I need a refresher as to where everyone is. I know we've got everything from 2weeks to almost 2 months I think and from what I can see we haven't had a formal check in since the 9th!
How old is baby?
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep?
How are you feeling physically or emotionally?
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?:
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep? Feeding is getting better now that I'm following the pediatrician's plan and not the LC's generic plan. When she eats how she likes she sleeps in decent stretches. The last two days must have been a growth spurt or something because she was eating every 90 minutes, but she's back on a sane schedule today.
How are you feeling physically or emotionally? I'm feeling ok. Sitting too long makes my c-section area sore and irritated. Emotionally I'm great until I'm exhausted or the feeding schedule gets to me.
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?: Get the house cleaned since dh is going back to work next week and I'd like it to not be gross. Trying also to eat better while at the same time getting all the calories I need. It's supposed to be sunny for the rest of the week so I'd like to get out and take some walks.
Questions/Comments/Rants/Raves: rant: the nurses and lcs at the newborn clinic like to comment on how big dd is and it's annoying. I want to be like "seriously, look at dh and I, there's no way we were having a short or petite baby." This one nurse keeps saying how she looks like a 4 month old. Just annoys the crap out of me.
Post by requiressnacks on Jan 25, 2017 20:44:25 GMT -5
Great idea @cahistoryteacher!
How old is baby? 11 weeks!
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep? DD feeds and sleeps like a champ. DS sort of sucks at both. He rarely eats more than 3 oz at once and is so behind his sister in the weight department. The pediatrician doesn't seem concerned. And we are still working on napping.
How are you feeling physically or emotionally? Physically I am good. I've been eating healthy and actually worked out a couple times. Emotionally I am basically a raging bitch. I am constantly resentful of my husband and we are always bickering about who did what, who does more, etc. I have no idea how to get our marriage back on track. I'm hoping time helps.
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?: just chugging away at tracking my food ok myfitnesspal
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep? -- the only thing that could make things better is if I could put the little velcro baby down once in a while.
How are you feeling physically or emotionally? I swing from just great to anxiety ridden hot mess. It's definitely a lot better though.
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?: I'm working on getting in more fluids and getting out of the house more. I met some moms for coffee this morning and lunch with my husband today. Tomorrow I'm going to a baby playgroup -- which is as ridiculous as it sounds.
@cahistoryteacher 4 mo? Is it that she's long? @kc295905 I've slacked on the pnv AND the vit D for him. And totally lied to the pedi and said I was giving it to him. requiressnacks I think the baby stage is extra hard on a marriage. I hope yours does improve soon. I wanted to TP my husband tonight. He "worked" late. Right. I could tell he'd been drinking. Asked him to go buy some tylenol and he said why couldn't I go. >:/ Lucy I asked my cousin if she wanted to do a playdate (her baby is a week younger). She looked at me like I was crazy. But that sounds better than a mommy playdate which is what it really is.
littlelion, yeah she's long and already 10lbs. I know most of the babies that have repeat visits with them are usually under 6lbs or have bad jaundice so our girl probably seems huge in comparison. When we were in today the nurses were all taking turns getting her attention, they were saying most newborns are asleep at the appointments so they enjoy it when the slightly older ones come in. Luckily for us we are done with them since she keeps gaining and is almost a month old.
Lucy baby play group isn't ridiculous at all! I take DS to baby time at the library. He sleeps or eats the whole time. It's just so nice to talk to other moms. Hoping I eventually make a friend there.
I thought about going to baby time at my library! But I wasn't sure if it would be ridiculous. Glad to hear it's not!
Post by requiressnacks on Jan 26, 2017 9:13:09 GMT -5
crimpgirl, yes we have talked about who does what, but my issue is that I don't think my portion is fair. And yes, @kc295905, because I'm on maternity leave he thinks I should do everything.
So, for example, he is working 6 days this week, 12 hour shifts. I do 100% of overnight and daytime stuff (feedings, changing, parenting, etc). He will get home at 6;30 pm and I'll have dinner waiting. We eat and then he helps me get the babies to sleep. So he feeds one baby, one time. That's one feeding out of 14 that happen in a given day. I get highly resentful and then it turns into the pain olympics.
He also says that once I'm working he will help with overnight. I'm highly skeptical of this.
And basically when I'm mad at him, the last thing I want to do is have sex with someone I dislike. That's a thing too.
ETA ....sorry for whining about feeding. I know the EBF mamas are doing 100% too.
