Opine in an Unpopular way (UOs)

[emmagk]

DS got gummy candy as a valentines gift from a school friend, I gave him 2 and he said they were yucky so I ate the rest. The 2 times i've offered him fruit snacks he's spat them out. Apparently he doesn't like gummies

[emmagk]

Ok i have a contentious one - I think it's really important for young kids to socialize with their peers and if you as a parent are not trying to find ways to do that then you are doing them a disservice.

[microworm]

DS looooooves granola bars. I try to get ones that are as healthy as possible but it's tough.

I'm pretty lax about what my kid eats. I do my best to get him a varied diet of healthy foods. But he also gets cookies, chips, candy, fruit snacks, etc as treats. Growing up, I had a very unhealthy relationship with food. Mostly with foods being off limits or labeled as "unhealthy" which turned into a nasty eating disorder in HS and college. So I'm not going to forbid certain foods. I realize that's more of my own issues talking, especially because I have boys and they tend to not get caught up in EDs. But whatever.

[lrmrtn]

Feb 23, 2017 12:19:43 GMT -5 emmagk said:

lrmrtn , that would drive me so crazy. I do not want to be assigned something to bring. Our daycare doesn't often have parties but when they do they put a sign up that says "if you would like to bring a treat, please make sure it is store bought and nut free". There is no obligation and all the kids are still required to bring their standard lunch that day, the party is more focused on games and fun

DC is a little holiday party crazy. He just had one for V-day, and will probably have ones for St. Patty's day and Easter so I'm always bringing something in. It's a little annoying. And also just too much junk food. There's always cookies, cupcakes, chips and juice on the list. I'm not trying to be over-restrictive but after these parties, DS comes home asking for cookies and juice, which we don't give him, except juice if he's sick, so it's a little frustrating. I have a hard enough time getting him to eat anything remotely healthy and it just undermines it.  A 2 y.o. has a choice between fruit and cookies. What do you think he's going to choose?

[microworm]

Feb 23, 2017 12:24:34 GMT -5 emmagk said:

Ok i have a contentious one - I think it's really important for young kids to socialize with their peers and if you as a parent are not trying to find ways to do that then you are doing them a disservice.

Popular.

[Susan0utLoud]

Why do people care so much what other people feed their kids? I don't give two craps what goes in anyone's mouth but mine and my kids.

That said, if we want kids to understand that candy is candy and food is food, vitamins shouldn't be made to look and taste like gummies.

ETA: I mean vitamins and other foods that are made to be more appealing. Like veggie chips. We're confusing the kids!

[microworm]

Feb 23, 2017 12:24:34 GMT -5 emmagk said:

Ok i have a contentious one - I think it's really important for young kids to socialize with their peers and if you as a parent are not trying to find ways to do that then you are doing them a disservice.

I'm actually already worried about my future niece. SIL is going to SAH I'm sure. First of all, I can't see SIL being one to take her kid to the library or whatever for learning and socialization. Also BIL/SIL have one car and nothing around them is walkable. I don't even think there is a park that is walkable. I'm worried this poor kid is going to be stuck inside this small condo all day while her mom watches telenovelas.

[activebaby]

Okay here's where I confess. Ds has gummies 5 days a week. He gets a pack when I pick up the baby from daycare. I pick up ds1 first, then have him sit outside ds2's class (kids aren't allowed in baby rooms) and eat a snack. He sits nicely and eats them. I'm able to pick up both kids without any issues. Not the best parenting, but works for me.
ETA: he would be just as happy with a sticker, but I need something that will take him 5 minutes to keep busy.

[microworm]

Feb 23, 2017 12:31:08 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Why do people care so much what other people feed their kids? I don't give two craps what goes in anyone's mouth but mine and my kids.

That said, if we want kids to understand that candy is candy and food is food, vitamins shouldn't be made to look and taste like gummies.

And it all starts with the formula vs BFing war. People luuuurve judging other people for what they feed their kids.

[emmagk]

Feb 23, 2017 12:31:08 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

Why do people care so much what other people feed their kids? I don't give two craps what goes in anyone's mouth but mine and my kids.

That said, if we want kids to understand that candy is candy and food is food, vitamins shouldn't be made to look and taste like gummies.

