Me: 29 DH: 35 NTNP since May 2013 charting since June 2014 dx: Graves disease (radioactive iodine), Crohns disease (abdominal surgeries) MMC October 2015 (9 weeks) Severe MFI diagnosis July 2015
Post by applemuffins on Apr 5, 2017 20:28:32 GMT -5
So I didn't think much of it, but I developed a small red spot on my cheek. It looks kind of like a pimple but it can't be popped and has been there for quite a few weeks now. Tonight I noticed more small red bumps kind of close to my boob. After googling, I'm pretty sure they are cherry angiomas and they can apparently be common in pregnancy. Anyone have this before? Did they go away? They are small and mostly not too noticeable, but I'd definitely prefer not to have one right smack on the front of my cheek forever...
What's new with baby (size, development)? butternut squash, estimated 2 lb 12 oz per tuesday's ultrasound.
Boy/girl/not finding out/haven't found out yet? girl
Name? undecided
Any upcoming appointments this week? had one tuesday, next one is in 4 weeks. then we switch to every 2 weeks. we're touring a hospital this weekend.
Any new symptoms or changes? so exhausted all the time!
Rants/Raves/Questions?
What is the last thing you bought for baby? i can't think of anything, but i want to buy some of those sleepers with the zipper that starts from the foot! maybe today.
Did you do anything for yourself this week? not even close...DH has been working until 10 every night, so it's been chaos at my house. i'm staying home with DD tomorrow - does that count?
GTKY: What do you do for a living? i'm a financial planner. the rest of my team in based in NYC (i'm in houston), where DH and i lived before moving here to be closer to family. it's interesting being the only one down here, but overall i really like the setup.
Post by trebletrouble13 on Apr 6, 2017 18:27:31 GMT -5
How far along are you? 30 weeks, 2 days
What's new with baby (size, development)? The size of three stacked Hungry Man frozen dinners?
Boy/girl/not finding out/haven't found out yet? Girl
Name? Ellie
Any upcoming appointments this week? Nope. Had my usual thyroid blood draw today, but that's it. I need to schedule my 32-week growth ultrasound.
Any new symptoms or changes? Heartburn is worse, falling (and staying) asleep is worse, but overall I'm feeling pretty good.
Rants/Raves/Questions? I'm not sure I posted before about it, but my amniotic fluid showed completely normal on my 26 week US. It had been low normal at my 20 week US, but they are no longer concerned.
What is the last thing you bought for baby? Trying to buy a double stroller on OfferUp, but the seller isn't responding...
Did you do anything for yourself this week? Stepped up my steps this week and it feels good. I also broached the subject of getting a Fitbit Flex 2 as a birthday present. MH thinks is sounds good. I have a Fitbit Charge HR which works fine, but it is not waterproof, so I have to take it off for an hour or more three times a week when DS and I go swimming and every time we go to the splash pad.
GTKY: What do you do for a living? SAHMs, what did you do before kids? SAHM now, but I used to work in a medical office doing tech support and 1000 other things.
Post by teachermomtobe on Apr 6, 2017 18:51:09 GMT -5
How far along are you? 30 weeks
What's new with baby (size, development)? Shedding lanugo and getting fat, size of a cantaloupe, brain getting bigger, bone marrow making red blood cells
Boy/girl/not finding out/haven't found out yet? girl
Name? We have 3 names. We plan to use 2 of them (for first and middle) but not sure yet which ones will make the cut and what order the names will be used in
Any upcoming appointments this week? Next Thursday
Any new symptoms or changes? Definite braxton hicks but not painful, tiring easily, a lot of back pain if I over do things, not sleeping as well/harder time falling back asleep
Rants/Raves/Questions? My shower is on Saturday, so exciting and crazy! Not looking forward to 3 days of parent conferences tomorrow and next week but then it's April vacation!
What is the last thing you bought for baby? Nothing in a long time
Did you do anything for yourself this week? Not really, got a dress for my shower if that counts lol
GTKY: What do you do for a living? I teach 3rd grade. I've only taught 3rd grade and have been teaching for 8 years now. I absolutely love this age!
What's new with baby: growing!!! And head down ready for birth!
