htk1113 hi!! I was just wondering about you (and some other mia posters) the other day. How are things??
Things are going alright. My mom passed away in January which was hard to go through while taking care of a newborn.
It's been a bit stressful adjusting to life with two kids. Big brother has been great but still.
Delia is not as laid back as her brother was. She really didn't like being held by anyone but me for the first few months. I'm doing the MSPI diet to help with the terrible gas and diarrhea she had from the beginning. It's helped a lot.
I went back to work mid-February and that sucked. I didn't want to go back, I was enjoying my time home so much. But we can't afford to be a one income family.
Anyway, now it's mid March and I'm getting more settled into our routine. I have good days and bad but don't we all.
Tl/dr: had my ups and downs these past few months but things are getting better.
vinolove, I'm so jealous of your Skor blizzard. Skor bars were my favorite candy as a kid. We only have Health bar blizzards in Nebraska. Totally not the same.
Oh htk1113, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I have no words. I can only imagine how challenging that has been on top of all the other stuff we deal with as parents of now 2 kids. I hope your days move more towards up than down now. We are here to talk, vent, or distract as you need. And I imagine just lurking is entertaining too. Take care of yourself. Thanks for checking in.
Sending lots of good sleep vibes to you both, vinolove and danib! htk1113 I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I'm glad you are getting into a rhythm now with the two kids and work. I hope you will have many more good days than bad!
Post by jubilantsquirrel on Mar 20, 2017 19:43:23 GMT -5
htk1113, I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine the cluster of emotions you've experienced over the last few months. Huge hugs, lady.
Thanks for the kind words. My mom had been living with dementia for the past 7 years so her passing was a bit of a relief. She died peacefully and without pain which is all I could have hoped for. Her passing was much quicker than we thought it would be. The beginning of Jan we were told she had 6 months, she passed two weeks later.
I've been grieving the loss of my mom off and on since her diagnoses but that's dementia. So, her actual death was a kind of surreal. Her mind had been dying for years and I accepted the woman she became but her physical death was confusing to process for a bit.
Having kids and no mom to lean on was tough but Emmett was able to have some time with her. We had good times and she experienced her grandchildren in her own way. I was never able to bring Delia to met her but I showed her pictures and she would touch the screen and really take her time to look at them.
Thanks for sharing htk1113. Even if she didn't fully comprehend, I'm sure she knew on some level that those kids in the pictures were special. Big hugs!
In fact, I have one sitting in the fridge at this very moment for tomorrow morning!
If you don't happen to have an almost-empty PB jar you can just use a clean jar and stir in a tablespoon of peanut butter. I also put protein powder in mine.
Put AV in the RnP again tonight (still not sure if her congestion is a cold or reflux). She went down at 7:15p and (aside from paci assistance at 9:30 and 11:30) she is just getting up now at 1:30am !!!!
Holy Moses, 6 straight hours ?!
I can't keep putting her in the RnP but know I def want to figure out what else I can do to keep her head elevated since I'm starting to think that's her issue for waking so much. How do you raise the crib nattress?
After a bit of work, I got E down by 9 hoping for a good stretch. I went to bed by 10 but she was up by 10:15. I couldn't calm her so I fed her and then she was more upset. Very clearly uncomfortable, in pain, only wanting to be upright in standing. Obviously reflux at it's peak.
She finally fell asleep around midnight with me laying down, her kinda in a sitting squat beside me leaning forward on my waist so she was still mostly upright
No more crying overnight, and I was eventually able to lay her down flat on my bed but she was up a lot to feed.
I'm so torn between wanting her (and me) to sleep better and not creating bad sleep associations and feeling so bad for her and wanting to do anything to comfort her. The struggle is real folks.
Not that I'm experienced and I know I'm going to hate breaking associations later but I feel like bt the reflux, possible teething, regression, colds, etc - I've got to do whatever is gonna work right now.
She slept in the RnP 7:15/7:20 to 1:30a. Ate and back in RnP until 3:30. Ate and back in RnP but fussing the whole time, the congestion came back! Even with her in the RnP. Boo
About 5:00 I picked her up, topped her off, and am holding her right now as she sleeps on me.