Ugh requiressnacks I'm sorry. Men totally don't understand that maternity leave is not a vacation. It's a time for healing and bonding and adjusting to a crazy new lifestyle with added sleep deprivation and hormones. And you just happen to have it multiplied with twins. I hope he starts to take on more.
Yes. This is a major misconception.
It's going to be a rude awakening when I go back to work.
And I really think he and I should add a counselor to help us but he is totally against it.
Post by requiressnacks on Jan 26, 2017 9:46:39 GMT -5
crimpgirl...,do NOT beat yourself up about baby's birth weight. You did everything right while you were pregnant and he's totally healthy. As long as he's gaining now, you are doing great! I also have a peanut baby so I completely understand the comments.
crimpgirl, I have a friend who just (Tuesday) had her 5th baby. Her babies are always huge. The one she just had is her smallest at 8 1/2 lbs and 22". Every time I'd post a picture of C on FB she'd comment asking how much she weighs now followed by "I bet my baby is bigger than that now! Haha!". It started bugging me a lot more than it should.
Cora is probably close to 11lbs now, but she still hasnt hit 22", so she looks deceptively small. I hear "Oh so tiny! Wow, almost 2 months?!!" All the time. She's not even on the height chart anymore. I know people don't mean any harm, but it still feels like they're being critical of my baby growing skills.
Post by littlelion on Jan 26, 2017 10:33:38 GMT -5
requiressnacks I shudder at how hard returning to work will be. It bugs me to no end when we argue that dh says "but I do help". I'm tired of this "help" he so generously gives me. It's not my sole responsibility, I shouldn't have to ask.
Post by catherineoctober on Jan 26, 2017 14:24:32 GMT -5
How old is baby? 8 weeks old
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep? Things are going good - I get asked a lot about her schedule and I really don't know. I just take each day at a time and I'm there for her so we just do what we do. I have started to pump during the day while she eats a bottle. I'm a little concerned that I won't get enough, but every time I pump there is milk and I keep it ready for the next feeding.
How are you feeling physically or emotionally? A bit overwhelmed, but doing ok. Glad to get into a routine. Not looking forward to dropping her off at daycare next week. I might fudge my hours and do half days with her until I actually have appointments I have to be on the phone for.
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?: Getting organized.
Questions/Comments/Rants/Raves I've got a question - I got so quickly into daycare that I didn't really pay attention to what I need to bring with me. I swear everyone here just assumes you'll know what to do, but I have no trouble saying I'm a first time mom. I'm planning on taking 10 oz of breast milk per day. we can only leave her there for 8 hours and I doubt I'll even let it go to 6 the first few weeks a change of clothes 8-10 diapers. binky Let me know if I'm missing anything.
*snip* I'm planning on taking 10 oz of breast milk per day. we can only leave her there for 8 hours and I doubt I'll even let it go to 6 the first few weeks a change of clothes 8-10 diapers. binky Let me know if I'm missing anything.
oh and Jane herself
Based on the DC in my area: 2 changes of clothes, wipes, desitin (or what you prefer), and more diapers unless you prefer to take more later (I'd leave enough for a week). I'd ask if they had a cubby for her. My old DC I had to bring a container for all the stuff.
Post by mrsp121308 on Jan 26, 2017 16:16:31 GMT -5
How old is baby? 12 weeks. She will be 3 months next Wednesday
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep? She's a really easy baby. She slept through the night last Friday and Saturday (11-7) but she's back to waking once. She usually nurses at 10pm, wakes at 3:30 to nurse, goes back to sleep until 7ish. Her day schedule is nurse around 7am, sleep until 10:30ish, play/tummy time, nurse around 12, nap until 2:30ish, then nap/nurses every 3 hours until bed time.
How are you feeling physically or emotionally? I feel good. I took this semester off from school (went back a few years ago to finish my Bachelor's) and I'm loving my time home with just Hazel. The big girls keep me busy at night, so I like just having her during the day.
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?: I'm working out and trying to eat better. DH & I are starting a weight loss challenge with a bunch of our friends next week, so I'm hoping putting some money down will keep my motivation. I just want to feel better about my body. Seeing my wedding dress really reminded me of how small I was and how big I've gotten, I want that back. I know my body isn't the same, I've had 3 kids, but I want my confidence back.
Questions/Comments/Rants/Raves: I'm sick of everyone commenting on how small Hazel is. I know she is small, she still wears newborn clothes, but she was born 5 WEEKS early people!! She wasn't physically ready to come out, so I just want to tell them to STFU.
