Yeah I am trying to not be too mean about his accidents. I know I get frustrated because they are disgusting, like it's easy for me to be kind and understanding about pee accidents but when I have to scrape poo out of his underwear I have to try really hard to keep it together haha
My DH is wanting to talk about them to death with DS, have him take stars off his chart and stuff because in DH's mind DS knows how to poop on the potty so he should do it all the time. I try telling DH we've already talked about it when it happened, we've cleaned it up & moved on.
In our case, harping on the accident does nothing and to me, it's not worth damaging his self esteem or really making him feel badly. That doesn't mean I can't be like "ew this is yucky" and taking my time wiping it off of him.
Yeah I am trying to not be too mean about his accidents. I know I get frustrated because they are disgusting, like it's easy for me to be kind and understanding about pee accidents but when I have to scrape poo out of his underwear I have to try really hard to keep it together haha
My DH is wanting to talk about them to death with DS, have him take stars off his chart and stuff because in DH's mind DS knows how to poop on the potty so he should do it all the time. I try telling DH we've already talked about it when it happened, we've cleaned it up & moved on.
Totally understand. I don't like the way h coached ds1 through potty training, so I just took over. I find nothing positive about causing the kiddo more stress. If we think about it - 2 years old is still a baby/toddler stage. They just don't know how to control and express themselves always. They also take a lot of pride in pleasing us - so that strategy works better for me.
haykay13 DD's poops are still mushy too and she sometimes goes 3 times a day. I know that's one of the reasons I haven't pushed PT yet. The one day I did try, she pooped in her pants and it was so nasty trying to clean it up because she had refused to wear underwear. She does tell us she has to poop and I tell her let's go to the potty and she screams no. She has now started telling us her diaper is too tight when she is about to poop so I know I need to get serious.
DD poops 2-3 times a day and it's often lose but not diarrhea. She calls them "carrot poops". She likes fruits and veggies a lot, maybe that's part of it?
She doesn't have accidents often though. She also calls some "shark poops". ?!?
After posting about how DS1 had mushy poops but has been going the opposite post potty training from holding it, we had our first poop accident and it was a nasty mushy one 😷. It was during nap, we just started trying no pull-up at nap since he typically stays dry, apparently he woke up and pooped forgetting he had underwear on since he was half asleep.
Yeah I am trying to not be too mean about his accidents. I know I get frustrated because they are disgusting, like it's easy for me to be kind and understanding about pee accidents but when I have to scrape poo out of his underwear I have to try really hard to keep it together haha
My DH is wanting to talk about them to death with DS, have him take stars off his chart and stuff because in DH's mind DS knows how to poop on the potty so he should do it all the time. I try telling DH we've already talked about it when it happened, we've cleaned it up & moved on.
In our case, harping on the accident does nothing and to me, it's not worth damaging his self esteem or really making him feel badly. That doesn't mean I can't be like "ew this is yucky" and taking my time wiping it off of him.
Yes. Nagging doesn't help the situation from my observation. I also recently got a handout from my pedi and one of the tips is along those lines. If I can figure out how to get the doc on here I'll do that. Can't seem to be able to place images here.
Post by duskymonkey on Mar 12, 2017 0:28:16 GMT -5
Same here with mushy poops. We call them landslides I think it's normal and he does consume a good deal of vegetables and fruit. We are lucky though we're almost a yr into not having poopcidents! pee is a whole other story. DS typically also poops min 3x a day.
Post by duskymonkey on Mar 12, 2017 0:47:54 GMT -5
OK. So I haven't been around in a long while and been meaning to post. Not sure if it'll make some of y'll feel better but I think I was one of the first ones that started the PT process with DS. Well he still isn't PT! We've had a major regression back around November and I think it was due to him being sick. I also found out months later that after I started him and he seemed to be doing decently that my folks were pretty much taking him hourly or so, so he never had the opportunity to verbally speak up. We're usually out and about in the weekend with activities and he's usually in pull-ups and when we're out I take him to the bathrooms whererever we are instead of waiting for him to let me know if he needed to go potty. Anyways I think we started off on the wrong foot and have been battling with it since. What I dont get is that he is able to verbalize when he needs to poop - even in the middle of naps! but he wont say anything with pee. It's really frustrating. Also he doesn't pee in his pull-ups either!!?? which boggles my mind. He was able to camel it for 4 hrs back in Dec when he came along to my company xmas party. It was in this dive bar and I was too grossed out to take him to the bathroom so I said eff it - he can go in his pull-up....but when we got home he was completely dry. So it really is mind boggling. He also DGAF about rewards. We've basically used tv time as a reward which is the only thing he cares about but apparently still not enough. Anyways I keep telling myself it's only pee and it could be poop which is worse so I feel y'll about having to clean up poop. I actually wish we had started his pee training together with poop. From what I thought poop was harder so.
DS goes on the potty whenever we take him, but he absolutely will not tell us when he has to go. Basically, I'm trained but he isn't. He stays dry all day as long as I take him every couple hours.
I'm amazed at how long Eliza can hold it. I'll ask her randomly since I know she hasn't gone in awhile and she says no. So I trust her. We've only had an accident 2x at DC and they were both poop accidents. And more of her not wiping enough or having a fart that wasn't actually a fart. I can't remember the last time she had an actual wet accident. Maybe some of the m14 kiddos can hold it that long. I only make sure she goes right away in the morning and right before we leave the house. Otherwise I wait until she tells me.
It's not. We closed. Too much small town politics and "you're not from here" bullshit.
Parents were actually telling their kids to be mean (beat up, bully..you name it) to Cadey. So we moved back to the city where people are freaking normal.
It's a super long story. Including Jakob being sent to the hospital due to daycare staff abusing and neglecting him.
Is there such a thing as night potty training or do they just eventually grow out of that? We've had several mornings that she wakes up dry but nothing consistent and I just have her watch her fluid in take before bedtime.
Is there such a thing as night potty training or do they just eventually grow out of that? We've had several mornings that she wakes up dry but nothing consistent and I just have her watch her fluid in take before bedtime.
The oh crap potty training lady recommends waking your kid up in the motn and having them go while they're half awake, then put them back to bed. I prefer not to wake up in the motn unless I have to do we didn't do that. I think they eventually grow out of it as their bladder matures. My BIL & SIL waited a year after they did the 3 day potty training thing to ditch the night time diaper, but that seems long to me.
DS is consistently dry in the mornings, but I'm still nervous about ditching the diaper. We stopped diapers during nap this week though.
I honestly believe that night training is truly something they just learn on their own. They'll either hold it, or wake up and go themselves. DD1 would wake up and come get me to help her go early on. Now she just holds it all night. Eliza hasn't woken up to go potty and also we haven't had an accident (knock on wood). We ditched the diapers 2 weeks ago since she was consistently dry. But I'm noticing she is also one to be able to hold it for a really long time.
I honestly believe that night training is truly something they just learn on their own. They'll either hold it, or wake up and go themselves. DD1 would wake up and come get me to help her go early on. Now she just holds it all night. Eliza hasn't woken up to go potty and also we haven't had an accident (knock on wood). We ditched the diapers 2 weeks ago since she was consistently dry. But I'm noticing she is also one to be able to hold it for a really long time.
Maybe we'll ditch the diapers soon. My DS holds it for a long time and always waits to pee on the toilet in the morning even if he comes to cuddle in our bed for 30mins or so in the mornings. I feel wasteful throwing away dry diapers every day. I was reusing them, but DH said that's like putting DS in dirty underwear so I stopped lol
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