People telling me I won't be able to (fill in the blank)-do a med free birth, do cloth diapers, breastfeed past a ew weeks, not use physical discipline, etc.
Just cause you couldn't/wouldn't/didn't want to doesn't mean I can't!
People telling me I won't be able to (fill in the blank)-do a med free birth, do cloth diapers, breastfeed past a ew weeks, not use physical discipline, etc.
Just cause you couldn't/wouldn't/didn't want to doesn't mean I can't!
People telling me I won't be able to (fill in the blank)-do a med free birth, do cloth diapers, breastfeed past a ew weeks, not use physical discipline, etc.
Just cause you couldn't/wouldn't/didn't want to doesn't mean I can't!
Well, that's just rude. I would not tell someone they couldn't do something. I will tell my friends to keep an open mind, but that's very different than saying they wouldn't be able to do it.
People telling me I won't be able to (fill in the blank)-do a med free birth, do cloth diapers, breastfeed past a ew weeks, not use physical discipline, etc.
Just cause you couldn't/wouldn't/didn't want to doesn't mean I can't!
People telling me I won't be able to (fill in the blank)-do a med free birth, do cloth diapers, breastfeed past a ew weeks, not use physical discipline, etc.
Just cause you couldn't/wouldn't/didn't want to doesn't mean I can't!
People telling me I won't be able to (fill in the blank)-do a med free birth, do cloth diapers, breastfeed past a ew weeks, not use physical discipline, etc.
Just cause you couldn't/wouldn't/didn't want to doesn't mean I can't!
Those kind of comments motivate me even more!
This is totally how I am too. Like maybe I would say I do t want to do XYZ, but now, well now I am doing it forever!
This is totally how I am too. Like maybe I would say I do t want to do XYZ, but now, well now I am doing it forever!
My sister told me I would probably make it 2 weeks with breastfeeding and then switch to formula. Well I made it maybe 4 weeks and then I pumped until 4 months. Part of me just wanted to prove her wrong. But she knew how tough it can be, and she was just really trying to prepare me.... she was right. It is tough but I did the best I could!
Similar to starsandshamrocks123, I found it kind of motivating when someone thought I couldn't do something. I had told enough people that I wanted a med-free/intervention-free birth that it made me more determined to prepare for it and get through it!
honda13 These days, just about everything annoys me. I'm sure I would be pissed if they never offered to help either! I try to hide my annoyance so people don't think I'm crazy. Lol
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Feb 3, 2017 19:51:37 GMT -5
DH has been away for work since last wed. I've had my parents and MIL up to help a few days but I'm so sick of 1) not having much of a break from DS who has been friggin nutty but I'm managing and 2) So sick of DH being so busy that I've barely spoken to him for this entire stretch. The 5 mins he has available each day I ask him to FaceTime DS. That leaves 0 time for me to talk to him. I might get an email back if I send one. and I'm trying so hard to remember that he just needs to focus on his job and get this done-- the project is ALMOST over and we've known for a year that this Feb will be tough... But I'm losing my mind today. The heat in my house is not working right downstairs, I had a rough day at work, DS literally just tore a muffin to F-ing pieces on the couch and stomped it into the leather. Even my cats will not leave me alone. And when DH gets home tomorrow he's going to be toast from working 16 hours a day for the past 12 days. And I'm dreaming if I think he is not going to end up shutting himself in his office all weekend to solve more problems. Of course those problems will magically disappear in time for him to watch the super bowl during which I will again be responsible for keeping DS occupied...All so he can do another 10 day stretch away in a few days.
Sorry, I needed to get that out of my system before he gets home tomorrow... I don't know how single parents and military families so it. I'm. losing. my. mind. Wish I could have a glass of wine!
I'm sick of people asking about baby #2...um can I give birth to baby #1 first.
I'm also sick of random strangers asking me what I'm naming my daughter. Why?! You will probably never even meet her.
honda13 I'm also very tired of people asking if I'm returning to work after the baby. Ummm yes, I like to eat. And I didn't really spend over a decade getting my education and obtaining the job of my dreams to just stop working. And no one asks DH this question...NO ONE!
I'm sick of people asking about baby #2...um can I give birth to baby #1 first.
I'm also sick of random strangers asking me what I'm naming my daughter. Why?! You will probably never even meet her.
honda13 I'm also very tired of people asking if I'm returning to work after the baby. Ummm yes, I like to eat. And I didn't really spend over a decade getting my education and obtaining the job of my dreams to just stop working. And no one asks DH this question...NO ONE!
