PCOS / Hypothyroidism TTC - March 2009 BFP1 DS 06/2012 TTC - July 2013 BFP2 Due 03/2016, MMC 08/2015, Emergency D&C BFP3 Due 02/2017, MC 07/2016, Natural MC BFP4 Due 04/2017, Boy!
How is everyone else feeling? Due date coming too quick or not fast enough?
I feel conflicted. I am already uncomfortable and I'm anxious to find out if it's a DS or a DD2. At the same time, we have a lot to buy and accomplish ideally before baby gets here, and I am seeing the freedom that one kid gives me that I won't have soon. So it depends on the time of day you ask me, haha.
Right? When I imagine wearing, nursing, and picking up my toddler a million times a day as my belly gets bigger for 11 more weeks it sounds long. When I imagine going back to newborn sleep, helping her through tantrums while holding a baby, and trying to nurse them both, it sounds too soon. I'm trying to enjoy what's easy about now, acknowledge what's hard about now, and look forward to what's going to be fun about 2 kids relatively close in age, but it's a process :-)
Hey friends Is anyone taking any birth classes or methods? Hiring a doula or any other things like that??
Just curious
Are you in my brain? I was just googling doulas in my area and placenta encapsulation. I most likely will not hire a doula. I really wanted to be a midwife or doula years ago and I've read so many of the doula training books that i just cannot drop that kind of money for something I've trained to do. Yes I know that I'll be the one giving birth but I feel like I could teach the right person to do what I need from a birth partner. I'm just second guessing who I want with me, etc.
Post by ourcrazynavylife on Jan 24, 2017 0:21:30 GMT -5
@osw yeaaaa. I really really don't freaking know what I want to do. My daughter's birth wasn't how I pictured it and I'd like for this one to be different.
Holy shit. I've been counting up until now and then I just saw the 11 more weeks thing. Fuck its countdown time now isn't it?!?
Meh, once you hit 35 weeks
The majority of FTMs with no medical reason for early delivery (GD, pre-e, etc) will go past their due date. I think I read somewhere the average delivery date for a FTM is 41w and change when let to go to 42 weeks
onesweetworld the MWs that deliver at the women's hospital, one is a trained doula as well. I'm not sure whether she still practices but she's one of my favorite MWs
Hey friends Is anyone taking any birth classes or methods? Hiring a doula or any other things like that??
Just curious
Nope. I didn't with DS1 and won't this time either. My only goal is to have both baby and I survive and make out healthy. I have wishes but do not care one way or another if I have to toss them out. I trust my DH to be able to tell the nurses and other trying to be helpful staff to kindly fuck off, but I know that not everyone is as lucky with that (he made sure my nurses knew to tell the LC to not even glance in my direction, that my mind was not being changed)
One thing I learned with DS1 is no matter how much I plan, it doesn't always go according to plan and it was much easier to accept things if i just went with the flow and made "game day" decisions.
I also will deny any and all cervix checks until delivery this time around unless they will do a membrane strip. I didn't get my first official (had one in L&D at 35ish due to being in for a NST with a baby refusing to move for hours) with DS1 until 39w and despite being over 2cm and 60%, it was another two weeks before delivery
Holy shit. I've been counting up until now and then I just saw the 11 more weeks thing. Fuck its countdown time now isn't it?!?
Meh, once you hit 35 weeks
The majority of FTMs with no medical reason for early delivery (GD, pre-e, etc) will go past their due date. I think I read somewhere the average delivery date for a FTM is 41w and change when let to go to 42 weeks
Yeah I'm having my doctor put my due date at 42 weeks so I can work until they won't let me go any longer. My MW is wondering how they will induce me if they have to because I'm allergic to a medication they use for induction.
The majority of FTMs with no medical reason for early delivery (GD, pre-e, etc) will go past their due date. I think I read somewhere the average delivery date for a FTM is 41w and change when let to go to 42 weeks
Yeah I'm having my doctor put my due date at 42 weeks so I can work until they won't let me go any longer. My MW is wondering how they will induce me if they have to because I'm allergic to a medication they use for induction.
There's natural ways they can try. A lot of MWs will try to exhaust all those methods before doing medical inductions.
Some women are lucky and can go straight to pitocin for induction (provided that's not the one you are allergic to)
Hey friends Is anyone taking any birth classes or methods? Hiring a doula or any other things like that??
Just curious
Debating a doula. I'll have to see how things go with the midwives if I get transferred to an OB.
If they are still going to be there throughout I think I'm good, but if they aren't I really don't feel supported by nurses I've never met and an OB who may or may not show up last minute. Unfortunately both my nurses and doctors sucked so bad last time around I feel pretty anxious about the whole thing.
Still have to talk this all out with several different care providers and it is expensive (understandably).
Hey friends Is anyone taking any birth classes or methods? Hiring a doula or any other things like that??
Just curious
I'm strongly considering attempting an epidural-free birth this time. I was not pleased with the effects of the epi last time and am wondering if I have what it takes to go without. So I would like to take a natural birth course if we can arrange childcare for DD.
The hospital where I plan to deliver has a free volunteer doula program and I'm going to talk to my OB about how I can get signed up for that. If I don't qualify or they're full, I won't hire a doula, because I just can't justify the expense.
Edited to continue the last thought: If I had a bigger budget for maternity leave and childbirth expenses, I'd hire a doula in a heartbeat, so I'm not trying to dis the expense, just I don't have the $$ in the bank for it at this time.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Jan 24, 2017 14:49:14 GMT -5
One of the main characters in the book I'm reading (Stephen King's "The Stand" for the 4th time) is pregnant and every time she has an emotion, it seems like her boyfriend or someone asks her, "What's the matter? Is it the baby?" If people talked to me like that, they would get kicked so hard. It's driving me nuts on her behalf.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Jan 24, 2017 15:12:02 GMT -5
My H changed his mind on what he wants for his birthday cake again. Grocery shopping for ingredients is happening tonight, so he better be set this time.
My H changed his mind on what he wants for his birthday cake again. Grocery shopping for ingredients is happening tonight, so he better be set this time.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Jan 24, 2017 17:05:43 GMT -5
When I called to schedule my 3 hr glucose test for tomorrow, the lab told me not to eat 12 hours before my test. So that means no eating after 7:30 PM tonight. I usually have dessert at like 8 PM. I am so sad and so worried about how hungry I'll already be when I go to bed, not to mention when I wake up tomorrow.
But I had a delicious potential "last dessert" last night of leftover birthday cake from DD's party and chocolate ice cream, so I guess I shouldn't be too sad about having to skip it for (hopefully) only one night.
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