Post by salmon2017 on Apr 12, 2017 15:14:24 GMT -5
Other toddler mamas, when did you first take your LO(s) to the dentist? DS is 2 in June and hasn't been yet. His pediatrician says he should have gone by the time he was 1. My current dentist doesn't like to see kids till they are about 2.5 and can understand what's going on. He says as long as we are brushing his teeth, it's not worth the trauma to bring him in. I personally hate the dentist so agree with this in principle.
BUT we don't brush his teeth that well. It's hard to brush around a clenched jaw. So I am worried his teeth aren't clean enough. Thinking about checking out a pediatric dentist sometime soon.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
Other toddler mamas, when did you first take your LO(s) to the dentist? DS is 2 in June and hasn't been yet. His pediatrician says he should have gone by the time he was 1. My current dentist doesn't like to see kids till they are about 2.5 and can understand what's going on. He says as long as we are brushing his teeth, it's not worth the trauma to bring him in. I personally hate the dentist so agree with this in principle.
BUT we don't brush his teeth that well. It's hard to brush around a clenched jaw. So I am worried his teeth aren't clean enough. Thinking about checking out a pediatric dentist sometime soon.
Thoughts/experiences?
We took DS at 18 months based on our pedi's recommendation. It was completely trauma-free. They pretty much just had me hold him on my lap and he leaned backwards so that his head was in her lap. It took about a minute. She really just looked/peaked to make sure things looked good. That was it. The dentist said they don't need to see him again until he's 3.
It seemed kind of pointless but I guess it was good for him to have an easy experience the first time around.
Post by luciddreamer on Apr 12, 2017 15:39:31 GMT -5
I took DS in to a pediatric dentist at 18 months. The first visit was getting him used to the tools and the environment. The dentist just looked around and gave me advice on dental hygiene (it's not going to traumatize him to hold him down to brush his teeth). He had a second visit a month ago and tried to use the cleaning tools, but DS wasn't having it. They said no biggie, it's just to start getting him used to it.
salmon2017 , DS is 2.5 and will be going for the first time next month. Our pedi told us not to worry about taking him to the dentist until he was 3, but our family dentist recommends that you take them in 6 months after the first tooth sprouts....so apparently there is no set timeframe. DS lets us brush his teeth, but it isn't always easy so I'm sure the appointment will be interesting.
Same here! Our pedi said not to worry about it until age 3 (but of course... mom can't help but worry). DD's final pair of 2-year molars just came in recently, so her first appointment is coming up.
ETA DD is pretty good about having her teeth brushed, so I'm hoping the initial visit won't be too bad. Fingers crossed. 😕
salmon2017, I take my kids for their first appointment around 16 months. It hasn't been traumatic at all. In fact, they like it because they get a treat at the end.
The new recommendations are for a small smear of fluoride toothpaste instead of the training toothpaste. That helps protect their teeth better from cavities. Just make sure you are only using a small smear and not a pea size.
salmon2017 DS was almost 3 and DD was just a little over 2. They go to a pediatric dentist more so because I had traumatic dentist visits when I was young. When DD was 1, I asked my dentist when I should take him. He told me 3 and said that before that they basically will just tell the parent how to brush.
salmon2017 DS was almost 3 and DD was just a little over 2. They go to a pediatric dentist more so because I had traumatic dentist visits when I was young. When DD was 1, I asked my dentist when I should take him. He told me 3 and said that before that they basically will just tell the parent how to brush.
The dentist I take my kids to actually check for cavities. So they lay back and he checks each tooth and scrapes them to make sure nothing is stuck on them.
Post by salmon2017 on Apr 17, 2017 14:16:37 GMT -5
Coming back with a PT update. A few weeks ago DS was moved to the Early Preschool room at daycare, where all the kids are PT. For a while they would just have him sit on the toilet when they changed his diaper, and they let me know that he no longer seemed nervous or scared that he would fall in. So last week I took all the undies and changes or clothes to school and we went full no-diaper. MUCH more successful so far! Maximum of 2 accidents per day at school, and yesterday at home he had no accidents at all. We have been on outings and everything. I am so, so proud of him. In no rush to take away bedtime diapers yet, but maybe in a month or so once he seems to have the daytime under control.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
salmon2017, when you do decide to take away night time diapers don't be surprised if he has a few accidents the first week. It took my DD a good week to transition out of diapers and not wet the bed. Before I took her diaper away at night she was staying consistently dry so I know it was just a transition.
salmon2017 , when you do decide to take away night time diapers don't be surprised if he has a few accidents the first week. It took my DD a good week to transition out of diapers and not wet the bed. Before I took her diaper away at night she was staying consistently dry so I know it was just a transition.
