onesweetworld - I think all first-time parents freak out at least a little! It's a brand-new world. You've got this! You are already much more prepared than the majority of new parents. They aren't doing research, or talking to people online and in real life to understand what's coming their way.
H has agreed to going to birth class if we left before the breathing exercises. I agreed. Also we are going to smash burger first.
He really doesn't like the breathing part, huh?
We're doing a one-day (all day) class because H can't commit to a weekly one (due to being on call, surgeries go long, etc). Will be interesting to see if he gets fidgety. But it's called "Kick Ass Birth" so we're already amused.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Mar 7, 2017 11:54:42 GMT -5
onesweetworld, I skimmed the last few pages so maybe I missed something, but why is your H refusing to stay for the breathing exercises? He realizes it is for you and not for him, right?
onesweetworld - I think all first-time parents freak out at least a little! It's a brand-new world. You've got this! You are already much more prepared than the majority of new parents. They aren't doing research, or talking to people online and in real life to understand what's coming their way.
I just don't do well with the unexpected. Too much unknown. I can handle everything after the birth but not having any control over the birth and when has me freaking right out.
onesweetworld, I skimmed the last few pages so maybe I missed something, but why is your H refusing to stay for the breathing exercises? He realizes it is for you and not for him, right?
H has agreed to going to birth class if we left before the breathing exercises. I agreed. Also we are going to smash burger first.
Eh, your nurses will be able to coach you when you get to the hospital.
I wanted to punch mine every time she told me to breathe. I found it easier to focus if I breathed really, really slow instead of following what they teach (you can always YouTube instructions)
H has agreed to going to birth class if we left before the breathing exercises. I agreed. Also we are going to smash burger first.
He really doesn't like the breathing part, huh?
We're doing a one-day (all day) class because H can't commit to a weekly one (due to being on call, surgeries go long, etc). Will be interesting to see if he gets fidgety. But it's called "Kick Ass Birth" so we're already amused.
Lol. We couldn't get in to the all day class so I signed up for two 4 hour classes. He just likes to be home for bedtime.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Mar 7, 2017 11:57:49 GMT -5
onesweetworld, glad he agreed to go in the end. My birth class did not have breathing exercises but like hpnegirl said, the nurses helped me with that when I got there. It would have been nice to have something I was familiar with to do before I got to the hospital, though.
H has agreed to going to birth class if we left before the breathing exercises. I agreed. Also we are going to smash burger first.
Eh, your nurses will be able to coach you when you get to the hospital.
I wanted to punch mine every time she told me to breathe. I found it easier to focus if I breathed really, really slow instead of following what they teach (you can always YouTube instructions)
One of my best friends teaches yoga so I'm pretty good with breathing. Not worried about missing that part of the class. She even said last week people could leave if they didn't buy into the breathing crap lol
onesweetworld - I think all first-time parents freak out at least a little! It's a brand-new world. You've got this! You are already much more prepared than the majority of new parents. They aren't doing research, or talking to people online and in real life to understand what's coming their way.
I just don't do well with the unexpected. Too much unknown. I can handle everything after the birth but not having any control over the birth and when has me freaking right out.
I'm a control freak by nature so I've been working diligently on getting my mind in the right spot for birth and also all the unknowns about our kid's personality. It's definitely a struggle. Knowing the details of all the birth stages and as all the more likely possibilities helps me. But if something goes haywire and we're in the realm of something completely unexpected, it would be super rough.
I just don't do well with the unexpected. Too much unknown. I can handle everything after the birth but not having any control over the birth and when has me freaking right out.
I'm a control freak by nature so I've been working diligently on getting my mind in the right spot for birth and also all the unknowns about our kid's personality. It's definitely a struggle. Knowing the details of all the birth stages and as all the more likely possibilities helps me. But if something goes haywire and we're in the realm of something completely unexpected, it would be super rough.
I totally pretend like I don't care and she will come however she wants to but I do care. I hate not knowing.
onesweetworld - I think all first-time parents freak out at least a little! It's a brand-new world. You've got this! You are already much more prepared than the majority of new parents. They aren't doing research, or talking to people online and in real life to understand what's coming their way.
I just don't do well with the unexpected. Too much unknown. I can handle everything after the birth but not having any control over the birth and when has me freaking right out.
It's hard, but do what you can to let go of that fear.
