We will start ttc the summer after S turns 2. I'm planning a 3 year gap, hopefully it works out. Reasoning behind this is that H will be going into Kindergarten and S will be going to preschool so it gives me time alone with the new one (to nap mostly).
Post by piperhalliwell on Mar 15, 2017 10:39:33 GMT -5
We're undecided, leaning towards not, with DH being further into the "not" camp than me. If we do try for a second, it won't be until L is two or three. I see the appeal in getting the baby stage out of the way, but I personally don't think I'd survive having two very young ones at the same time. Finances also play a huge role into our decision and will likely be the ultimate determining factor.
Post by lemoncupcake on Mar 15, 2017 11:02:12 GMT -5
We had originally planned on 2ish years between kids, which would mean we would TTC soonish. It's hard for me to envision caring for DD and a baby, but I know that she will change so much in 9 months.
And I'm only kind of TIC when I say that I have some PTSD from how sick I was last time. One of my main hang ups is how to care for DD while I'm puking my brains out.
This has been on my mind a lot lately. I'm really at the point where I want to be able to say I'm done and be able to focus on myself in terms of my body and that sort of thing. Granted, yes I can do this in between pregnancies but I don't. So in that case, I want to have another and get it over with. However, I also just want to NTNP and just let it happen. I want to be done having kids by 35 and I'm turning 33 this year.
I also haven't even ventured the conversation with DH. Aside from he knows I want one more. It brings up the whole topic of our house and number of bedrooms, so that throws me in a panic of what if I got pregnant like now. It would be cool if that pushed us to get a new house, but if not it stresses me out. But I don't think we'd truly come to any conclusion with that until we're in reality faced with that situation.
We had originally planned on 2ish years between kids, which would mean we would TTC soonish. It's hard for me to envision caring for DD and a baby, but I know that she will change so much in 9 months.
And I'm only kind of TIC when I say that I have some PTSD from how sick I was last time. One of my main hang ups is how to care for DD while I'm puking my brains out.
That's a legitimate concern. Being sick and pregnant while caring for a toddler is a whole new ballgame. I forget- did you take medication for m/s last time? If not, you should look into it this time around. There are some safe options that might help.
We are not talking about TTC again because we're pretty sure we're done, but with numbers 2 and 3, we started trying for them when their older sibling was around 10-11 months. They're each just over two years apart, which is almost exactly the age gap I wanted.
Post by rivers and roads on Mar 15, 2017 12:26:37 GMT -5
We've always said 2ish years apart. I'm not even sure the PP period I got last month was a real period, so who knows what plans my body has. It took 9 months to get pregnant last time.
But I do not want to have another baby until we move home, so that convo first. I'm leaning towards getting them done closer together so I can go back to work after a few years and stay, instead of being in and out a year here and there.
We had originally planned on 2ish years between kids, which would mean we would TTC soonish. It's hard for me to envision caring for DD and a baby, but I know that she will change so much in 9 months.
And I'm only kind of TIC when I say that I have some PTSD from how sick I was last time. One of my main hang ups is how to care for DD while I'm puking my brains out.
I am with you on this. I am also worried about being pregnant and tired and chasing a toddler.
We had originally planned on 2ish years between kids, which would mean we would TTC soonish. It's hard for me to envision caring for DD and a baby, but I know that she will change so much in 9 months.
And I'm only kind of TIC when I say that I have some PTSD from how sick I was last time. One of my main hang ups is how to care for DD while I'm puking my brains out.
That's a legitimate concern. Being sick and pregnant while caring for a toddler is a whole new ballgame. I forget- did you take medication for m/s last time? If not, you should look into it this time around. There are some safe options that might help.
Yes! I took Diclegis from 8 weeks to nearly 30 weeks. It made a big difference in how often I was actually sick, but I still laid on the couch for basically 3 months. The thought of having to change a poopy diaper or made DD dinner when I don't feel good is...terrible sounding.
