I only have 1 but I have a few friends that have 1 of each.
I also rolled my eyes at most of the gender vs sex pear clutching
99% of kids are going to have their gender match their sex. But let's be Pc for the 1% that isn't in case they get offended. If they should ever read the board.
We find out this Fri. I have really mixed emotions regarding which sex I want. Really wanted another boy, but convinced myself this is a girl. And now I feel I'll have some disappointment regardless of the sex.
Aww, I know what you mean. I don't know if you remember but I came to you all when I found out I was having a boy. I still remember the moment the US tech said boy. It was so early into the appointment that I didn't even get to enjoy the rest. I felt horrible for being disappointed. It will be ok to have your feelings. I also, am going through the whole ruining a great thing we have right now, what will Clara do, I love her so much how can I love this one as much right now. It is coming on stranger and stranger each day. I only have 5 weeks left and realized I haven't really enjoyed this pregnancy because I so nervous about the real life with two. It seems like a lot of us have been there. We are here for you.
If I can do it, you can do it. You survive two. It's not that bad.
I am a girl after a boy, thus the way I thought birth order should be. With our second I think we'd focused a lot on the benefits of having a second girl to psych ourselves up for the possibility, then when we found out boy, it was like, well now what? It's a trip either way.
The truth is, the basics of baby care are the same no matter the sex. It's a matter of do you need new clothes or pull out the old clothes, and baby's personality is a bigger factor in how different life will be. By the time gender does make a difference, you'll already be in love with your kid and used to life as a family of...whoever your family contains.
In my experience the second pregnancy was less enjoyable and less focused because it was harder physically and I was taking care of a toddler already, but also because none of it was new and exciting and it was a means to an end...gimme dat baby! The baby stage also goes by much faster with the second because you are splitting your focus, and again it's mostly not new. Having 2 is hard in ways I couldn't fully understand before experiencing it, but loving both or totally disrupting our lives haven't been the issues. You figure it out as you go along, and that's ok.
I only have 1 but I have a few friends that have 1 of each.
I also rolled my eyes at most of the gender vs sex pear clutching
99% of kids are going to have their gender match their sex. But let's be Pc for the 1% that isn't in case they get offended. If they should ever read the board.
Oh, I always read it as, let me show you how I'm a better person and of higher intellect than you.
We find out this Fri. I have really mixed emotions regarding which sex I want. Really wanted another boy, but convinced myself this is a girl. And now I feel I'll have some disappointment regardless of the sex.
Aww, I know what you mean. I don't know if you remember but I came to you all when I found out I was having a boy. I still remember the moment the US tech said boy. It was so early into the appointment that I didn't even get to enjoy the rest. I felt horrible for being disappointed. It will be ok to have your feelings. I also, am going through the whole ruining a great thing we have right now, what will Clara do, I love her so much how can I love this one as much right now. It is coming on stranger and stranger each day. I only have 5 weeks left and realized I haven't really enjoyed this pregnancy because I so nervous about the real life with two. It seems like a lot of us have been there. We are here for you.
I stared crying when I was being checked into the hospital because I knew DS1's life wouldn't be the same after. Plus I was never away overnight before and was so nervous. He was fine and watching him and his brother together warms my heart. They adore each other and DS1 loves to make DS2 laugh. It's definitely tough and I have my moments of guilt still but it works out.
Boy, boy, girl for me. My doctor swears that you have a girl after 2 boys and I think he's full of crap but then again..
How do I sign up for this?
All joking aside, my SIL had boy, boy, girl too. I'm on the fence about a #3 for many reasons, but one of them is gender disappointment. Sane, conscious me thinks it would be great to have all boys. People have told me that I'm cut out to have boys. But the crazy, subconscious me in the back of my brain would be rooting for a girl.
Oh. You guys DGAF about saying gender vs sex? I still correct myself in the off chance of someone going apeshit PC on me.
If DS comes home one day and tells me he's a girl and wants to be called Stephanie, then I'll start referring to his gender as female. Until then both his sex and gender are male, IDGAF.
Oh. You guys DGAF about saying gender vs sex? I still correct myself in the off chance of someone going apeshit PC on me.
I try to be sensitive because one of my brothers is gender queer. He's never asked me to call him anything else, but I know gender questions bother him.
