MIL: let me know what I can buy you to prepare for baby Me: well, you've so generously offered to buy the dresser, we appreciate it and nothing more is necessary MIL: but I want to help more. What else? Me: it's tough... lots of little practical stuff is on my list. I'm already stocking up on diapers... going to need like breastmilk storage bags, new bottles, gripe water MIL: ugh well I'm not going to buy you *that stuff*
WTAF does she want to buy? Rainbows and fairy dust?
This is definitely my mom. I spent awhile explaining yesterday how much I hope prior stick to the registry because we don't have space for a lot of extras. She was very empathetic, but actually she is one of the worst offenders. I have no doubt she will buy the things she seems fun.
marshian that's totally it. But we already have that stuff! She started asking about nursery decorations and I was like, sorry, I'm taking care of that stuff. She is the king of asking what I want and then buying the opposite. I have a nursery theme and I'm anal about it. It's light purple and gray with elephants. I know you think that princess chandelier lamp is adorablebut it's not my style and it will go right into the closet. I'm so difficult!
Where have you found purple anything? I can't find anything purple. DDs nursery was pink and grey with elephants so I am planning on tweaking the accent color for this kid.
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Feb 14, 2017 7:53:35 GMT -5
animaldoctor so it hasn't been easy and hasn't come together yet, so I hope it looks good. I ended up changing my originally plan so that the walls are probably going to be BM iced lavender. Then I got quite a few of the PBK Harper things with gray ribbon (valence, lamp shade, bed skirt). They also had elephant crib sheets with purple pink and teal that I got. I'm getting some elephant prints on Etsy that can be customized so I'm going to choose a light lavender background and put in gray frames. Pink would have been easier
marshian that's totally it. But we already have that stuff! She started asking about nursery decorations and I was like, sorry, I'm taking care of that stuff. She is the king of asking what I want and then buying the opposite. I have a nursery theme and I'm anal about it. It's light purple and gray with elephants. I know you think that princess chandelier lamp is adorablebut it's not my style and it will go right into the closet. I'm so difficult!
People telling me what I can't eat. An older coworker told me today (after I was joking about eating all our Valentines candy), "No, no, no, you're pregnant NO SUGAR FOR YOU." Uhhh ok.
People telling me what I can't eat. An older coworker told me today (after I was joking about eating all our Valentines candy), "No, no, no, you're pregnant NO SUGAR FOR YOU." Uhhh ok.
I'm mentally preparing for the comments on what I eat/drink when I'm out of the closest on this pregnancy. H and I are fairly loose with the recommendations, so I'm sure I'll get plenty.
People telling me what I can't eat. An older coworker told me today (after I was joking about eating all our Valentines candy), "No, no, no, you're pregnant NO SUGAR FOR YOU." Uhhh ok.
I'm mentally preparing for the comments on what I eat/drink when I'm out of the closest on this pregnancy. H and I are fairly loose with the recommendations, so I'm sure I'll get plenty.
You never know - I am also loose with the recommendations (drink coffee, eat deli meat, etc) and I have yet to receive a single comment during either pregnancy. I may also live near more polite people, though, as I've rarely encountered negative comments of any sort regarding pregnancy/parenting.
I'm mentally preparing for the comments on what I eat/drink when I'm out of the closest on this pregnancy. H and I are fairly loose with the recommendations, so I'm sure I'll get plenty.
You never know - I am also loose with the recommendations (drink coffee, eat deli meat, etc) and I have yet to receive a single comment during either pregnancy. I may also live near more polite people, though, as I've rarely encountered negative comments of any sort regarding pregnancy/parenting.
I'm mentally preparing for the comments on what I eat/drink when I'm out of the closest on this pregnancy. H and I are fairly loose with the recommendations, so I'm sure I'll get plenty.
You never know - I am also loose with the recommendations (drink coffee, eat deli meat, etc) and I have yet to receive a single comment during either pregnancy. I may also live near more polite people, though, as I've rarely encountered negative comments of any sort regarding pregnancy/parenting.
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Feb 15, 2017 21:58:11 GMT -5
animaldoctor I discovered some purple/gray elephants... Jonathan Adlers happy chic baby Emma... there's a mobile and some accent pieces (not all elephanty but they coordinate) not sure if it's your style but I've pinned it for myself!
Okay so this makes me feel like I'm being ungrateful- but I'm already sick of my mom buying ALL THE TINY BABY DRESSES. Seriously, she did this with DD and she wore like one of them for church one time. My mom tends to go overboard on everything with my kids and it's annoying. I've tried to talk to her about it and she gets all offended and hurt and says I'm being ungrateful for everything she does. Does anyone have any tips on how to handle this? I'm at a loss.
Okay so this makes me feel like I'm being ungrateful- but I'm already sick of my mom buying ALL THE TINY BABY DRESSES. Seriously, she did this with DD and she wore like one of them for church one time. My mom tends to go overboard on everything with my kids and it's annoying. I've tried to talk to her about it and she gets all offended and hurt and says I'm being ungrateful for everything she does. Does anyone have any tips on how to handle this? I'm at a loss.