But there's also the hope that I would have an easier to of it next time!
We had originally planned on 2ish years between kids, which would mean we would TTC soonish. It's hard for me to envision caring for DD and a baby, but I know that she will change so much in 9 months.
And I'm only kind of TIC when I say that I have some PTSD from how sick I was last time. One of my main hang ups is how to care for DD while I'm puking my brains out.
Well we already headed down that path I will say this pregnancy I only threw up twice, and it may have been illness rather then MS (it was the day after DS was throwing up) whereas with DS I threw up many times.
We'll look at if we want to try for a third after seeing how #2 goes but I'm also looking to be done having kids within about 4 years so we'd probably aim for trying again quickly.
This time we were going for between 1.5 and 2.5 year age gap and got lucky on our first month trying, but sinceDS took a while to conceive we wanted to look at a wider range rather then saying we hope for x years apart.
I know it'll be hard at first, but we've got many mommas on here who had 2U2, or around 2 years apart so I know it's totally do-able, and if you do decide to TFAS soon you'll figure it out
I know it'll be hard at first, but we've got many mommas on here who had 2U2, or around 2 years apart so I know it's totally do-able, and if you do decide to TFAS soon you'll figure it out
I might have to just bite the bullet and go for it! We know that we want to have more children, so it's just a matter of when.
We had originally planned on 2ish years between kids, which would mean we would TTC soonish. It's hard for me to envision caring for DD and a baby, but I know that she will change so much in 9 months.
And I'm only kind of TIC when I say that I have some PTSD from how sick I was last time. One of my main hang ups is how to care for DD while I'm puking my brains out.
When we went from 1 to 2 and 2 to 3 this was also a huge concern for me as well. I puked every single morning from 8weeks until the day I had each kid. My doctor wouldn't give me anything for it any of the times either. I can't even tell you how I got through it or how tired I actually was but I did and I'm still somehow functioning..
We had originally planned on 2ish years between kids, which would mean we would TTC soonish. It's hard for me to envision caring for DD and a baby, but I know that she will change so much in 9 months.
And I'm only kind of TIC when I say that I have some PTSD from how sick I was last time. One of my main hang ups is how to care for DD while I'm puking my brains out.
When we went from 1 to 2 and 2 to 3 this was also a huge concern for me as well. I puked every single morning from 8weeks until the day I had each kid. My doctor wouldn't give me anything for it any of the times either. I can't even tell you how I got through it or how tired I actually was but I did and I'm still somehow functioning..
Oh honey - that sounds awful. I'm glad that you made it through without losing your mind!
We will be TTC #2 starting this fall. We have always wanted a 2.5-3 year age gap and it's cheaper in terms of daycare if V is older by the time the next one arrives.
EatsRitz and anyone else with more kids, do your kids all have their own rooms or is anybody sharing? Does it work out well? I'm just not sure about sharing rooms and getting any sleep. And I like sleep.
Post by musicalsilver on Mar 15, 2017 20:56:21 GMT -5
chocolate - we weren't ready to give up our guest room and have a 3/2, so DS and DD have been sharing since DD moved out of our room ar 8ish months (something like that anyway). DS is a great sleeper once he's actually asleep, so DD waking up crying generally doesn't phase him.
Naps are much more logistically tricky. Generally I just nap with her in my bed or make a little floor bed in our room for DD while DS has his afternoon "quiet time" which rarely involves napping these days.
Post by eyelashedviper on Mar 15, 2017 20:58:31 GMT -5
chocolate slightly different situation but my twins are sharing for now and unless we find a house with more bedrooms eventually we will rearrange so the girls are together. They are so used to each other they will sleep through the other one crying.
I grew up sharing a room with my sister (my little brother was born when we were 5 and 2.75). I got my own room again at my mom's when my parents split at age 10 but we continued to be part-time roomies at my dad's until we stopped sleeping over. I have no negative feelings but I know my sister was bothered by how noisy a sleeper I was in our teen years (she resorted to wearing headphones to fall asleep).
