Post by akafred on Mar 21, 2017 21:47:09 GMT -5
1) I am over sensitive like her. Ironically I grew up hearing, "You're too sensitive", meanwhile she left multiple churches because someone inadvertently offended her. I think she was judgmental in some ways and I have inherited some of that, but actually not nearly as much. She was a really good person and I try to be like her in that way. She always gave the benefit of the doubt and I tend to also.
But in most ways, I am nothing like her. She cared more about superficial things like clothes and makeup, and I go for comfort. She never talked about her life, esp with me, and I am an open book. I am a completely different parent. Some of that is natural (I never wanted to spank my kids, I am much more open about things like sex and whatnot or even uncomfortable thoughts and feelings all kids have, whereas I learned early that a lot of subjects were taboo and to keep my thoughts to myself if I didn't want them to be judged). I am not as strict in a lot of ways. To me, consequences not linked to the "crime" never made sense. I'm naturally more of a natural consequences type. But some of it I have to fight against. I think I tend to be a bit controlling or overbearing, and I don't think that is good, so I fight it, but it can be a challenge in the moment. My first reaction is generally too strong, like my mom.
2) Some kind of bold contrasting color. Whatever fits the home and neighborhood. But we have vinyl siding (and brick), so alas.
But in most ways, I am nothing like her. She cared more about superficial things like clothes and makeup, and I go for comfort. She never talked about her life, esp with me, and I am an open book. I am a completely different parent. Some of that is natural (I never wanted to spank my kids, I am much more open about things like sex and whatnot or even uncomfortable thoughts and feelings all kids have, whereas I learned early that a lot of subjects were taboo and to keep my thoughts to myself if I didn't want them to be judged). I am not as strict in a lot of ways. To me, consequences not linked to the "crime" never made sense. I'm naturally more of a natural consequences type. But some of it I have to fight against. I think I tend to be a bit controlling or overbearing, and I don't think that is good, so I fight it, but it can be a challenge in the moment. My first reaction is generally too strong, like my mom.
2) Some kind of bold contrasting color. Whatever fits the home and neighborhood. But we have vinyl siding (and brick), so alas.