Has anyone seen Nocturnal Animals? It's a psychological thriller with Amy Adams and Jake Gyllenhaal. It was so disturbing Im still thinking about it today.
Something's gotta give guys. Seriously. On one hand I don't think it's fair that I should change when I don't have a problem but second hand do I need to change my ways too to expect a change from him?
I need help. Can't find a therapist fast enough.
To start I'm changing with. But we've had days where I'm making an exception for myself, i discuss it with him before hand. He even admitted a few weeks in that it was his problem, not mine. It's tough, some days I was resentful of the changes I had to make. You know how to get me if you want/ need to talk offline.
I don't know @janetheconquerer. I know I can't change what someone else does, so I can only decide whether I'm willing to put up with what that person chooses to do. I don't think that's me changing - I just think it's me being clear about what I can tolerate. If the other person chooses to do things I've been clear I can't tolerate, then at least I was honest about my thought process and the consequences. I'm all about being willing to discuss and compromise, but at some point I need to draw a line in the sand.
Has anyone seen Nocturnal Animals? It's a psychological thriller with Amy Adams and Jake Gyllenhaal. It was so disturbing Im still thinking about it today.
I want to see this.
It's disturbing in a way similar to the purge. Except the purge is a bit deattached because its a world where laws don't exist, nocturnal animals is disturbing and terrifying becauce it easily could happen and likely does.
Add me to the list of women whose spouse doesn't budget any time to get the kids ready when we're going anywhere. Why is that my responsibility? And then he sits around like it has never occurred to him what might need to be done or how much time we have left before we need to leave.
DH is a good guy and I know this just isn't his strong suit but it's been a major source of friction in our relationship since having kids and continues to happen even after we've talked about it repeatedly. I try to remind myself that I'm not perfect either and someday this will be a non-issue again because the kids will be able to get themselves ready. But I still find myself getting pissed every time it happens...
We've been taking the kids out to eat since the twins were infants. We try to pick places where the food comes out relatively quickly. We always bring things for the kids to do and we have a few items we reserve mostly for restaurants so the kids find them to be new and interesting. We also always bring some food for Abigail to get her started while we're waiting on food to come out. We'll usually bring a small container of mixed veggies, a yogurt, and some cut up fruit. That way, worst case scenario, if she fills her tummy while we're waiting, at least she's eating healthy stuff, and if she doesn't like what we ordered, at least she won't starve. We don't break out her food until she's getting restless, so sometimes we don't even need most of it. We also make sure that any food we bring for her will take her a while to eat. No pouches that will be sucked down in 30 seconds!
I have a kid whose weight barely falls in the range for 12 month size clothes but whose height is basically in 2T now. It's a challenge to clothe her. I see a lot of leggings in her future, but even those are big. Total FWP over here.
Apparently she needs a personal tailor lol. Not going to happen, and I'm not handy when it comes to sewing. I'm so looking forward to shorts season!
Normally I would agree with you, but if this is related to what I think it is I would say that @janetheconquerer changing her particular behavior in this case would be supporting her H get a behavior under control. I did the same thing to show I'm supportive of my H getting the same behavior under control. I think he would have been less successful had I not altered my behavior as well.
I have a kid whose weight barely falls in the range for 12 month size clothes but whose height is basically in 2T now. It's a challenge to clothe her. I see a lot of leggings in her future, but even those are big. Total FWP over here.
Apparently she needs a personal tailor lol. Not going to happen, and I'm not handy when it comes to sewing. I'm so looking forward to shorts season!
M is finally having a minor language explosion. He's added Abby as a more consistent word and he was singing the ABCs (mumbled of course) this weekend! Super exciting!
Something's gotta give guys. Seriously. On one hand I don't think it's fair that I should change when I don't have a problem but second hand do I need to change my ways too to expect a change from him?
I need help. Can't find a therapist fast enough.
I drafted a response but I'll send it pm instead. Don't feel like you need to reply.
Add me to the list of women whose spouse doesn't budget any time to get the kids ready when we're going anywhere. Why is that my responsibility? And then he sits around like it has never occurred to him what might need to be done or how much time we have left before we need to leave.
DH is a good guy and I know this just isn't his strong suit but it's been a major source of friction in our relationship since having kids and continues to happen even after we've talked about it repeatedly. I try to remind myself that I'm not perfect either and someday this will be a non-issue again because the kids will be able to get themselves ready. But I still find myself getting pissed every time it happens...
Tonight was an absolute SHIT SHOW. Remember in the bed time thread when I said he goes to bed later. Well I put him down at 6 without nursing. The kid SCREAMED for 1.5 hours. Over dinner, over bath time, etc. I'm sure he will wake up MOTN and be starving/awake but I'm home alone and I was about to hurt him.
I got an email about the upper-division nursing program. I've been waitlisted. I have a 3.7 GPA and my test score was 98%. I don't know how everyone else compares so now I have to wait longer to find out if I'm in.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
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