Can you thank her for them and exchange them for something you need?
violetrose, I second eucalyptus - can you exchange them for something more useful, or is she the type to ask you to put her in them when she visits?
eucalyptus, YES to the feeling so full! I did a Galentine's dinner with a bunch of girlfriends last night and I couldn't even eat 1/2 of my dinner and I was so uncomfortable for the rest of the night. Ugh! I don't remember feeling like this so early on last time.
violetrose - +1 to eucalyptus & lulu783. Accept with thanks and then return/exchange. Maybe keep one or two you can put her in for a visit with your mom. If she asks where the rest are, you can either tell her they're in the laundry or be honest and say you don't need so many, as you warned her before.
My mom is really pushy and would notice if we didn't have the dresses anymore. When I tell her thanks, but I really don't need those she does the "guilt" thing with me. She does the same with DD and DS. She will say things like "don't you want nice things for your kids?" or "I wish I had parents that did things like this for me." Then I feel like an asshole. It's just starting to wear on me and stress me out.
I should add that my mom has always been the kind to "buy" my love. She does the same with my siblings too. Now she's doing it with my kids. It's frustrating because I would rather her take off work and come visit more and just spend time with us. Instead, she works like a maniac so she can buy all the things and send them to me. Even when we see her, all she does is take us shopping and buy toys, clothes, really anything the kids want. It's nice in a way, but it makes DH and I feel like we can't provide for our family and upsets us. I just don't know what to do anymore. I would probably have to get more firm with her and just accept how she reacts to it but then would feel like the biggest jerk. Ugh I hate this. Sorry for the rant
violetrose - Sorry the situation with your mom is stressing you out. Definitely do what is best for your mental health. If that means accepting and keeping all her gifts, go for it! But if her buying all the things, especially the part about taking you all shopping with her and buying tons of stuff, stresses you out more, it will be tough but putting your foot down might be better in the end.
But do what's best for you. You can always change your mind later if you want. Or not at all.
It's only been said once, but I'm already over it and know it's going to come up more: People being super concerned about the project I'm on and what will happen during maternity leave. People have babies. You deal. I will be gone 12 weeks, it's not the end of the world.
It's only been said once, but I'm already over it and know it's going to come up more: People being super concerned about the project I'm on and what will happen during maternity leave. People have babies. You deal. I will be gone 12 weeks, it's not the end of the world.
When I was working I got this all the time. Towards the end of my pregnancy, everyone was freaking out about what would get done and wouldn't. It drove me crazy. When I was in early labor with DS, there was a meeting I was supposed to run after work starting at 6pm. My boss had me stay and run the meeting because they didn't know how to do it without me even though I was telling them for weeks they needed to start learning/teaching my job to someone else. Right after the meeting DH and I went to the hospital and DS was born 2 hours later.
It's only been said once, but I'm already over it and know it's going to come up more: People being super concerned about the project I'm on and what will happen during maternity leave. People have babies. You deal. I will be gone 12 weeks, it's not the end of the world.
When I was working I got this all the time. Towards the end of my pregnancy, everyone was freaking out about what would get done and wouldn't. It drove me crazy. When I was in early labor with DS, there was a meeting I was supposed to run after work starting at 6pm. My boss had me stay and run the meeting because they didn't know how to do it without me even though I was telling them for weeks they needed to start learning/teaching my job to someone else. Right after the meeting DH and I went to the hospital and DS was born 2 hours later.
That is insane!
I'm a consultant, so I'm on a project which will go through the end of the year (at least). There are four other analysts who could pick up the slack as needed. Plus we can backfill my role with another analyst from my company. It's not rocket science.
Post by violetrose on Feb 16, 2017 17:11:04 GMT -5
starsandshamrocks123, teachermomtobe, marshian- It was pretty nuts. I was in the Army and working for a Colonel so it wasn't like I could say no. I worked with 90% men so it was hard when I was pregnant. They didn't really understand/care about any of it. I went and told my boss that I was having pretty strong contractions and he told me I needed to "keep it together" until after the meeting. DH was so pissed.
Post by violetrose on Feb 16, 2017 17:12:34 GMT -5
Oh and after I had the baby, one of the guys I worked with stopped by our room to talk to me about another project I was working on and asked if I could come by for a couple days after getting released from the hospital. I laughed in his face.
Oh and after I had the baby, one of the guys I worked with stopped by our room to talk to me about another project I was working on and asked if I could come by for a couple days after getting released from the hospital. I laughed in his face.
Oh dear God! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that craziness.
I'm in the opposite boat! I can eat a large meal, and be ready to eat a second full meal within a half hour. I'm always so hungry.
I'm sick of the nausea. Overall it's not nearly as bad as the first 4 month, but lately I've been nauseous in the morning and evenings. I threw up all over myself while driving on the highway to work earlier this week. And I've pretty much felt like that everyday lately
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