This is super selfish, but I'll miss her being my baby. Like I feel really weird about the fact that other people are going to be able to hold her
Once she's here, it's ok to be selfish about holding her. If you want to be holding your baby, then hold her! You don't always have to say yes when other people ask!
I've also found people seem to think they're doing you a favor by taking the baby to "give you a break". If you don't want or need a break, it's ok to say thanks, but I'm good.
This is super selfish, but I'll miss her being my baby. Like I feel really weird about the fact that other people are going to be able to hold her
Once she's here, it's ok to be selfish about holding her. If you want to be holding your baby, then hold her! You don't always have to say yes when other people ask!
I've also found people seem to think they're doing you a favor by taking the baby to "give you a break". If you don't want or need a break, it's ok to say thanks, but I'm good.
I've already gotten H on board with taking baby from people if they won't give them back to me. Mama gets priority on baby-holding!
I'll miss: - No period (I'm sure they'll be worse post-partum since they were nice and easy on BCP for 10 years) - An excuse for the bad acne - Feeling baby move around in there - The bump - at least right now, it's cute!
Once she's here, it's ok to be selfish about holding her. If you want to be holding your baby, then hold her! You don't always have to say yes when other people ask!
I've also found people seem to think they're doing you a favor by taking the baby to "give you a break". If you don't want or need a break, it's ok to say thanks, but I'm good.
I've already gotten H on board with taking baby from people if they won't give them back to me. Mama gets priority on baby-holding!
I didn't even know people refused to give back babies till I read horror stories online. Just the thought of it annoys me. I'm hoping our families' general fear of me helps us here.
I've already gotten H on board with taking baby from people if they won't give them back to me. Mama gets priority on baby-holding!
I didn't even know people refused to give back babies till I read horror stories online. Just the thought of it annoys me. I'm hoping our families' general fear of me helps us here.
Same here! I've never held a baby longer than a couple minutes without asking if mom wants them back. It's weird for people to hog them.
I haven't cleaned the litter boxes since DH and I moved in together 6 years ago. You people obviously don't train your husbands properly 😜
My H has been immunosuppressed for almost 7 years. 😞 Not that he cleaned it before then. 🤔
But he does do all the laundry so I can't complain.
MH also does all of the laundry! Although I'm still working on getting him to not put my bras in the dryer. He mostly hangs out in the basement playing video games and watching sports. So he handles the laundry while he's down there. He does the litter boxes and I do the dog poop in the yard. I don't mind doing the yard. I like wandering around outside.
I definitely hogged my son when he was born. I would get so much anxiety if he was away from me. It died down after a couple of weeks though and after a month when my family came home from work I was like take this baby noooooow!!!!
I am going to miss feeling him move and having him with me all the time. I love that at this point, I am the only person who can feel him and somehow that makes it extra special. I also am going to miss being able to drink a ton of chocolate milk and blame it on "baby wants"
Honestly, you know what I am really going to miss? The expectant mom parking spot at the grocery store. The parking lot is always SUPER crowded and sometimes you have to circle and follow people to even get a spot.
Post by sleepymonkey on Mar 1, 2017 8:45:57 GMT -5
I'm going to miss not being able to give DD (almost) all the attention she asks for. I already know I am going to have horrible STM guilt that DD is getting pushed aside or that baby boy isn't getting as much attention as DD got when she was a newborn.
I am going to miss feeling him move and having him with me all the time. I love that at this point, I am the only person who can feel him and somehow that makes it extra special. I also am going to miss being able to drink a ton of chocolate milk and blame it on "baby wants"
I missed the milk part of this on my first read and imagined you melting down chocolate to drink. Even with that visual I was nodding along.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Mar 2, 2017 17:40:26 GMT -5
I'm going to miss:
Baby movement The look of myself with my bump- it's the only time I feel cute and not just fat Maternity jeans Giving DD so much of my undivided attention The attention I get for being "the pregnant lady". I know it makes a lot of people uncomfortable, but I love it!
I'm a baby hog with other peoples babies. I wonder what I'll be like with M.
I am too but in hopes of getting E used to strangers I often passed him off at get togethers etc. Only after the first month though. The first month I was like MINE!!!!
I'm a baby hog with other peoples babies. I wonder what I'll be like with M.
I feel like this is going to be a struggle for me in the hospital. People are going to want to hold them and pass them around. But I want them. I waited for them for years, carried them inside me for 9 months. It damn well is my turn to hold them.
There was a guest speaker at our birthing class tonight and they brought their new 3 week old baby and both H and I just wanted to snuggle the baby the whole class. I seriously wonder if/how we will be able to let others hold our own baby when we didn't want to give up someone else's baby!!
I'm almost past this part already...but I'm going to miss having my own little secret. I sort of like that no one randomly on the street would know I'm growing humans at the moment. It's getting rather obvious, however, so it's not going to be a secret for long. It's been fun though!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Honestly, you won't know how you feel until baby gets here. I went through phases the first few weeks where there were hours I wanted nothing to do with baby and others where I wanted him all to myself for hours. During the former, I had no issue if someone just sat and held him for hours and only asked for him back if he was crying
Post by ThankfulSnail on Mar 3, 2017 15:41:31 GMT -5
I have always been a baby hog but FFFC I found DD exhausting. I had a mean case of the baby blues, so maybe I was different than a lot of moms.
I had no desire to hold DD from the time she was about 1 day old until she was about 3 weeks old. I enjoyed it more at that point as I was coming out of my hormonal fog, but I still welcomed it every time someone offered to hold her. I rarely asked, though, because I always felt like I was bothering people and making them think I needed them to take her.
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