Boy/girl/not finding out/haven't found out yet? No idea
Name? Theodore James or Edith Grace, although we do like to change our names up often so that may change
Any upcoming appointments this week? I pretty much have daily appointments at this point, keeps me busy
Any new symptoms or changes? NST picked up BH contractions, I don't feel a thing
Rants/Raves/Questions? Started sorting and washing clothes/ diapers today so exciting
What is the last thing you bought for baby? A diaper !! Haha I really need to stop but I keep finding really cute ones on BST sites
Did you do anything for yourself this week? I ate thee chocolate covered almonds today. It's a special treat because on my diet I'm not allowed almonds or sugar haha
GTKY: What do you do for a living? I work in mental health/ corrections as an OT
Me: 29 DH: 35 NTNP since May 2013 charting since June 2014 dx: Graves disease (radioactive iodine), Crohns disease (abdominal surgeries) MMC October 2015 (9 weeks) Severe MFI diagnosis July 2015
What's new with baby (size, development)? baby is size of a barbie convertible
Boy/girl/not finding out/haven't found out yet? not finding out
Name? not even close
Any upcoming appointments this week? nope
Any new symptoms or changes? After both DD and DS, I had PPD. This time, I'm having trouble with antepartum depression as well. This last week has been especially hard. I haven't had much patience with DD and DS, and I feel horrible for it.
Rants/Raves/Questions? I had another follow-up ultrasound on Wednesday since DS was IUGR. LO was measuring 21%, and they predict about 6.5 lb baby if born full term. While that is so much bigger than DS was at birth (5 lbs 3 oz), I was really hoping this baby would be at least 7 lbs. This really isn't helping with my depression. I keep feeling like I'm doing something wrong.
What is the last thing you bought for baby? I can't remember. We don't need a lot this time around.
Did you do anything for yourself this week? I wish I could. I know it would help with the depression, but DH has been working late and we have basically no help from family. For instance, my mom was supposed to watch DD and DS so I could go to my ultrasound appointment. She told me she couldn't anymore last week. I found out it was because she decided to take my sister's kids to see Beauty and the Beast instead.
GTKY: What do you do for a living? SAHMs, what did you do before kids? Share as much or as little as you would like. I'm a SAHM now, but I was a chemist before I had kids. My last position was a post-doc at the large research university around here. I plan on going back to work once the kids are all in school, but not as a chemist. I'm not sure what I want to do anymore.
brandiewine11 that's great news!! Let me know if you have any questions about a vbac - I had an emergency c-section with DD and a vbac with DS. So worth trying!
brandiewine11 that's great news!! Let me know if you have any questions about a vbac - I had an emergency c-section with DD and a vbac with DS. So worth trying!
I had an emergency c the first time too. Please tell me all the things. I'm so nervous for it to happen again.
iris1264, that's really hard. It sounds like you may not have a lot of support around. I'm not sure if it's been mentioned or if you feel comfortable saying, but I'm wondering if you are pursuing therapy or another type of treatment. You may know from your previous experience that you don't have to manage this on your own. I don't want you to be overwhelmed without support.
iris1264 , that's really hard. It sounds like you may not have a lot of support around. I'm not sure if it's been mentioned or if you feel comfortable saying, but I'm wondering if you are pursuing therapy or another type of treatment. You may know from your previous experience that you don't have to manage this on your own. I don't want you to be overwhelmed without support.
To follow up on this, do you have help with childcare? Do the kids go to preschool at all? Or even gym daycare? Two small kids are really tough, and even one hour without mine make me feel much more balanced. Is there any way you can line up more help?
brandiewine11 that's great news!! Let me know if you have any questions about a vbac - I had an emergency c-section with DD and a vbac with DS. So worth trying!
I had an emergency c the first time too. Please tell me all the things. I'm so nervous for it to happen again.
Although you could end up in c-section again (because everyone could end up there regardless of prior delivery history), keep in mind that 60-80% of women who attempt a TOLAC will be successful. I don't know about your history at all, but having a supportive provider is very important. I was given a 50/50 chance of being able to deliver vaginally, and I was thisclose to having another cs. I'll give you more details if you like from either or both deliveries. I just don't want to give more than you want to hear.
I'm so, so glad I attempted a TOL after my cs. My recovery was infinitely better. I felt better 2 hours after my vaginal delivery than I did 2 weeks after my cs. I'm planning on another vbac this time as well, assuming all goes well with the baby's growth and there are no other problems that would require a cs anyway.
I'm more than willing to tell you more, just let me know exactly what it is you want to know!
iris1264 , that's really hard. It sounds like you may not have a lot of support around. I'm not sure if it's been mentioned or if you feel comfortable saying, but I'm wondering if you are pursuing therapy or another type of treatment. You may know from your previous experience that you don't have to manage this on your own. I don't want you to be overwhelmed without support.
I'm not currently on medication and I won't take any until after delivery. I just don't feel comfortable. I know that there are plenty of other women that take antidepressants throughout pregnancy, that's just not for me.
