Post by amyface813 on Mar 20, 2017 22:48:18 GMT -5
Re: why unmedicated birth. I don't like taking drugs. Plain and simple. I don't like the way any of it makes me feel. I also have zero fear of labor. I know that our bodies are made for this and we can handle it. For me, the thought of having a needle going into my back and being strapped to machines and not being able to get out of bed freaks me out more than being in natural pain. With DS it wasn't the same pain as an injury. It's the kind of pain you feel on a long run or when you are working really hard towards a goal. Is it hard? Yeah, but it's for a purpose and for some reason that makes it easier.
Is anyone else having leaky boobs? I fee like its real early for this but holy cow it's happening pretty much daily now...
I've had some. Not everyday but here and there. I've also had the "let down" feeling a few times. It's weird but I hope it means my milk will come in better this time!
amyface813 - hypnobirthing is meditation-based, right? I always think it is water-based. Something about the "hypno-" makes me initially think of water for some reason. Was it difficult to master? ETA: i think I need to learn a method because my last unmediated method was "being trapped in the car" and that's not really how I want to do this again. Probably not the wisest course .... ! Our new hospital has birthing tubs, so I'm hoping to use it to labor down.
Post by toadandbuggie on Mar 21, 2017 5:32:51 GMT -5
I had to be induced with DS and pitocin is no joke. So I got stadol through an IV but otherwise was unmediated. This time I'd like to avoid anything and labor naturally (not be induced) but if I am I would still try to stay away from it. Who knows now though? Shit changes. Apparently back labor is the worst. I will do what I have to do in the moment, BUT keep in mind my end goal.
FTMs - have a loose plan. Don't have your heart set on anything, because you never know. Eliminate disappointment by having no expectations. I know a lot of friends who are torn up because it didn't happen the way they wanted it to, but as long as everyone's healthy that's all that matters.
ETA: that's not to say don't prepare or read up on anything or know what you would want. Just realize it may not go that way and that's okay!
amyface813 - hypnobirthing is meditation-based, right? I always think it is water-based. Something about the "hypno-" makes me initially think of water for some reason. Was it difficult to master? ETA: i think I need to learn a method because my last unmediated method was "being trapped in the car" and that's not really how I want to do this again. Probably not the wisest course .... ! Our new hospital has birthing tubs, so I'm hoping to use it to labor down.
The meditation is the basis of it. I think I sort of went on a different path though. I did fall into a sort of trance during labor where I was just riding out the contractions and actively relaxing during them instead of tensing up. The big goal is to eliminate fear and trust your body. Fear causes a hormonal response which takes the blood away from the uterus and brings it to your fight or flight areas. This can stall labor or make your contractions less effective in theory. I watched a ton of births and did a ton of research about how things happen and went in with a really good mind set. It's definitely not for everyone. You have to let go of all control and just relax when everything is telling you to do the opposite. I don't know that I had a totally pain free birth but the pain was not the hard part. I describe my labor as intense and exhausting and frustrating and wonderful, not painful.
Tl;dr: hypnobirthing is totally worth looking into if you want to go unmedicated!
The calm birth school has a ton of free videos and resources and a FB page where people share stories and questions.
nola1017 the "being trapped in the car" method made me lol.
Our hospital has tubs too. I'm not sure how i feel about them. We can't birth in them so I would have to get out at some point. I'm just imagining having to climb out during the late stages and being cold and wet... I don't know that it would be worth it.
nola1017 the "being trapped in the car" method made me lol.
Our hospital has tubs too. I'm not sure how i feel about them. We can't birth in them so I would have to get out at some point. I'm just imagining having to climb out during the late stages and being cold and wet... I don't know that it would be worth it.
I laboured in a tub with jets for a few hours and it was wonderful. When I got out there was a big sheet to dry off with and I felt warm anyhow. I got out because they were concerned about how long it had been since I'd peed so they wanted to do a cath.
nola1017 now that's worthy of a celebration cookie or something!!! As far as unmediated birth, just go in with an open mind - in no way do I mean you can't do it. Lots of women do just fine!!! But birth rarely goes how you foresee it, so just be flexible with yourself. I think we stress ourselves out too much by trying to force a plan to work when it doesn't. I hoped to go unmediated with our first just because it's supposed to be a little better for the baby, and I made it several hours. My body just wasn't handling the pain well and the epidural actually helped me relax and progress. I'll probably go the same route this time - hold out for a while before doing the epidural (definitely doing epidural again though as long as everything works out. It was heavenly ☺ and no ill effects at all. I was very alert and so was baby other than complications from his cord)
I plan on getting an epidural because I'm a pain weenie, but I will see how things are going before getting it.
I'm curious with those of you who choose non-medicated, what's your reasoning? (please don't think I'm being judgy, I'm genuinely curious and I think you guys are brave, strong women!!)
I've had one of each. One induced and epidural delivery and one completely med free. I had such an easier recovery from my med free, but mainly I had a horrible reaction to my epi.
Post by juliayadda on Mar 21, 2017 13:00:12 GMT -5
I have not decided what I will do for birthing this time.
I had the worst type of labour last time. Pitocin caused my contractions to compound (no break between) and he was sunnyside up so just scraping along my spine. It felt like death. But I was too far gone to ask for an epidural. I mean in the end he was born but everyone was crying in the room.
So with this knowledge I know without a doubt if I am induced with pitocin or my baby is face up I will ask for an epidural. If things progress normally and she is face down I may try to not have any pain meds.
Post by babywisher on Mar 21, 2017 13:31:29 GMT -5
Guys I think dh and I are going to have to take a st break. We have been like normal and everything has been fine. After last night I am hurting so bad today. I feel so sore and so much pressure down below today. Ugh!
