robotpcr Aww what a sweetheart. C is so interested in my pump. Any time he sees it he goes "pump?!" and gets close so he can watch.
Fx none of our kiddos ever need to do these things themselves!
Yes! I knew you would get it. Like, it's adorable to watch M want to be just like Daddy but also makes me feel slightly sick.
Definitely. I don't really like C watching me test/bolus because it makes me think about the what ifs. OTOH, I want to normalize it in case of the what ifs.
Yes! I knew you would get it. Like, it's adorable to watch M want to be just like Daddy but also makes me feel slightly sick.
Definitely. I don't really like C watching me test/bolus because it makes me think about the what ifs. OTOH, I want to normalize it in case of the what ifs.
Definitely. I don't really like C watching me test/bolus because it makes me think about the what ifs. OTOH, I want to normalize it in case of the what ifs.
prater2011, just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you. I know how shitty it is to deal with a husband with addiction issues. It feels crappy and even when he's sober I feel like I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's a constant internal battle. I just feel like letting you know you aren't alone. I've done some flame worthy things in my attempt to discover the truth.
Let me know if you want any ideas on how to talk with the kids about daddy's sickness. I've dealt with it both personally and through my job. For me, I've found it important to be honest about it. Both to preserve my relationship so she knows she can trust me and to lay the foundation for talking about substance use in the future.
prater2011, just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you. I know how shitty it is to deal with a husband with addiction issues. It feels crappy and even when he's sober I feel like I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's a constant internal battle. I just feel like letting you know you aren't alone. I've done some flame worthy things in my attempt to discover the truth.
Let me know if you want any ideas on how to talk with the kids about daddy's sickness. I've dealt with it both personally and through my job. For me, I've found it important to be honest about it. Both to preserve my relationship so she knows she can trust me and to lay the foundation for talking about substance use in the future.
Thanks for this. It's truly how itfeels. I give him some trust and as soon as I start to breath easy, off he goes. I'm the kind of person who tells it how it is (but I wear my heart on my sleeve). I'm extremely emotional, every emotion. He pushed the hot button a few weeks ago and I had been calm up to that point. I called him disgusting in front if our oldest and she yelled at me, called me disgusting and ran to comfort him I was so mad at myself for letting him get me that way w her there, fir her seeing that. I've tried to shelter her so much. I don't want her to know that daddy's got a problem, that mommy's not mean. It's such a sad situation.
Post by prater2011 on Mar 13, 2017 22:10:59 GMT -5
Oh and as far as the diabetes, my sister is diabetic w a pump. Layla thinks it's cool to see her test, she's now learned how to set it all up and she gets to "push the button" she even asks sometimes if "ashy is low" because she's crabby. It's crazy what they pick up on.
Post by marygracerich on Mar 13, 2017 23:36:08 GMT -5
Hi. It's now 12:30. Besides two little naps (maybe 10 minutes each) I have been up for just about 22 hours. I just got into bed but it's going to take me a little while to fall asleep. It has already started snowing. MH has work in the morning and I am a little jealous. He drives for a living. They won't send him out in the snow so he will probably sit around all day and get paid for it. Knowing his union, they will cater in food too. I will be home with a toddler. 😑 I did pack him some snacks though just in case he has to walk to work. He can drive it but there is no way of knowing if my car would make it home. If the buses aren't running, he will have to walk.
prater2011, just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you. I know how shitty it is to deal with a husband with addiction issues. It feels crappy and even when he's sober I feel like I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop. It's a constant internal battle. I just feel like letting you know you aren't alone. I've done some flame worthy things in my attempt to discover the truth.
Let me know if you want any ideas on how to talk with the kids about daddy's sickness. I've dealt with it both personally and through my job. For me, I've found it important to be honest about it. Both to preserve my relationship so she knows she can trust me and to lay the foundation for talking about substance use in the future.
