A finally let me put her down and of course I can't sleep now. As soon as I lay down my mind started racing about everything I should be doing and what all I have going on this week. Get yo life right body
I was exactly the same with my first. This time around I am like: *Puts baby down* zzzzzzZZZZZZZZZ........
it's normal to spiral out on that stuff when baby finally goes down, but I hope you can make like Elsa and let it gooooooo.
corinne It took about 16 hours from start of pitocin to the birth of DS. I had pitocin with DD when my water broke, and that labor was shorter, around 11 hours. So much for second kid being faster. We went straight to pitocin both times, so I don't know about other methods.
A finally let me put her down and of course I can't sleep now. As soon as I lay down my mind started racing about everything I should be doing and what all I have going on this week. Get yo life right body
I was exactly the same with my first. This time around I am like: *Puts baby down* zzzzzzZZZZZZZZZ........
it's normal to spiral out on that stuff when baby finally goes down, but I hope you can make like Elsa and let it gooooooo.
corinne my water broke, but my cervix was closed. (If previously been told I was st 1 cm, so honestly not sure) We moved straight to pitocin. DD was born 19 (largely uneventful) hours later. I didn't find the contractions particularly painful, but have nothing to compare them too. There was one 10 minute period when I was in a LOT of pain, but more epidural medication solved that.
We're Team NoPaci if we can help it over here. DS wouldnt take one and it ended up being a blessing in disguise.
Does the paci get annoying? DD doesn't really cry, but I feel like she is more relaxed with it so I've been giving it to her. She's like a "quieter" sleeper with it....however, if this is going to get difficult as she gets older, I will just stop giving it to her.
That sucks they don't seem to realize your biggest need obi. I feel your pain on high energy toddlers and diaper changes, DS is ridiculous with running away from me then fighting me once I actually do get him. My big pregnant belly is really hindering my ability to fight him and I'm nervous for post-partum because I just don't see myself able to do it. Hopefully they'll step up for you!
obi I'd probably say- change the diapers or don't come. I don't think you are having a pity party- you need help!
That's sort of how I'm feeling. On one hand I feel like a jerk, because I'm basically saying that doing my dishes or laundry isn't the "right kind" of help but... it just isn't.
Turns out just my mom is coming now so at least there is one less person. Unfortunately it means I definitely won't have help with diapers since my brother is the only one who ever does.
obi I also can't change my DS' diapers either right now. He is too stubborn and hard headed and he fights the change, plus I don't do well lifting him, and I still can't sit on the floor. And he is a giant compared to the newborn. I feel your pain.
Does bribery work for him? The only way I have been able to change DS on my own is by telling him I will give him a treat (a few M&Ms LOL) if he lays down. Maybe if you find something that he will go for, he will cooperate for you? You do what you got to do.
obi Huge side-eye to your family for not being willing to change your son's diapers. WTF, guise?!? Someone who is recovering from abdominal surgery does NOT need to be wrestling a 40lb, poop-covered alligator.
obi I also can't change my DS' diapers either right now. He is too stubborn and hard headed and he fights the change, plus I don't do well lifting him, and I still can't sit on the floor. And he is a giant compared to the newborn. I feel your pain.
Does bribery work for him? The only way I have been able to change DS on my own is by telling him I will give him a treat (a few M&Ms LOL) if he lays down. Maybe if you find something that he will go for, he will cooperate for you? You do what you got to do.
I'll have to give that a try. I usually trick him into coming close enough for me to grab and basically body slam him onto the mattress.
My H goes back to work tomorrow and I don't feel ready at all. My mom and brother are coming up tonight and leaving Tuesday. I'm... not excited. I know I will need the help but I am anticipating that they will be less than helpful. I told my mom the other day that the main thing I need help with is DS and his diaper changes. Today she was trying to give me all kinds of useless tips on how I can change his diaper. Useless as in; none of these tips solve the fact that he is in the ballpark of 40lbs and 3ft tall and has zero chill. She's like "what if you change him on the couch so you don't need to get up?" ........I change him on his bed. That's not the problem. It's that he doesn't just come over to me and lay down. I have to wrestle with him. It hurts. A lot.
