What's new with baby (size, development)? 4 toed hedgehog. Baby is busy practicing being cute by sucking it's thumb
Team? Green for now. I may decide to change this the closer we get to Feb 13.
Any upcoming appointments this week? Nothing
Any new symptoms or changes? Nothing new that I can think of.
Rants/Raves/Questions? I really miss wine some days (mostly those days when C is being a crabby toddler.) it doesn't help that DH comes home from work each night and has his vodka/tonics. I need to find my own way to be able to unwind at the end of the day.
What's something new you are doing to get ready for baby? Did the research on how to fix the walls in the new nursery. Next is a how to fix the door frame and trip to Menards to pick up what we need.
Anything else you want to add in?
GTKY: flip flops by far. Not great for your feet, but my feet love the fresh air. I can't wait to break out the flip flops again. (Or any sandal in general.)
sabrinaml - I've just started missing wine. I wanted to wait until 20 weeks to have a small glass here and there. Almost there! Hope you find something which relaxes you!
What's new with baby (size, development)? Banana-legs are straightening out so now baby can be measured head to toe instead of head to rump. Baby may begin to open eyes and produce meconium
Team? Find out
Any upcoming appointments this week? AS scan on Thursday! We will find out the sex the week after at the reveal party
Any new symptoms or changes? Not much. More emotional I think-I cry every time something doesn't go my way/H and I disagree, which is so unlike me!!!
Rants/Raves/Questions? Excited and nervous for our AS scan
What's something new you are doing to get ready for baby? We started Bradley birth classes on Thursday and love them!! Excited to keep doing that. We are looking at daycares this week on Thursday as well so Thursday will be a totall baby day!!
Anything else you want to add in? Notta
GTKY: What is your favorite foot wear??? Sneakers, flats, flip flops, heels, etc.-flip flops or sandals!!! Open toes for the win!
sabrinaml - I've just started missing wine. I wanted to wait until 20 weeks to have a small glass here and there. Almost there! Hope you find something which relaxes you!
I didn't miss it like this when I was pregnant with C. But I also didn't spend 12 hours home alone with a toddler. DH is completely against a small glass of wine here and there. Or a random few sips of beer. So nothing for me until June.
sabrinaml - I've just started missing wine. I wanted to wait until 20 weeks to have a small glass here and there. Almost there! Hope you find something which relaxes you!
I didn't miss it like this when I was pregnant with C. But I also didn't spend 12 hours home alone with a toddler. DH is completely against a small glass of wine here and there. Or a random few sips of beer. So nothing for me until June.
If it's just his opinion and not yours, you can always not tell him. But if you don't want to, no worries! Do what's best for you!
What's new with baby (size, development)? Size of a banana.
Team? Find out on Friday!
Any upcoming appointments this week? Anatomy scan and appointment on Friday!
Any new symptoms or changes? I've been feeling the baby move a lot more and I have even felt a few kicks on the outside!
Rants/raves/questions? Nope
What's something new you are doing to get ready for baby? Nothing really yet. We've talked about basically shuffling around our entire upstairs. Thinking about moving DD to the current office/extra bedroom, moving the current office/extra bedroom furniture to the empty bedroom, and having the baby in DD's current room. Doing that will give DD a lot more room. And will move the office/extra bedroom furniture to the smallest room (which we don't really use the office much anyways).
GTKY: My favorite shoes are probably my Sperrys. So comfortable.
Post by applemuffins on Jan 22, 2017 23:13:35 GMT -5
How far along are you? 20 + 1
What's new with baby (size, development)? Size of a banana. Has lips, growing eyebrows and eyelashes. Drinking amniotic fluid
Team? Blue
Any upcoming appointments this week? A/S on Wednesday!
Any new symptoms or changes? Heartburn and reflux is becoming a daily thing I don't remember it being like this at 20 weeks last time
Rants/Raves/Questions? Kind of a rant. I have some...idk, feelings? over having a boy. I had a slight preference for another girl. I love DD so much, we mesh well, and it would just be easier logistics wise. I know two other people who also have daughters and they really wanted boys. Like, strong preference. So in that way, I feel a tiny bit guilty (I know, not logical) that I'm having the boy they wanted when I wanted a girl. Don't get me wrong, I'm still happy to have a boy too. That in itself isn't an issue. It's people ideas and opinions that bother me more than anything. The other half of me is also kind of angry and defensive because now that we will have a boy and girl, people say now we have the "perfect" family, and we can be done having kids, etc. Well, even if we had a girl our family would have been perfect. We can be done, or not done with however many kids we choose. This was going to be our last no matter what. I know it's a moot point, but it just makes me so irritated that people basically imply the child wouldn't have been as wanted if it had been a girl. I know it shouldn't bother me, especially since he is a boy anyway, but it just does. Just like how it bothered me when DD was born and people were already telling us to have #2. I wasn't even out of the hospital yet! We didn't even know if we wanted a second kid yet.
