I wish H's teeth would just pop all the way through already. Even with Tylenol, he was up every 2.5 hours last night. Poor baby. The first two teeth are always the worst IMO.
I wish H's teeth would just pop all the way through already. Even with Tylenol, he was up every 2.5 hours last night. Poor baby. The first two teeth are always the worst IMO.
Hmm... Maybe Lil P is cutting teeth. She is super drooly and has been up every 2 hours for a few nights. I'll peek in her mouth later.
I wish H's teeth would just pop all the way through already. Even with Tylenol, he was up every 2.5 hours last night. Poor baby. The first two teeth are always the worst IMO.
Hmm... Maybe Lil P is cutting teeth. She is super drooly and has been up every 2 hours for a few nights. I'll peek in her mouth later.
I hope you get some sleep soon.
That's what happened last week to us. Sure enough. Bottom two teeth. I can see them and they are just poking out now.
I wish H's teeth would just pop all the way through already. Even with Tylenol, he was up every 2.5 hours last night. Poor baby. The first two teeth are always the worst IMO.
For us it's the second two (top front) that were the start of trouble. It was frustrating that after handling the first two so well, they struggled with subsequent teeth. We'll see if DS2 follows in DS1 and DD's footsteps.
Post by erien22846 on Mar 20, 2017 19:49:53 GMT -5
Baby's first ear infection:( He had a low grade fever since Wednesday that spiked to 102 today. He's been eating and sleeping fine so I hope that continues.
Every night, I have dreams that I'm leaving for vacation but have no packed anything. Or going to work without any of my stuff. The sense of being completely overwhelmed has moved from awake hours into my sleep. Cannot catch a break.
I'm so sorry to hear that. But I can completely relate, and I'm glad neither of us is alone. I just want to enjoy my babies while they're babies. But I am completely overwhelmed. And yeah feel like I can't catch a break. Even though I know I have so much to be grateful for. Ugh.
This is exactly how I feel. I kept hoping it was hormones balancing out or getting adjusted to our new normal, but even when I'm completely content/happy, there is that little something that creeps in. I am talking to someone next Monday. I can't go on like this.
You ladies that are having trouble emotionally or feeling content- do you have easy babies or tough? Are they sleeping? I ask because I felt very overwhelmed with my first and he cried a lot and slept very little. No amount of medication was going to help me cope with lack of sleep or getting through the day trying to wash bottles or pack lunch for work with a baby screaming at you and feeling like I got so little time with him. Medicine can help but I also just want to say it does get better but it's really hard when baby isn't a breeze or isn't sleeping well. I am having a totally different experience. Most days two with a toddler and easy baby that sleeps feels easier than what I remember of the early days with a fussy tired baby. I certainly hope you ladies talk to your doctor because meds will help- but also just know that it may not fix it all. Because life is hard right now. There's nothing that's going to change that.
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Mar 21, 2017 8:09:26 GMT -5
becole this baby is VERY easy. She's a great sleeper and has been for a while, the boys really aren't that bad either (save for the May14er who is my biggest challenge at the moment, especially potty training). For me it's just there are THREE of them, DH is gone a lot b/c of his work schedule, I solo parent quite a bit and I feel like things are never fully handled. I'm always behind in everything it seems and I have trouble focusing at work. It's not sleep though - I just feel frazzled and like I have too much to remember to do by myself. I am finding it difficult that all 3 kids are in SUCH different phases of their lives right now as well. DS1 has kindergarten stuff and he has little projects and sight words and books to read, and DS2 is potty training and still very much in the throes of "terrible twos", he tries to be independent but he's just not capable of that yet, and then of course DD is a baby and her needs are very much dependent on me. It just gets so overwhelming. I think I will be better once DH is done coaching for the season but we still have another month(ish) of that.
becole this baby is VERY easy. She's a great sleeper and has been for a while, the boys really aren't that bad either (save for the May14er who is my biggest challenge at the moment, especially potty training). For me it's just there are THREE of them, DH is gone a lot b/c of his work schedule, I solo parent quite a bit and I feel like things are never fully handled. I'm always behind in everything it seems and I have trouble focusing at work. It's not sleep though - I just feel frazzled and like I have too much to remember to do by myself. I am finding it difficult that all 3 kids are in SUCH different phases of their lives right now as well. DS1 has kindergarten stuff and he has little projects and sight words and books to read, and DS2 is potty training and still very much in the throes of "terrible twos", he tries to be independent but he's just not capable of that yet, and then of course DD is a baby and her needs are very much dependent on me. It just gets so overwhelming. I think I will be better once DH is done coaching for the season but we still have another month(ish) of that.
She is a difficult child and has been since conception. IVF, progesterone shots, 24/7 nausea, ridiculous upper stomach pain, 24 hours of labor, jaundice, not sleeping, not wanting to be put down EVER, terrible latch.......Its been a rough year plus. After going through all that I would expect to feel some sort of resentment towards her and its anything but. I'm still head over heels in love with her and wouldn't trade her or my time with her for anything in the world.
I think the transition into new motherhood again after so long has flowed really well for me for the most part. My son was a dream. Amazing pregnancy, 6 hour labor, slept through the night at 6 weeks, and was happy and pleasant to just sit and look around. Then 18 months hit and he was a nightmare until 10 when he was finally medicated for ADHD.
