PAIF/PgAL Check-in 2/20-2/26

[bepandnick]

How is everyone doing this week?

[MissSally]

I'm ok. H and I went to a gender reveal over the weekend and there were a bunch of pregnant ladies and babies. While it got me excited to meet my little guy, I found myself getting really annoyed at all of their stories of "oh we got pregnant our first month trying" and such. One of them didn't even realize she was KU until she was 5 months along. I feel like going through infertility and having multiple losses has made me stronger as a person, but it also makes me waaaaay more judgey. Maybe that isn't the right word, but I'm also still in bed and not thinking totally straight.

Other than that, I'm alright. Still using the Doppler once or twice a week (stupid anterior placenta - don't feel him move a ton).

How are you bepandnick??

[bepandnick]

I'm ok MissSally. I don't really feel any movement either. It was the same with DS, so I'm not surprised but it sucks.

I have weekly appointments with the nurse for my Makena shots and she always uses the Doppler. Plus I see the MFM for a u/s every other week, so I know baby is doing ok but I want to feel it move. Blerg

[AmazingTulip]

pgal sucks. My mom and I got into it over the weekend because she hated my number one choice of baby name. Then she sends me this email to say she's sorry and she knows she'll be punished by not knowing the name until DS2 is born but she's sad that I hold her at arm's length, etc.

I've always been a private person, but I think pgal brain makes it worse. I feel like I guard this pregnancy very close to my heart. I just can't get myself to be like "Squeee!!! I'm pregnant!!!" I just don't feel comfortable talking about it. So I don't know exactly how my mom expects me to be but I don't really know how to explain to her that it's just different this time.

[easilyunamused]

MissSally, I totally get that. There are two friends of MHs whose girlfriends have oops pregnancies, and now that I'm pregnant, they are like omg! Must be something in the water! We used to take surfing trips together last summer. Um, took a lot more than just magical water to get me pregnant.

bepandnick, I hope you start feeling the baby soon! Those reassuring kicks and being able to hear the heartbeat are anxiety savers.

@amazingtulip, that's exactly why we will keep the name to ourselves as well. It never ceases to amaze me how people will just blurt out any opinion on very personal matters. Sorry your mom isn't being more supportive.

[easilyunamused]

I'm also not a "shout it from the rooftops" pregnant woman. It's hard for me to announce it, and since I'm not showing at all, I can't let my bump do the talking.

I keep thinking the rug is going to be pulled from under me, and I hate that I feel that way. I want the blissful, ignorant pregnancy! One thing that helps my PaIF brain is that I have 7 embryos on ice waiting for their chance. Gives me comfort.

[bepandnick]

((AmazingTulip)). My mom and sister feel the need to share every school nickname our names may have. Since they're teachers they know everything. 🙄

((easilyunamused)). I hate the feeling that I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. PgAL sucks.

((@katerli)). One day at a time is the way I get through each week.

[MissSally]

Ugh. I'm feeling some minor menstrual-like cramping and horrible back pain and it's totally freaking me out. I called my OB and I'm waiting to hear back from them. Someone help reassure me that it's normal...?

[bepandnick]

Feb 23, 2017 16:32:03 GMT -5 MissSally said:

Ugh. I'm feeling some minor menstrual-like cramping and horrible back pain and it's totally freaking me out. I called my OB and I'm waiting to hear back from them. Someone help reassure me that it's normal...?

((Hugs)) lady. I've had some pretty bad back pain and it's been ok. Thinking of you.

ETA: my OB said minor cramping is normal too

[juliayadda]

Feb 23, 2017 16:32:03 GMT -5 MissSally said:

Ugh. I'm feeling some minor menstrual-like cramping and horrible back pain and it's totally freaking me out. I called my OB and I'm waiting to hear back from them. Someone help reassure me that it's normal...?

I have had this. Lie down and drink some water.

[MissSally]

I'm in tears it hurts so bad. They haven't called me back. And H just left for work. And I have to take DD to her open house in 40 mins.

[AmazingTulip]

MissSally I'm sorry you're in pain. I was having a lot of back pain today. It turned out to be gas. I would also recommend drinking ALOT of water. I hope you start to feel better.

[MissSally]

Feb 23, 2017 17:37:16 GMT -5 AmazingTulip said:

MissSally I'm sorry you're in pain. I was having a lot of back pain today. It turned out to be gas. I would also recommend drinking ALOT of water. I hope you start to feel better.

Thanks. This is right in my tail bone. I've been having tailbone pain most of the pregnancy but it is way more intense at the moment. Plus paired with the cramps it's just really worrying me.

The doctor told me to take a Tylenol and put my feet up for two hours. If it keeps happening to call again. I want to avoid the ER at all costs so I think I'll just go for a walk-in appointment in the morning if I'm still feeling like this.

[AmazingTulip]

MissSally at my hospital you get to go to L&D after 20 weeks which is way better than the ER. Hope the rest helps.

[MissSally]

Feb 23, 2017 19:05:37 GMT -5 AmazingTulip said:

MissSally at my hospital you get to go to L&D after 20 weeks which is way better than the ER. Hope the rest helps.

Oh I didn't even ask where I would go. It definitely is helping to rest, but the second I stand up it all starts again. I'll see how I feel in the morning.

Thanks for all the support.

[xxjen015]

MissSally, Rest as much as you can!!! I hope eventually it stays feeling better as you get up. Keeping you in my thoughts!! Update us in the morning!

[akraus2015]

Hugs MissSally, I hope you feel better soon!

[akraus2015]

I'm doing pretty good. Anxious for the anatomy scan on Tuesday. I'm not gaining any weight at all, which has me worried that he isn't growing properly. I will feel better when I can see that he's growing properly.

[juliayadda]

Feb 23, 2017 20:05:43 GMT -5 MissSally said:

Feb 23, 2017 19:05:37 GMT -5 AmazingTulip said:

MissSally at my hospital you get to go to L&D after 20 weeks which is way better than the ER. Hope the rest helps.

Oh I didn't even ask where I would go. It definitely is helping to rest, but the second I stand up it all starts again. I'll see how I feel in the morning.

Thanks for all the support.

I wonder if baby is is hitting a nerve. SPD?

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Symphysis_pubis_dysfunction

[bepandnick]

How are you this morning MissSally?

[MissSally]

Feb 24, 2017 8:11:39 GMT -5 bepandnick said:

How are you this morning MissSally?

Not cramping really, but my back is still killing me. I was up half the night from it hurting. Also really nauseated.

I'm going to call them here in about half an hour and see if I can come in.

Thanks for checking in on me!

[murran13]

Feb 24, 2017 8:13:28 GMT -5 MissSally said:

Feb 24, 2017 8:11:39 GMT -5 bepandnick said:

How are you this morning MissSally?

Not cramping really, but my back is still killing me. I was up half the night from it hurting. Also really nauseated.

I'm going to call them here in about half an hour and see if I can come in.

Thanks for checking in on me!

Keep us updated! My back was really really achy a couple weeks ago, and it freaked me out too, but then it went away as suddenly as it came about a day and a half later. Thinking of you!

[MissSally]

So the cramping is gone, and I've been sitting on a heat pad most of the day. My OB told me to take it easy and stay off my feet so I've been lounging as much as possible I've also been using the Doppler and making sure I fee him kicking.

Thank you for all the support ladies. It seriously means so much.