Okay tell me if this is a silly idea. You know how some people do a "diaper raffle" and you get entered to win something if you bring diapers?
What about doing a "registry raffle" where you get entered to win something if you bring an item from the registry, to encourage people to buy things you actually need?
Also if my host did this, would it be silly to give away a nice piece of jewelry or a bag from Stella & Dot (the line of jewelry I sell)? Like maybe an engraved piece where the winner could personalize what they want?
Eh, it's something I personally wouldn't feel comfortable doing. People know they're suppose to buy off registry and generally if they don't they feel like they have a good reason not to, even if the recipient doesn't agree. I would just feel weird essentially saying you appreciate some of the presents you get more than others.
That's how I feel about it too. I think you (general you) just need to hope people buy from the registry and try to return/exchange if they don't and you don't want or need what they bought you instead.
Plus you might get someone who has a really good gift idea that happened to not be on your registry. Maybe their a mom who learned something was awesome from experience? Would you want to penalize them for that?
Eh, it's something I personally wouldn't feel comfortable doing. People know they're suppose to buy off registry and generally if they don't they feel like they have a good reason not to, even if the recipient doesn't agree. I would just feel weird essentially saying you appreciate some of the presents you get more than others. I'm kind of weird about receiving gifts though and went into our registry and showers with the mindset that we'd be buying everything since it's our kid and anything that's gifted to us is an added bonus, not an expectation
ETA- not that you're saying you expect anything, it's just a general vibe I get when people talk about getting gifts that they didn't register for
I totally get where you are coming from. I can see how it would rub some people the wrong way. It's like the books for cards, I find it rude to dictate what your guests should gift you. And what do you do if you get multiples of the same book?
Gift giving parties are hard to navigate sometimes. Especially when you have a wide range of different backgrounds and ages.
My mom did the books for cards thing for me and it was a big success. She made sure to clearly word it as a suggestion, not instructions. Most cards have gotten so expensive that there are plenty of baby books that don't cost much different from a card.
And while I did get some duplicates, there are so many books out there most of them weren't doubles.
I think if the request is worded properly it can be a great idea. I agree straight up telling people what to do isn't very cool.
Oh jeez. I'm sorry some of you have people that don't buy off the registry!! So if that's the case, then yes, I would definitely buy stuff on sale as you find it. We are lucky that in our circles most people stick to the registries. Makes it easy.
I try to always buy from registries or get gift cards so they can buy off of their registries.
I think sometimes people feel like they "know better" what you need (and maybe they do sometimes) but it can definitely be hard when you have essentials you need.
**i realized this kind of sounds like I'm addressing his to you and I just meant it as continuing conversation 😂
Oh no, haha I didn't take it as ME. But yea, it's definitely hard when you already have a kid to not get the stuff that YOU would want but I've always reminded myself that I did a lot of research and planning when I did my own registry and picked things that would work for US. And what works for us doesn't always work for you (general). So I go into baby shower buying now with that mindset. I usually get most everything from the registry and then throw in something small that's personal, like a couple books, or some small toy, etc.
I just sent my H to play golf, I can't deal with him just staring at me for another 7 hours before we go to the hospital. On the plus side, my contractions still aren't regular by any means but they're getting a little more frequent, so hopefully we won't need much in the way of induction stuff to get this show on the road
I think sometimes people feel like they "know better" what you need (and maybe get do sometimes) but it can definitely be hard when you have essentials you need.
This is what happened to me, most of the stuff I got that wasn't on my registry came from current mom's who gave me whatever magic product saved their sanity when their kid was a newborn, like the dock a tot
Yes! That's how we got my absolute favorite bathtub/bath seat for the baby!
Post by LadyNymeria on Feb 26, 2017 12:58:21 GMT -5
Gift giving parties can be so tough. I think a lot depends on what each person's circle is accustomed to. What one group may find tacky may be completely expected and looked for by another!
Post by mustloveerica on Feb 26, 2017 12:59:14 GMT -5
We got tons of books without doing the books/cards things. People love giving baby books. Especially teachers!
I was surprised that most people bought off of our registry and then added in an outfit or something that they liked. We ended up returning a lot of duplicates tho because I think people forget to scan the registry when they check out. I felt bad about returning gifts but we don't need 7 packs of wash cloths and 3 diaper genies.
I just sent my H to play golf, I can't deal with him just staring at me for another 7 hours before we go to the hospital. On the plus side, my contractions still aren't regular by any means but they're getting a little more frequent, so hopefully we won't need much in the way of induction stuff to get this show on the road
Gift giving parties can be so tough. I think a lot depends on what each person's circle is accustomed to. What one group may find tacky may be completely expected and looked for by another!
This is why it's tough. I've moved 6 times in 10 years. I have friends from all over and MH and I have family from different states. They all have different ideas on what is acceptable and what isn't. Lol but I follow the general rules of etiquette. My MIL doesn't always. I find this out while planning my wedding. She's the one who wants to throw the shower, so I'm thinking I'll ask my other friend if she'll "help".