What's something new you are doing to get ready for baby? Pulling out some of the stuff we saved to see what we have, but it's not much. I've been talking with our neighbor who just had a baby trying to coordinate a little. We passed our stuff to her after we had DD and she will be passing some stuff back to us. I hope we won't have to buy too much.
Anything else you want to add in?
GTKY: What is your favorite foot wear??? Sneakers, flats, flip flops, heels, etc. Flats of some sort generally. I haven't had a pair of shoes that I totally love in years though. Maybe I have odd feet.
applemuffins I felt the same way when I'd tell people I had a girl and was expecting a boy, and they made a big deal about how 'perfect' that was and how we wouldn't need to have more kids. My annoyance was compounded by the fact that I knew our son was going to be born with a serious heart defect and I obviously cared way more about a healthy baby than a certain sex. Plus we knew we wanted to try for a third. In my opinion, any combo of sexes/birth orders has its pros and cons. And I think people just like to have something to say
applemuffins, I totally get what you are saying. Part of me (a big part) is really hoping babe #2 is a boy. I've always felt I was meant to be a boy mom. I will be just as thrilled if it's a little girl (and part of me wants that for DH, C is a total mammas boy and I really want him to have a daddy's girl) either way, we will be happy- just might be a shock when we do find out. I had a friends mom tell me "hopefully this one is a girl like Jackies second and you can be done." Well first of all, not everyone needs a boy and a girl to be a complete family. Second, we are done after this one no matter what. I just hate how people think the perfect family = 1 boy and 1 girl.
What's new with baby (size, development)? baseball hat, LOL
Team? Blue!
Any upcoming appointments this week? None
Any new symptoms or changes? I am waiting to hear back on the results of my 1 hour GTT. My midwife told me she suspects I have GD and probably developed it late with DD. I'm super annoyed by it but agreed to take the 1 hour twice (20w and 26w). DD with 9.4 and I gained 60lbs with her. I'm still convinced I just make big babies and retain a ton of water during pregnancy. I looked up my past records and saw I had lost 33 of those 60lbs within 10 days. Thank you night sweats.
Rants/Raves/Questions? I also really miss having an adult beverage on occasion. I am taking DH to the casino on Friday ngiht for his 30th and I know it's going to suck for me not to be able to celebrate with everyone.
What's something new you are doing to get ready for baby? Buying off season clothes on clearance? LOL
applemuffins , I totally get what you are saying. Part of me (a big part) is really hoping babe #2 is a boy. I've always felt I was meant to be a boy mom. I will be just as thrilled if it's a little girl (and part of me wants that for DH, C is a total mammas boy and I really want him to have a daddy's girl) either way, we will be happy- just might be a shock when we do find out. I had a friends mom tell me "hopefully this one is a girl like Jackies second and you can be done." Well first of all, not everyone needs a boy and a girl to be a complete family. Second, we are done after this one no matter what. I just hate how people think the perfect family = 1 boy and 1 girl.
I completely understand this. I wanted another girl so that DD could have a sister. I grew up with 3 brothers and wanted DD to experience that sisterly bond. On the other hand, I wanted a boy so DH (and I) could experience having a son. Of course everyone gave us the "perfect family" comments when we told them we are expecting a boy, but I still have sad moments thinking that DD might never get a sister. I think when you are sure (or pretty sure) that you are done having babies, it's bittersweet no matter what the sex is. applemuffins
These girl + boy = perfect family comments make me super annoyed. I think I'll ask them how many siblings they have and if they feel their family wasn't "perfect" growing up. Or ask them if they think my family (three sisters) isn't "perfect". Seriously, WTF with that comment.
Post by violetrose on Jan 23, 2017 13:22:22 GMT -5
How far along are you? 21 weeks, 2 days
What's new with baby (size, development)? She's developing her nerves and sense of touch.
Team? Pink
Any upcoming appointments this week? None, next appointment is 2/15
Any new symptoms or changes? Horrible acid reflux, super emotional all the time
Rants/Raves/Questions? Not really.
What's something new you are doing to get ready for baby? I started going through DD's baby clothes and organizing what will and won't work for this baby.
Anything else you want to add in? Feeling the baby move all the time!
GTKY: What is your favorite foot wear??? Mostly sneakers, I'm all about comfort over here!