As for counseling, I saw someone when I was pregnant with DS, and I have seen her a few times since he was born. The only issue is that it takes 4-6 weeks to get an appointment with her at a time when DH can get home early from work, since I don't have anyone else to take care of the kids. Unfortunately, I don't seem to recognize things are going downhill until they're BAD so I don't have anything set up right now. I should call and try to get something on the schedule though.
iris1264 , that's really hard. It sounds like you may not have a lot of support around. I'm not sure if it's been mentioned or if you feel comfortable saying, but I'm wondering if you are pursuing therapy or another type of treatment. You may know from your previous experience that you don't have to manage this on your own. I don't want you to be overwhelmed without support.
To follow up on this, do you have help with childcare? Do the kids go to preschool at all? Or even gym daycare? Two small kids are really tough, and even one hour without mine make me feel much more balanced. Is there any way you can line up more help?
Nope, no help with childcare. FIL and MIL live a few hours away (MIL is 2.5, FIL is about 4). MIL isn't really interested in being a grandma anyway. Last time FIL was here I suggested he watch the kids so DH and I could have dinner together alone, and he laughed in my face. Like, literally laughed for almost a minute. As much as he stays at our house, he's never changed a diaper or even gotten a kid a cup of water. Ever. My mom and sister live nearby, but aren't much help (my dad passed away 12.5 years ago). My sister has 2 young kids of her own, and she and BIL both work full-time. Plus, they are having problems and may be separating. My mom is flaky at best. She often offers to help and then cancels last minute, like what she did earlier this week.
We technically *could* hire some help, and DH actually wants to have someone come over a few hours a week so I can run errands or take a nap or whatever. However, I would rather use that money to pay off debt, or save in case I have to have someone here after the baby is born (like if I have to have another c-section). I guess I feel like having help in that way would be trading one stress for another. I know I need some kind of help, I just haven't been able to find a solution I feel comfortable with.
I had an emergency c the first time too. Please tell me all the things. I'm so nervous for it to happen again.
Although you could end up in c-section again (because everyone could end up there regardless of prior delivery history), keep in mind that 60-80% of women who attempt a TOLAC will be successful. I don't know about your history at all, but having a supportive provider is very important. I was given a 50/50 chance of being able to deliver vaginally, and I was thisclose to having another cs. I'll give you more details if you like from either or both deliveries. I just don't want to give more than you want to hear.
I'm so, so glad I attempted a TOL after my cs. My recovery was infinitely better. I felt better 2 hours after my vaginal delivery than I did 2 weeks after my cs. I'm planning on another vbac this time as well, assuming all goes well with the baby's growth and there are no other problems that would require a cs anyway.
I'm more than willing to tell you more, just let me know exactly what it is you want to know!
Thank you. I'll PM you if you don't mind? I don't want to scare others with the details.... :-)
Although you could end up in c-section again (because everyone could end up there regardless of prior delivery history), keep in mind that 60-80% of women who attempt a TOLAC will be successful. I don't know about your history at all, but having a supportive provider is very important. I was given a 50/50 chance of being able to deliver vaginally, and I was thisclose to having another cs. I'll give you more details if you like from either or both deliveries. I just don't want to give more than you want to hear.
I'm so, so glad I attempted a TOL after my cs. My recovery was infinitely better. I felt better 2 hours after my vaginal delivery than I did 2 weeks after my cs. I'm planning on another vbac this time as well, assuming all goes well with the baby's growth and there are no other problems that would require a cs anyway.
I'm more than willing to tell you more, just let me know exactly what it is you want to know!
Thank you. I'll PM you if you don't mind? I don't want to scare others with the details.... :-)
iris1264, I can certainly see the motivation to try to pay off debt instead of spending money on help. But I really think you should consider it, especially with how much it sounds like your DH works, and your history of PPD. It doesn't have to be a long-term thing, and if you're feeling fine you could always cut back on it.
I think it would be money very well spent. You could find someone now and test them out a bit before the third baby arrives. I know I am going to have trouble leaving all three kids with one person, but I figure even if I can get out of the house with one kid at a time, or have someone watch the baby while big kids are napping, or whatever, it will be a huge help.
Also, your oldest is about 3 right? Could you do part time preschool?
iris1264 , I can certainly see the motivation to try to pay off debt instead of spending money on help. But I really think you should consider it, especially with how much it sounds like your DH works, and your history of PPD. It doesn't have to be a long-term thing, and if you're feeling fine you could always cut back on it.
I think it would be money very well spent. You could find someone now and test them out a bit before the third baby arrives. I know I am going to have trouble leaving all three kids with one person, but I figure even if I can get out of the house with one kid at a time, or have someone watch the baby while big kids are napping, or whatever, it will be a huge help.
Also, your oldest is about 3 right? Could you do part time preschool?
MH doesn't work that much, usually. There are weeks however where he's late every day. I think the biggest time suck is his 45 minute commute each way.
You make a good point about testing someone out before LO comes. I think MH and I will have to discuss it again this weekend.