So, I'm getting the impression that her and my brother do not want to help with that. It just has me feeling like I'd rather they not come at all.
Pity party, table for one please.
Not cool. Do they not understand you just had a baby?
My H goes back to work tomorrow and I don't feel ready at all. My mom and brother are coming up tonight and leaving Tuesday. I'm... not excited. I know I will need the help but I am anticipating that they will be less than helpful. I told my mom the other day that the main thing I need help with is DS and his diaper changes. Today she was trying to give me all kinds of useless tips on how I can change his diaper. Useless as in; none of these tips solve the fact that he is in the ballpark of 40lbs and 3ft tall and has zero chill. She's like "what if you change him on the couch so you don't need to get up?" ........I change him on his bed. That's not the problem. It's that he doesn't just come over to me and lay down. I have to wrestle with him. It hurts. A lot.
So, I'm getting the impression that her and my brother do not want to help with that. It just has me feeling like I'd rather they not come at all.
Pity party, table for one please.
Not cool. Do they not understand you just had a baby?
Sorry your having to stress about this.
It's definitely weird. Especially because my mom has had 2 cesareans so she knows what it's like. I'm finding it weird that she thinks casually moving around is my problem and not lifting and maneuvering my giant toddler.
Not cool. Do they not understand you just had a baby?
Sorry your having to stress about this.
It's definitely weird. Especially because my mom has had 2 cesareans so she knows what it's like. I'm finding it weird that she thinks casually moving around is my problem and not lifting and maneuvering my giant toddler.
It's definitely weird. Especially because my mom has had 2 cesareans so she knows what it's like. I'm finding it weird that she thinks casually moving around is my problem and not lifting and maneuvering my giant toddler.
Guise! I have such a cold!! I just want to take Advil to help with all the sinus pressure! I feel man sick! Thankfully MH has done like everything this weekend!
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 12, 2017 22:09:33 GMT -5
We had a steady stream of visitors all day so I've been MIA. Dd is doing great nursing though. My biggest fear about this stage was repeating history with ds. He lost 20% of his weight and had to be admitted to the hospital for jaundice. We never got out of meconium poops until after the stay and a strict feeding schedule, but DD is already pooping yellow so I am hopeful we are getting it. We go for a weight check tomorrow so we'll know for sure.
We had a steady stream of visitors all day so I've been MIA. Dd is doing great nursing though. My biggest fear about this stage was repeating history with ds. He lost 20% of his weight and had to be admitted to the hospital for jaundice. We never got out of meconium poops until after the stay and a strict feeding schedule, but DD is already pooping yellow so I am hopeful we are getting it. We go for a weight check tomorrow so we'll know for sure.
Post by kristhegirl on Mar 13, 2017 1:42:59 GMT -5
@justinslovo haieeee. I'm up feeding Max! He is prone to diaper rash, too. Boys, amirite?
All weekend I sleepily asked my husband to do all motn diaper changes because I wanted him to do more. I'm up anyway and he takes FOREVER but I felt like I was doing all Max-related things. This is not true, nor logical, but I didn't change a night diaper for two nights and that was nice.
I threaten my husband nearly every night with bodily harm because he's basically breathing too loud, not even snoring, while I'm up feeding. Again, not logical.
That PP crying is intense. Let it all out and don't feel guilty about venting - that's half of what the boards are for! We're right there holding the pillow inches from your husband's face with you. Metaphorically, of course.
(((@justinslovo))) I'm still pregnant but I remember those PP feels so much from the first time. The first weeks are really, really hard. Please be kind to yourself. We're here for you and this is a safe space to let it out.
Omg! +1 @justinslovo - I'm 6 weeks PP and I get pissed when my H is snoring while babies are screaming. Or how frickin long it takes him to mix a bottle when they are screaming.
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 13, 2017 11:57:29 GMT -5
@justinslovo I hope you're having a better day. The weeks after having a baby are rough. Do not feel bad for not being here. We are all in survival mode, whether we are still waiting for a baby or at home with a baby.
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