amyface813, I would quit that program. It doesn't sound like it is actually helping your wellness. I do understand your feels though. Before getting preggly I worked my butt off and ate super healthy to lose 30 pounds and was on track to lose that again in the previous four months. I have not gained any weight since getting pregnant, thanks morning sickness? but I know it is coming. I mean fluid, blood volume and baby alone are like 20 pounds. So in order to not gain weight we would basically have to lose muscle or fat (preferably fat) but I would rather gain the 20 pounds of baby than lose my hard won muscle.
It is hard for my brain to wrap around the "yay weight gain" concept after a year of tracking it down. I guess all we can do is make healthy choices. (spoiler I am not 100% of the time only like 80%)
amyface813 I agree. It's so frustrating how obsessed the work is with pregnant women and their weight gain. My FIL asked me during my first tri, and I just looked at him and was like "actually I've lost weight thanks to the throwing up" and he hasn't asked again. Even H asks me on a regular basis. I still haven't gotten back up to my pre pregnancy weight but I have been gaining fairly consistently now so it will probably only be a week. My SIL lives in South America and they told her she should only gain 15 pounds. And she obviously gained more than that so they told her to wear spanks.
My SIL lives in South America and they told her she should only gain 15 pounds. And she obviously gained more than that so they told her to wear spanks.
I'm at a loss for words. What in the world?
So the weight gain guidelines were obviously set for vanity reasons, because spanks aren't going to help your health. Ugh!
My SIL lives in South America and they told her she should only gain 15 pounds. And she obviously gained more than that so they told her to wear spanks.
I'm at a loss for words. What in the world?
So the weight gain guidelines were obviously set for vanity reasons, because spanks aren't going to help your health. Ugh!
Yes. She lives In Colombia. The also usually force c-sections because going into labor is "inconvenient." It's ridiculous. She hated being pregnant/having a baby there.
I feel like I'm not doing anything for this baby. Like she's getting a crib and sheets and that's basically it. For W I had like 3 pinterest boards of nurseries and had started decorating at this point.
I didn't have any newborn outfits at all for W because everyone said she'd be too big for them, and she wasn't even close but then it felt wasteful to go get them for such a short time. I should definitely buy DD2 some outfits, right? That will make me feel better about her getting the shaft of sharing her room with my office space. I still don't feel ok about that, but it has to happen.
So the weight gain guidelines were obviously set for vanity reasons, because spanks aren't going to help your health. Ugh!
Yes. She lives In Colombia. The also usually force c-sections because going into labor is "inconvenient." It's ridiculous. She hated being pregnant/having a baby there.
Well recovering from a major abdominal surgery while caring for a newborn is way more convenient for a new mom. *Sarcasm*
C-sections are great when they are needed or the safer option. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm knocking them, because that's not at all the case. They save lives (including my own). I just hate that women are having surgeries so that a doctor's schedule isn't messed up.
It never occurred to me to just stop the program. Feeling a little dumb for that. The weight part is only portion of it, you are supposed to do weekly weigh ins. I think I'll just start estimating that and do the rest. The points that I earn go towards a potential $500 which will be pretty handy in December when the incentive bonuses get handed out. I just need to remind myself that my weight is not THE indicator of my health and be grateful I'm not giving birth in Columbia 😳. I gained 30 with DS and it was perfect.
linny12 I'm so sorry you went through that! I can't believe your doc actually said to lose weight! I thought that it was never recommended unless under abnormal circumstances and under a doctor's supervision since it can be dangerous. I hope you don't get any of that crap this time and come to us if you do! Maybe we can help battle old feelings and unhealthy eating habits creeping back in.
I feel like I'm not doing anything for this baby. Like she's getting a crib and sheets and that's basically it. For W I had like 3 pinterest boards of nurseries and had started decorating at this point.
I didn't have any newborn outfits at all for W because everyone said she'd be too big for them, and she wasn't even close but then it felt wasteful to go get them for such a short time. I should definitely buy DD2 some outfits, right? That will make me feel better about her getting the shaft of sharing her room with my office space. I still don't feel ok about that, but it has to happen.
This happened to me! I had hardly any newborn clothes and once he came home I was scrambling to get hand me downs from family. He ended up wearing newborn clothes for 6 weeks or so, which isn't too long but he definitely didn't fit in 3 mo right away.
Definitely buy some outfits! I'll be buying some cute newborn summer clothes when they come out in stores.
linny12 I'm so sorry you went through that! I can't believe your doc actually said to lose weight! I thought that it was never recommended unless under abnormal circumstances and under a doctor's supervision since it can be dangerous. I hope you don't get any of that crap this time and come to us if you do! Maybe we can help battle old feelings and unhealthy eating habits creeping back in.
Thank you. I still struggle with getting caught up in weight/body issues, but I feel better this go around.
The other doctors in the practice were ticked, but I couldn't turn that voice in my head off. This time I'm refusing to see him for any of my appointments. I saw him 2 years ago and of course he was the one on call when my water broke, so he delivered W, but I'm ignoring his existence this pregnancy.
And for the record I left the hospital 32lbs less than when I got pregnant and went home to find I needed to go buy smaller clothes. So he can suck it.
amyface813 could you have someone else log your weight so you're unaware of the changes?