Personally, my goal was for us to both walk as healthy as possible. That's all I wanted. Only having that goal in mind made it easier to accept that the situation was out of my control and that I had to trust my doctor and staff to do what they needed to do to get that goal (well, he obviously wasn't walking but you know what I mean). I had wishes for how I wanted things to go, but I knew that I may not get them and that it would still be okay if I didn't.
Eh, your nurses will be able to coach you when you get to the hospital.
I wanted to punch mine every time she told me to breathe. I found it easier to focus if I breathed really, really slow instead of following what they teach (you can always YouTube instructions)
One of my best friends teaches yoga so I'm pretty good with breathing. Not worried about missing that part of the class. She even said last week people could leave if they didn't buy into the breathing crap lol
I will never forget one moment of my birth with E.
I am freaking out losing my breath, and my BFF who was the one that went to the classes with me grabs face, stares intently and says "Look at me! now breathe!!" and it was like she had slapped me and brought me back into myself. Good times. Also the NO2 if they have it can really help you catch your breath.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Mar 7, 2017 12:26:21 GMT -5
I wish I had this many STMs' advice to read before I had DD. My expectations of labor were so unrealistic. I thought I would get checked in, get an epidural and have no pain whatsoever for the rest of the process. I had no coping mechanisms prepared at all in case things didn't go exactly that way. Hopefully some of the things I'm hearing about from you ladies and reading in childbirth books will stick and I'll manage better this time.
I feel like the mom who showed up to give birth without doing any homework.
H and I didn't go to a childbirth class. My water broke in the car on the way home from my 40w6d OB appointment, thanks to the most aggressive membrane sweep ever. We got to L&D and I was 4cm when I was checked in. Epi was placed not even an hour later, but I swear that hour was like some Exorcist-type shit (I am bowing down to every natural birth mama ever). Then it was like a party fun time. Literally hanging out and taking naps until I was fully dilated.
Then things got fun. My 9lb 4 oz cherub was sunny side up and I tried to push her out from 2:30 in the morning until 9:17am. Yeah, 7 hours of pushing. Didn't expect that.
My MWs were awesome and coached me through whatever I needed to do at a given time. My H was great, but of no real help because he's a dude AND slightly skeeved out with medical things.
DD was born with vacuum assist, on my last push before the OR was prepped for a CS, and I both had an episiotomy and a 4th degree tear. And I gave no fucks after, like - OMG LOOK AT THIS BABY WOW SHE'S BEAUTIFUL! CAN SOMEONE GET ME A SANDWICH?
Long winded point being - I was super unprepared for any of the stuff that happened with my kid's birth, but it all turned out ok. The L&D staff will guide through every step of the way and they are open and upfront and honest with you about what to expect and when to expect it and at communicating what your options are and what you would like your choices to be.
I wish I had this many STMs' advice to read before I had DD. My expectations of labor were so unrealistic. I thought I would get checked in, get an epidural and have no pain whatsoever for the rest of the process. I had no coping mechanisms prepared at all in case things didn't go exactly that way. Hopefully some of the things I'm hearing about from you ladies and reading in childbirth books will stick and I'll manage better this time.
I wish I had this many STMs' advice to read before I had DD. My expectations of labor were so unrealistic. I thought I would get checked in, get an epidural and have no pain whatsoever for the rest of the process. I had no coping mechanisms prepared at all in case things didn't go exactly that way. Hopefully some of the things I'm hearing about from you ladies and reading in childbirth books will stick and I'll manage better this time.
+1. I had to beg for the epidural because my ob didn't want to give it to me when I was only 4cm dilated and had stopped progressing. I thought they would give me the epi as soon as I wanted it. Of course I also thought I would have normal contractions and didn't realize that I could have constant intense pain/pressure because DD's head was pressing on something in my back. I was not prepared at all for all the different ways labor could go. I also wasn't prepared for the intense pain I felt the first time getting up after having a c-section. I'm hoping I'll be better prepared this time to manage that pain and not wait too long to request pain meds!
sleepymonkey I also wasn't expecting the constant pain either. I thought my contractions would just follow the 5-1-1 they teach and I could rest between them. Hahaha. I couldn't have been more wrong on that one...
I did know going in that I would have to wait at least an hour post admittance for an epidural because you have to complete at least one bag of IV fluids and then wait on the anesthesiologist to show up
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