xctsclrx - thanks! He just turned 5 and he does seem so old - blows my mind.
For workouts - I either go between calls in the morning or at the end of the day before picking up DS. I have the advantage that DDs can be home alone together. It also enables me to run on Tuesday nights - DD babysits.
But before she was old enough, I had a weekly sitter so I could run with the group on Tuesday nights. Well worth the expense.
xctsclrx, my DH travels almost every week. I do all of my workouts at home. I need to leave the house by 745, so I'm on the treadmill (or starting another workout) by 545-550. I can usually get in 30-40 mins before I need to get in the shower and get ready. I'm then typically all ready by about 700-710, and can get everyone else ready to go. Even when DH is home, he's gone by 630am, so I'm used to being the only one home for the morning routine.
Again, second. I get up at 5:30, a half hour before the kids to get in a 30 minute work out at home.
xctsclrx, it was because the doctor isn't covered. The insurance website was also showing that not a single doctor within 100 miles could perform the procedure, which seemed way wrong to me. But, it turns out, the insurance website is wrong. Finally got someone on the phone and they said that she's definitely in network and it will be covered. Even gave me some tips on hospital vs. surgery center to save some money. Such a relief! Now I just need to get a hold of the doctor to schedule it. No one is answering, probably because of the snow.
I really want to get a treadmill. I do have at home workouts I can do so I might do those. Right now I am getting up at 0500 so I can get to the gym run the the treadmill and then go to work, but DH takes Little Man to daycare.
If we get a treadmill at the house I could get up between 0530 or 0600. I promised my DH that I would wait until we either take our house off the market or until we move to get a treadmill though.
I think I am going to start a thread about everyone's favorite at home none workout machine workout routine. I will be able to get some ideas.
Post by librarychica on Feb 13, 2017 10:33:24 GMT -5
mae0111, thank you. It helps to know we aren't the only people with this problem. Sometimes I feel like a crazy person who is making up these issues in her head and the real issue is that H and I are just shit parents. But I know in my heart that isn't true. Over the weekend DD1 told me "I am different from my school friends. They are not scared and they don't chew on their lessons. I am only like my sister, but not really because she is a baby." I didn't know what to say to that.
xctsclrx ,, when DH is traveling I work out at home in the morning before everyone gets up. I usually do a video on Youtube or, just recently, BeachBody on Demand. I have to have the kids ready and walking out the door by 6:55 so I get up at 4:45 to make sure I have time for everything.
I had a girls wine tasting trip yesterday. Aside from having to pump in the limo, it was pretty much the best thing ever. The only thing that made it better was DH cooking dinner for us when I got home. We put both kids for bed and had a nice, leisurely dinner.
DS moves up out of the baby room today. HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN?!?! We also have his 9 month appointment today, and I'm preparing myself for the sadness of shots.
@becominggold, when I was out of town last week, DS got a stomach virus and puked a pacifier into the trash can. DH thought the paci was making him gag more so didn't give one back to him. The next night, we told him we didn't have any pacis anymore. He cried for it for two nights. The first, I let him come to our bed, where he stayed up until 11:00, then went to his own bed. The next night, he cried a few minutes then passed out from exhaustion (probably because he was up 3 hours past his bedtime the night before). Last night he didn't even ask for it.
Post by frozenpeas on Feb 13, 2017 10:43:58 GMT -5
librarychica, will she be in kindergarten in the fall? What are your after-school plans for then, and can you implement them now in order to give her shorter days at daycare?
Or, do you have any flexibility in your hours? Can you flex your time (and/or your H's time) so that you can pick her up early every other day?
You've probably already considered those ideas--just wondering if there are any solutions that don't involve you outright quitting your job (unless that's what you want).
And hugs from me, too. Those are hard things to hear from your kids--it sounds like you have a sensitive little girl there.
librarychica ,, that is heartbreaking. I wouldn't have known how to respond either. The organization I work for offers support groups and social activities for kids with anxiety and spectrum disorders. The feedback we have received has been really positive-kids feel less socially isolated and it has given them an environment to practice skills in a “safe setting”. I can’t remember where you are located but it may be worth investigating to see if you have something similar in your area.
I'm still on the couch at home. I need to call my RE because it's CD1 but I won't be prepping for an IVF cycle this month as we planned. Not sure I have it in me to do it again, actually. (But maybe I do?) Ugh, I hate being so undecided. Anyway, need to put off a decision for a little bit.