And yes, DD will be 3 tomorrow (where did my baby go???). We looked into preschools for this fall, and I think we are going to wait another year. For what we would pay for part time preschool, I could hire someone to come over to take care of all 3 kids, and I would rather do that for now.
iris1264, when my mom had my sister and I was 2.5 she had PPD, and it's one of her biggest regrets that she didn't get some help, even if she had to go into debt to do it. She still talks about it 33 years later And she didn't have 3 kids, or have them so close! I hope you're able to figure out something that works!
iris1264 - Sorry things are tough for you right now. I agree with PPs about taking care of yourself however you can. Therapy is worth the money. You can always pay down debt later, but it will be harder to keep your mental health.
I'm not sure how much it costs, but there's a service I heard about a while ago called Talkspace. It's a website which connects you to a therapist and they respond to you at least once daily. Could be something to hold you over until you can get an in-person appointment?
Whatever you do, sending you positive thoughts and strength. Just being able to recognize you need support is huge and amazing.
So I didn't think much of it, but I developed a small red spot on my cheek. It looks kind of like a pimple but it can't be popped and has been there for quite a few weeks now. Tonight I noticed more small red bumps kind of close to my boob. After googling, I'm pretty sure they are cherry angiomas and they can apparently be common in pregnancy. Anyone have this before? Did they go away? They are small and mostly not too noticeable, but I'd definitely prefer not to have one right smack on the front of my cheek forever...
Yep. I got a couple with DD and a few more pop up this time too. Sorry to say mine never went away though.
iris1264 another vote for getting some help with childcare even if it's just an hour here and there. i totally understand your reservations - i had many of the same after DD was born. like you, i didn't realize how bad things were until they were awful, and one of my biggest struggles when i'm depressed is accepting help/settling on an imperfect solution. i can poke holes in every suggested solution (not saying you are doing that), but DH eventually forced me to try SOMETHING, because i was in a bad place. and i realized that it was worthwhile. just saying that you're not alone, and none of this is easy. we have to put our oxygen masks on first sometimes!
What's new with baby (size, development)? A motorcycle helmet...little less than 3 pounds!
Boy/girl/not finding out/haven't found out yet? Boy
Any upcoming appointments this week? Today! Nothing new this time. Next appointment will be labs and sono.
Any new symptoms or changes? I'm starting to have some BH's. I never felt anything with DD so that gives me a sliver of hope I just may go into labor on my own.
Rants/Raves/Questions? Getting a 4D sono with the grandparents this weekend. I'm so excited to see his little face!
What is the last thing you bought for baby? Curtain and foot stool for the nursery. Waiting to buy anything else until after the shower.
Did you do anything for yourself this week? Still no. Hoping for a pedi soon.
GTKY: What do you do for a living? NICU nurse...not a very good pregnant patient at all!
iris1264 I'm late on the conversation but I 100% support contacting your old therapist. Hopefully things get better, but if they don't you can have that day/date to look forward to. If you could also search for a social worker/ someone who can connect you with lower cost temporary childcare. Your hospital may have one, you don't have to disclose your situation if you not comfortable but maybe use them to ask for local resources (respite/childcare), you are t the only person in this situation and they'll know of resources that may help. I'm not sure what your individual coping strategies are (and I know it's super hard with two kids) but could you pull them out for until then, even if it's just a nightly meditation/ morning yoga). Finances are a huge stressor for me so I can see how you feel about paying for help but even places where you can take your kids to get a break (like craft sessions at Michaels or the play place at the gym/IKEA- I'm Canadian so they might not be relevant there). Also, pre kid me was always up for taking my friends kids for the day, if you have friends nearby (which might not be an option) they might be worth asking for support. Honestly I still watch my friends kids, free of charge (or the cost of a movie/ museum date/ face paint) when their parents needed a break. You don't have to do this alone.
ETA: because it's super important to me if your thoughts ever start to scare you or you really feel like you can't cope, please strongly consider going on medication, even if you're still pregnant. Medication fixes the chemicals in your brain so you can start to do the work yourself.
Me: 29 DH: 35 NTNP since May 2013 charting since June 2014 dx: Graves disease (radioactive iodine), Crohns disease (abdominal surgeries) MMC October 2015 (9 weeks) Severe MFI diagnosis July 2015
iris1264 another vote for getting some help with childcare even if it's just an hour here and there. i totally understand your reservations - i had many of the same after DD was born. like you, i didn't realize how bad things were until they were awful, and one of my biggest struggles when i'm depressed is accepting help/settling on an imperfect solution. i can poke holes in every suggested solution (not saying you are doing that), but DH eventually forced me to try SOMETHING, because i was in a bad place. and i realized that it was worthwhile. just saying that you're not alone, and none of this is easy. we have to put our oxygen masks on first sometimes!
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