My H and I are getting a divorce, so my plans for multiple babies are on hold. DS is all over the place, so I'm content with just one for now. I might be done for good considering I'm 35 and so unsure of what my future holds as far as getting married again. Depending on my age if/when I re-marry, I'd like to have two more. I'd really love to adopt as well.
Hugs honda13. It's OK to feel what you're feeling. My best friend was due 2 weeks before me and another friend 2 weeks after. I was miserable their entire pregnancies and struggled with milestones.
Even after having W, I was a mess on what should have been a first birthday.
All that to say, feel what you need to feel. You'll start to not think about it as much, but sometimes those feelings come back up to the surface. There's no right or wrong in grief and loss.
DH is an emphatic NO for a third child. I always wanted to have 3 so I am struggling with stopping at 2. I thought it might be possible to wear him down but he is very stubborn right now. I do love my little family of 4 and love the connection between my kids so that makes me happy. I just feel like we are missing one.
This was us exactly. DH was a hard no for a long time. Some one told him, you might regret not having a 3rd but you will never regret having a kid. I think that is what pushed him to my side. Ds really completes our family. I no longer have that feeling that someone is missing.
I love this. It gives me hope although I know in reality we will probably stick with just 2. Its too bad all his friends are like 2 then V.
I am currently KU, 34w3d and scheduled for csection March 2nd. We are team pink this time around.
I feel awful. This pregnancy has been really hard on me emotionally and physically. I have had a lot of days where I am near the worst I have ever been with depression. Luckily, those REALLY bad days have been infrequent.
My back is totally jiggered. I walk with a limp and can barely make it up any number of stairs.
Otherwise my health has been fine and I am so grateful for that.
My H and I both feel like we will have 3 but know that feeling may change once we experience life with 2. I dont feel like this is my last pregnancy.
robotpcr, StephNE, linny12, Thanks! DH and I both lost sets of grandparents before we met and then we experienced the miscarriage. We like to think "Dot" is in Heaven being taken care of and adored by those grandparents we lost until we can meet again one day. The thought makes me cry every single time, but is very comforting.
Post by allisong87 on Jan 30, 2017 16:03:14 GMT -5
Freshly vacant with a 12 day old. This pregnancy was a lot rougher on my body than my first and DS2 is still in the NICU. H and I have already both said we think we're good with 2 boys especially since we had to go through the NICU scenario with both. We don't want to chance it a 3rd time around. But you never know how we may feel in the future. All I know is right now we are content with 2.
I was 100% done. 100%. But I'm currently seeing someone who makes me think that I'd be open to the possibility of one more if the right person came along. Can't believe I'm saying that! lol
Hiiiii. No current occupants but plan on TTC around May/June/July ish - would love to have a new squish in March/April for timing purposes but we will take what we get
Currently expecting May 2nd (27 weeks tomorrow)..and team pink! So will have two under 2 until DSs bday at the end of May. I have moments of panic when I think about that fact...but then the excitement takes over!
Overall this pregnancy hasn't been much different than last and the busyness of running after a toddler has made time fly. I'll say "where's your sister?' to DS and he'll either point to my belly or the U/S pics on our fridge. So cute!
NTNP at the moment. We both want at least one more but I really have to lose weight first. I'm at a weight where I really don't know if it's even possible for me to fall pregnant so I need to get my butt moving to start losing or it may become too late. I'm 35 this year and DH will be 50 so time isn't really on our side. It took 4 years of trying to get DS and it was weight loss that helped it happen but now I'm back where I started.
We've been NTNP for a few months. I'm not feeling a huge rush since it kind of starts the timer for moving into a bigger place and hopefully buying a house, plus I'm enjoying that we've settled into a good routine and groove with DS. I'm also working on eating healthier, exercising, and getting the weight off - I'm 20 lbs heavier than I was when I got pregnant last time, and I honestly could use to lose 80 lbs to put me near a healthy weight range to begin with.
I'm thankful to be in a better headspace where I'm not heartbroken when AF shows up. It took us a year to get pregnant the first go around, so we'll see what happens this time.
We're done. We were done a year ago when DH got his V. And if we weren't done then, we would be now with all of my shit happening.
Three is our magic number. It was rough the first 9 months or so but we've developed a good routine and I love they're all old enough to be somewhat independent. At least, they done need me 24/7. I don't start sweating just thinking about taking them all out in public anymore. lol.
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I am starting to think more and more that I am done. I used to be so sure that I would have another, but lately I just can't see myself being pregnant again.
I am 31 so maybe I will change my mind in a year or two but for now I think it will just be SS and B. My H is fine either way, he loves kids so he would welcome one more but he is happy with the family that we have.
Post by grapefruits on Jan 31, 2017 16:28:55 GMT -5
DS2 vacated about 11 weeks ago. Ute is off the market, at least temporarily. We always thought we wanted 2, but lately we've been talking about a 3rd. If we have #3, it'll be when DS2 is 2.5 years or older. I can't handle another 18-month age gap.
Hiii! My ute is currently vacant. We are actively discussing when we would like a third. Still no signs of ovulation yet. G is only 4.5 months old so it could be a few more months. We are definitely going to have a 3rd, just not sure when.
Hiii! My ute is currently vacant. We are actively discussing when we would like a third. Still no signs of ovulation yet. G is only 4.5 months old so it could be a few more months. We are definitely going to have a 3rd, just not sure when.
How are you doing managing 2? I haven't heard from you in a while
Post by sallyskellington on Feb 4, 2017 14:53:54 GMT -5
I reconciled with the kids dad this summer for a short period of time, the mirena shifted, got pregnant, miscarried, mirena was removed. We are no longer together and I don't think there is any hope for our relationship, so I'm not sure about more kids. 22 months apart was hard on me, so maybe I'll meet someone new and be married and have another when my may15 is around four or five! Who knows though?
Thanks, I feel bad cause I hardly ever have time to post or keep up, but I just needed to tell someone what had happened. No one except their dad knows, and no one would understand me being sad, when the relationship didn't work. But anywayyyy thank you!
Sorry for your loss, sallyskellington. I'd have a tangle of emotions about it all too, I'm sure.
And I come here to share things nobody else around me seems to understand, even though I'm a dirty lurker most of the time. Everyone here has been amazing support, even when I feel like I don't deserve it.
sallyskellington, I'm so sorry for your loss. That is quite a lot to process all at once. Regardless of how your relationship is, you lost a child and are entitled to feel whatever feelings you feel. So many hugs to you. We're here for you.
Hi! So it's been forevvvver since I have even opened Tapatalk (although I am on FB).I miss you all. Just now starting to TTC. Put it off for awhile and then needed to have my gallbladder out. So here we are; time will tell.
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