We'll call my parents when I'm in labor so they can start making plans to get down here. I don't mind if H tells my MIL, as I believe she'll respect our wishes (no out of town visitors besides my parents and sister till a month after birth). But I worry my FIL will be difficult. He still doesn't know the 1 month rule because H has been putting off calling him, and I keep expecting a message saying he already has plane tickets.
I have no control when it comes to news, so everyone knows what we're having, and the name. I expected some backlash because the name isn't common, but everyone has loved it.
We'll call my parents when I'm in labor so they can start making plans to get down here. I don't mind if H tells my MIL, as I believe she'll respect our wishes (no out of town visitors besides my parents and sister till a month after birth). But I worry my FIL will be difficult. He still doesn't know the 1 month rule because H has been putting off calling him, and I keep expecting a message saying he already has plane tickets.
I have no control when it comes to news, so everyone knows what we're having, and the name. I expected some backlash because the name isn't common, but everyone has loved it.
We'll call my parents when I'm in labor so they can start making plans to get down here. I don't mind if H tells my MIL, as I believe she'll respect our wishes (no out of town visitors besides my parents and sister till a month after birth). But I worry my FIL will be difficult. He still doesn't know the 1 month rule because H has been putting off calling him, and I keep expecting a message saying he already has plane tickets.
I have no control when it comes to news, so everyone knows what we're having, and the name. I expected some backlash because the name isn't common, but everyone has loved it.
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Post by easilyunamused on Mar 8, 2017 20:45:46 GMT -5
I went to grab a bottle of sparkling French berry lemonade out of the fridge and couldn't find it. Asked MH if he finished it off and he swore he didn't. I remembered I had some a couple days ago, and so we started searching the kitchen for it.
It was sitting in the cupboard next to the wine glasses. 🙈 Whoops!
No one waited around for us, thankfully, but when I was whisked away for an emergency c-section and H was left alone in the delivery room unsure of what the hell just happened, he immediately started calling both sets of parents, who rushed over. MIL and H were in the recovery room with DD when I got brought in. Then because it was like 4:30am and we were the only ones there they let in all the parents, who passed baby around the whole time. I did not get to do skin to skin or breastfeeding. I absolutely regret having everyone in there. After I left recovery I was so exhausted from 33+ hours of labor and surgery plus all the drugs that I passed the fuck out immediately. I have no clue how many hours I slept, but I did not get to hold my baby really until after I woke up.
If I had to do that all over again I'd have a hard and fast rule of nurses will kick you out, so don't bother showing up.
Post by onesweetworld on Mar 8, 2017 20:47:24 GMT -5
After a lot of driving and 13 hours of being out of the house, I'm home and stretched out on my couch. I was going to watch a few episodes of suits because I got hooked yesterday but I grabbed one of the baby books that I should probably start reading. It's just nice to not be sitting and to be able to stretch out.
Ugh my headaches are back. I could barely work this afternoon. MH just made me a smoothie and I think it's helping...but...ugh!! I have a super busy day tomorrow so I really hope it's gone by then!
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Post by onesweetworld on Mar 8, 2017 20:51:37 GMT -5
Maybe I'm an odd duck but I really want my mom there. Idk about through delivery yet but I'm sure I won't care come the time of. I also want a friend there but I need someone like me to be there that knows what to do/say. Idk if MIL can handle it but if she'd like to be there, that's fine too!
Ugh my headaches are back. I could barely work this afternoon. MH just made me a smoothie and I think it's helping...but...ugh!! I have a super busy day tomorrow so I really hope it's gone by then!
Ugh my headaches are back. I could barely work this afternoon. MH just made me a smoothie and I think it's helping...but...ugh!! I have a super busy day tomorrow so I really hope it's gone by then!
Oh no! Not more headaches. Can you sleep!?
I took a nap earlier and I swear made it worse! I wake up almost every morning with one but it goes away pretty quickly. Today's just came back with a vengeance late in the day. My teeth are super sensitive today too, it all feels connected somehow.
TTC since July 2014. CP March 2015. IVF #1 March 2016, 5R, 3M, 2F with ICSI. Transferred 2 on day 3. CP. Surprise BFP and then CP August 2016 (prep cycle for IVF). IVF #2: zero eggs retrieved IVF #3: 6R, 5M, 5F, 3 (2 8A and 1 11A) transferred, one "B" graded embryo frozen on day 5. BFP (at home 7dp3dt, confirmed 14dp3dt with 1552 beta) and U/S at 5w5d, 2 sacs and 2 yolks!
Post by ladytiffany24 on Mar 8, 2017 20:54:34 GMT -5
My husband is annoying me. So, we're doing a Disney trip while I'm on maternity leave and baby boy will only be between 6-8 weeks old. Anyways, my IL's are in Tampa and will likely come over on the day we don't go to a park to hang out with us at the pool at our hotel. Now all of the sudden MIL is trying to talk like they'll come stay a couple days and she thinks she's going to watch DS while we go to one of the parks.
First of all, H and I talked ahead of time about how we don't want this to turn into a trip where his parents tag along the whole time. I told him to make sure they understood that. He did not. We want this to be our little family vacation and enjoy it on our own. And then we'll see them for a day.
Second of all, his mom is scheduled to have knee surgery on my due date March 30th so she'll only be 6-8 weeks out from that surgery when we're down there. DNW her healing her knee trying to care for my tiny baby. I realize he'll just be sleeping and pooping but still. Just no. I don't really trust her alone even with my 2.5 year old let alone a tiny baby.
Third, I plan to breastfeed again and I'm not sure how much baby will be taking bottles yet by that time if at all. I'm not going to start pumping just so she can watch the baby for a day.
Anyways, I laid my foot down with her today and let her know that he'll still be too young and I wasn't sure how much bottle feeding he'd be doing by then but thanked her for the offer. I read h the text I sent her and he thought it sounded harsh. It wasn't harsh.
And also, for those of you wondering, no, she wasn't doing it to be nice and try to give us a break from baby boy. Shes incredibly manipulative and passive aggressive.
I took a nap earlier and I swear made it worse! I wake up almost every morning with one but it goes away pretty quickly. Today's just came back with a vengeance late in the day. My teeth are super sensitive today too, it all feels connected somehow.
That's so strange...do you think it's allergy related or blood sugar related?
If my mom really wanted to be in the delivery room, I'd probably let her. But she has no desire, and I'll have H and the doula, so I think we're set. MIL hasn't said anything and I doubt she'd want to be, thank god. I think birth should be whatever the parents want—whether that's just the two of them, or a revolving crowd of various friends/family.
To be fair, I say "parents" but I'd probably blackout in rage if H tried to force me into someone being there I wasn't comfortable with. When he gives birth then he can have whoever he likes.
Post by onesweetworld on Mar 8, 2017 21:48:33 GMT -5
I agree icedtea. MH says he doesn't care but I think in the moment he will care. I think he would be less emotional and less connected if his mom is in the room. Idk how much emotion he will show with my mom either.
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