The owner called and told the manager that it wasn't busy enough to justify the number of employees. Last hired first fired. It sucks. I was really liking that job. I'm applying at similar places, but I think it might be the same everywhere.
dizzycooks they didn't advertise. I went in and gave them my resume. I feel sick. If they hadn't hired me in the first place I would've spent last weekend applying more. I need to find another job. I can afford my car payments and nothing else without one.
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 12, 2017 1:37:15 GMT -5
Lollipop, I'm sorry about the job. I hope something comes up soon. I think there's often a pretty high turnover at those types of places - maybe you can tell them that you're still interested and to keep you in mind if they need to hire sometime soon?
kelltothekell, sorry about the crappy sleep. Each of my girls has gone through an awful sleep phase, and I know how hard it can be. Have you thought about sleep training? With DD1 I still say that I think Ferber saved our marriage, and it was *so* much easier than I had feared. It all depends on the kid (Ferber never worked with DD2), but after the experience with DD1 I always say it's worth a try. Give it a week and if there's no sign of improvement then you can always toss it. With DD1 it worked a miracle in 2 days.
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 12, 2017 1:39:04 GMT -5
Had to share - DD1 got a gift certificate for a slushie or a piece of cake from an indoor amusement park we have season tickets to. Whenever she would talk about going, though, she would say how she couldn't wait to have a "flushie" Made me laugh every time. We finally got her flushie when we went there on Monday, so I just have to hope she hasn't learned how to say it right by next year!
kelltothekell that's very frustrating. L did that too for a while. The only thing that changed it was sleep training. And I think that's the only part of the sleep training that has held well. Anyway I understand not wanting to sleep train. No other great ideas here though. NellieOleson she was good. Hubs picked her up and she definitely was eager to see me but it sounds like it went well. Unfortunately when I was putting her to bed last night she felt warm but no temp. Then she woke up fussy in the middle of the night and definitely had a temp so no daycare today.
Had to share - DD1 got a gift certificate for a slushie or a piece of cake from an indoor amusement park we have season tickets to. Whenever she would talk about going, though, she would say how she couldn't wait to have a "flushie" Made me laugh every time. We finally got her flushie when we went there on Monday, so I just have to hope she hasn't learned how to say it right by next year!
S says smoovie lol. He can't seem to keep smoothie and slushie straight in his mind for some reason. It's cute, and one of the last things he messes up. I'm going to miss it.
Post by scorpioscuba on Apr 12, 2017 10:04:19 GMT -5
kelltothekell, I've been there...with BOTH of my kids! With DS I just did what you are doing because no version of ST worked for us. We survived but it wasn't easy.
With DD I did end up sleep training. When she would wake up like that I would let her cry just for about 5 no more than 10 minutes (as long as it wasn't a hysterical cry). I'd go in and lean over the crib and soothe her, tell her to lay down, etc. Then I'd sit on the floor beside the crib and reach in to pat her, calm her and repeat "it's night night time. go to sleep." Then I'd leave after a few minutes of that. She'd cry and I repeated the cycle. To be honest the first time I did this it took 2 hours of that cycle over and over and she finally fell asleep. But after a few days the time got shorter and shorter and she would go to sleep on her own after nursing and then wouldn't wake up again or if she did, she would put herself back to sleep.
DD responded ok to seeing me. It calmed her. And I was comfortable with this approach because (for me) it felt like she knew I was still there and hadn't completely left like the extinction method. When I tried checks with DS it would make it worse (thus we ended up co-sleeping for a long time). Every kid is different. So there is no telling what will work for your DD.
TL/DR - find a method that you are comfortable with and works for your DD. It is very likely that ST will eliminate the wakeup an hour after bedtime, or at least she will learn to put herself back to sleep without alerting you. Having your evening back is life changing. But getting there is hard.
There are lots of other good articles there and they have an awesome FB group you can get into. I posted for help and got some great suggestions that worked for me.
i try not to complain about this much because I never did sleep training or anything but my sweet little dd wakes up literally an hour after we put her down (in crib) every night. send help. it makes it tough to do anything. sometimes dh gets her back down and sometimes I just go to bed. she co-sleeps with us and then sleeps ok. i'm fine with the co-sleeping part but I just wish she'd sleep longer in the beginning. I think she's waking up after a sleep cycle every night.
My dd1 did that for a super long time, and dd2 has gone through spurts of it. It is SOOOOOOOI hard. I think you're right that she's waking up after one sleep cycle and then wondering where you are.
Have you tried just putting her to sleep in your bed or a bed in her room? If you're going to cosleep anyway maybe if she briefly wakes up after her sleep cycle and is where she knows she will stay to sleep she'll have an easier time going back to sleep in her own? My vote would be to ditch the crib if you are transferring her into it asleep and then taking her out at first wake up anyway.
What also helped my dd1 sleep longer stretches was night weaning.
Good luck! It's super duper hard. I remember being really resentful of my H because I had to go to bed early every night while he got to stay up and watch movies. It was not a good time for anyone.
