I was so on top of everything last week. But then Thursday, Friday, and Saturday nights sleep was total shit. MH sent me to bed at 8pm last night because I literally hit the wall. But we still had three wake ups. I am fighting off a cold. I feel totally behind because I didn't do my normal Sunday night be organized for the week routine.
TL/DR: New employee started today. I hoped that the company-wide generic HR onboarding would eat up the time I'm stuck at home and I'd come in late and pick up where that left off. Except, that trainer is out sick. Plus IT forgot to get her a computer. And a chair. I literally have no clue what she's doing right now.
But, at least MIL is saving us and taking on a sick kiddo for part of today even with the project she needs to get done. Otherwise DD1 would have been sleeping on the risers in DH's theater while he taught today.
Basically feeling like a failure of a parent because we couldn't figure out how to care for our very sick kid and not f*ck up our jobs completely today. It sucks.
Post by justcheckingin73 on Jan 30, 2017 10:37:11 GMT -5
@becominggold, I hate when I'm not able to get organized for the week. Hopefully you'll be able to rebound.
twinmomma, sorry you're having such a rough day. Having sick kids and and work responsibilities that you can't get out of is the worst part of being a working parent. I hope your dd feels better and that your day improves.
I have a couple of anti-vents - we re-did my dd's room over Christmas but since her desk was back ordered, it was still a cluttered mess. Well, the desk came in last week so I put that together and she and I went through everything and got it back together and organized. It feel so good to have that done.
And the the sun is finally shining today! It makes such a difference.
One vent - I've been at my new job for 3 months now and I've got quite a few things on my plate and I've started making stupid mistakes/forgetting things and it bothers me. I'm sure I'm blowing it out of proportion but I know my boss from a previous job so I feel extra pressure to not be an idiot.
twinmomma ,, sick kid logistics are the worst! I get serious anxiety when I think DD or DS may be sick enough to have to stay home from daycare.
My vent is having to look at another daycare/preschool today. I have looked at 10 so far. I am so over it. I have actually really liked a few of them but they failed to mention when I asked (before touring the center) they had wait lists and wouldn’t be able to take both kids.
My follow-up vent is that DH doesn’t understand why I’m so stressed out about this. According to him “everything is going to work out”. Everything is going to work out because I do all the leg work. The kids aren’t going to magically get registered at a great center. Men!
We had an okay weekend. DD rallied after being sick Friday night, thank God.
The open house we went to was.. perfect. Well not perfect, but as close to it as we can get. Floors need to be replaced, the fence is falling down, the roof looks like it needs to be replaced, the asking price is towards the top end of our budget, and our expectation is there will be multiple offers. But we still emailed our realtor to see if there's any chance. The only thing I didn't love about it is that there's not a full bath on the first floor, so when my mom stays with us, she'd have to navigate stairs to shower.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 30, 2017 11:25:33 GMT -5
Great weekend - Saturday was just different activities for the kids, me and Dh and we all got to do what we wanted kind of individually.
Then Sunday was my duathlon and I did really well (5th in my age group and I had a great pace on all the legs) and thereafter we spent the day as a family going to the park, getting ice cream and the polishing the day off with curb side pick up of groceries. It was great!
My hamster brain kept me awake from 3am til 5:45. Then I had a quick dream involving my douchelord ex and then the alarm went off. Now that jerk is taking up real estate in my head. Ugh!
Anti vent- my MIL just booked a five night all inclusive resort for DH and I for August. I am so excited. We never went on a honeymoon and then had a baby really fast. (he was born 4 days after our one year anniversary.) This is our honeymoon.
I can't wait. Did I mention I have the best MIL ever?
Vent: I spent all afternoon at the ER yesterday. Ugh
We had a really great weekend. DD is getting the hang of skating so her lessons were awesome. I think we finally found a physical activity where she can really feel good about herself.
Kind of vent: DD had her second OT eval by the same evaluator last week. Honestly I'm not sure this woman remembers she already did an evaluation like 3 weeks ago. It did not give me a lot of confidence in her. Also, she had some areas where she indicated DD tested as slightly below average that I just call BS on. One was balance. DD does yoga with me and can hold tree pose longer than I can, she ice skates, and she is hell on wheels on her balance bike. So the idea that "she couldn't stand on one foot as long as expected" seems off. Also, she runs faster than anyone in her grade except one boy who is the son of a pro basketball player, so the fact that she was slightly below average in speed? Not buying it. Plus, three weeks ago, she was just fine in those areas.
Definite vent: law firm is jerking me around. They keep asking availability to interview for the next week, then nada. No interview. I'm getting pissed off.
Post by CoverGirl82 on Jan 30, 2017 12:04:33 GMT -5
Vent: I didn't get to finish a book I was reading this weekend, and I'm only about 1-2 chapters away from being done. I had too much to do during the day, and then I couldn't keep my eyes open long enough at night to finish it.