Thanks for this. It's truly how itfeels. I give him some trust and as soon as I start to breath easy, off he goes. I'm the kind of person who tells it how it is (but I wear my heart on my sleeve). I'm extremely emotional, every emotion. He pushed the hot button a few weeks ago and I had been calm up to that point. I called him disgusting in front if our oldest and she yelled at me, called me disgusting and ran to comfort him I was so mad at myself for letting him get me that way w her there, fir her seeing that. I've tried to shelter her so much. I don't want her to know that daddy's got a problem, that mommy's not mean. It's such a sad situation.
That first sentence resonates with me. It feels like JUST when I think he can maintain sobriety, he's done something again. And it's so hard because it never feels like enough to make me rest. Like, he goes to rehab and I worry he goes to AA and I still worry. If he doesn't go to a meeting, I freak and if he does I still have this knot in my stomach thinking that he might be lying about that. It's hard. But he's been sober since July so I try to take it one day at a time.
Also, the situation with your daughter sounds so hard. L was too little to talk, but when he was in rehab, she would just sob when we got home and he didn't come home (was not typical before he was gone.) and we lived in an apartment and if she heard the door into the complex close, she'd think it was him and scream "daddy!" And then get so sad when he didn't come home. It was the worst.
Thanks for this. It's truly how itfeels. I give him some trust and as soon as I start to breath easy, off he goes. I'm the kind of person who tells it how it is (but I wear my heart on my sleeve). I'm extremely emotional, every emotion. He pushed the hot button a few weeks ago and I had been calm up to that point. I called him disgusting in front if our oldest and she yelled at me, called me disgusting and ran to comfort him I was so mad at myself for letting him get me that way w her there, fir her seeing that. I've tried to shelter her so much. I don't want her to know that daddy's got a problem, that mommy's not mean. It's such a sad situation.
That first sentence resonates with me. It feels like JUST when I think he can maintain sobriety, he's done something again. And it's so hard because it never feels like enough to make me rest. Like, he goes to rehab and I worry he goes to AA and I still worry. If he doesn't go to a meeting, I freak and if he does I still have this knot in my stomach thinking that he might be lying about that. It's hard. But he's been sober since July so I try to take it one day at a time.
Also, the situation with your daughter sounds so hard. L was too little to talk, but when he was in rehab, she would just sob when we got home and he didn't come home (was not typical before he was gone.) and we lived in an apartment and if she heard the door into the complex close, she'd think it was him and scream "daddy!" And then get so sad when he didn't come home. It was the worst.
Thats layla. She just screams for him. She ask everyday when I pick up from daycsre, is daddy home?
That first sentence resonates with me. It feels like JUST when I think he can maintain sobriety, he's done something again. And it's so hard because it never feels like enough to make me rest. Like, he goes to rehab and I worry he goes to AA and I still worry. If he doesn't go to a meeting, I freak and if he does I still have this knot in my stomach thinking that he might be lying about that. It's hard. But he's been sober since July so I try to take it one day at a time.
Also, the situation with your daughter sounds so hard. L was too little to talk, but when he was in rehab, she would just sob when we got home and he didn't come home (was not typical before he was gone.) and we lived in an apartment and if she heard the door into the complex close, she'd think it was him and scream "daddy!" And then get so sad when he didn't come home. It was the worst.
Thats layla. She just screams for him. She ask everyday when I pick up from daycsre, is daddy home?
Thats layla. She just screams for him. She ask everyday when I pick up from daycsre, is daddy home?
That's so sad. Does she know where he is?
He's back home. But at one point I would not let him live w us. We told her he was staying st her aunts and going to school. But it really left a scar I guess. She won't go to bed without knowing he's home etc. It's terrible. I wish I could shield her from it all
He's back home. But at one point I would not let him live w us. We told her he was staying st her aunts and going to school. But it really left a scar I guess. She won't go to bed without knowing he's home etc. It's terrible. I wish I could shield her from it all
That's so sad. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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