I never expected DD to be as easy as DS, but I also didn't expect her to be so difficult either. Despite her difficultness, I still want nothing more than to be with her.
becole this baby is VERY easy. She's a great sleeper and has been for a while, the boys really aren't that bad either (save for the May14er who is my biggest challenge at the moment, especially potty training). For me it's just there are THREE of them, DH is gone a lot b/c of his work schedule, I solo parent quite a bit and I feel like things are never fully handled. I'm always behind in everything it seems and I have trouble focusing at work. It's not sleep though - I just feel frazzled and like I have too much to remember to do by myself. I am finding it difficult that all 3 kids are in SUCH different phases of their lives right now as well. DS1 has kindergarten stuff and he has little projects and sight words and books to read, and DS2 is potty training and still very much in the throes of "terrible twos", he tries to be independent but he's just not capable of that yet, and then of course DD is a baby and her needs are very much dependent on me. It just gets so overwhelming. I think I will be better once DH is done coaching for the season but we still have another month(ish) of that.
Exactly everything you said seems very overwhelming. You have 3 little ones. Life is hard. So very hard. And you're doing a lot by yourself. I think self care is as important for mental health as everything else. Finding ways to make it easier - find others that can help you out.
Also just making it through the day. My day yesterday was that it was Monday and I had to get both kids dropped off with all 20 bags of diapers, bottles, extra clothes, coats, etc... fill out all their daycare papers, sign them in, get them to their classes and off to work. Then they called me at work where I had 9 voicemails to return from Friday to Monday and only about 2 hours to do it minus a pump session. Anyway- they called and said baby was sick with a fever. H calls to say the toilet is leaking and must be fixed asap. He takes leave from work to fix toilet- we have no water in the house until it's fixed, I take leave to go get sick baby. Then I make a doctor appointment for 5:40 because I knew it was probably an EI- i dropped the big off and tried to comfort a feverish baby then I take the baby to the doctor. H is plumbing with the two yo alone. I go pick up the baby's prescription and it's hailing- hailing! At the exact moment I need to run with a bucket seat into the pharmacy. Then I get home and the poor big hasn't eaten so we get his food but can't give him a bath- no water. Then I feed baby and get his medicine in him and into bed and then try to lavish all my attention on the big so he doesn't feel like he's just sat at home for hours with no attention. We get him in bed just in time for H to finish plumbing and eat frozen pizza for dinner at 8:30pm. It was exhausting just typing that. There's a reason all of us feel ridiculous. It's because life is ridiculous right now. I just try to literally lol and koko. I can't change it. I can't make this stuff go away. This is just life. My babies are kissable and my bed feels so nice when I finally get to lay down.
I think my recent events have really clarified for me worrying/stressing vs. clinical anxiety. This anxiety truly sends me on a spiral that interferes with my everyday life.
I also think there's no harm in talking to a professional about concerns and hopefully they can distinguish tired and overwhelmed from clinical anxiety and/or depression.
I think my recent events have really clarified for me worrying/stressing vs. clinical anxiety. This anxiety truly sends me on a spiral that interferes with my everyday life.
I also think there's no harm in talking to a professional about concerns and hopefully they can distinguish tired and overwhelmed from clinical anxiety and/or depression.
Yes this is what I'm trying to get at a bit. Meds can help a brain imbalance and ability to cope to a degree but it may not get any of us to a "namaste" feeling of life in general right now.
You ladies that are having trouble emotionally or feeling content- do you have easy babies or tough? Are they sleeping? I ask because I felt very overwhelmed with my first and he cried a lot and slept very little. No amount of medication was going to help me cope with lack of sleep or getting through the day trying to wash bottles or pack lunch for work with a baby screaming at you and feeling like I got so little time with him. Medicine can help but I also just want to say it does get better but it's really hard when baby isn't a breeze or isn't sleeping well. I am having a totally different experience. Most days two with a toddler and easy baby that sleeps feels easier than what I remember of the early days with a fussy tired baby. I certainly hope you ladies talk to your doctor because meds will help- but also just know that it may not fix it all. Because life is hard right now. There's nothing that's going to change that.
I have a relatively easy baby who doesn't sleep and a tough toddler who does sleep. So one struggle during the day, one struggle during the night. I think the hopelessness that I feel is what pushes me over the edge of "this is a very difficult stage." I don't mind hard work. I don't mind being busy. I think for me personally, mostly staying home with them presents a lot of monotony of the same struggles all day every day to no end. And it just constantly feels like I'm failing. And I have known anxiety. Which has been exacerbated by not being able to be in control of anything. Which yes comes with the territory of having children. Yes its hard and a crazy stage of life. I think it's just a cluster fuck for people with anxiety and depression.
Post by ksyknelvr73 on Mar 21, 2017 11:38:57 GMT -5
becole stupid computer ate my response that I had typed out, so the short version now is I'm so sorry you had an awful, stressful day. I have those sometimes too. Every now and then I have that totally smooth day...just few and far between.
becole stupid computer ate my response that I had typed out, so the short version now is I'm so sorry you had an awful, stressful day. I have those sometimes too. Every now and then I have that totally smooth day...just few and far between.
We have to take it day by day. It seems hard to do but I can't believe that 5 months with my baby are gone and that I have been back at work for 2 months and that I'm so far removed already from being pregnant. They all feel so close yet so far. It's just a tough stage. 1st year of each new baby is the hardest.
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