@preppy more deets on the workout please (name or link, etc.) I am hoping to start 21 day fix again next week but I'm afraid it's going to kick my butt and may need something easier.
I'm doing this 6 week online program right now. I've only done days 1 and 2 but so far so good. The workouts are quick which is necessary!
Post by musicallyinclined on Mar 7, 2017 13:35:07 GMT -5
MH is getting pretty desperate. My sex drive is non existent. He has been better this time than with DS1, but still. Not sleeping, nursing a baby, and having a 2 year old isn't exactly giving me the energy. I also still have stitches healing too. Blergh. DH is so excited about my PP doctor's visit, it's this Thursday.
We are about to get in the car to go home from my parents. Here's hoping it goes as well as the ride here went.
My H has also been dropping sex hints but BJs are the only remote possibility for him right now and he knows it. Lol, I am not even 2 weeks out from baby's birth so he knows that it's a big fat no right now.
I am actually kind of looking forward to feeling normal enough to have sex again, if that makes sense. I haven't felt any desire in so long (like throughout this whole pregnancy), and I am stoked to start that party up again. Hopefully everything gets into working order again, lol.
I can't wait to have sex. I've already stared getting dreams again. I cut DH's hair yesterday and the man looks good.
Also, I've definitely given him 2 bjs already...
I just really like sex and have no self control...
I want to start having sex as well. I only had one small tear and haven't had any pain/issues in 3 weeks but DH said no go until my 6 week visit. It seems so far away!
I'm also ready to have sex again. it's been way too long - like months and months. I felt like complete crap during this pregnancy. and now my sex drive is back!
I'm only 3 weeks pp. But add is not even on my radar and the thought of it is a little scary. I'm sure it will be well past my 6 week appointment before I'm ready.
LO had his first 3.5 stretch between feedings last night, so that was existing.
I can't wait to have sex. I've already stared getting dreams again. I cut DH's hair yesterday and the man looks good.
Also, I've definitely given him 2 bjs already...
I just really like sex and have no self control...
I want to want to if they makes sense. I miss it desperately. But I just have no drive and haven't for so long... 😟
I'm in your camp, shaf. I almost never initiate because I'm so rarely in that frame of mind. I usually have to make myself do it because then once we're in the swing of it, I'm loving life. It's like making myself take a shower then once I'm in I don't want to get out.
DH has been getting HJs and BJs because he gets so testy otherwise. It's like a pressure release valve I have to maintain to prevent man-trums.
Ok, so real talk from all you STM+ folks out there - just how uncomfortable, awkward, painful was your first time PP?
Quite painful actually :/ . It kind of felt like he was caught on something that kept tugging. It lasted quite a bit longer than I thought it would too. I hope that's not the case again but it happened to me with both of my girls. Most times I had to make him stop and finish another way because I could handle it for very long.
Ok, so real talk from all you STM+ folks out there - just how uncomfortable, awkward, painful was your first time PP?
Last time around, the first time was painful for me, even with taking it slow. I had a 3rd degree tear last time though. The first few times were uncomfortable. It wasn't till like 8 weeks post partum and a few attempts that I felt almost normal with it.
Use ALL the lube and schedule a long date so that baby doesn't interrupt your groove.
Also keep in mind that you don't have to have sex just because you were cleared to do so. Wait until you are ready. I went for it at 6 weeks last time but I wasn't ready then. I think I would have saved myself some grief if I had waited until I was ready instead of pushing myself.
Every person is going to be unique in their post partum needs
Ok, so real talk from all you STM+ folks out there - just how uncomfortable, awkward, painful was your first time PP?
Honestly, not that awkward. I was really in the mood, and we used lots of lube/went slow so it wasn't painful. I mean, sure, it's a bit uncomfortable, but I'm ready. I miss non-pregnant sex so bad!
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Ok, so real talk from all you STM+ folks out there - just how uncomfortable, awkward, painful was your first time PP?
It wasn't uncomfortable at all and I enjoyed it. I waited till 7 weeks pp and had a 3rd degree tear and pushed for 3.5 hours with #1. I think my positive experience last time is why I am ready now.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Mar 7, 2017 16:00:06 GMT -5
I should clarify. I can't wait to have sex, but I am nervous it'll hurt. I have second degree tears in three places and it can still be uncomfortable (though not outright painful anymore).
I just miss sex. Hopefully we'll go slow and it won't hurt so bad.
I'm also worried now that I've pushed out a baby, it'll be like a hotdog down a hallway. Is that a thing, or do your parts really go back to normal size in the weeks PP?
I should clarify. I can't wait to have sex, but I am nervous it'll hurt. I have second degree tears in three places and it can still be uncomfortable (though not outright painful anymore).
I just miss sex. Hopefully we'll go slow and it won't hurt so bad.
I'm also worried now that I've pushed out a baby, it'll be like a hotdog down a hallway. Is that a thing, or do your parts really go back to normal size in the weeks PP?
They completely go back. My husband promised me it felt the same, lol.
Ok, so real talk from all you STM+ folks out there - just how uncomfortable, awkward, painful was your first time PP?
It was kind of uncomfortable, at least for a few weeks. Definitely use lube and go slow, and maybe don't worry if it doesn't feel exactly the same at first. You'll get there.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Mar 7, 2017 17:01:52 GMT -5
Well, Clara has gained an ounce.... we have a weight check in 2 weeks, but our dr wasn't concerned. He said she's headed in the right direction and is only 4 days old. Hopefully she hits her birth weight by 2 weeks!
Post by flyinghorses6 on Mar 7, 2017 17:17:06 GMT -5
dancerspose I had a 2nd degree tear and a hematoma and we had sex right around 6 weeks pp once cleared by the Doc - it honestly killed me. Like I couldn't do it. It took me a month or two to not have pain. And honestly I didn't really enjoy it (like usual) until I was done breastfeeding--like 7/8 months pp. I think a big part of me was having body image problems before then as well. I did not feel sexy at all.
loves2shop4shoes once things were enjoyable and "normal" again I didn't feel a difference from before, DH has no complaints...he says it's the same.....so no--no hot dog issues.
loves2shop4shoes it goes back to normal, promise. I have heard people say the hot dog thing before but it is borne of ignorance. Vaginas can do amazing things.
I have my 6 week check in Friday and even if I'm cleared no way on sex...momma needs sleep over sex and so does DH at this point in the game. But add me to the wants to but doesn't since after LO1 it wasn't comfortable for a while.
Also wondering about my incision. The ends still kind of are there...like not painful but felt if that makes sense.
I'm in the ready to have sex group. I was like that after DD too.
I think I have some nerve damage from the epideral. My butt is still semi numb and it gets so painful while sitting. Hopefully it goes away soon. It's annoying af.
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