Fearsy aw! Do not feel bad at all. I get nervous about feeding the baby a bottle sometimes!! (Like in a restaurant...some of this stuff is just hard to get used to.) You are just out of practice. As you find your rhythm again, you'll be more comfortable whether you feed her in public or not.
-signed first time mom who is uncomfortable all the time.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Apr 14, 2017 14:53:54 GMT -5
Hugs Fearsy! I'm having anxiety because I'm meeting H for dinner right when it will be time to feed B again. My first thought was, no big deal, I'll just feed him in the car before I go in. Like, wtf?! Why would I do that?! I need to just suck it up and whip the boob out at the table. Ugh.
Hugs Fearsy. NIP makes me nervous this time, despite doing it often with DS, because of the worry over caring for DS in public while nursing the baby. Just like the first time I think it's going to take some practice.
Fearsy I only NIP in the car for Clara and this time I have done it but only with MH around to help with Clara. I don't know what I am going to do if I am alone and have to do it. Hang in there. It's hard to figure all out.
Post by moutonrouge on Apr 14, 2017 18:36:14 GMT -5
I'm more uncomfortable nursing in front of my own family than NIP. It's logical in its own way - I'll never see these people in this Sbux again but I'll see my FIL many more times. But it's not a convenient hang up.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Apr 14, 2017 20:05:42 GMT -5
I nursed at the restaurant guise! I used a nursing cover but I did it! He takes a while to latch to lefty every single time but I powered through all the skirming and whining. If I can do it, y'all can do it!
Post by moutonrouge on Apr 14, 2017 20:21:18 GMT -5
I put up with some terrible latches in public. I shouldn't, but I want it to be one and done so my nipple is out of sight. And I feel you on the leaky mess Fearsy - I'll have it all over me and all over her, and half the time it gets on DDs hands and she's sucking her fingers while I'm trying to relatch her.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 15, 2017 1:25:40 GMT -5
With ds the most public I ever got was in the cry room at church and on the beach. We were the only ones in the cry room, but the church can see in so I covered. We were on the beach with my mom, brother and SIL and we were the only ones on the beach but I still covered for my brothers comfort.
DD forced me to step outside my comfort zone a few weeks ago and I had to nurse in one of our local diners. I covered with a blanket and it went well.
If I'm by myself with both kids out in public, I think I will go to the car. DS would seize the opportunity to do something if we didn't for sure.
Post by seadragon2013 on Apr 15, 2017 3:59:12 GMT -5
I nursed in the eating area of Wegman's the other day without a cover. I used the layered tanktop/tshirt trick though, so almost nothing was exposed after she latched.
With my first, I definitely didn't try to nip without a cover until he was 3 mos+. It was just too intimidating.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Apr 16, 2017 3:26:11 GMT -5
I think I need to try different bottles. DS isn't taking the medela ones. I had big hopes and dreams of him taking the medela bottles so there was less washing and such when I was pumping daily when I go back to work. But the couple of times we've tried the bottles, he too has basically been like, "wtf is this plastic thing." He does seem to want to latch to it at all. DD took the avent natural bottles and I kept all of them so I'll probably try those. Just need to buy some new nipples.
Hugs Fearsy. Though I'm not exclusively breastfeeding, I am suppose to put baby to the boob at every feed to keep encouraging this BFing thing. I am very uncoordinated and I feel like its a big show to get him latched right.
I nursed my baby at a family dinner for the first time yesturday and kept asking my H if I looked ok. I was super self-conscious just around my family.
I don't think I can do a cover. It feels like I would need a third hand to get it on and keep it in place.
We shouldn't have to worry about this! I hate that we have to worry about this.