I don't care what other people feed their kids, which is kind of the point of my original post and why i think group snacks are stupid. I don't want other people feeding my kid their so called healthy snack. I'll feed mine and you feed yours

[microworm]

Feb 23, 2017 12:33:49 GMT -5 activebaby said:

Okay here's where I confess. Ds has gummies 5 days a week. He gets a pack when I pick up the baby from daycare. I pick up ds1 first, then have him sit outside ds2's class (kids aren't allowed in baby rooms) and eat a snack. He sits nicely and eats them. I'm able to pick up both kids without any issues. Not the best parenting, but works for me.
ETA: he would be just as happy with a sticker, but I need something that will take him 5 minutes to keep busy.

I regularly bribe DS1 with granola bars to make drop offs/pick ups easier.

[becole]

Feb 23, 2017 12:33:49 GMT -5 activebaby said:

Okay here's where I confess. Ds has gummies 5 days a week. He gets a pack when I pick up the baby from daycare. I pick up ds1 first, then have him sit outside ds2's class (kids aren't allowed in baby rooms) and eat a snack. He sits nicely and eats them. I'm able to pick up both kids without any issues. Not the best parenting, but works for me.
ETA: he would be just as happy with a sticker, but I need something that will take him 5 minutes to keep busy.

You're a genius. Pick up and drop off with two is a nightmare. Wish I had thought of this.

[comicSans]

Fruit snacks are unpopular with my kid.

Also unpopular with my kid? Other kids. She's 2. She's has plenty of time to become more social.

[meggypoo1]

Feb 23, 2017 12:12:34 GMT -5 becole said:

meggypoo1 send Clara to Auntie Becoles house. She will love it. 😊

Lol! I am sure she would have a great time! 😊

[Doll15]

I'm with @microworm I sometimes feel bad about what we give C and then I remember that I had a parent who regularly forgot to give me lunch and never made sure I had breakfast in the mornings. I've always been responsible for my own nutrition. I had issues remembering to eat when I was in college. I regularly would go until 2-3 before remembering that I hadn't ate all day. I was trained from childhood that I could "wait" to eat. With C, it breaks my heart if she says she's hungry or wants a snack. I often do fruit snacks or granola bars. I hate that I can't chop up some veggies or always have apples ready to go or a banana. I try really hard but in a quick pinch, I usually Grab something quick and easy. I wish I could be more prepared but I've also realized that it's okay, she is fed, she is healthy and she is happy. Why others say it's "disgusting" to see what some people feed their kids? That's really sad. Atleast they are fed. I know what it's like to be the kid who isn't fed. That's the worst and that's what you should be judging.

[meggypoo1]

I also want to mention that I am sure later in life I will let Clara eat fruit snacks and whatever but she barely eats anything now so I would like to stick with healthier foods.

[Susan0utLoud]

Feb 23, 2017 12:42:56 GMT -5 comicSans said:

Fruit snacks are unpopular with my kid.

Also unpopular with my kid? Other kids. She's 2. She's has plenty of time to become more social.

I agree with your second point. Wholeheartedly.

[microworm]

Doll15 I liked your post for the underlying message, not for what happened to you. That breaks my heart. Now I really don't feel bad for giving my kid a waffle for lunch the other day.

[Susan0utLoud]

None of you have to "admit" or "confess" what you're feeding your kid. I mean, you probably shouldn't give them a tub of frosting for dinner, but fruit snacks and granola bars? Whatever.

[Doll15]

I've learned a lot from you ladies. I don't mean to make anyone feel bad for me just to realize that kids being fed no matter the source should be the most important. If you can be super mom and make each and every bite healthy for your child good for you, but the word "disgusting" really rubbed me the wrong way. Like it's food, the kid finished his/her day with food in the belly, who cares?!

Also C gets a waffle or pancake every weekend sometimes made by me or DH and sometimes from our local diner. I DGAF If that's judged because she looks forward to it all week and gets so excited when it's pancake/waffle day. she has her whole entire life to worry about what those carbs will do to her. I eat healthy, she watches what I put in my mouth. One day I'll start stressing the importance of careful eating but not yet.

[activebaby]

Now let's talk about my poor diet....Just kidding. I need to care about my food as much as I care about my kids. (Not the fruit snacks part.) I actually attempt balanced meals for my kid. His favorite meal is "milk."

[becole]

I'm sorry you were ever hungry Doll15. I think it's great you are so aware of your issues and committed to doing better for your kid(s).

