linny12 , you are a better woman than me. I would have through the Florida thing in his face right then. Something like, "why would you care if we went to Florida, it's not like you are helping me with her right now!"
Oh we're currently still in a fight about it. He refuses to let us go, stating "he hates sleeping alone and would miss W" as his reasoning and that we'd be far away if anything were to happen with either of us or the baby. This wasn't a concern when he planned his fishing trip last month (to Florida). Apparently it's somehow different.
I hate that I feel like I have a dad rather than a husband. He's more strict than my actual father ever was, and also, I'm almost 30. Pretty sure I should be able to make decisions for myself.
Things are just building up.
I just cant....you should never have to describe your husband as strict. I am so sorry you are dealing with this.
OMG, I'm sitting here trying to not literally kill H.
I got home at 6:30 and immediately smelled a dirty diaper so I ask W if she needs changed, H looks up from his paper "oh yeah, she smelled like poop when I got her"... 2.5 hours ago.
So I take her to change her now on fire butt, put her down and get more diapers for the changing table and I walk into the kitchen to see her pouring chili powder in her mouth while H just stands there. I wipe off what I can and get her milk and go to use the bathroom and wash my hands.
W starts yelling "Help. Help. HELP!" I finish up and find her standing on top of the desk in our office. H ignored her calls for help and didn't watch her when I asked for 3 minutes to pee and wash my hands.
What the hell!?! Why am I having two kids with this person?
If I had another, I would do a sit and stand at this age. Probably the Joovy one because my b/sil have one and I like it.
On another note...anyone have a good face lotion? I use aveeno and have for a long time and my face is falling off. It literally flakes all day long and that feels ridiculous. I need winter to end.
I use La Roche-Posay Lipikar Fluide. It's a bit more expensive but a little goes a long way.
I'm feeling pretty good about myself for following my mommy instincts!
S developed a slight cough on Sat, Sun it got a little worse + low fever. Monday it looked like a full on cold. But no biggie. Tuesday the cough was AWEFUL. Nonestop. Not even coughing episodes...because it never stopped, it got worse in the evening. So today I told my H I wanted to take him in to see the pediatrician to be sure it wasn't anything more serious, like pneumonia. H thought we should give it another day, thought I was exagerating a bit by being concerned w pneumonia, said his cough had let up some. But if it made me feel better to go ahead and call. We got a lunchtime appointment, Dr heard wheezing in his lungs. She said since the wheezing was on both sides she didn't think it was pneumonia but rather a viral infection. The nurse gave him an albuterol breathing treatment. The nurse said initially the cough would flare up but that it would subside. And his cough has been SO MUCH better!!!
DH said he was glad I decided to take him in today.
I even asked the nurse while my husband went to the restroom if she thought I was kind of a paranoid overly cautious mom, considering she all the parents that come thru, and she said definitely not. Especially since every time I have taken S in there has been something legitimately wrong.
I baby wear, and think a double is a necessity. We have the city mini gt double and DD still fits great!
I agree with this after doing a few walks/walkable errands with both, DD1 in the stroller and wearing baby. I thought I could go without but I'm going to get a double. Especially for the summer when it's hot, I know I'd be miserable wearing the baby all the time.
I actually just looked at strollers today and loved this one, even though it's pretty beastly!
Oh we're currently still in a fight about it. He refuses to let us go, stating "he hates sleeping alone and would miss W" as his reasoning and that we'd be far away if anything were to happen with either of us or the baby. This wasn't a concern when he planned his fishing trip last month (to Florida). Apparently it's somehow different.
I hate that I feel like I have a dad rather than a husband. He's more strict than my actual father ever was, and also, I'm almost 30. Pretty sure I should be able to make decisions for myself.
Things are just building up.
I just cant....you should never have to describe your husband as strict. I am so sorry you are dealing with this.
I agree, awful and so sorry your dealing with this.
linny12 my husband can be pretty "deaf" and "blind" to some of the stuff S does, but to let your kid sit in a shitty diaper for 2hours?!?! Or allow them to endanger themselves??
I am sorry, but I would be on furious! Especially given the whole FL thing.
I know things havent been great, but have you two talked about it? Like once W goes to bed? Because this behavior is not ok.
corrys12, yeah we've talked about it. We're both not happy but don't see eye to eye on how to try to fix it/what's wrong. So here we sit, both kinda miserable.
Post by marygracerich on Mar 22, 2017 19:32:34 GMT -5
linny12 I would be absolutely raging. No effing way would that fly in my house. You need to have another conversation with him. W needs to be at least safe in his care.
linny12 I would be absolutely raging. No effing way would that fly in my house. You need to have another conversation with him. W needs to be at least safe in his care.