Preach! I like my career and working outside of the home.
I'm sick of people asking about baby #2...um can I give birth to baby #1 first.
I'm also sick of random strangers asking me what I'm naming my daughter. Why?! You will probably never even meet her.
honda13 I'm also very tired of people asking if I'm returning to work after the baby. Ummm yes, I like to eat. And I didn't really spend over a decade getting my education and obtaining the job of my dreams to just stop working. And no one asks DH this question...NO ONE!
Preach! I like my career and working outside of the home.
+2 Financially we could afford to live on 1 salary. I actually want to return to work. Why do people find that so shocking?!
DH has been away for work since last wed. I've had my parents and MIL up to help a few days but I'm so sick of 1) not having much of a break from DS who has been friggin nutty but I'm managing and 2) So sick of DH being so busy that I've barely spoken to him for this entire stretch. The 5 mins he has available each day I ask him to FaceTime DS. That leaves 0 time for me to talk to him. I might get an email back if I send one. and I'm trying so hard to remember that he just needs to focus on his job and get this done-- the project is ALMOST over and we've known for a year that this Feb will be tough... But I'm losing my mind today. The heat in my house is not working right downstairs, I had a rough day at work, DS literally just tore a muffin to F-ing pieces on the couch and stomped it into the leather. Even my cats will not leave me alone. And when DH gets home tomorrow he's going to be toast from working 16 hours a day for the past 12 days. And I'm dreaming if I think he is not going to end up shutting himself in his office all weekend to solve more problems. Of course those problems will magically disappear in time for him to watch the super bowl during which I will again be responsible for keeping DS occupied...All so he can do another 10 day stretch away in a few days.
Sorry, I needed to get that out of my system before he gets home tomorrow... I don't know how single parents and military families so it. I'm. losing. my. mind. Wish I could have a glass of wine!
Oh man that is so hard, I hope you have something nice planned for you in the near future
Me: 29 DH: 35 NTNP since May 2013 charting since June 2014 dx: Graves disease (radioactive iodine), Crohns disease (abdominal surgeries) MMC October 2015 (9 weeks) Severe MFI diagnosis July 2015
I wear a Belly band over my maternity pants to help keep them up. It makes me grateful for winter.
I also get annoyed with people asking how I'm feeling. One person at work asks me every time I see her in the hallway or something. And she touched my belly last week Or people ask how baby is doing. Idk, fine? He's just doing his fetus thing, idk. I know they are being nice, but there is really no acceptable answer besides "oh, I'm good." Despite the heartburn, fatigue, aching pelvis, trouble sleeping, increased discharge, bloody noses, etc.
Haha yah, I have a lot of medical problems so I'm used to that question. I'm usually brutally honest, if they didn't want to know the truth they shouldn't have asked.
Me: 29 DH: 35 NTNP since May 2013 charting since June 2014 dx: Graves disease (radioactive iodine), Crohns disease (abdominal surgeries) MMC October 2015 (9 weeks) Severe MFI diagnosis July 2015
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Feb 3, 2017 22:40:49 GMT -5
honda13 I had a meltdown after I posted this and I feel much better now.
pinecone21 ugh sadly I feel like that's going to wait. So much stuff I haven't done since he's been gone. He's going to be doing allll the laundry, dishes, trash, etc. That I do not feel bad about. But maybe I'll conveniently need to do something during the Super Bowl so the two of them can hang. I don't care if it's circling around the neighborhood in my car... I'm now that crazy woman!!!
Same teachermomtobe and honda13 re:working outside the home. I feel like the decision to do so is often more stigmatized if it's not totally financially required. Of course, even for people who could pay the mortgage without two incomes, there are tons of benefits for retirement savings and other long-term goals....
Same teachermomtobe and honda13 re:working outside the home. I feel like the decision to do so is often more stigmatized if it's not totally financially required. Of course, even for people who could pay the mortgage without two incomes, there are tons of benefits for retirement savings and other long-term goals....