I wanted to add to hangry - one particular night Adeline was in rough shape. The only way she fell asleep was between my legs (as I laid down) with her back and head resting up against my pelvis in a sitting position. She slept like that about 6-7 hrs that night.
danib I don't have a problem with co sleeping in general and I don't mind nursing to sleep at all. What I don't like is her waking several times and the only way back to sleep is by nursing. I don't like the unpredictability of her sleep. I don't like not getting enough sleep (either one of us). And I know at some point I'll resent having to spend an hour of my energy putting her to sleep for naps and bed. It shouldn't be that hard. I think I'm just sleep deprived and wish it were automatically easier. I know, not realistic.
Fwiw I nursed DS to sleep (or, he got a bottle of pumped milk from the sitter if I was working too late) until he was like, 13 or 14 months old. It did not have any negative effect on anything; he was fully STTN by 7 months old and has ever since, with the exception of only 5-6 nights (4 of which were when he was sick). He doesn't even take a cup of water to bed with him like a lot of other kids do.
It's not recommended but it is also not a guarantee of disaster so no one should be beating themself up over it!
Yea, I nursed O to sleep until I weaned him. Or, more accurately, i nursed him just before putting him down. At some point he stopped falling asleep while nursing but I could still put him down and he'd fall asleep. I have no problem with that. It wasnt negative in any way for us.
But multiple wake ups and poor naps because she wakes up and can't put herself to sleep is what I don't want. So I'll do sleep training when I can. I did it with O and was very happy afterwards. He's still a shitty sleeper when he's sick, which is a lot, but I can't imagine what it would be if we didn't train him. But I obviously can't do that with E yet.
sophiegrace E has always had what I would call a mild case of reflux and she has always been a poor sleeper. Her best nights were/are only 3 wake ups. But I feel like it's been getting worse. At our last doctor appt, the doc asked if E was very unhappy and crying all the time. And she isn't. She's a happy baby. But with googling, E has all the other signs of reflux and it def interferes with sleep. My doc had originally said she prefers to treat reflux with diet changes. So, I don't know if it's bad enough to need treatment and selfishly?, I just want it to be better without changing my whole diet.
I'm also bitter because by this age with O, he was predictably waking 2 times a night and had naturally progressed to 3 naps a day (2 long and 1 short) and they were mostly in his crib. I need to keep reminding myself that a) she's only 4.5 months and b) they are different babies and need different things
Post by sophiegrace on Mar 21, 2017 10:16:27 GMT -5
hangry is there another doctor at the practice you can get a second opinion from? The lack of sleep and not being able to lie flat is what got M the nexium. I've been on the MSPI diet since week 2 and it did nothing to help the reflux, so I don't blame you at all for not wanting to do it at this point. We did a two month course of the medicine to heal the damage in her esophagus and 'reset' the acid secretion and just finished weaning this weekend. She did have terrible bloating and gas from the medicine which is a common side effect and didn't help the whole sleep issue, but it was one of those weighing the options things. She's had almost no gas since being off of it and now I'm wondering if she's been catching on to the sleep thing because of all of this coming together and just finally feeling better.
ETA: I'm not trying to push drugs on your kid or anything, it's just what happened to work for us. I have never been more at a loss for what to do than I have in these past four and a half months.
Thank you so much for your insights! And I don't at all feel like your a drug pusher sophiegrace
We don't have another appointment until 6 months so if it doesn't improve in say half this time, I'll schedule an appointment right away and revisit it.
Fwiw I nursed DS to sleep (or, he got a bottle of pumped milk from the sitter if I was working too late) until he was like, 13 or 14 months old. It did not have any negative effect on anything; he was fully STTN by 7 months old and has ever since, with the exception of only 5-6 nights (4 of which were when he was sick). He doesn't even take a cup of water to bed with him like a lot of other kids do.
It's not recommended but it is also not a guarantee of disaster so no one should be beating themself up over it!
Exactly this with W. It was NBD.
Don't look for things that you're doing "wrong." Make it work for you and your kids, whatever that means. It will all shake out in the end just fine.
This is such a good thing to be constantly reminded of. I find myself trying look back all the time to see if I could have/should have done something different along the way. The answer is no. We have all done what needed to be done every step of the way.
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