Oh, I won't be surprised at all. Right now he wakes up dry from naps but his diaper is usually near saturated in the morning. Probably need to start giving him less liquid in the evening before we get rid of the nighttime diaper.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
salmon2017, how long has he been diaperless for nap? I took them away the day we started PT my DD and I swear it made a difference for night time training. She wet the bed 3 times during nap and then never again.
Post by salmon2017 on Apr 18, 2017 15:16:47 GMT -5
New question for any TT+Ms: What the heck did you do with #1 while delivering #2? We have no family nearby or many friends that we trust enough (no one else has kids except us and many have crazy dogs). Last time my labor progressed pretty quickly (from nothing to 2-min spaced contractions within an hour) so we will likely go straight to the hospital with DS and have someone come and pick him up there. I really wish there was a childcare facility at the hospital!
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
New question for any TT+Ms: What the heck did you do with #1 while delivering #2? We have no family nearby or many friends that we trust enough (no one else has kids except us and many have crazy dogs). Last time my labor progressed pretty quickly (from nothing to 2-min spaced contractions within an hour) so we will likely go straight to the hospital with DS and have someone come and pick him up there. I really wish there was a childcare facility at the hospital!
I had a friend watch DS1 when I delivered DD. Then my mom came and watched DS1 and DD while I delivered DS2. My mom will be watching my three kids while I deliver DD2.
New question for any TT+Ms: What the heck did you do with #1 while delivering #2? We have no family nearby or many friends that we trust enough (no one else has kids except us and many have crazy dogs). Last time my labor progressed pretty quickly (from nothing to 2-min spaced contractions within an hour) so we will likely go straight to the hospital with DS and have someone come and pick him up there. I really wish there was a childcare facility at the hospital!
My mom watched DS. She lives 2 hours away so I had a contingency plan of a friend watching him but my mom happened to be in town when I went into labor. I probably will have the same plan with this one. Thankfully, both of my kids have been born on the weekend...hoping we can do that again!
salmon2017 , how long has he been diaperless for nap? I took them away the day we started PT my DD and I swear it made a difference for night time training. She wet the bed 3 times during nap and then never again.
Sorry, I just saw I never responded to you! He is actually not diaperless for nap yet. I consider this to be very lazy parenting on my part, but the 1.5 hours that he sleeps are just WAY too precious for me (and him) for me to risk him waking due to an accident. I just meant that his diaper is usually dry when he wakes from a nap. I will probably try to be brave this weekend and skip the nap diaper to see how it goes.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
leviosa and caybeh my mom would be ideal if she wasn't a 6 hour flight away (and she's our nearest family member!). I think we will need to find a friend. Or maybe one of our regular babysitters - at least I can trust that they know how to handle a toddler and keep him safe!
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
salmon2017 , I would find someone. You don't want to be laboring on your own.
Do you know, that brings an interesting thought to mind. If I hired a doula, then MH could be with DS1. I just automatically assumed MH would be with me because he was my labor partner last time. But I guess it doesn't have to be that way.....
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
salmon2017 , I would find someone. You don't want to be laboring on your own.
Do you know, that brings an interesting thought to mind. If I hired a doula, then MH could be with DS1. I just automatically assumed MH would be with me because he was my labor partner last time. But I guess it doesn't have to be that way.....
I definitely want MH there with me. Our family is about an hour away so it's not too bad but our daycare teacher is right in town and she is our backup plan if we need someone there sooner. Do you have any daycare teachers that are close and have a good relationship with your DS?