Post by eyelashedviper on Mar 15, 2017 21:19:49 GMT -5
We always knew we wanted a second so it was a matter of timing for us too. I would have been ready physically and emotionally I think when DD1 was 12-18 months but I only went back to work when she was 14 months so I wanted to accumulate enough hours to be eligible for leave again and we wanted to avoid me being heavily pregnant during warmer months since I got extremely swollen with DD1. So we ended up conceiving right around her second birthday (I'm sure someday she'll do the math and cringe, ha).
I think DH and I both like the idea of going another round but again logistics have to be considered. If we do, we likely won't start to try until at least spring 2019. That way the twins will be starting kindergarten before the next one (or two!) start daycare. I also want to be done having babies by 35 so we'd be just under that deadline.
Post by eyelashedviper on Mar 15, 2017 21:24:13 GMT -5
Oh, and with the twin pregnancy I was so useless at the end. I had family helping us out and DD1 was still in daycare so we managed. I feel like I'm still trying to catch up around the house, though!
Post by lilrubberduckie on Mar 15, 2017 21:43:19 GMT -5
We always wanted more kids. And don't mind a close age gap but also wanted to give dd a full year of us, and breastmilk. My pp cycle came back in September so at that point we started ntnp and if it happened, it happened. January we decided to get more serious so I dug up my bbt and started charting the next cycle day 1. And boom 💥 baby #2 due November. So they will be 1y9m apart
EatsRitz and anyone else with more kids, do your kids all have their own rooms or is anybody sharing? Does it work out well? I'm just not sure about sharing rooms and getting any sleep. And I like sleep.
DD1 and DS share. They have a bunk bed and we transitioned DS from the crib to the bed about a month before DD2 was born. We bought an extra long gate and attached it to the bottom bunk with zip ties to keep him in for the first 6 months or so. It helped with the sleep. It wasn't too bad, actually. The first couple of nights, it took a little more time for them to settle down to sleep, but they slept like normal after that (DS doesn't always STTN but DD1 sleeps through almost anything). They're early risers but I think they would wake up early regardless of if they shared a room. But since they share, they can keep each other entertained in their room for a little while when they wake up at 5:30 in the morning.
We are done with 2. DH got a vasectomy last summer. We started trying when DD1 was 10 months old and got pregnant when she was 12 months old. They ended up being almost 21 months apart. It was hard with the nausea in the beginning of the pregnancy. I just got through it the best I could, I watched a lot of Little Einstein's that summer Once both girls started getting on the same schedule, things were much better! I love the age gap.
Post by kellybenelly83 on Mar 17, 2017 7:09:21 GMT -5
I'm sitting securely on the fence about when to tfas. I do want to discuss it with Dh, and at this point I think he'd be ok with it, but we have some criteria that we need to meet first. There are a few major home repairs that need to happen and Dh needs a new job like stat. Once he's been there for 6months + then maybe we can discuss it.
Married 10/10/10! TTC Baby #1 since April 2014 BFP Oct 16 - EP terminated Nov 6 2014 Off the Bench January 2015! BFP #2 June 1 2015 - EDD Feb 12 2016! Baby Boy born 15th February 2016!
Post by auchick913 on Mar 17, 2017 11:13:27 GMT -5
We're thinking Julyish? August? 1) want to be settled at our new move. DNW morning sickness while moving. 2) DS needs to be weaned which I think is going to be difficult. 3) We both were eaten alive by mosquitos this past week. No zika here yet, but I'd prefer to be cautious on that end still.
Thanks for the insight on the room situation ladies! I really don't have a problem with kids maybe 3+ sharing but that whole baby/1 year old thing makes me nervous. DS and DD could share for awhile until the 3rd was a bit older and then we could pair up same sex. I need to just not worry about it and deal with it when it comes.
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