Post by springbeduk on Mar 9, 2017 19:19:15 GMT -5
Just in case ...(though we aren't usually too big on triggers here)... Trigger warning for discussion of probable pregnancy loss & probable termination for medical reasons.
I don't want to keep bringing down the pregnancy thread especially when there's lots of more happy updates and discussions that should be going there, but the kind thoughts and support from you all have been really helpful so I wanted to update and share what's going on.
Basically, we are now waiting two weeks for an amnio (test in 1 1/2 weeks if everything is in an OK position; results would be 2 weeks from today; I'll be at 16 weeks at that point) to be absolutely sure before making a final decision.
So, limbo. With probably not a happy outcome. I've been exhausted (from all this plus school is crazy busy this week) and falling asleep early so that's why haven't been posting the last few days.
Long detailed version:
The ultrasound we had Friday was not good, and we were thinking that was it, but then over the weekend I was having questions because there were some things I'd expected to be found abnormal if the baby has trisomy 13 that didn't seem to have been. I know it's still 95% sure that he does have t13, but I have to be 100% sure. So then on Monday we went down to Portland to get a CVS. The doctor who had looked at the ultrasound had said he could do it then though it's a bit later than they usually do them because the placenta is anterior. But, then actually my intestines and bladder were in the way do they couldn't do it after all and the trip was pretty much a waste of time. Other than a bonus visit to trader Joe's.
So now I have to hope that my uterus expands enough to push those organs out of the way in the next 11 days so that we don't have to wait even longer for the amnio. while also really hoping I don't start more obviously showing or have to switch to maternity pants.
And also scared that I will start feeling movement in the next 2 weeks since that will make everything harder.
At least for the amnio we are set up to get an ultrasound closer to home first thing that morning to make sure that organs are in an OK position for the test before we drive all the way to Portland.
I was doing pretty OK for a few days, other than just being do much sleepier in the evening than usual, but then this afternoon was in a committee meeting with people from other schools and right at the beginning one of them announced she is pregnant (first baby) and due in September probably a week or do after my due date. I'm totally happy for her and she will be a great mom, but the September due date just hit me really hard and I had to run to the bathroom and cry for a while and am really still back to being a teary mess like I was over the weekend. So ... That's where I'm at.
I also still need to find out whether my insurance will cover the termination if the diagnosis is confirmed, and I really need to get on that, but ... Yuck.
I really do appreciate the kind comments and positive thoughts you all have posted, though i haven't been getting to posting to say so. Thank you for all the support. And for the distracting entertainment of posts in all the other threads.
I don't want to keep bringing down the pregnancy thread especially when there's lots of more happy updates and discussions that should be going there, but the kind thoughts and support from you all have been really helpful so I wanted to update and share what's going on.
Basically, we are now waiting two weeks for an amnio (test in 1 1/2 weeks if everything is in an OK position; results would be 2 weeks from today; I'll be at 16 weeks at that point) to be absolutely sure before making a final decision.
So, limbo. With probably not a happy outcome. I've been exhausted (from all this plus school is crazy busy this week) and falling asleep early so that's why haven't been posting the last few days.
Long detailed version:
The ultrasound we had Friday was not good, and we were thinking that was it, but then over the weekend I was having questions because there were some things I'd expected to be found abnormal if the baby has trisomy 13 that didn't seem to have been. I know it's still 95% sure that he does have t13, but I have to be 100% sure. So then on Monday we went down to Portland to get a CVS. The doctor who had looked at the ultrasound had said he could do it then though it's a bit later than they usually do them because the placenta is anterior. But, then actually my intestines and bladder were in the way do they couldn't do it after all and the trip was pretty much a waste of time. Other than a bonus visit to trader Joe's.
So now I have to hope that my uterus expands enough to push those organs out of the way in the next 11 days so that we don't have to wait even longer for the amnio. while also really hoping I don't start more obviously showing or have to switch to maternity pants.
And also scared that I will start feeling movement in the next 2 weeks since that will make everything harder.
At least for the amnio we are set up to get an ultrasound closer to home first thing that morning to make sure that organs are in an OK position for the test before we drive all the way to Portland.
I was doing pretty OK for a few days, other than just being do much sleepier in the evening than usual, but then this afternoon was in a committee meeting with people from other schools and right at the beginning one of them announced she is pregnant (first baby) and due in September probably a week or do after my due date. I'm totally happy for her and she will be a great mom, but the September due date just hit me really hard and I had to run to the bathroom and cry for a while and am really still back to being a teary mess like I was over the weekend. So ... That's where I'm at.
I also still need to find out whether my insurance will cover the termination if the diagnosis is confirmed, and I really need to get on that, but ... Yuck.
I really do appreciate the kind comments and positive thoughts you all have posted, though i haven't been getting to posting to say so. Thank you for all the support. And for the distracting entertainment of posts in all the other threads.