Anti-vent: I submitted the payment to pay off my 403b loan today. Yay! I am looking forward to my paycheck being almost $90 more. (I was paying it back through payroll deduction.) Also, the sun is actually peeking out behind the clouds after about a week of no sunshine, so that is a nice change.
Post by supertrooper1 on Jan 30, 2017 12:35:08 GMT -5
Vent: Just after DH left for work, the lights in the kitchen went off for no reason. We trip breakers occasionally, so I started flipping breakers but the lights wouldn't come back on. I called DH and he came home from work. He was halfway home when I flipped all of the breakers and got the lights to come on. He came home anyway to double check and we have no clue why it happened.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 30, 2017 12:59:03 GMT -5
supertrooper1, this happened to us last week also but DH was home and flipped the breakers and we got them to come back on. It was just the overhead lights - like all the things plugged into the wall were working so I guess they are on a separate breaker. We have no idea why.
Post by somebabiesmom on Jan 30, 2017 13:21:57 GMT -5
I replaced all of our burnt out bulbs this weekend and I'm still waiting for DH to notice. So far, he just sticks to his habit of not turning them on and doesn't seem to notice when I flip them on right behind him. It's so weird living with a man who lives in a bubble.
DD is a hot mess. She got a 52 on her last math test. She got 100s on all her work. She got a 68 on vocabulary. She rushes and doesn't pay attention to directions or completion. It's making me insane. She isn't cooperative after school. It's stressful because she used to happily come home, do homework and then go play outside and now it is a giant battle - while I am working - daily.
Meanwhile, DS has mastered all the public school kinder KPIs. I'm not capable of dealing with him coming home at 3 every day without a nanny in the Fall. I'm on the fence about what to do because the nanny would solve the DD issue AND take care of DS. But I think public K first semester is the wrong choice for him. Struggling!! DH is going to the kinder open house Friday night while I am at race packet pick up - hoping he forms a strong opinion.
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Post by kbw12 on Jan 30, 2017 14:58:56 GMT -5
Vent: I hate that even with an almost no spend our budget still isn't working. We're drowning in debt and I just see another baby slipping farther and farther away.
Post by erinshelley21 on Jan 30, 2017 15:20:07 GMT -5
Vent: I was 95% over my cold last week and thought I was getting it back on Wednesday. I felt fine Thursday so I thought it was a fluke. I am back to having a sore throat, runny nose and headache today. DH is at work until morning and I took DS's evening TV away this morning. I'm thinking he'll be taking a looooong bath tonight complete with bath drops, bath crayons AND bubbles.
Anti-Vent: My NST a little bit ago went well and my BP was low. This is when it started going to shit with DS so I'm doing alright!
I have had soooooo much caffeine today; we're battling some kind of sleep disruptions with DS and he's been waking up with nightmares at 2-3am, after which I end up sleeping in his room IF I can get him to go back to bed. Yawn. I'm wondering if he's hitting another growth spurt, it seems like he's taller every other day.
But, anti-vent, I got a lot done this weekend and today was Chinese New Year lunch so Yay for that.
Vent: My daycare is eating crackers for me right now. They put in a new entry / log in system that isn't working well. The infant room has trouble keeping track of items and I had to run over with more empty bottles this morning to use with bags of milk because they had accidentally sent all the bottles they had home. I sent an email this morning because I've noticed that DS2 has been putting them over ratio in the infant room when I drop him off and I noticed them trying to prop a bottle for another baby.
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Post by rere26 on Jan 30, 2017 15:57:06 GMT -5
Dh is arguing about whether or not we should take DS to the endocrinologist. He thinks he will grow soon enough. I do too, but the lady with 8 years in Medical school said he needed to be evaluated because he is small. That's why they call her Dr. He says it's a waste of money. Probably, but if he is very small as an adult, I will always wonder (I'm 5'9" and Dh is 6'). If we have enough money to take ourselves to Aruba, don't we have to money to check out the kid? He also says he's uncomfortable with hormonal treatment and possible side effects. I am trusting the doc? Am I wrong?
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 30, 2017 17:14:10 GMT -5
rere26, Provided he's young, like under 7, going to see an endocrinologist is the start of a really long investigative process.
We are seeing an endocrinologist for both kids and what I'm seeing is that there is a mass of tests that they do before they prescribe hormone therapy. We are almost there with DS and he's been seeing a doctor for over a couple years. But what I also found out is that some insurance companies want your child to be 7 before they cover it. So all that to say, you can start going and see how it goes.
rere26, Provided he's young, like under 7, going to see an endocrinologist is the start of a really long investigative process.
We are seeing an endocrinologist for both kids and what I'm seeing is that there is a mass of tests that they do before they prescribe hormone therapy. We are almost there with DS and he's been seeing a doctor for over a couple years. But what I also found out is that some insurance companies want your child to be 7 before they cover it. So all that to say, you can start going and see how it goes.
He is 13. She saw one little, very little, sign of puberty and said he should have started his growth spurt. Dh and my brother were very late bloomers (brother is now 6'3"), so Dh is sure that is it. I'm pretty sure too, but don't want to not go on the chance there may be a deficiency.