My daughter peed in a potty for the first time this weekend, so that was a pretty big deal. I was wondering when that was ever going to happen.
mommyatty I think we need to go cold turkey. DH and I just need to be firm about not buying any more. When these are gone (he bites holes in them) we need to just tell him there are no more.
Post by somebabiesmom on Feb 13, 2017 11:28:51 GMT -5
My parents are coming for 4 weeks starting tomorrow. I could not be happier. Certainly a change from how I felt about my parents during the first 25 years of my life...
Shit on my to-do list: fix bathroom sink, fix bathroom knobs, fix bathroom tile, patch bathroom ceiling, patch living rm window paint, repair dent in car, buy/fix dishwasher, rearrange playroom into guest bedroom, get oil changes for both cars, finish valentines day stuff, enjoy life at some point.
Random SOS: MH was amazing for the 30 days we were on the Whole30. Last week, he was a jerk or didn't talk to me. This week, he's all effing smiles again. Wtf.
Update: DD does NOT need glasses. Somehow she fooled the Lions' test. Apparently if they really strain and have not dilated (which Lions don't) then it can have a false positive. She is still a tiny bit farsighted but not enough to need glasses (and the farsightedness is decreasing as she gets older like it is supposed to).
Post by CoverGirl82 on Feb 13, 2017 11:44:23 GMT -5
I do have a vent: DH gave me an early Valentine's Day gift over the weekend: lingerie. I hate lingerie. I thought I had mentioned that to him enough. #1, it's a waste of money (IMO) and #2, I feel every ounce of the extra 5-10 pounds I'd like to lose is put on display.
I was hoping for a Pandora charm or something like that.
sudokufan, have your tried Nancys Yogurt. The probiotic tends to help add good stuff to the gut. Instead of BRAT our pedi just told us no fruit or veggies for 2 weeks. That was super hard for DD who lives on veggies and fruits.
librarychica, Have you asked DC how she is in the afternoon there and if there is anyway they could work it so she gets some downtime or one-on-one time later in the afternoon.
DD ended up throwing up at 2:30 Saturday morning and was crying more about the fact she can't be sick because she can't miss the PINK Meet. I told her if that was it she could still go as the meet was at 2pm. She seemed fine and went back to bed but threw up again right as we were walking out the door at 8:30. So no meet and she had to stay home with DH. Guess she slept the morning away and then DH took her on a long walk to the store to pick out a b-day present for me. DD told me it was all daddy choice and she is taking no credit... DD was totally normal Sunday. We signed her up for Little League and she got fitted for her first uniform. She is so excited about it but also bummed it doesn't start for a few more weeks. Celebrated my b-day early last night with my family. Had homemade pizza a mini cake and my mom made me an entire batch of cut out cookies (I asked for them in lieu of cake). Its going to be a long week....
One of my colleagues just completely threw me under the bus to our mutual boss. I was not in the meeting to defend myself, but another colleague jumped in on my behalf. He just outright lied about several things. Things that I have documented over email. But the manager is the type that he just wants things done, doesn't really care who is at fault, and trying to prove myself right will only serve to piss the manager off.
This guy has managed to piss off the entire organization. Boss hates him. All of his colleagues hate him. I was his last friend. I was the ONLY person that ever stuck up for him. Clearly defending him was an error in judgment.
Goddammit, I hate to have my character questioned, and that's what happened here. I'm trying to let it roll off my back because I know that, in the long run, it doesn't matter since I'm leaving. But no one knows I'm leaving yet. I just feel like I'm in the sh!ttiest of positions right now.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 13, 2017 12:41:08 GMT -5
librarychica, I'm sorry if you've said this but have you had her evaluated for sensory issues? There is a super bright, sensitive kid at our day care and his mom was sharing that he was having a huge time when he got home from DC b/c it was too much stimulation. He's 6. They have him in...OT (?) I think she said OT. And it has helped.
My kids are in DC 8-9 hours per day. It used to be 10, but we have rigged it so I drop off at about 8:30 and DH leaves work at 4:30 and so gets there to pick them up at around 5. Yeah it's a long day and my older kid in particular is normally exaughsted. The younger one is usually fine but she still naps.