Post by dizzycooks on Apr 12, 2017 13:20:59 GMT -5
kcrkcs I hope L is feeling better today! Fevers suck! kelltothekell we are here to hear all whining without judgement sleep issues suck. I'm totally ready to drop the motn nursing and waking, but it's so damn easy and dh only hears her less than half the time. Make a plan and give it time to stick. She will sleep one day....or at least I tell myself that. Lollipop any leads? I wish I had some legit wah leads, especially with dd1 in school next year, I'm sure I'd have time, but my industry doesn't really do wah. I'm sitting in the couch, kids are sleeping and I'm so tired. I've totally flaked on housekeeping and proving any projects for my middle dd lately. Need to get my act together. Maybe we can put the raster basket together today.
dizzycooks no real leads. The best I can do is wander around handing out resumes. If I had more experience in the industry I'd probably have an easier time, but as it is, I just have to hope someone is willing to take a chance. If I don't hear anything from that end of things, I might have to go back to retail/customer service, which I hate. But I can't stay unemployed.
Post by tinydancer on Apr 12, 2017 20:16:05 GMT -5
NellieOleson, what a crappy thing for those owners to do. Sorry house hunting is so crazy - I've seen a lot of people go through the same thing in the DMV. It's good that you don't have a firm deadline to move though - hopefully something great will pop up soon. Sorry Lollipop, that sucks. I hope you find a new job soon. kcrkcs, I'm glad day 1 of daycare went well. What a big step! Hugs kelltothekell. I have no advice but I hope the sleep situation improves soon.
Have you tried just putting her to sleep in your bed or a bed in her room? If you're going to cosleep anyway maybe if she briefly wakes up after her sleep cycle and is where she knows she will stay to sleep she'll have an easier time going back to sleep in her own? My vote would be to ditch the crib if you are transferring her into it asleep and then taking her out at first wake up anyway.
Question about this - does your DD sleep in something in your bed to keep her from falling out? I'm thinking about moving my LO into a bed soon because we only have a minicrib and it's getting a little cramped for him, but I'm nervous that he'll fall out of any bed that's raised off of the floor. Maybe because last summer he rolled out of my bed when we were cosleeping.
I'm also not sure if I want him to be uncontained in his room - even though I know he'll most likely just sleep in there I have this vision of him strewing the contents of his diaper pail around his room in the middle of the night or something like that.
Post by tinydancer on Apr 12, 2017 21:50:32 GMT -5
I guess like kelltothekell, I'd also be afraid of him crawling out. He nurses in bed with me in the morning and after he's done he always tries to dive headfirst off the side. I'm trying to teach him that he needs to go feet first but he hasn't quite gotten it yet.
I am living in the wrong city at the moment. I give zero fucks about hockey. While living in a city who's team hasn't made the play offs in 11 years and haven't won in 29. 90% of my Facebook friends are die hard fans. So much hockey on my news feed. Super annoying.
I am living in the wrong city at the moment. I give zero fucks about hockey. While living in a city who's team hasn't made the play offs in 11 years and haven't won in 29. 90% of my Facebook friends are die hard fans. So much hockey on my news feed. Super annoying.
My H is a huge Minnesota Wild fan. We have the game on right now... and it's going into overtime. *yawn*
Have you tried just putting her to sleep in your bed or a bed in her room? If you're going to cosleep anyway maybe if she briefly wakes up after her sleep cycle and is where she knows she will stay to sleep she'll have an easier time going back to sleep in her own? My vote would be to ditch the crib if you are transferring her into it asleep and then taking her out at first wake up anyway.
Question about this - does your DD sleep in something in your bed to keep her from falling out? I'm thinking about moving my LO into a bed soon because we only have a minicrib and it's getting a little cramped for him, but I'm nervous that he'll fall out of any bed that's raised off of the floor. Maybe because last summer he rolled out of my bed when we were cosleeping.
I'm also not sure if I want him to be uncontained in his room - even though I know he'll most likely just sleep in there I have this vision of him strewing the contents of his diaper pail around his room in the middle of the night or something like that.
We have our bed pretty low on a platform frame. Dd2 knows how to turn around and scoot off backward, and has never fallen off while sleeping. I stay in there with her until she is asleep, and then go in to join her when I'm ready for bed. If/when she wakes up and I'm not there she just starts crying for me to come in.
For dd1 we had a queen mattress on the floor until she was.... I don't know, 20 months maybe? Now it is on a platform frame as well. She has only fallen out twice and that was when she was closer to 2 1/2. She is 3 now and will yell for me to come in when she wakes up in the morning. She pretty much never gets out of bed during the night.
We did make sure to childproof dd1's room so that she couldn't get into anything dangerous if she did get up and do stuff on her own. It hasn't been a problem, though.
tinydancer L is loving her floor bed and it does make night nursing/wake ups easier on me too. Especially right now while she is sick. I was also concerned about what she might get into and it's been a non issue so far. Also she has scooted off in her sleep but becasue it's so close to the ground one time she didn't even wake up. She seems to be learning about the edge of the bed now too.
Post by crimsonandclover on Apr 13, 2017 5:06:37 GMT -5
kcrkcs, poor girl Have you given her Tylenol already?
We paid off our van yesterday! That was my goal by the end of the year, but my freelance work is going so well that we were able to do it a lot sooner.
While my mom was here I wasn't using my treadmill desk because while I was working I wanted to at least be in the same room as her so we could have little conversations. Now I'm trying to get back into the routine. I'm finding that I need to start slowly again after the 2 weeks off! But it's definitely time to start again because my weight loss has plateaued. I'm down 17 lbs since the end of January, but it's been about the same for the last 3 weeks. Time to get moving again!
crimsonandclover yeah rotating Tylenol and ibuprofen. Poor girl is still way miserable. Calling doc in AM. Congrats on the wait loss. Maybe your little "break" will help keep your momentum.
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