Is it bad to delay #1 going so that #1 and #2 will be closer in school and easier for me?
i think yes, since we are talking about a couple years inconvenience for you vs your kids entire school journey. But YDY, not going to call you a terrible parent or something for it.
Our cut off is 9/1, so Eliza will be going Sept 2019. There is always the option to hold them back a year but I doubt I will with Eliza. That's currently our big decision with DD1. She's a July birthday and is lacking in the alphabet department. My Mom is constantly pushing to have us hold her back, but I'm not sure what to do with her if she doesn't attend Kindergarten. She will get bored if she repeats the same preschool and there just aren't a lot of options. I'm waiting for the March K-round up and going to have a few teachers sit with her just to see if they think she's ready.
I think holding them back should be based on their maturity level and their learning level. I have a nephew that was a May 27th birthday and always struggled with school and wasn't very mature at 5. I would have held him back, but his dad insisted that holding him back meant that he was stupid so he refused.
bliz1712, I wouldn't hold your DD1 back just based on her alphabet skills, she'll catch up once she's at school, i really hate that kids are now expected to have their numbers and letters down by the time they start school when in the past that is what kindergarten was for. I think you are right about maturity being the only reason to hold back
Is it bad to delay #1 going so that #1 and #2 will be closer in school and easier for me?
Around here the cutoff is October 1st so I feel like a May birthday is too far away to consider delaying enrollment. If kids have September birthdays and don't seem to be ready I might consider it but otherwise I feel like your kid will be so much older than their classmates developmentally. You obviously know your kid and I don't but as a teacher I have seen kids struggle either socially or academically if they are a lot older/younger than their classmates. Not that they don't have friends or anything but you can just see the difference in the way they play and interact.
ETA: I think "so much older" is an exaggeration but when they're little, I still think a few months makes a big difference developmentally.
Obviously I would only actually hold back for readiness. Here the cut off will be August 1 by the time my kid is in kinder. They're moving the cutoff to July 15th in KY eventually. So he will be one of the youngest.
Obviously I would only actually hold back for readiness. Here the cut off will be August 1 by the time my kid is in kinder. They're moving the cutoff to July 15th in KY eventually. So he will be one of the youngest.
Phew my ds will just make it! If we moved to Kentucky.
I will not hold my kids back unless it is suggested by a professional. I was put in a developmental kindy program because I was young and I was always bored. I eventually skipped a grade.
This discussion led me to check out our school's website (even though I'm hoping to not be her by the time DS goes to kindergarten). I learned that our elementary school has a dress code and is peanut free...
Where I am now it's Sept 1 but in BC its the same as you 12/31. I like that our kids won't be towards the younger end of the class.
Me too. I was always one of the youngest in my class and I hated it.
ah see i was one of the oldest (9/1 cutoff and Nov birthday) and it was usually good. Except the year I turned 18 and all my friends were younger and no one could go to the pub legally with me to celebrate. Then the year I turned 21 I was in the US and the same thing happened all over again.
This discussion led me to check out our school's website (even though I'm hoping to not be her by the time DS goes to kindergarten). I learned that our elementary school has a dress code and is peanut free...
I think most schools are peanut free now, at least elementarys are. I really wish whatever school my kid goes to has a uniform.
Me too. I was always one of the youngest in my class and I hated it.
ah see i was one of the oldest (9/1 cutoff and Nov birthday) and it was usually good. Except the year I turned 18 and all my friends were younger and no one could go to the pub legally with me to celebrate. Then the year I turned 21 I was in the US and the same thing happened all over again.
My birthday is in October and the cutoff was 12/31 so I had the opposite problem - last to drive, last to drink, etc.
ah see i was one of the oldest (9/1 cutoff and Nov birthday) and it was usually good. Except the year I turned 18 and all my friends were younger and no one could go to the pub legally with me to celebrate. Then the year I turned 21 I was in the US and the same thing happened all over again.
My birthday is in October and the cutoff was 12/31 so I had the opposite problem - last to drive, last to drink, etc.
This discussion led me to check out our school's website (even though I'm hoping to not be her by the time DS goes to kindergarten). I learned that our elementary school has a dress code and is peanut free...
I think most schools are peanut free now, at least elementarys are. I really wish whatever school my kid goes to has a uniform.
I think so too. I don't really have an issue with either one. I just had no idea. The dress code is pretty generic - collared shirts/polo shirts in certain colors and khakis or cargo pants/shorts.
Our cut off is 12/31 so unless there is some major issue, DS will start in 2019.
It amazes me that CT is still 12/31. I know some districts have talked about moving that up, but I don't think ours has.
In NJ my town was 12/31 when I started but nearby towns were already changing that. So that's in the 80's.
I know DS1 will start Sept 2019, but DS2 is August 26th, so depending on if they change cutoffs we may have to make a decision on whether we hold him back or not. If it's still 12/31 then he would be fine.
britab, you're a teacher right? Point well taken. I am certainly not just looking at a particular type of curriculum however would prefer one over the other just for the methodology which is why I am also looking into different centers and visiting and talking to the teachers/directors to get an understanding of how their day will be spent and what type of environment they would be in. Preschools never existed when I grew up, my mom had a close knit of friends and we got shuffled from one place to another and they all helped each other out looking after us kids. My mom was a teacher and gave us a great start at home. I also had really terrible teachers in secondary school ( high school ) although had great primary (elementary) teacher which probably set the foundation. I didnt have teachers for some of my classes, I had a teacher that actually slept in class! Another one I remember had some of us give her back rubs while the rest of the class "read". We would also spend an entire class period "stealing" back our chairs and desk- we had a shortage of them. The year we were sitting for our O Levels we didnt have an English teacher and a Mathematics teacher so my class mates basically all taught each other calculus and algebra. It was totally crazy.
I'm a teacher. I have a K-6 El.Ed. License and Spanish K-12. I'm all for quality research-based programs, I just think things can just get too competitive and high stakes nowadays.
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