My H asked DS1 if he wanted another baby besides his brother? He said "yes" with no hesitation. It really is a huge gift to him. Not a negative.
Same here. Ds1 requests more babies. Ds2 is such a normal part of ds1's life. I don't think he remembers a time without him. Also I really didn't care if my second baby was a boy or girl. If we have a third I don't know if I'll care. I think h wants a girl if we have a 3rd.
Oh. You guys DGAF about saying gender vs sex? I still correct myself in the off chance of someone going apeshit PC on me.
I use the terms correctly because I know the difference. What annoys me more than the terms is people getting hung up on sex reveal parties- no1curr but you.
My H asked DS1 if he wanted another baby besides his brother? He said "yes" with no hesitation. It really is a huge gift to him. Not a negative.
Same here. Ds1 requests more babies. Ds2 is such a normal part of ds1's life. I don't think he remembers a time without him. Also I really didn't care if my second baby was a boy or girl. If we have a third I don't know if I'll care. I think h wants a girl if we have a 3rd.
Post by springbeduk on Feb 21, 2017 9:40:27 GMT -5
Is it Thursday yet? I do think it's worth choosing to say sex rather than gender when that is really what is meant (like finding out the sex of your baby) - not only to acknowledge and respect the possibility that the gender may turn out to be different but also to work on getting over hangups with the word sex. But also not worth flaming people about.
Also, why is it only 9:30 AM there and 6:30 AM in CA!?!!?! It's nighttime here and I wanna know my panorama test results (supposed to be available today, but I think that means today in CA time) NOW!! 1st to know that this baby is healthy in the ways that test screens for, so I can let myself attach to/emotionally invest in her or him more, and then if (please please please) that part is good, I am really curious to know the sex to know if my suspicion/gut feeling is right or not.
I know several families with 3 boys so that is contrary to the boy, boy, girl theory.
I have 4 close law school friends. When I had DS, 3 had 2 boys and 1 had 1 boy. My 4th friend broke the all boy trend with his second, the only girl in our group. Must've been something in the water at law school...
Post by sstwinklinglites on Feb 21, 2017 10:24:11 GMT -5
Thank you everyone for you words of wisdom.
I've been feeling baby move a lot this week, which always puts a smile on my face. I hope that, coupled with finding out baby is healthy, and finding out sex, will make me more excited. I think once I can start prepping things for this LO and buying this just for him / her, my feelings might change.
Oh. You guys DGAF about saying gender vs sex? I still correct myself in the off chance of someone going apeshit PC on me.
Me too. I tried really hard to title this thread in a way that was correct and didn't sound like something illegal, and I just couldn't so I felt the need to put a disclaimer in there saying I know it's wrong. TB has changed me
Boy, boy, girl for me. My doctor swears that you have a girl after 2 boys and I think he's full of crap but then again..
Someone I ran into recently has 3 boys and his doctor told them that the more boys you have your odds of having a girl the next time go down. I'm not sure if I believe that or not.
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Feb 21, 2017 12:01:12 GMT -5
I wouldn't have minded 3 boys. AT ALL. I really loved having 2 boys and I seriously just kind of saw my life that way before I ended up having DD. I also asked them no less than 4 times to confirm she was a girl (as in 4 separate appts/ultrasounds) because I just didn't believe it.
Right now, with her so little, it doesn't feel different in my house - still feels like a "boy" household, just cuter outfits and stuff for her. As she gets older, I'm sure it will change. Or maybe not?
I have 2 boys and a girl. I remember reading somewhere that once you have 2 boys the your likelihood of having a 3rd boy is slightly higher, like 5%. Once you have a 3rd boy, your chance of having a 4th goes up like 25% or something. I can't remember specifics. I do know several 3 boy families.
When I was pregnant with my 3rd, countless people told me that they were hoping for a girl for me. After I had her, people said, "I'm so happy you got your girl!" It kind of hurts me a little for the 3rd boy I didn't have. Would people not have been excited for him? Would it be disappointing if I had a boy? It kind of bothers me. A stranger stopped me at McDonalds when I was with my kids (boys being all rambunctious) and peeked into the stroller and said, "Please tell me you have a little girl in there... oh good!" Would it have not been good if it were a boy???
There are blessings with all combos of ages and sexes!
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