 9:13:02 GMT -5
TMI - So my Dr. called today with some results from my appointment. She said that I have a slight yeast infection & that she had already called in a prescription to the pharmacy. I went to pick it up and it is a cream called Terconazole that gets inserted vaginally 1x/day for 3 days. When I looked it up (drugs.com) I found that it says this:
"Since terconazole is absorbed from the human vagina, it should not be used in the first trimester of pregnancy unless the physician considers it essential to the welfare of the patient.
Terconazole may be used during the second and third trimester if the potential benefit outweighs the possible risks to the fetus."
I'm 13 weeks today but it still makes me nervous. Has anyone used this or something similar in the past. I trust my dr but this seems questionable to me.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
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