Post by mustloveerica on Feb 26, 2017 13:01:51 GMT -5
I feel like crap today. I don't know what the problem is. I need to get shit done but I get super dizzy and hungover feeling if I stand for too long. I did manage to accomplish a few more freezer meals and finish my shower thank yous. But the house is gross. Need to clean. Need motivation.
We got tons of books without doing the books/cards things. People love giving baby books. Especially teachers!
I was surprised that most people bought off of our registry and then added in an outfit or something that they liked. We ended up returning a lot of duplicates tho because I think people forget to scan the registry when they check out. I felt bad about returning gifts but we don't need 7 packs of wash cloths and 3 diaper genies.
Yes! Omg if you're going to buy off the registry then take it off the damn registry! I got a good friend her tub since it was still on there but she ended up getting THREE at her shower! I just took it back with me (since they're so freakin bulky) and told her to tell me what she needed once they goto everything unpacked. Good grief.
I feel like crap today. I don't know what the problem is. I need to get shit done but I get super dizzy and hungover feeling if I stand for too long. I did manage to accomplish a few more freezer meals and finish my shower thank yous. But the house is gross. Need to clean. Need motivation.
We got tons of books without doing the books/cards things. People love giving baby books. Especially teachers!
I was surprised that most people bought off of our registry and then added in an outfit or something that they liked. We ended up returning a lot of duplicates tho because I think people forget to scan the registry when they check out. I felt bad about returning gifts but we don't need 7 packs of wash cloths and 3 diaper genies.
Yes! Omg if you're going to buy off the registry then take it off the damn registry! I got a good friend her tub since it was still on there but she ended up getting THREE at her shower! I just took it back with me (since they're so freakin bulky) and told her to tell me what she needed once they goto everything unpacked. Good grief.
Right! And I even felt kind of bad as I opened them. Like "ohhh ANOTHER diaper genie! Thank you so much!!"
Okay tell me if this is a silly idea. You know how some people do a "diaper raffle" and you get entered to win something if you bring diapers?
What about doing a "registry raffle" where you get entered to win something if you bring an item from the registry, to encourage people to buy things you actually need?
Also if my host did this, would it be silly to give away a nice piece of jewelry or a bag from Stella & Dot (the line of jewelry I sell)? Like maybe an engraved piece where the winner could personalize what they want?
Eh, it's something I personally wouldn't feel comfortable doing. People know they're suppose to buy off registry and generally if they don't they feel like they have a good reason not to, even if the recipient doesn't agree. I would just feel weird essentially saying you appreciate some of the presents you get more than others. I'm kind of weird about receiving gifts though and went into our registry and showers with the mindset that we'd be buying everything since it's our kid and anything that's gifted to us is an added bonus, not an expectation
ETA- not that you're saying you expect anything, it's just a general vibe I get when people talk about getting gifts that they didn't register for
I never thought about it this way. That's a really good point.
Post by akraus2015 on Feb 26, 2017 13:14:49 GMT -5
Okay I didn't at all mean to insinuate that I wanted to dictate what people should buy us. We've already been buying off our registry simply because I DONT expect people to buy us things for the kid I decided to have. That's why I threw the idea out there...I genuinely wanted to know what other people thought about it.
Oh jeez. I'm sorry some of you have people that don't buy off the registry!! So if that's the case, then yes, I would definitely buy stuff on sale as you find it. We are lucky that in our circles most people stick to the registries. Makes it easy.
I try to always buy from registries or get gift cards so they can buy off of their registries.
I think sometimes people feel like they "know better" what you need (and maybe they do sometimes) but it can definitely be hard when you have essentials you need.
**i realized this kind of sounds like I'm addressing his to you and I just meant it as continuing conversation 😂
This was the reason we got a lot of off registry gifts. We only used 2 of the 25-30 off registry things we got (a diaper bag and a cloud b sleep sheep).
We got a RNP that's sat in the closet the past two years, burp clothes that "are awesome and you'll love" except they were so busy that DS1 got overstimulated by looking at them and would meltdown over them. We mostly got clothing and we didn't need clothes. We had more than enough already and a lot of the clothes were fancy items I wouldn't touch with a ten
Post by BabyStandish on Feb 26, 2017 14:57:36 GMT -5
hey hey! I ran a half-marathon this morning and now I feel like my legs might fall off. I ran pretty much the whole way (not counting my 6-7 bathroom stops and filling up my water). I'm starting to get BH so planning on doing nothing the rest of the day but putting my feet up and hydrating
Okay I didn't at all mean to insinuate that I wanted to dictate what people should buy us. We've already been buying off our registry simply because I DONT expect people to buy us things for the kid I decided to have. That's why I threw the idea out there...I genuinely wanted to know what other people thought about it.
I didn't take it that way at all! I read it like a general just curious type question!
hey hey! I ran a half-marathon this morning and now I feel like my legs might fall off. I ran pretty much the whole way (not counting my 6-7 bathroom stops and filling up my water). I'm starting to get BH so planning on doing nothing the rest of the day but putting my feet up and hydrating
Congrats! Resting the rest of the day sounds like a great idea!
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