Post by salmon2017 on Apr 21, 2017 10:59:29 GMT -5
saltandvinegar yes, that would be ideal - except I can't ask them to skip work to watch him! The only daycare teacher who has left the daycare is now a nanny so I imagine she can't be on call either. And I also definitely want MH with me; we were such a good team last time.
DD lost and born 9/18/2013 at 24 weeks (Trisomy 18) DS born 6/16/2015 (at 39 weeks 6 days, after emergency cerclage at 23 weeks and 14 weeks of bed rest)
I would want my H with me. If something bad happened and I had to go to surgery or was unresponsive, he would need to be there with the baby. I don't use the nursery though. Even so, I wouldn't want to be without family if something bad happened.
Post by laurenash323 on Apr 21, 2017 14:33:21 GMT -5
leviosa brought up a good point, and I just want to throw my 2 cents out there...about the hospital nursery. I had DD at 2:40am, after being induced around 11am...so I was exhausted. However, I was for sure NOT sending her to the nursery EVER. Well by the time midnight/1am rolled around the next night I was dead and so was DH. It may have been because I personally knew 2 of the night nurses, but I sent her to the nursery and got the most glorious 3 hours of sleep EVER. We were discharged that morning (I opted not stay until she was 48 hours old) and I do not know if I would have been able to function at home if I had not sent her down there.
I'm just throwing it out there so you and your SO talk about it and know what you would like to do...but also so you know, it is OK to do! Before I did it, I felt like I would be so selfish/unloving if I just sent my newborn away, but after I did it, I completely understood why they have the nursery. She got loved on and rocked and I got to sleep...Win win.
Married to dh since 2012. Ttc journey: Miscarriage at 8 weeks February 2013 DD born march 2014 Miscarriage at 6 weeks September 2015 Miscarriage at 16 weeks, our angel Sebastian 1/23/16 Pregnancy number 5!! Edd 9/2/17 (my moms brithday!)
I used the nursery too and I like to tell people that it's an option - even when rooming in is your plan. My husband WASN'T with me in the hospital post-birth and that was a thing I 100% don't recommend.
There are a lot of things I didn't love about my post-birth experience in the hospital but allowing myself to sleep for a few hours is not one of them. Try to be kind to yourself as you make choices and navigate life with 1, 2, 3 or more babies.
Post by saltandvinegar on Apr 21, 2017 15:32:25 GMT -5
Just something to think about, a lot of hospitals are getting the "Baby Friendly" certification & don't allow babies to go to the nursery anymore. I used the nursery once last time - same boat as laurenash323, and it was the best thing in the world for me to get a couple of hours of sleep & truly be awake and enjoy the rest of the time without being crazy tired. You may want to look at your hospitals regulations if you aren't familiar with them. I have two options for delivery & one is now certified as baby friendly.
I'm not saying there is anything wrong with sending your baby to the nursery. I just don't do it. I don't like my babies leaving my sight unless DH is with them. That doesn't mean that it wouldn't be the right decision for someone else to use the nursery. I also have never had long, hard labors either and I know that can make a difference.
@wicky, did you supplement only because your milk had not come in? Or were there other issues at play?
My milk had not come in but also DS wouldn't properly latch. No lip or tongue ties but we just couldn't get the hang of it. I still wanted to breastfeed (and stayed home so I could easily pump as needed) so we went with exclusive pumping.
I'm glad y'all were able to pump. Latch problems can be very painful. I had issues for several weeks with DD. I didn't think my right nipple would ever look normal again.
My hospital doesn't have a staffed nursery, but they will take the baby if you want them too. With DS, I was like nope so the first night he hung out with us. The second night I agreed and let the nurses take him. I got 5 hours of sleep. It was awesome. With DD, she was born at midnight (which sucks on so many levels) so she was with us the first night. I didn't sleep basically at all that night. The second night I sent her with the nurse since her 24 hr tests were at midnight anyway. Well, that's when she started to wake up, so the nurses kept bringing her back every hour to nurse. They are a very baby friendly hospital. Needless to say, the only hour of sleep I got in the hospital was when DH took DD and basically kicked any nurse or doctor out of my room when they would in for who knows what.
I really hope this baby is not born during the night....ugh....
But yes, I so agree that it is totally fine to send them out for a few hours for sleep.
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