Post by northmom14 on Mar 21, 2017 13:35:44 GMT -5
I haven't been around for a few weeks and I really want to get better about posting here!
Re:birth plan - I really want to try an unmedicated birth. I wanted one with my DS but it wasn't in the cards. I had a somewhat emergency induction but not emergency enough to have a C-section. Long story but I was on pitocin for like 2 or 3 days since baby was so not ready to be born. I can't remember the exact timeline anymore. They had me on so many different things to get labor started. It was so unnatural and not at all what I had planned. I ended up with an epidural and it was a horrible experience for me. I want to do everything I can to avoid an epidural this time. In the end baby was healthy and my recovery wasn't horrible but 3 years later and I get anxious and shaky when thinking of his birth and that experience.
I have not decided what I will do for birthing this time.
I had the worst type of labour last time. Pitocin caused my contractions to compound (no break between) and he was sunnyside up so just scraping along my spine. It felt like death. But I was too far gone to ask for an epidural. I mean in the end he was born but everyone was crying in the room.
So with this knowledge I know without a doubt if I am induced with pitocin or my baby is face up I will ask for an epidural. If things progress normally and she is face down I may try to not have any pain meds.
I had just the smallest amount of Pitocin they will give with dd. My contractions we so strong with no breaks between. She was also sunny side up. So, I feel you. After pushing for almost an hour and a half and getting an episiotomy to get her out I was still happy I didn't get the epidural. I did wonder how it would have gone had I had one. It sounds like we had similar labor.
I have not decided what I will do for birthing this time.
I had the worst type of labour last time. Pitocin caused my contractions to compound (no break between) and he was sunnyside up so just scraping along my spine. It felt like death. But I was too far gone to ask for an epidural. I mean in the end he was born but everyone was crying in the room.
So with this knowledge I know without a doubt if I am induced with pitocin or my baby is face up I will ask for an epidural. If things progress normally and she is face down I may try to not have any pain meds.
I had just the smallest amount of Pitocin they will give with dd. My contractions we so strong with no breaks between. She was also sunny side up. So, I feel you. After pushing for almost an hour and a half and getting an episiotomy to get her out I was still happy I didn't get the epidural. I did wonder how it would have gone had I had one. It sounds like we had similar labor.
Yep it sure does. I also had an hour and half of pushing.
What I remember is in the year after anytime something was physically challenging like working out or a lot of stairs or something I would remember how hard it was and how I didn't die so I could probably get past this obstacle.
I think no matter how you give birth. Med free, epidural, c-section etc. It will still be one of the hardest things you do in such a short period of time with no choice but to get that baby out. It is empowering. If it was traumatic or painful or not what you expected you still did it and it is amazing.
Post by babywisher on Mar 21, 2017 14:47:08 GMT -5
Has anyone thought about who they want in the delivery room with them? I am extremely close to my Mom. With my dd she was there the whole time. She rubbed my back (bad back larbor) while dh was in my face helping with breathing. When it was time to push she stepped back (well up) and let us do our thing. My inlaws were with my sil out of state who was also having her baby. So, no jealous mil. With ds my mom stayed in until it was time to push then she went out with everyone else. My mil came in a couple of times and dh told her to leave because I didn't want to hear anyone talking. I like silence during labor. I don't make any noises either. Lol. Anyway...I'm not sure if she will be there with us or not.
I had H and my stepmom with me with my first and I'm sooooo glad she was there. She's the one who noticed my reaction to my epidural (she's an RN). She lived 4 hours away and it was a scheduled induction, it was easy for her to get there.
My second was H and DD1. It was so fast that my stepmom was midway through the 4 hour drive when I delivered.
This time it depends on how quick my labor is. My stepmom is my ride to the hospital during the week if H is at work since we now live 10 min away. But she would also have my girls until my IL's could get them.
nola1017 now that's worthy of a celebration cookie or something!!! As far as unmediated birth, just go in with an open mind - in no way do I mean you can't do it. Lots of women do just fine!!! But birth rarely goes how you foresee it, so just be flexible with yourself. I think we stress ourselves out too much by trying to force a plan to work when it doesn't. I hoped to go unmediated with our first just because it's supposed to be a little better for the baby, and I made it several hours. My body just wasn't handling the pain well and the epidural actually helped me relax and progress. I'll probably go the same route this time - hold out for a while before doing the epidural (definitely doing epidural again though as long as everything works out. It was heavenly ☺ and no ill effects at all. I was very alert and so was baby other than complications from his cord)
murran13 - I was more curious if anyone, besides me, was planning to go unmedicated. I've done it both ways now - one was an induction and I got an epi several hours in, the other was an unmedicated birth (not on purpose; we got stuck in traffic and didn't make it to the hospital in time). I much preferred how I felt after the unmedicated birth, so I'd like to do it again (except, you know, in the hospital this time). ETA: I will say though that the epidural was fantastic. Like if I would have had the ability, I would have jumped up on that anesthesiologist and kissed him. LOL
juliayadda - Pit was the worst. I had the compound contractions too. I didn't know that was the term for them, but yes, they were on top of each other with no break in between. With my son, I had nice two minute breaks in between to catch my breath and re-group. And I could feel the contraction increasing in intensity and then cresting and then dissolving away. Whereas with the Pitocin, it just felt like a constant squeezing with no gradual / lessening intensity.
babywisher - just me and my husband. I have zero desire to be an exhibit at the zoo. And going by how it went with Jack, I don't talk at all during the breaks in between contractions. I think having my MIL in there trying to talk to me or rub my back or whatever would just annoy me in the moment.
Post by babywisher on Mar 21, 2017 16:06:44 GMT -5
Oh the other side of what nola1017 said about the difference in her contractions with and without Pitocin mine were the same. Just constant. They did ease up , but never had a break without Pitocin.
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