So, not to immediately bring down the thread, but I wanted to say thanks to everyone for the support last night. I stayed up later than I should have to talk to MH but it was worried it because I definitely feel better.
One of the reasons I have been so stressed out this week, which I haven't really told you guys, is not just the fact that my nanny is away, but that she takes way more time off than she should and it's making me really anxious about going back to work.
That's the tl;dr in case you want to stop reading now.
She took this entire week off to go out of state for a family funeral, which was Wednesday, but it takes a whole day to drive there, and she'd be leaving Thursday afternoon, back late Friday. Okay, fine. But then on Wednesday she texted to ask if it'd be okay to have this coming Monday off too. Like what am I supposed to say to that? She's already there.
I ran the numbers and since the 1st of the year, she has missed 35% of the days she should have been here. Thirty five percent. I'm not even saying it wasn't legit time off (at least some of it), but that's a ridiculous number and if she worked in an office it wouldn't be tolerated. Last summer when my grandfather passed away I went to flippin' England for less than 72 hours for his funeral. Why? Because I had a responsibility to my employer. An employer I had already told I was leaving btw, so it's not like there would have been repercussions if I'd taken longer--it was just the right thing to do.
Anyway that text was totally the trigger for way increased stress, anxiety, and loss of sleep the past two days. I just really, really can't have these issues with childcare once I'm back to work. Sometimes it takes months to find one date that works for a deposition or court appearance and it's not like I can just roll in there with my kids in tow because my nanny decided to extend a funeral trip into a vacation.
I'm thinking now about putting the kids in daycare part time and staying home one day of the week with them. Since my nanny clearly only wants to work part time, this would work great as long as we can afford it (which frankly we might not be able to). MH is on board, which really helps.
Wine and green donuts to anyone who read this whole thing!
tgrimes1980 Irish cream is such a great idea! Too bad I don't have any either. danib oh poor little H, I hope it breaks through soon! starbuck27, that has to be some sort of record. So glad you are getting some help tonight.
Morning. I was afraid of my trip to Texas in the midst of 4 month sleep regression hell, except poor C seems to be not feeling well with a low grade fever and is sleeping better than ever. I am sad he doesn't feel well but the sleep is flipping amazing.
We are headed to the rodeo today and I am so excited. It's like home for me.
starbuck27 yikes 12 hours! I honestly don't know how you do it! Glad you are getting some help tonight!
waitwhat the old you St. Paddy's day person sounds just like the old me St. Paddy's day person. H and all his buddies from work still go to a local parade and party all day long. Majority of them got mandated to work today and I have the kids so I'll have to settle for a good Irish beer later.
danib teething hell over here too, but ours is 2 year molars. I hate teeth. Hugs friend!
Post by sophiegrace on Mar 17, 2017 8:13:22 GMT -5
dashook childcare has to be one of the most stressful parts of this whole parenting thing. On top of no sleep, caring for a toddler, and not even being able to eat out when you were looking forward to it, I think your response was 110% valid. I could viscerally feel it while reading your posts. I hope today is a better day.
Good morning. We are in teething hell. Either something needs to break through or they need to back off a bit. My boor boyis such a mess.
I'll sit at your table. We were up until 2 am Tuesday night with her just punching and rubbing her face with hourly wake ups after that. I feel like she's been teething for the longest time ever.
Post by sophiegrace on Mar 17, 2017 8:22:48 GMT -5
Hi! Hi hi hi.
Had to go to work this week. I really enjoyed myself, but it's not sustainable. We've had zero luck on the childcare front, but I did find a wonderful RN that can take over the surgical duties so it looks like our decision is made for us. I have to force myself to email her back today and let her know that the job is hers.
After two nights of Mia crying and punching herself nonstop I gave her some Tylenol last night and she finally had a decent night. It feels like as soon as one issue is resolved we roll right into the next one.
Post by goldenlove3 on Mar 17, 2017 8:23:16 GMT -5
Happy St Patrick's day everyone! I'm currently playing some Irish Rovers and playing with C. He seems to like Whiskey in the Jar and Drunken Sailor lol.