When I've thought of leaving, I realize that she'd be in his care for full days without me and I feel like I have to stay. Like he just doesn't see danger. At all.
linny12 I would be absolutely raging. No effing way would that fly in my house. You need to have another conversation with him. W needs to be at least safe in his care.
When I've thought of leaving, I realize that she'd be in his care for full days without me and I feel like I have to stay. Like he just doesn't see danger. At all.
I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. 😕 Can I give him a TP for you?
I'm feeling pretty good about myself for following my mommy instincts!
S developed a slight cough on Sat, Sun it got a little worse + low fever. Monday it looked like a full on cold. But no biggie. Tuesday the cough was AWEFUL. Nonestop. Not even coughing episodes...because it never stopped, it got worse in the evening. So today I told my H I wanted to take him in to see the pediatrician to be sure it wasn't anything more serious, like pneumonia. H thought we should give it another day, thought I was exagerating a bit by being concerned w pneumonia, said his cough had let up some. But if it made me feel better to go ahead and call. We got a lunchtime appointment, Dr heard wheezing in his lungs. She said since the wheezing was on both sides she didn't think it was pneumonia but rather a viral infection. The nurse gave him an albuterol breathing treatment. The nurse said initially the cough would flare up but that it would subside. And his cough has been SO MUCH better!!!
DH said he was glad I decided to take him in today.
I even asked the nurse while my husband went to the restroom if she thought I was kind of a paranoid overly cautious mom, considering she all the parents that come thru, and she said definitely not. Especially since every time I have taken S in there has been something legitimately wrong.
I feel like today I WON!!!
Go mama! Glad he's on the mend. Wheezing/coughing is scary stuff.
linny12 I would be absolutely raging. No effing way would that fly in my house. You need to have another conversation with him. W needs to be at least safe in his care.
When I've thought of leaving, I realize that she'd be in his care for full days without me and I feel like I have to stay. Like he just doesn't see danger. At all.
Post by bethypoo83 on Mar 22, 2017 20:07:24 GMT -5
linny12 I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all of this.
I think you owe it to yourself and W (and next baby) to set an expectation for safety for W and support for you. And if your DH can't meet that expectation then you may have to decide how to proceed. Safety is non-negotiable.
linny12 do you have anyone IRL you can talk to? I didn't want to overstep with a comment this morning since I didn't know the background of the FL trip, but after hearing all of this plus other things you've mentioned in the past I'm concerned. You and W don't deserve this.
linny12 I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all of this.
I think you owe it to yourself and W (and next baby) to set an expectation for safety for W and support for you. And if your DH can't meet that expectation then you may have to decide how to proceed. Safety is non-negotiable.
It's such common sense stuff that I don't even know that I have to tell him these things until I pull in the driveway and find my 14 month old playing outside alone in the backyard (that's a wooded river valley), or whatever.
Like I should have never had to explain that to anyone over the age of like 5, or so I thought.
I swear he was a responsible logical adult before we had kids. I don't know what happened.
linny12 do you have anyone IRL you can talk to? I didn't want to overstep with a comment this morning since I didn't know the background of the FL trip, but after hearing all of this plus other things you've mentioned in the past I'm concerned. You and W don't deserve this.
I mostly just vent to my mom and you guys, which I'm sure you're all over it, haha.
It's a rough age for it, but you can't let yourself get to a bad place with it.
As soon as this last molar breaks through I'll be training W in the big girl bed. She's gotten used to snuggling to sleep, and it's getting old.
We've done sleep training before. I know it works because most of the time we are in an ok place.
The last couple of weeks have been consistently hard. I don't know if it's those darn molars or what. We've been trying different things in hopes of finding the magic solution.
Tonight was good to get to sleep. She went in her crib awake, gave a hug and kiss and that was that.
MOTN has been rough. Wakes ups for a blankie and her puppy and her paci which are alllllll within arms reach in the crib! She goes back to sleep right away but that's not always true for me!
G had been getting up in the middle of the night just to party. There was no crying involved but she was up sometimes for an hour or two. I couldn't handle it. I finally turned the monitor off at night. I share a wall with her so if she truly needed me, I could hear her but I don't hear all the playtime shenanigans. It was the best decision ever.
Tracey is awesome and super knowledgeable. I love all her products.
Does it last a while?
I've had my bottles of each for 3+ months and I still haven't run out. I'm sure you can find the acid elsewhere too. You just add one drop/squirt to whatever moisturizer you like and it helps lock it in.
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