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Jan 23, 2017 13:42:36 GMT -5
Chiming in on the "perfect family" comments here. I'm almost down playing the fact that we're having a girl! I really expected to have 2 boys and I feel guilty that DS won't have a brother and DD won't have a sister. And the "now you can stop" well we were going to stope regardless. People think I should be so much more excited. I'm excited for a baby, regardless of the sex.
I'm annoyed that it also seems people are more excited it's a girl this time. Like, poor DS... well he's the greatest kid! And "oh she will be a daddy's girl" well guess what? Even though DS is 2.5 he says his best friend is his dad I feel like the girl excitement is somewhat slighting DS and that's not necessary.
And the girl comments... "she will be such a princess... so spoiled". One younger relative said "don't worry, I won't show her my tattoos til she's 18" what the heck does that even imply? No one said this stuff when I found out DS was a boy.
I'm relieved when people keep it simple "DS will be a great big brother". Perfect and he will!
New week, new developments, new fruit (or strange animal, object, etc.)
How far along are you? 20 weeks today
What's new with baby (size, development)? Small banana
Team? Not finding out
Any upcoming appointments this week? Yes, my 20 week OB appt. on Thursday. I can't remember when my OB likes to cut off air travel so that's the main question I have for her - so I can plan when I'll stop traveling for work.
Any new symptoms or changes? DH felt this baby kick on the outside last night for the first time. Also more round ligament pain - major pangs when I've been sitting for awhile and I get up too fast.
What's something new you are doing to get ready for baby? Still working on my closet clean out to make it a nursery I ordered curtains and fabric samples so I can get a new chair cushion. I checked the expiration date on our infant carseat and will post for advice on that in a separate thread.
Anything else you want to add in? I was supposed to have my annual review at work today, after which I was going to go public at work. It's also my son's 3rd birthday, so my immediate boss was going to cover a client meeting that's a little over an hour away this afternoon. But he emailed this morning that he has the flu. So I had to reschedule my son's birthday celebration at school to this morning, so DH couldn't make it, since I now need to attend the meeting. I also won't have my review today and I really wanted to know what my comp adjustment was, and I'm so tired of trying to hide the bump. So I was really looking forward to today and it's not going as planned! I'm trying to roll with it.
GTKY: What is your favorite foot wear??? Sneakers, flats, flip flops, heels, etc. Definitely sandals/flip flops.
applemuffins , I totally get what you are saying. Part of me (a big part) is really hoping babe #2 is a boy. I've always felt I was meant to be a boy mom. I will be just as thrilled if it's a little girl (and part of me wants that for DH, C is a total mammas boy and I really want him to have a daddy's girl) either way, we will be happy- just might be a shock when we do find out. I had a friends mom tell me "hopefully this one is a girl like Jackies second and you can be done." Well first of all, not everyone needs a boy and a girl to be a complete family. Second, we are done after this one no matter what. I just hate how people think the perfect family = 1 boy and 1 girl.
I completely understand this. I wanted another girl so that DD could have a sister. I grew up with 3 brothers and wanted DD to experience that sisterly bond. On the other hand, I wanted a boy so DH (and I) could experience having a son. Of course everyone gave us the "perfect family" comments when we told them we are expecting a boy, but I still have sad moments thinking that DD might never get a sister. I think when you are sure (or pretty sure) that you are done having babies, it's bittersweet no matter what the sex is. applemuffins
I co-sign on this. We are having ANOTHER girl, as people like to put it. For a total of two kids. DH and I always wanted two kids. Since having dd I was suddenly open to having 3. Dh was a firm no, now he's not so sure. We would need a bigger house for three kids and we are very on the fence about having another. So we agreed to both enjoy this pregnancy at if it's our last and we will reassess our feelings down the road. I guess all that to say, yes when we found out #2 was a girl we both had some feelings. I'm sure I would have had different feelings if she was boy (no sister for dd1, etc). My cousin has 3 kids, two girls and one boy. She tells me all the time that it's hard to come to terms with the fact her "having babies" chapter is closed in her book. No matter what sex your kids are or how many you have, people always have dumb shit to say.
Post by brandiewine11 on Jan 23, 2017 16:18:38 GMT -5
Regarding those "perfect family" comments, I'm so annoyed at my family for this.
We have a boy. I had a really strong preference for a boy for our first. I always thought I'd have boys, but I really thought this baby was a girl. I was wrong. While I felt a slight twinge of disappointment that I'll never have a girl as I know this is our last. I think DH was slightly disappointed to, but we're both super excited to have another boy.
When I told my parents and sister that I'm pregnant, they all immediately gushed over how much they hoped it was a girl. Like went on and on and on. My brother has a daughter already, so it's not like they don't have a granddaughter/niece.