Also, do I have the oldest D16 baby? I feel like someone else was before me maybe?
Post by mrsp121308 on Jan 26, 2017 16:31:26 GMT -5
crimpgirl, I still struggle with Hazel's size and coming early. I blame myself for not being better on bedrest, if I had would she have been able to stay in longer? She was only 8lbs 15oz at her 2 month appointment, so she's still pretty small. Both her sisters were born over 8 1/2 lbs so it's been a strange adjustment for me.
requiressnacks, figuring out how to parent and still maintain a happy marriage is seriously the hardest adjustment. It always seems like one parent is taking on more while one gets off easier and that leads to a lot of resentment. My only advice is to try to keep the rage in check and talk to him about it. Let him know you feel alone in caring for them and just be honest. DH & I really struggled after DD1 was born and it took us a long time to get back to normal again.
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep? Things are going well. Breastfeeding had been much smoother than I anticipated, and I'm very thankful for that. Sleep is okay. Some nights we're only up twice, some nights more. But I feel good about it so far, and I'm hoping it continues to improve.
How are you feeling physically or emotionally? I feel good. My biggest emotional issue is guilt. If i get angry or frustrated, I feel incredibly guilty. But this mom stuff is exhausting, and I'm not perfect. I need to keep reminding myself of that. Physically, I'm good. Got the all clear from the doctor today, with a few exercise modifications.
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?: Knowing when to walk away when I get too frustrated. And I must stop eating junk.
Questions/Comments/Rants/Raves: Right now just taking it day by day, and very thankful to have you all in the same stage as me so I can ask all of the questions and commiserate.
Post by requiressnacks on Jan 26, 2017 21:18:51 GMT -5
mrsp121308, I'm in a family weight loss challenge and it's been really motivating! Good luck to you.
And yeah..,,adjusting to life as parents is so, so hard. H and I actually had a really good talk tonight and I feel so much better about things. He also has a better idea of what I need from him so I think that will be helpful so he doesn't think he needs to read my mind.
Hi all good to see the updates on your LOs! I haven't been able to post much because this little one keeps me so busy! It's insane how quickly the days go by!
How old is baby? 5.5 weeks
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep? Feeding is ok. She had some weight gain issues at first due to being very sleepy at the boob and not nursing efficiently, so I had to start pumping and also supplementing with formula. My supply dropped at the beginning due to her feeding patterns and it's been hard to get it back up, so we might be combo feeding indefinitely. Right now she nurses on demand and then afterward takes a bottle of usually half BM and half formula. It's a ton of work with nursing, pumping, and bottles, but I'm willing to keep it up for now.
Sleeping, fortunately, is great. Ever since we've been allowed to let her set her own schedule she sleeps 5-6 hours at night and is able to soothe herself to sleep in a flat bassinet. Yay.
How are you feeling physically or emotionally? Emotionally really well, since I've been able to get that longer sleep stretch at night. I've actually really enjoyed the day to day living in the moment of taking care of a newborn. Physically just ok. I am almost 6 weeks out from my c section but I still have discomfort and swelling near my incision, which increases when I try to do even just a little more around the house. I'm trying to rest as much as I can but I want to be able to do stuff! H has been amazing and is still on paternity leave but is going back soon, and I want to be able to lift car seat and stroller without setting back my recovery.
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?: force myself to rest, and cut back on the sugar a little bit. Having a baby at the holidays = eating a lot of junk in the first month, and now I find myself craving sugar constantly.
Questions/Comments/Rants/Raves: overall I am really enjoying this whole parenting a baby thing. It's exhausting but I love it. I'm looking forward to the next couple months of leave and doing more outside the house with the baby - hopefully my body will cooperate
Late to the party as usual...how is it Friday already?!
How old is baby? 10 weeks this coming Monday
How are things going with baby? Feeding? Sleep? We're still transitioning from the high calorie preemie formula to a non preemie one. I'm basically just trying to finish up the last can of preemie stuff. The boys are eating 4 to 4 1/2 oz every 4 hours. We have at least an hour of play time after the day and evening feedings but otherwise they still sleep quite a bit.
How are you feeling physically or emotionally? Pretty good but would like to get out of the house more - going a little stir crazy.
What are your goals this week for a healthy mind/body?:Take things 1 day at a time
Questions/Comments/Rants/Raves The twinkies are finally starting to smile!
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