Annoying. Could we live off of one income? Probably. However, we wouldn't have a camper or go on trips. We would probably go down to one car. I'm not interested in doing any of that. I think it is hard for the older generations to understand wanting to work outside the home. Then we get criticized for wanting paid maternity leave, at least I have been. It seems older men would rather I just stay home instead of agreeing that paid leave is beneficial for families.
honda13 I agree! Yes, we could live on one income, but why when we don't necessarily have to. We would need to downsize a lot of things I don't really want to give up. And the fight for maternity benefits is a constant struggle. I went to my district to talk to the Benefits manager about using my sick leave this summer for summer school. I technically can't receive disability/maternity leave in the summer because I am a 10 month employee. But I was scheduled to teach two courses this summer before I knew I was pregnant. The guy looks at me and says well then we will have to pay two people, you and the sub for two summer courses. Blank stare 🙄. Ok...sooooo. He goes on to say well I don't know if your department chair will approve it. "HE may not approve it." Well lucky for me, I am the department chair! Approved!!!
Post by teachermomtobe on Feb 12, 2017 12:35:38 GMT -5
People asking me if I have mentioned ______ to my doctor.
Yes, I am small but my doctor is not concerned. No, I didn't mention what I am sure is round ligament pain to my OB but I will when I see her on Thursday. Yes, I have asked my OB what medicines I can take for this cold (and it's not many!)
People telling me I look tired. I know I do, I always do (I'm pretty sure it's a genetic thing. My dad is the same way). It doesn't help I'm growing a tiny human right now, waking up all the time (can't get comfortable, have a cold and can't breath, have to pee, take your pick people) and chasing after a toddler who has recently decided he needs to wake up a little earlier each day.
Me: 29 DH: 35 NTNP since May 2013 charting since June 2014 dx: Graves disease (radioactive iodine), Crohns disease (abdominal surgeries) MMC October 2015 (9 weeks) Severe MFI diagnosis July 2015
Post by trebletrouble13 on Feb 12, 2017 15:09:30 GMT -5
teachermomtobe, ihatepizza - +1. I try not to take it as a "you don't look pregnant, just fat." I'm glad that this time around no one has said "you could totally get away with saying you just had a big lunch."
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Feb 13, 2017 14:46:33 GMT -5
MIL: let me know what I can buy you to prepare for baby Me: well, you've so generously offered to buy the dresser, we appreciate it and nothing more is necessary MIL: but I want to help more. What else? Me: it's tough... lots of little practical stuff is on my list. I'm already stocking up on diapers... going to need like breastmilk storage bags, new bottles, gripe water MIL: ugh well I'm not going to buy you *that stuff*
WTAF does she want to buy? Rainbows and fairy dust?
MIL: let me know what I can buy you to prepare for baby Me: well, you've so generously offered to buy the dresser, we appreciate it and nothing more is necessary MIL: but I want to help more. What else? Me: it's tough... lots of little practical stuff is on my list. I'm already stocking up on diapers... going to need like breastmilk storage bags, new bottles, gripe water MIL: ugh well I'm not going to buy you *that stuff*
WTAF does she want to buy? Rainbows and fairy dust?
Some people only want to buy what they deem "exciting" things. Furniture, strollers, bouncers, toys, clothes.
Even though some of us want less of the baby gear but need stuff for breastfeeding, general health care for baby, etc.
MIL: let me know what I can buy you to prepare for baby Me: well, you've so generously offered to buy the dresser, we appreciate it and nothing more is necessary MIL: but I want to help more. What else? Me: it's tough... lots of little practical stuff is on my list. I'm already stocking up on diapers... going to need like breastmilk storage bags, new bottles, gripe water MIL: ugh well I'm not going to buy you *that stuff*
WTAF does she want to buy? Rainbows and fairy dust?
Some people only want to buy what they deem "exciting" things. Furniture, strollers, bouncers, toys, clothes.
Even though some of us want less of the baby gear but need stuff for breastfeeding, general health care for baby, etc.
Agreed! My grandmother for example will not give gift cards for restaurants or "activities" because then you don't have an object to remember her. She has finally relented because DH and I don't want stuff we want experiences!
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Feb 13, 2017 15:53:43 GMT -5
marshian that's totally it. But we already have that stuff! She started asking about nursery decorations and I was like, sorry, I'm taking care of that stuff. She is the king of asking what I want and then buying the opposite. I have a nursery theme and I'm anal about it. It's light purple and gray with elephants. I know you think that princess chandelier lamp is adorablebut it's not my style and it will go right into the closet. I'm so difficult!
teachermomtobe - Thankfully my immediate family and H's and my grandmother who is closest to us are all on the experience train. We'll see if they still do it for the kid, but we've all agreed on less stuff over the years.
starsandshamrocks123 - I do NOT get people buying something other than what you specify. What was the point of asking? I told H we will be returning anything unasked for which we don't need. Plenty of other stuff to get.
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