Other than shortening the day, perhaps you could engage day care in conversation about how they might make things easier on her in the afternoon?
librarychica - is there a school counselor? I promise there are other kids who chew on their papers. They may be able to get a little group together so that the kids can see this is life, they aren't alone. So hard!!
Post by mustardseed2007 on Feb 13, 2017 12:44:20 GMT -5
2chatter, you have a beautiful family! My DS has a very similar hair cut too
mae0111, That would piss me off so much! And I understand about having a boss that doesn't want to get dragged into a fight. At least you did have a coworker stick up for you. I might still address it with the guy who tried to blame you in the meeting. Not cool.
Just talked to my boss about the impending surgery and needing to take time off. He didn't mind at all and even told me his wife has had similar issues. Phew! I feel like I still have PTSD about taking time off because of my last job. You had to be on your death bed, and even then, still available to WFH. lol Here, they're very "you do you. If you don't have enough PTO, we'll figure it out."
k3am - is there a school counselor? I promise there are other kids who chew on their papers. They may be able to get a little group together so that the kids can see this is life, they aren't alone. So hard!!
Post by librarychica on Feb 13, 2017 13:26:59 GMT -5
Thanks, everyone. She hasn't been evaluated. We have an appointment with a child psychologist that her pedi sent us to in a few weeks to get her opinion. She's always been "a bit high strung, like her mom" to quote my husband but it really ramped up this year. I try to tell her that lots of kids get scared and lots chew on things -- I chewed on things -- but she is very observant and self conscious. Her preschool has aftercare but it is just all the kids in preschool and elementary who stay on a playground for a few hours and I am starting to wonder how well supervised they are, especially since she is one of the youngest. She loved it when she went occasionally while we had the nanny but idk that it is great for her every day. The babies are in a separate area and watched more daycare-style and she has started asking if she can be with her sister in the "baby playground."
My schedule isn't flexible. H's is more so but it will mean working more evenings and weekends. He is going to try and arrange so her can pick them up early twice a week and see if it makes any difference.
Trust me, I'm not rushing to leave my job. For one thing, I carry the health insurance.
Post by somebabiesmom on Feb 13, 2017 13:29:20 GMT -5
On the topic of SOSs, I just got into a big text argument with MH over laundry. He has the day off and claimed he wasn't able to do some other stuff b/c he was doing laundry (which is my chore and is in pretty good shape, thankyouverymuch). He eventually tried to claim that he said he was doing laundry to throw me off the trail of his surprise for me (which was to clean the house for my parents). I told him that was like making fun of someone's dead gma so they didn't find out about the surprise party. (We clearly have longstanding tension around the laundry.)
Anyhoo, it turns out that the laundry he needed was actually in the dryer. So I asked him how he could be "doing" laundry and not know that. Apparently all he had done was take my already-sorted laundry and put it in the washer and that was as far as he got.
Post by erinshelley21 on Feb 13, 2017 13:41:03 GMT -5
I'm sorry for all of the rough times. I have no real complaints other than being so tired I could fall asleep at any minute, but such is life when you're 35 weeks pregnant. I'll probably have a complaint tomorrow. So far the only thing DH has planned for Valentine's Day is attending a meeting for work that starts at 6p and us going to dinner this Saturday night. He tried to suggest that DS could tag along. Now I get that he works MWF and will be gone tomorrow night so he'd probably like to see DS, but this could be our last date until God knows when. I'm not going to spend dinner arguing with a 3 year old about why he should eat his food and why he can't sit on my lap.
mustardseed2007 - I'm trying to get them to get DS back to slightly choppier layers - do you know what to call something like that? I have been asking just for it to be shaggy - over the ears, out of his eyes and not in his collar - but it's not quite...right. His hair curls up if it's cut right....
1. Seattle firm is finally acting like they feel me slipping away and are getting some urgency for bringing me on board. I'm meeting with a number of people on Thursday while I'm in Seattle on business. 2. I sent my long-ass questionnaire to the recruiter, she wanted to chat, we chatted and she said their package is definitely in my range. We set up a VTC for tomorrow with me and the recruiter and they are scheduling an in person meeting with the GC for Monday. The GC "loved my background". Also, recruiter told me they've sent 2 other attorneys who were rejected for appearing "too aggressive."
I might actually get another job that I'm excited about. OH! And the D.C. Firm last week was awesome and very interested.
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