We're meeting with a friend for a playdate at 11 then doing corned beef and cabbage at ILs for dinner tonight. I also realized yesterday that I don't have anything green to wear today. Oops. I'll keep digging but I doubt anything will fit.
waitwhat I love going out for St Patrick's day! It's my birthday so it's extra special. We don't always go out ON the day but we used to go to Chicago for the river. I have fun memories of partying with the crazy crowd but we're not going out tonight cuz we're lame lol.
Post by goldenlove3 on Mar 17, 2017 8:29:35 GMT -5
That's crazy starbuck27! Hope you enjoy your night off tonight though.
dashook I'm sorry you're dealing with that. Do you think she's doing this because you're home right now and she thinks it's ok? Maybe she'll be better when you're back to work, but I mean you've already lost your faith in her. She should be more professional.
dashook I'm sorry you're dealing with that. Do you think she's doing this because you're home right now and she thinks it's ok? Maybe she'll be better when you're back to work, but I mean you've already lost your faith in her. She should be more professional.
Yes, you hit the nail on the head. That is a likely explanation, and I want to talk to her about it and let her know it's not okay, but you're right that the damage has been done.
sophiegrace Thank you for asking about the state of my boobs. It feels much better today but still a bit tender. I currently have a heating pad on them again and will be pumping in an hour. I'm trying not to jinx anything but I think that should do the trick.
After this you deserve at least a year of feeling fantastic. Between sicknesses and now this it's been a rough month+. I'm glad it's finally feeling better.
dashook I agree with goldenlove that she's probably taking advantage of you knowing your off. But that's not ok. I would look for alternative child care. You need to tell her that 35% off is not acceptable. Are you paying her for days off? Please say no.
Ah, Irish car bombs used to be soooo good! kleigh have you ever been to BR Castle? That was our college bar and Ive had countless car bombs there.
So I've had to cancel 2 days in a row of olay dates because I don't want to expose other babies to E's cold. Boooo. And H is headed out of town for a week today. I'm really going to need some adult interaction.
J just had a really smelly poop. Like smelly in a way I would expect from a baby who hasn't had solids. I'm confused by it.
We had a few that really singed the nose hairs before starting solids. It was always shocking when it happened because they usually don't smell at all.
I feel like my self care and general appearance has gone from a slow decline since M was born to a complete nosedive in the past few weeks.
+1 like I have my hair appt today and I'm like, should I wash my hair before I go? Normally I wouldn't but it's been since like Monday. It's hard to want to do your hair when there's only 27 strands left.
I feel like my self care and general appearance has gone from a slow decline since M was born to a complete nosedive in the past few weeks.
+1 like I have my hair appt today and I'm like, should I wash my hair before I go? Normally I wouldn't but it's been since like Monday. It's hard to want to do your hair when there's only 27 strands left.
Preach.
I've stopped wearing my hair on top of my head because my ridiculous receding hairline and obvious bald spots.
ETA: can't wait to see what you get done. I need some inspiration.
I feel like my self care and general appearance has gone from a slow decline since M was born to a complete nosedive in the past few weeks.
+1 like I have my hair appt today and I'm like, should I wash my hair before I go? Normally I wouldn't but it's been since like Monday. It's hard to want to do your hair when there's only 27 strands left.