Vent: I just started work at 2. DD had the other half of her major dental work done this morning since it is a no school day. Luckily my sister is off today and is watching her this afternoon. I totally feel discombobulated as its almost 3 and I have no clue where to start.
rere26, my brother started high school at 4'9 and 90lbs and graduated at 6'3 and 115lbs. He went from the shortest amongst his friends to the tallest by graduation. Does your DS have big feet? My brother's feet were always way bigger than his much bigger friends as a tween.
rere26 , Provided he's young, like under 7, going to see an endocrinologist is the start of a really long investigative process.
We are seeing an endocrinologist for both kids and what I'm seeing is that there is a mass of tests that they do before they prescribe hormone therapy. We are almost there with DS and he's been seeing a doctor for over a couple years. But what I also found out is that some insurance companies want your child to be 7 before they cover it. So all that to say, you can start going and see how it goes.
He is 13. She saw one little, very little, sign of puberty and said he should have started his growth spurt. Dh and my brother were very late bloomers (brother is now 6'3"), so Dh is sure that is it. I'm pretty sure too, but don't want to not go on the chance there may be a deficiency.
ok well if he is 13 then you need to go sooner rather than later if you think hormone therapy may be on the table, there is a time limit. Once they are 14-16 it won't work (depending on their bone age I think??). But in the first year is where you see the biggest gains so even if he's a preteen you can still do something if doing something makes sense.
Vent: I just started work at 2. DD had the other half of her major dental work done this morning since it is a no school day. Luckily my sister is off today and is watching her this afternoon. I totally feel discombobulated as its almost 3 and I have no clue where to start.
rere26, my brother started high school at 4'9 and 90lbs and graduated at 6'3 and 115lbs. He went from the shortest amongst his friends to the tallest by graduation. Does your DS have big feet? My brother's feet were always way bigger than his much bigger friends as a tween.
His feet and hands are small, but so were my dad's and he was 6'5". He was pretty clumsy, I blamed the small feet. He could never dunk a basketball either cause he couldn't grip.
This has just been an issue the last year. We did the bone scan and blood test and it all came back normal.
rere26 , Provided he's young, like under 7, going to see an endocrinologist is the start of a really long investigative process.
We are seeing an endocrinologist for both kids and what I'm seeing is that there is a mass of tests that they do before they prescribe hormone therapy. We are almost there with DS and he's been seeing a doctor for over a couple years. But what I also found out is that some insurance companies want your child to be 7 before they cover it. So all that to say, you can start going and see how it goes.
mustardseed2007, if you don't mind me asking - how small are your kids (percentile-wise)? As in, at what point did your family doctor decide it was time to go see a endocrinologist?
DS (4.5) is also really small. He was born "normal-size", but at age 3 he dropped to below the 2nd percentile for height. Now at 4.5 he is around the 7th percentile, and our family doctor doesn't think an endocrinologist is necessary; I'm just not sure. DH is 5'8 and I'm 5'3. So we are not big people. But also not 7th percentile small.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jan 31, 2017 5:59:58 GMT -5
rere26, another reason the bone age will be important is because it will help the endocrinologist tell if you have more or less time before the hormones won't work. Like if he was a little delayed you might have until 16 or if he was a little behind then 14 might be your cut off. Or at least that's what I figured out.
traveltheworld, I'll have to look at the exact percentiles but when you look at the growth charts DD has never been on it-although her growth velocity has increased and she's right below it now. DS was on the bottom of the curve, but his growth velocity over time has decreased rather than increased so now he's slightly below it now at age 5. I'm 4ft 10 inches so this is to be somewhat expected but unfortunately they are looking to be at the bottom of their potential rather than the top of it. Like I wouldn't even be thinking about it if DS was looking like he'd be 5ft3-5ft6 but he's looking more like a 5ft. MAYBE. I have a 22 year old nephew who is 4ft 9 inches.
I can't sleep for crap. For a few weeks after the accident I was taking hydrocodone at night to sleep. Like 1/4 of a tablet because I never take a whole one. But the pain is just a bit too much for me to sleep well through. But it has been 4 weeks now (!!!) and I do NOT want to get addicted so the past few nights I have quit and I wake up every 2 hours or so and then toss and turn a lot and don't seem to get into deep sleep. I've debated getting something like Tylenol PM but I feel like that would be sort of trading off one potential addiction for another.
Also apparently DH has been complaining to DD that he is doing everything around the house. He also complained that he had to install the new car seat in his car which I am driving until I get my temp lease and then he'll have to install it there and then I'll get my new longer term lease and he'll have to install it again. Yes I bought a heavy seat with a steel frame, but it is a Britax with Clicktight and is supposed to be super easy to install. Sorry I can't lift it yet. Maybe I can get someone at work to help me next time. He's right; he has been doing almost everything because it hurts bend and stretch. But I wish I didn't hear it from DD. I will let it hurt and do some things anyway. I'm sure that will help me sleep better .
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