I'm so self conscious at trying to NIP. I had lots of problems BFing DD so we stopped at 6 weeks. I still don't feel super confident BFing generally, and I am with you mikaela20, I'm not good with the cover. I've tried but I feel like M gets so hot and pulls off and basically I have to hide my head under the cover too haha. All of this said, I'm not looking forward to feeding at the IL's today. Esp since I feel like anytime I whip my boob out, FIL manages to be around. I know he's not doing it on purpose but after awhile it's just weird. I'll probably just go up to DH's old bedroom and nurse. It'll be a good excuse to escape from the IL's anyway.
I wish I was confident enough to NIP without a cover. It's hot and cumbersome but that's the only way I'll do it in public. I'm never bothered by anyone else nursing but I cover because of my self consciousness.
Yesterday I was nursing at a restaurant and took a sip of DH's beer. I felt so judged when the waitress walked by, but I think it was all in my head. I need to get out of my own head.
Post by moutonrouge on Apr 16, 2017 18:22:22 GMT -5
@justinslovo I hope the check goes well!! I think you're fine to ask for more samples - judging by the price and the coupons and samples they send out, the companies are willing to give you the hard sell and you should take them up on it.
@justinslovo Our doctors office is always giving us samples and told us to ask if we wanted more. It seems like they get a lot to hand out so I would not feel bad at all about asking.
I have felt this worry in the back of my mind all day and I was finally able to put my finger on it.
Now I am spiraling on formula prices, brands, ingredients...
We have the means to pay for it. Is it wrong to ask for more samples?
the only samples I've gotten are in the mail. Where do you ask? Your pediatrician office?
Yep, just ask them!
@justinslovo - with DS1, we supplemented with Nutramegin, which was ridiculously expensive and my pedi's office said we should just ask any time we needed more. Definitely ask. I got the impression that they were happy to give it away. It's not costing them anything!
the only samples I've gotten are in the mail. Where do you ask? Your pediatrician office?
Pediatrician offered us samples because we needed a special high calorie formula.
This shit is no joke expensive. Here's hoping if we do have to continue to supplement we can at least bump down to the normal calorie options.
I assume they would have all the different brands / formulations. It wouldn't hurt to ask!
Also, I am intrigued to see the Walmart brand is identical in nutrition to Enfamil, but the ingredients are different. I'm not above buying store brand, but I want to know the science. So, for now I keep reading and researching and possibly paying for name brand.
Ahhhhh! I may need to start counting sheep soon to attempt to clear my mind.
Ok so.
DS was FF. We started on Similac but it's $$$! DH was to high of a rank or our family size for us to get any help buying formula so we switched to a store brand. I want to say DS was 4 months?
Anyway, if baby takes store brand and has no problems with it is go that route. DS actually seemed to like the store brand better. It was a little thinner though, but that may have been because they had different ingredients.
All that to say if you guys have to keep supplementing it's ok to go with store brand.
I have no issues nip but I'll be happier when her head isn't so tiny and actually covers my huge boobs/nipples.
I feel like that's why a cover us impossible for me. I have one hand supporting and squeezing my boob and the other is having to manuver him and his head and relatch or correct his latch. The 2 shirt trick keeps skin exposure to a minimum at least.
I can't latch while covered unless I make a tent with my head and look ridiculous. I feel like it makes a huge spectacle.
Yes. I feel like the cover makes us more conspicuous. Sometimes I drape a muslin blanket over the exposed part of my boob once she latches. The worst part right now of nip is when she unlatches and I start spraying everywhere. Awkward.
I can't latch while covered unless I make a tent with my head and look ridiculous. I feel like it makes a huge spectacle.
This is me when I have to nurse in front of mine and DH's brothers at our house. If you're a woman though, I'll whip that thing out no problem. Cleaning lady included. She's seen boob twice already today.
Yesterday I did the 2 shirt thing at my ILs with SILs family around too. I was uncomfortable and nervous that I was making them uncomfortable. Then at my aunt/uncles I nursed with my cover on successfully with their friends in the room too. Normally I would hide in another room for all of these things so even though it's minor I'm counting it as a win. I definitely did the head tent maneuver ⛺️ but he stayed latched under the cover which he never has!!
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