Post by piperhalliwell on Mar 9, 2017 9:57:27 GMT -5
Yesterday was SS's birthday and I still feel full from burgers and ice cream cupcakes, haha. After his party on Saturday I have to get back into my strict diet, but I'm enjoying getting to eat like a normal American while it lasts.
Just working today and need to finalize plans for the party. We've only had one kid RSVP and I feel so bad about it. Like, I seriously considered posting on the local mom's Facebook page that anyone with kids around his age can come join us if they send me a PM. I'm not going to do that, but I really hope some people show up without RSVPing. I'd rather have that inconvenience than have only one of eight invited friends there. I'm worried about SS's social skills and friend making abilities. I realized when we were working on his party invitations that he's been invited to one birthday party in his 4 years of elementary school. It makes me so sad to think others don't want him around, but his teacher always tells us he gets along with everyone so I don't know what the deal is. Word vomit. Parenting is hard.
Morning! I just dropped H at preschool and got a coffee from Starbucks. The new cinnamon, almond milk macchiato is so good. My sister dropped off my nephew because she has to be at a work training today. So I'm planning a pretty low key day at home.
I'm exhausted. Lately DD has been waking up around 1:30/2, until 3 or 4. Last night it was 4. She has a cold, and hasn't been eating much throughout the day. So at 2am, she has the munchies. She seems to be feeling a bit better today so hopefully I can get her tummy full enough to sleep tonight.
I drove out to the beach town this morning. I kind of wanted to go for a walk with the kids on the beach, just to look out at the frozen water. But the beach was closed off. It was a nice drive out there though.
Post by rivers and roads on Mar 9, 2017 10:23:50 GMT -5
piperhalliwell,, that's tricky. I feel (and hope!) RSVP'ing is a lost art and that people are planning to show up. Boys and their "friendships" at that age are hard because it's so based on whoever-will-play-what-i-want-right-now. Does he have friends it seems like he interacts with more than others? Maybe reach out to those parents just to check in for an RSVP. It might jog their memory about the party and encourage them to come!
FWIW, I've actually seen many moms post similar things in my local moms group. They always get a decent response!
Post by rivers and roads on Mar 9, 2017 10:31:07 GMT -5
piperhalliwell, ALSO (sorry, I'm thinking about this a lot. Teacher me is coming out because lonely kids make my heart hurt)- there's a difference between "getting along well with everyone" and actually building relationships. If you are concerned as parents, maybe you could reach out to the guidance counselor at school? There might already be some type of social skills building group he could join. The GC would have some other ideas to help his social skills. Maybe there's some confidence issues (stemming from years in speech?) holding him back from putting himself out there more?
This is the kind of stuff GC's love to do. They'd probably have more insight and advice!
piperhalliwell I'm sorry, that sounds like a tricky stage to get through! I do think so many people just blow past RSVP'ing, so hopefully plenty of people will show up regardless of that. Can you shoot a Facebook message out to the parents of those you invited? A lot of our friends with kids (although 4-5 year olds) have just been doing a Facebook event as the invite and leaving it at that. Perhaps it will give them a reminder and maybe you'll hear word on there?
Ugh, I'm in that stage where I need some new shirts for DD, but everything out is so summery and we still need some long sleeve for awhile yet. I feel like I always get into this predicament before seasons change but stores have fully converted over to the next. I hope I can find some long sleeve this weekend. She has plenty of pants but her shirts are dwindling as she's outgrown many of them.
Well, we finally hit the first month that I had to move money over from our savings to make ends meet. Our cushion is gone. So, I guess it's time I find a way to make some money, since it doesn't appear my H will get a raise or move offices any time soon. I found a part time (10 hours/week) bookkeeping position in town that I'm going to call about. And I found an ad for a part time on call nanny needed, so I sent a message to the mom about that. And I'll get my thing in for that Rev transcription thing this week. Bah, adulting sucks.
Post by rivers and roads on Mar 9, 2017 11:42:17 GMT -5
tkford216, we're feeling the financial strain more these days too. I interviewed and was offered TWO jobs in the past month, but part-time pay in education is such crap and childcare is so damn expensive. It basically was going to break even. I had to turn both down.
(I quit that nannying job. It actually worked out perfectly. The mom was trying to convince her boss to work part time (she was supposed to ease back into full time after her mat. leave but hired me with the assumption she'd be working PT long term). Her boss said "full time or no time." So she needed full time care. She asked me if I wanted it, but NOPE. It was an easy way to get out of that without any hurt feelings (newborn + 12 month old = no good for me).
Post by piperhalliwell on Mar 9, 2017 11:55:11 GMT -5
Thanks for the suggestions rivers and roads and chocolate. The biggest problem is I have no way of reaching out to the parents of these kids as we don't actually know them or have their contact info. They are just kids in his class that he plays with at school. I thought about asking the teacher to send an email for me, but decided against it as I don't want to put more work on her for something non-school related.