[becole]

Feb 23, 2017 13:13:38 GMT -5 activebaby said:

Now let's talk about my poor diet....Just kidding. I need to care about my food as much as I care about my kids. (Not the fruit snacks part.) I actually attempt balanced meals for my kid. His favorite meal is "milk."

I have been stress eating and I'm having a hard time doing anything healthy consistently right now.

[jennyinheaven]

Feb 23, 2017 10:54:03 GMT -5 emmagk said:

I hate ice in my drinks. I do not want ice cold water, soda, coffee. 

I only drink ice coffee. I also always secretly side eye customers at work who order drinks without ice, who wants, warm soda? Yuck!

[Susan0utLoud]

Girl Scout cookies are meh. The only one that's just ok is the Samoa. The rest are basic.

[Susan0utLoud]

Feb 23, 2017 13:23:56 GMT -5 jennyinheaven said:

Feb 23, 2017 10:54:03 GMT -5 emmagk said:

I hate ice in my drinks. I do not want ice cold water, soda, coffee. 

I only drink ice coffee. I also always secretly side eye customers at work who order drinks without ice, who wants, warm soda? Yuck!

I prefer my soda room temp in a can. Thank you very much.

[emmagk]

Feb 23, 2017 13:23:56 GMT -5 jennyinheaven said:

Feb 23, 2017 10:54:03 GMT -5 emmagk said:

I hate ice in my drinks. I do not want ice cold water, soda, coffee. 

I only drink ice coffee. I also always secretly side eye customers at work who order drinks without ice, who wants, warm soda? Yuck!

Meeeee! I want room temperature

[jennyinheaven]

Feb 23, 2017 12:56:14 GMT -5 Susan0utLoud said:

None of you have to "admit" or "confess" what you're feeding your kid. I mean, you probably shouldn't give them a tub of frosting for dinner, but fruit snacks and granola bars? Whatever.

We go to McDonald's sometimes, I'm okay with it.

[footloose]

Feb 23, 2017 12:59:24 GMT -5 Doll15 said:

I've learned a lot from you ladies. I don't mean to make anyone feel bad for me just to realize that kids being fed no matter the source should be the most important. If you can be super mom and make each and every bite healthy for your child good for you, but the word "disgusting" really rubbed me the wrong way. Like it's food, the kid finished his/her day with food in the belly, who cares?!

Also C gets a waffle or pancake every weekend sometimes made by me or DH and sometimes from our local diner. I DGAF If that's judged because she looks forward to it all week and gets so excited when it's pancake/waffle day. she has her whole entire life to worry about what those carbs will do to her. I eat healthy, she watches what I put in my mouth. One day I'll start stressing the importance of careful eating but not yet.

I agree with you that sometimes food is food. Period.

There have been weeks last year when my shifts at work were low and I didn't have any money until payday. I would look around to give her some dinner and there were times that she had various things like crackers, some raisins, handful of trail mix or what have you.

I felt bad but I actually said to myself "Is it food? Yes. Is it not gone bad or moldy? Yes. Is her stomach full for bed? Yes"

Then just KOKO sister.

[Doll15]

Feb 23, 2017 13:35:35 GMT -5 footloose said:

Feb 23, 2017 12:59:24 GMT -5 Doll15 said:

I've learned a lot from you ladies. I don't mean to make anyone feel bad for me just to realize that kids being fed no matter the source should be the most important. If you can be super mom and make each and every bite healthy for your child good for you, but the word "disgusting" really rubbed me the wrong way. Like it's food, the kid finished his/her day with food in the belly, who cares?!

Also C gets a waffle or pancake every weekend sometimes made by me or DH and sometimes from our local diner. I DGAF If that's judged because she looks forward to it all week and gets so excited when it's pancake/waffle day. she has her whole entire life to worry about what those carbs will do to her. I eat healthy, she watches what I put in my mouth. One day I'll start stressing the importance of careful eating but not yet.

I agree with you that sometimes food is food. Period.

There have been weeks last year when my shifts at work were low and I didn't have any money until payday. I would look around to give her some dinner and there were times that she had various things like crackers, some raisins, handful of trail mix or what have you.

I felt bad but I actually said to myself "Is it food? Yes. Is it not gone bad or moldy? Yes. Is her stomach full for bed? Yes"

Then just KOKO sister.

Hugs girl. You do what you have to do. Your daughter always looks so smiley and happy. One day she's going to look at her momma and be so thankful she got you.