Sorry, I had to laugh at this. So true. So painfully true.
hangry I never got the chance to go before they shut it down!! They've since turned it over twice. The owner of BR castle just opened a new location right down the street earlier this year but I haven't gone yet. Did you ever go to Sky Box? That's now an awesome Irish pub that we frequent, or I should say we did pre babies.
starbuck27 I am so excited for you to have a free night. Will you have to pump a ton overnight now bc of their current eating habits?
dashook Totally unacceptable, I'm glad you and YH were able to talk and get in agreement about alternatives. Your job is def not one that can just be blown off repetitively. Plus with your credibility at stake, etc. Not cool of your nanny.
waitwhat Add me to the list of historical St Paddys day feativity goers. No judging here. There's a reason I waited to settle down and have kids lol, back in the day mama got her drinks in.
vinolove No J, no. Luckily it's still dark out at that hour so it's easy enough to "call it night"... I tried putting the babies down to bed at their normal 6:30 on Sunday night and bc of DST it was still light as hell out... AV looked at me like, not happening ma.
hangry no, we do not pay her for days she's not here, thankfully! sophiegrace I put no effort whatsoever into my appearance. There doesn't seem to be much of a point. Dress nicely? Okay, here's some spit up, boogers, and leaked breastmilk for accessories. Do anything whatsoever with my hair? That's a laugh. If it's down, she's pulling it. If it's up, the bald spots are there shining like beacons for the world to see.
The good news is that our babies don't notice at all and they think we're the most beautiful people in the world. And they're right
I'm pretty excited when I get a shower in every other day. And days I wear jeans I feel like a rockstar.
Yes kleigh, I def went through a skybox phase! Played a lot of darts there. I also remember one night getting in an insane fight with my then bf. Haha. Weird how your memory works. Imagine if we were ever at the same bar at the same time in our past lives??
I'm pretty excited when I get a shower in every other day. And days I wear jeans I feel like a rockstar.
Yes kleigh, I def went through a skybox phase! Played a lot of darts there. I also remember one night getting in an insane fight with my then bf. Haha. Weird how your memory works. Imagine if we were ever at the same bar at the same time in our past lives??
We probably were at one time or another. I'm a few years older than you (I think) but went to college in another city.. So it was when I moved back to Fairfield that I would've frequented these places with my ex and co. Probably 2003-2008ish (before I moved to Boston area, and then back home lol).
+whatever to the hair loss. I should probably go get mine cut soon. I keep my hair long, but it's kind of out of control right now, and that combined with all the hair loss makes it impossible to wear down. It's either in a bun or a braid.
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Mar 17, 2017 11:27:16 GMT -5
I am so tired you guys. So, so tired. I mean, I know I'm not alone here, but damn. A big part of the exhaustion is my own fault. I ran out of my thyroid meds like 2 weeks ago and so I haven't been taking them. I finally requested a refill, so I'll be able to pick those up tonight.
But then work switched my hours from 6:30-3 to 6-2:30 and I'm struggling with getting to bed at a reasonable hour. Last night I went to bed at 9:30, DS1 was up from 10-11, then 2:30-3:30, then my alarm went off at 4:30 and I was up for the day. This was the best night we've had in weeks, too. It's just not even remotely enough sleep for me. I've been at work for almost 3.5 hours now and I've done very little. It's taking all my energy to not just pass out at my desk.
I'm pretty excited when I get a shower in every other day. And days I wear jeans I feel like a rockstar.
Yes kleigh, I def went through a skybox phase! Played a lot of darts there. I also remember one night getting in an insane fight with my then bf. Haha. Weird how your memory works. Imagine if we were ever at the same bar at the same time in our past lives??
We probably were at one time or another. I'm a few years older than you (I think) but went to college in another city.. So it was when I moved back to Fairfield that I would've frequented these places with my ex and co. Probably 2003-2008ish (before I moved to Boston area, and then back home lol).
I think we're the same age! I graduated in 03 but was in grad school there from 03-05! ::frantically waves hello to Past kleigh::
I can't imagine functioning at work like that jubilantsquirrel As danib said, it was hard enough returning at 1 year. Another reason longer mat leaves are necessary in the US. I can't imagine productivity or health are optimal when that sleep deprived. Mad props and love to working mamas
(And all you SAHMs know how much in awe of you I am too!)
vinolove That gif!! Lol. How funny is he though seriously.
jubilantsquirrel You don't work weekends right? I didn't realize you work such early shifts. My God I could not do that with babies. No effing way. I'm so sorry, hopefully tonight is good! ?
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