Honestly, I don't think the issue is confidence or not putting himself out there. I think it is that he thinks everyone is his friend because they play on the playground but he doesn't have actual deeper relationships with any one kid. I'm trying not to blame myself and DH, but I feel like we've somehow done him a disservice by not having friends with kids his age and not doing the most to set up outside of school play dates. I think I just thought relationships would develop in school and he would start asking us to have people over at some point, but that hasn't happened. I'm also very concerned about how his ADHD might be affecting these relationships. At taekwondo last week DH witnessed SS and another kid goofing off. The other kid decided he was done playing, but SS kept trying to engage him. Finally the kid turned to SS and yelled "Stop it! You're always so annoying!" I'm so sad to think that the kindhearted, sweet little boy I know may be seen as an annoyance among his peers and that's why they don't come/don't invite him.
I'm just praying the one kid who RSVP'd doesn't have any last minute issues and shows up. Hopefully with some non-RSVPing kids, too. I think I'll see how SS and this kid interact for the first bit of the party and if it's going well ask his dad for their contact info so we can get them together in the future. I do think I'm going to start pressing the school more about this issue, too, and maybe get in touch with the GC like rivers suggested. I've had concerns since Kindergarten and am always told "he's a social butterfly," but I want them to tell me how other kids react to him more than how he acts at this point.
Thank you for reading my text wall. I've been thinking about this nonstop for a week and a half now.
Ugh, I'm in that stage where I need some new shirts for DD, but everything out is so summery and we still need some long sleeve for awhile yet. I feel like I always get into this predicament before seasons change but stores have fully converted over to the next. I hope I can find some long sleeve this weekend. She has plenty of pants but her shirts are dwindling as she's outgrown many of them.
The good thing about that is all the long sleeves are on sale. Check gap, they had a bunch on clearance when I was at the store on Tuesday. Carters probably has quite a bit too.
Post by swivelchair5 on Mar 9, 2017 12:22:52 GMT -5
I had my GYN appointment this week to talk about switching birth control, so DH and I had to have the talk about if and when we are going to try for another. We ended on we will start NTNP sometime in the next 2 to 8 months. I have no idea how we ended on that time frame, but I am excited and terrified about this plan.
Anyways my appointment was yesterday and after a vag-cam and exam, it was determined that there is no physical reason I am having mid-cycle bleeding, so it is probably just related to hormone levels. And since I might stop birth control in the next few months, my doctor recommended I just continue with the BCP, since it is being effective in preventing pregnancy, and just deal with the spotting until I am ready to stop taking it. My doctor was super excited when I told her we might be trying. I think she wants to get another look at my weird uterus.
piperhalliwell That is so hard. I really hope other kids show up. My totally unsolicited advice- I would try and find the other parents' contact info somehow. It might just be that the parents don't want to send their kids to someone's house if they don't know them very well. Just my .02. Your SS sounds like a sweet kiddo; this age is so hard for parenting.
piperhalliwell That is so hard. I really hope other kids show up. My totally unsolicited advice- I would try and find the other parents' contact info somehow. It might just be that the parents don't want to send their kids to someone's house if they don't know them very well. Just my .02. Your SS sounds like a sweet kiddo; this age is so hard for parenting.
Thanks for the advice. The party is at the local science museum so I thought that would actually be a reason for kids to want to come! I'll see what I can do about contact info, but not sure if the teacher is allowed to provide it and SS is spacey and doesn't even know half of the kids' last names for me to internet dig, haha.
trtlcrzy Any change in O today? I've been thinking about him and your sis so much.
My sister said they were taking him back into the OR at 12 (4 hours ago) to clean out his chest cavity and possibly repair his asd (heart defect). I texted her about half hour ago and she hasn't responded.
And right after I posted that she texted me back. They haven't even started his surgery because the surgeon got stuck in another case and hasn't finished.
And right after I posted that she texted me back. They haven't even started his surgery because the surgeon got stuck in another case and hasn't finished.
Oh boo. I hope it goes smoothly and he handles it well.
R only had 2 teeth on bottom at her 1st bday. Since then, she got the 4 teeth on top and has cut one molar. It's been a rough month. Still only 2 teeth on bottom though.
Post by piperhalliwell on Mar 9, 2017 22:29:18 GMT -5
SS went out with his grandparents (mom's parents) tonight and they didn't bring him back until 9:45pm and had him positively jacked up on sugar. I am livid. This is the second week in a row they've done this on a school night. We're trying to be nice by allowing them a weekly dinner, but I have a feeling DH is going to seriously reconsider if it's a good idea to continue considering they have no respect for limits and bedtime.
Ugh piperhalliwell I'm sorry For parenting stress all around. You guys are doing a great job. It's hard when your heart hurts for your kids, even when they aren't really aware of the issue. Hugs to you.
I was so damn tired this morning that I crawled into bed after work and was asleep in under a minute. Occasional night shifts get to me. But I'm off until Monday so YAY! Also, tomorrow is "Lunch with a Ninja Turtle" and C is going to lose his f-ing mind. I'm so excited for him.
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