Post by ShamyCooler on Feb 23, 2017 18:20:34 GMT -5
DD still sleeps in our room/bed. She has a mattress on the floor that she sleeps on most of the night, then crawls in our bed around 4am usually.
It's a work in process, for both of us. For her because she's "afraid" to be in her own room and for me because she's only with me for a week at a time and I love snuggling with her at night. But DH really wants her in her own room so it's time but I'm having a hard time with it.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Post by Cherhorowitz on Feb 23, 2017 18:24:50 GMT -5
Therapy was really lifesaving at one time in my life. Paying someone to listen to my craziness and put it in perspective for an hour a week really saved myself from myself. Also, some heavy duty prescribed drugs. I am a big proponent of both although I don't think I suggest them here much. When I see someone suggesting them here, I don't think it's an insult, just someone who feels like they're really helpful. I fully agree that most people don't have the time or money for their mental health (myself included) but I don't think anyone is coming from a bad place when they suggest them.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Post by karenwalker on Feb 23, 2017 18:30:37 GMT -5
akraus2015, my H had 6 weeks paternity leave and it was awesome. I was so nervous about being a FTM and it was great to have someone to help me out. I guess it depends on how you work together on things. I know some people like having their moms come to stay, that was a hard pass for me. We made the most of our time and tried to get out and about as much as possible. I had PPD, so him going back to work was tough. He traveled at 8 weeks and it was hard emotionally for me, but everything with the baby was fine. You'll do great!
I don't think anyone said suggesting therapy was an insult? However, I am clearly lost in this thread.
I thought Amy was saying as much to Scout. I may be hallucinating at this point though, I'm tired.
It's been used as an insult to me I'm a crazy bitch kinda thing It can certainly be taken as an insult if you say you need therapy in real life so why not here. The way it's throw out sometimes is a bit ott
I don't think anyone said suggesting therapy was an insult? However, I am clearly lost in this thread.
It was deemed bitchy and condescending unless you are super close to the person.
By AmyG.
Not gonna lie, if a random acquaintance suggested therapy to me I'd feel a way. Culturally, we're just now accepting mental health help. So, for someone to just suggest therapy who didn't know me well, I'd take it as an insult.
As far as the co sleeping thing I don't think there's anything wrong with deciding it's not for your family. Obviously, I don't think he meant circumstances like a child being ink the NICU for an extended period of time.
And as far as science backing it, ok and?
Science (and everybody and they mama) says breast is best and yet some families make the choice to formula feed. I just don't get the strong reaction.
@bruxannie, you can call me an asshole, when it's warranties.
And I guess I didn't think this stupid story was going to require such a long explanation, but I did go back last evening bc I wanted my coffee. The new shift asked if I had proof of purchase, I said no, and I apologized for tossing the receipt, bc I was embarrassed.
No one walks over me that I do not allow. I have tried to explain this before, but when you spend your entire life defending a lot of what makes you, you, I find you come out one of two ways. The person who argues over everything or the person who shrinks into themselves bc they somehow feel everything is their fault. I am the shrinking violet now, I used to be the constantly pissed off person. Hopefully, before I die I'll have found that comfortable spot in the middle. Lol
I so feel you on this. I let people walk all over me. It is not among my better qualities, especially bc then I quietly seethe about it.
@bruxannie , you can call me an asshole, when it's warranties.
I'm not brux, naturally, but no one called you an asshole. It's also not just about the groceries. It's the compounding of a myriad of stories. But you should continue to do as you have been doing and as you see fit. Clearly this board consists of tons of people and at any given post, reactions can be split down various lines. But no one called you an asshole.
Post by SheilaTheTank on Feb 23, 2017 18:55:59 GMT -5
I'm currently wrestling my lo so this may make little sense but before mh puts his foot farther into his fucking mouth I wanted to clarify that cosleeping 100% did not and would not work for our family. Our apartment bedroom was so small that you couldn't even fit a bassinette in it. And lol no to having her in our bed. For my sanity I needed sleep. I do not do well at all on little sleep. So she was in her own room less than a few feet away from the day she came home from the hospital.
I dont give a fuck what others do bit we were judged hardcore for this decision and at one point we were made to feel like total shitty and neglectful parents. (not here but IRL)
It was deemed bitchy and condescending unless you are super close to the person.
By AmyG.
Not gonna lie, if a random acquaintance suggested therapy to me I'd feel a way. Culturally, we're just now accepting mental health help. So, for someone to just suggest therapy who didn't know me well, I'd take it as an insult.
I know we have talked about this before and I get it that culturally, it's not seen as a go-to. But, when basic white girls suggest it, it's the same as us suggesting a new Pilates place or some iced latte. There's no ill intent, I promise.
Post by Cherhorowitz on Feb 23, 2017 19:14:40 GMT -5
Like, my friends will scream across the gym, "Hiiii! I can't talk, I have therapy, I'll text you later!" It's definitely not viewed in my world as shameful.
Not gonna lie, if a random acquaintance suggested therapy to me I'd feel a way. Culturally, we're just now accepting mental health help. So, for someone to just suggest therapy who didn't know me well, I'd take it as an insult.
I know we have talked about this before and I get it that culturally, it's not seen as a go-to. But, when basic white girls suggest it, it's the same as us suggesting a new Pilates place or some iced latte. There's no ill intent, I promise.
Oh I don't think Scout had ill intent, but I don't find Amy's reaction to be far fetched. I think she'd entitled to feel a way.
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