No, it's all manual on a website. I'll enter the ones from my doc appointments and make up the rest. It's not like anyone is checking in on it or anything. For the record, I'm not changing any habits or anything because of it. It's just that little voice in my head that's saying "two pounds? You shouldn't have been eating that ice cream and I see you haven't worked out in a few days..." stupid voice.
I don't own a scale because I don't need the stress- I was weighed at 40 weeks pregnant and then again at like 10 weeks with this pregnancy. Only my mom dared to ask how much weight I gained last time and she low-balled (I gain 45 lb, half in the first half of pregnancy because eating kept the nausea at bay...although chocolate croissants and ice cream probably weren't the best options all the time). DS was born healthy and that's all that matters. Fuck everyone who feels the need to comment on a woman's weight.
Post by babywisher on Jan 25, 2017 12:12:53 GMT -5
Ugh ladies. I'm so sorry for those struggling with weight issues. Hugs to you all.
I felt so much better yesterday. Now today I have full force ms. It is miserable. At least I got everything cleaned yesterday so I can lay around today. Well as much as my 2 little ones at home will let me! DH did say he'd go grocery shopping for me. Which I'm thrilled about because the thought of being around all that food makes me gag.
I have so much rage right now. H was supposed to be bringing me home delicious garlic knots and instead he is chatting with the head coach of the Penguins. Come on. I've waited up WAY past my bedtime for this food. The pregnancy rage is real.
Ugh when you have your heart set on a certain food and it doesn't come through!!! The worst!
I have so much rage right now. H was supposed to be bringing me home delicious garlic knots and instead he is chatting with the head coach of the Penguins. Come on. I've waited up WAY past my bedtime for this food. The pregnancy rage is real.
Ugh when you have your heart set on a certain food and it doesn't come through!!! The worst!
He did finally bring them. But it was an hour later than it was supposed to be. I had to wait up until after midnight for those things.
Post by babywisher on Jan 25, 2017 12:25:41 GMT -5
Oh and while I'm whining...I have been feeling like I have such horrible bo since about 6 weeks. The past 3 weeks have been great with no smell. Then the night before last when I was so sick it came back. I put on deodorant after my shower last night and this morning I stink again. I made dh smell and he said he didn't smell anything. What the heck?! It's all min my head?
I'm sitting here craving a Cinnabon - haven't even had one in years but suddenly I thought of them and I'm dying for a cinnamon roll!!! No car though so I'm saved from myself. Which is good because reading ya'lls weight gain fears reminds me I need to watch how much I indulge myself! I gained 50lb last time! It was awful. I don't feel like I binge ate all that much either. Thankfully I lost it fairly easily, but I'm on track to gain it all back since constant eating is all that keeps me from getting really sick. I'm glad I'm at home now and can't grab fast food for lunch all the time. But dang... KFC and Cinnabon sound sooooooo good!!!!! 😬🙄
murran13 over the weekend I had a craving for Hamburger Helper...I hadn't had it since I was a teenager and my stepdad would make it when my mom worked evenings. It is so weird when you crave something you haven't even eaten in forever. Needless to say we had hamburger helper for dinner Sunday night...I felt like a kid again!
Post by amyface813 on Jan 25, 2017 13:00:26 GMT -5
One more thing on weight. Then I'll stop. Thanks for not flaming me. I feel silly that it's even bothering me. It's not like I've gained 30 pounds or anything it's something like 7ish depending on where you start counting. I generally feel very confident when I'm pregnant because it's pretty cool what's happening and now that I'm finally showing I don't feel like I need to suck it in. I'm blaming society.
One more thing on weight. Then I'll stop. Thanks for not flaming me. I feel silly that it's even bothering me. It's not like I've gained 30 pounds or anything it's something like 7ish depending on where you start counting. I generally feel very confident when I'm pregnant because it's pretty cool what's happening and now that I'm finally showing I don't feel like I need to suck it in. I'm blaming society.
It's absolutely society. It's awful. I gained over 50 with my first pregnancy. I just think everyone has a different body and carries a pregnancy differently. People are so judgemental and it sucks!
I'm so bad about apply lotion, even when not pregnant. Then my belly suddenly becomes a massive ball of itchy fire and then I use an entire bottle at once because "OMG I'M DYING."
It's a solid strategy. But I was a stretchmarked mess pre-pregnancy so I wasn't concerned about that.
Post by surprisemomat24 on Jan 25, 2017 16:27:11 GMT -5
I hear everyone on the weight stuff, my mom gained 50lbs with me then got pregnant with my sister before she could lose it and she just never lost it and has been on me about my weight since even before the pregnancy (I gained a solid 10lbs not long before we conceived). I feel like I haven't gained THAT much when I think about how I'm over 16 weeks pregnant but being a clueless first time preggo/mom it's intimidating for family members to be "concerned for your health". I'm so happy I have this board to empathize with everyone and feel empowered at the same time!! ❤❤
Is everyone starting to lotion up their bellies yet? I really must remember to start!
I moisturize my whole body every morning, but I just ordered some Palmer's Belly Butter and I'm thinking I'll switch to that. My normal go-to is just plain coconut oil.
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