I've been lurking here a bit, so I figured I should intro. My beautiful baby girl, Ha.llie Mar.ie was born still in December at 32 weeks. I had a great pregnancy, until one night I realized she wasn't moving so I went in to get checked out and found out she didn't have a heartbeat. We had an autopsy performed and are waiting for the final report. So far the preliminary report doesn't indicate any problems.
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I went back to work this week, which was hard, but especially because I gave birth to my toddler at 39 weeks, which would have been Wednesday.
Anyway, I just wanted to intro so I can participate here.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your Daughter, Ha.llie Mar.ie. What a beautiful name. We lost our daughter at 38+4 due to a blood clot in her cord. Please feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk. We're a pretty open and loving board. (((Hugs))) momma. I know waiting for results is just awful.
I think I remember you from J17. We lost our daughter in December as well at 35 weeks. I'm so sorry you find yourself here. This is a good group to lean on.
I think I remember you from J17. We lost our daughter in December as well at 35 weeks. I'm so sorry you find yourself here. This is a good group to lean on.
Yeah, I posted on J17 until my loss. I remember you. How are you doing?
I think I remember you from J17. We lost our daughter in December as well at 35 weeks. I'm so sorry you find yourself here. This is a good group to lean on.
Yeah, I posted on J17 until my loss. I remember you. How are you doing?
Meh, Some days are good some are really hard. I miss Elizabeth so much. How are you doing? How long did you stay on maternity leave?
Jan '13: TI w/letrozole, BFP, DS born Oct '13 Dec '15: IUI#1, BFN Jan '16: Cancelled IUI (too many follicles) Feb '16: IUI#2, BFP, DS2 stillborn June'16 @22 weeks We love you baby boy! Aug '16: D&C for retained placenta Oct '16: Removal of interuterine adhesions Jan '17: IUI#3 No ovulation?!? Feb '17: IUI#4, BFN IVF sometime this summer
I have good days and bad days. This week has been bad. I think overall I am doing a little better but sometimes grief smacks me in the face when I am least expecting it.
I have good days and bad days. This week has been bad. I think overall I am doing a little better but sometimes grief smacks me in the face when I am least expecting it.
Yeah, that's the thing I'm learning about grief. I'll be feeling okay one minute then bam, something happens and it's bad again.
I'm taking 12 weeks (I've got 6 weeks left) but I feel so dumb being at home alone with nothing to do. But I also can't imagine going back right now and teaching my 2nd graders.
Post by shandorfml2 on Jan 30, 2017 9:52:15 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I love her name. We lost our daughter, Anastasia at 37 weeks and they never found a reason. Going back to work is very tough, thinking of you
BFP# 1 7/7/12 Beautiful DD born still at 36 weeks 5 days on 3/2/13 BFP #2 8/7/14 Rainbow DS born 4/2/15 Started adoption process July 2016 BF#3 8/29/16 DD2 born 4/21/17
I'm taking 12 weeks (I've got 6 weeks left) but I feel so dumb being at home alone with nothing to do. But I also can't imagine going back right now and teaching my 2nd graders.
6 weeks was the max I could take, and it was good for me to have some time alone while my DH was at work and DD was at school so I could just be with my thoughts and not have to worry about anything else, but I can see how 12 weeks get to be too much. I teach high school and the time spent teaching has been good because I'm distracted. The time I'm alone in my classroom is not so great though. Do your students know what happened?
I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I love her name. We lost our daughter, Anastasia at 37 weeks and they never found a reason. Going back to work is very tough, thinking of you
I'm so very sorry to hear this. How have you been coping with not knowing what happened? I just really want to know why this happened, not that it will make it any easier, I guess I just want answers.
I'm taking 12 weeks (I've got 6 weeks left) but I feel so dumb being at home alone with nothing to do. But I also can't imagine going back right now and teaching my 2nd graders.
6 weeks was the max I could take, and it was good for me to have some time alone while my DH was at work and DD was at school so I could just be with my thoughts and not have to worry about anything else, but I can see how 12 weeks get to be too much. I teach high school and the time spent teaching has been good because I'm distracted. The time I'm alone in my classroom is not so great though. Do your students know what happened?
They do. Our school counselor told them and the parents. Did your students know? How did they react? My husband teaches high school so his students didn't ask a ton of questions but I'm sure my second graders will.
6 weeks was the max I could take, and it was good for me to have some time alone while my DH was at work and DD was at school so I could just be with my thoughts and not have to worry about anything else, but I can see how 12 weeks get to be too much. I teach high school and the time spent teaching has been good because I'm distracted. The time I'm alone in my classroom is not so great though. Do your students know what happened?
They do. Our school counselor told them and the parents. Did your students know? How did they react? My husband teaches high school so his students didn't ask a ton of questions but I'm sure my second graders will.
They knew shortly after it happened. My principal told them what happened and that I would be out for awhile. I wouldn't have been able to go back if I had to answer a bunch of questions so it was nice to know everybody already knew.
Eta that some students sent emails when they found out and many said welcome back and that they missed me when I came back, but no one has brought up my loss. I kind of think my principal told them not to.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I love her name. We lost our daughter, Anastasia at 37 weeks and they never found a reason. Going back to work is very tough, thinking of you
I'm so very sorry to hear this. How have you been coping with not knowing what happened? I just really want to know why this happened, not that it will make it any easier, I guess I just want answers.
It has been almost four years since we lost her, so as time has gone by it has gotten easier. I guess it was hard to not blame myself initially. My doc explained sometimes it happens that we don't know why. I can't remember the statistics, but I believe it is over 20% of stillbirths are unexplained. I went to therapy (and still do when needed) and I have a local support group for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, pregnancy loss, stillbirth and infant loss and that has really helped.
BFP# 1 7/7/12 Beautiful DD born still at 36 weeks 5 days on 3/2/13 BFP #2 8/7/14 Rainbow DS born 4/2/15 Started adoption process July 2016 BF#3 8/29/16 DD2 born 4/21/17
Post by rosiejames on Apr 23, 2018 12:16:59 GMT -5
I'm so sad for the loss of your Daughter. What an excellent name you have! We had a miscarriage at 38 because of the poor womb. It's not too much trouble. Don't hesitate to connect that you ever need to talk. We're a truly open and adoring board. I know sitting tight for comes about is simply dreadful.
Post by rihannadennis on May 20, 2018 12:24:03 GMT -5
Hello Dear! So sorry for you lose dear. I've also had 3 MCs in last 5 years since my marriage. I know how an MC drains a person.but my case differs, as I've PCOS. Which makes me unable to have a child. So, yeah! Wish you all the best! Keep trying you can still become a mother. Sending you baby dust. xoxo Everyone deserves a chance to become a mother! Thanks for sharing the story, it really gives a sense of affection and support for others.
Hi, there your story was so touching. It makes me cry. I am aa mother too. I can completely understand your pain. It is very difficult to bury your lovely child. Lots of hugs for you. My words can't remove your pain. But maybe will be comforting for some time. Trust me you will get your happiness again.
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