I found out about 2 weeks later that it's a boy - I still haven't told them. I have no desire to tell them until he's born. I feel like they don't deserve to know if they acted like that. It makes me feel like they don't love my son as much, and they won't love this next one as much either.
Wow that got long. Sorry....
And that's why I live 3000 miles from my family...
Post by violetrose on Jan 23, 2017 17:16:05 GMT -5
honda13- yep! That definitely sums it all up. When I was pregnant with DS, I got all the "perfect family" comments. People act like we are nuts to want 3 kids anyway- but they think we are even crazier since we have 1 boy and 1 girl currently. I've even had people ask me why I would want to "ruin a good thing."
Post by violetrose on Jan 23, 2017 17:18:43 GMT -5
brandiewine11 So sorry about all of that. I know how you feel. I told DH this weekend that I actually miss living 3,000 miles away from our families. We live 20 minutes from MIL and FIL and it's just too much. I miss the distance and being able to avoid certain topics.
sabrinaml - I've just started missing wine. I wanted to wait until 20 weeks to have a small glass here and there. Almost there! Hope you find something which relaxes you!
I didn't miss it like this when I was pregnant with C. But I also didn't spend 12 hours home alone with a toddler. DH is completely against a small glass of wine here and there. Or a random few sips of beer. So nothing for me until June.
+1 to missing wine terribly. Being home alone with 2 toddlers is hard and exhausting. By the end of the day, all I want is a tall cold glass of white wine!
honda13- yep! That definitely sums it all up. When I was pregnant with DS, I got all the "perfect family" comments. People act like we are nuts to want 3 kids anyway- but they think we are even crazier since we have 1 boy and 1 girl currently. I've even had people ask me why I would want to "ruin a good thing."
That's a shitty thing to say. It wasn't that long ago people had large families and it was the norm. Like, 5+ kids.
honda13- yep! That definitely sums it all up. When I was pregnant with DS, I got all the "perfect family" comments. People act like we are nuts to want 3 kids anyway- but they think we are even crazier since we have 1 boy and 1 girl currently. I've even had people ask me why I would want to "ruin a good thing."
That's a shitty thing to say. It wasn't that long ago people had large families and it was the norm. Like, 5+ kids.
The best thing about the mom that made this comment to me- she has 3 kids (1 son, 2 daughters) her son has 3 of his own and a step child. Oldest daughter has 6 and a step child, youngest daughter has 2 (she was the daughter this mom was referring to.) Why does my family size matter when she didn't voice this opinion to her own kids (or herself!)
violetrose - What a crappy thing to say. You can't ruin a family.
brandiewine11 - I wouldn't tell them either. This is our first, but we aren't finding out the sex and wouldn't tell people even if we did because I just don't want the comments.
That's a shitty thing to say. It wasn't that long ago people had large families and it was the norm. Like, 5+ kids.
The best thing about the mom that made this comment to me- she has 3 kids (1 son, 2 daughters) her son has 3 of his own and a step child. Oldest daughter has 6 and a step child, youngest daughter has 2 (she was the daughter this mom was referring to.) Why does my family size matter when she didn't voice this opinion to her own kids (or herself!)
These people must lack the ability to know what they are saying is dickish. Idc if you have a Duggar sized family. You do you and what feels complete for your family.
redrock - I give that comment an eye roll every time. I try not to roll my eyes at people, but I can't stop when I hear that one. I tend to say something along the lines of "there are plenty of neutral clothes out there", "I don't want pink or blue everything anyway", and "babies can wear any color; in fact, so can adults".
Post by teachermomtobe on Jan 24, 2017 17:16:30 GMT -5
lulu783, hope you pass your GTT! And I could definitely go for a glass of wine myself. sdlaura, so frustrating about your annual review being postponed yesterday.
Team? Found out this afternoon we're having another boy! (Is this where I put my UO that I hate the "team colour" thing?)
Any upcoming appointments this week? Dr appt on Thursday
Any new symptoms or changes? This may sound crazy, but I'm convinced that my leg hair grows way slower when I'm pregnant. It's pretty nice, actually. Also, I didn't think I was much more emotional but on Sunday DS had a horrible fall that he's sporting a nasty bruise from and I cried a lot longer than he did about it
Rants/Raves/Questions?
What's something new you are doing to get ready for baby? Nothing yet, but looking forward to starting soon.
Anything else you want to add in?
GTKY: What is your favorite foot wear? I love wearing pretty heels but haven't had much opportunity to in the last two years. In winter I enjoy boots and in summer I like flip flops.
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