WWJ16D Mornings!

[bexincanada]

So tomorrow I start work. DW gets up at 5:30, leaves at 6:30. Nanny gets here at 8, I have to be at work at 8:30.

Is usually wakes around 7, 7:15. I'm worried about DW'S alarm though... she has a bad habit of hitting snooze and our bedroom shares a wall with Is'. Until now DW has been sleeping downstairs to not have to get up at night.

My thought was to set my alarm (silent, it mimics the sunrise) for 6:30 or 6:45 so I can jump in the shower before getting Is up and getting us both fed and dressed.

Thoughts? How do you handle previously simple tasks like showering before work?

[frecklesnbrains]

First of all, don't worry - you'll figure it out by trial and error. Your strategy sounds like a good way to start though. It really helps a lot if your DD has a pretty regular routine for waking up. Good luck with your first day back at work!!!

[Kevinmac]

Your plan sounds good. If your LO usually wakes around the same time then I would definitely get up early enough to be ready by that time. The mornings DS wakes up before I'm ready I put him in the rock n play, give him my brush to play with and shower with the curtain half open. I don't love those mornings.

[greysonsmom]

How was your first day back?

[bexincanada]

Apr 17, 2017 20:28:16 GMT -5 greysonsmom said:

How was your first day back?

It was good, thanks! I started a new job and they didn't fill it for a couple of months so it was busy, but I think it will be a good fit.

The nanny was sick so DW stayed home... so I didn't get a real try at the morning routine today.

We're having disagreements about night time division of labour now that I'm back at work though. *lol* Not a happy camper about that. Hopefully Is sleeps through the night tonight...

[mladerri]

Good luck with the transition. I wfh so I always say I'll shower at some point and it never happens. Why is showering such a hard thing to do? I hope dw starts to share nighttime with you. It took mh a little while to adjust.

[Stringy]

How is it going bex?

I struggled with mornings for a long time. My older daughter will happily watch tv while I shower and honestly before she was mobile I'd plop P down on the rug surrounded by toys too and shower fast- telling DD1 to come get me if needed.

Now that she's mobile I try to get up before them and shower (Wife leaves before dawn). If that fails for some reason then she goes in the pack n play and may just scream for 10 minutes. It's gotten easier since the very beginning when I was more reluctant for her to cry. Now I'm over it lol.

[Stringy]

That said. Getting the three of us out of the house is still a chore. DD1 is very stuck to doing things in order and if she gets stuck on what to wear or the wrong plate for breakfast it can throw us all off. I bribe with tv as soon as she's fed and dressed and hair done though and it usually works. P often goes to my moms in pjs. Sorry kid.

[sandandsea]

We make a point to not have it silent when lo sleeps so he gets used to sleeping through noises so I haven't altered my alarms at all and we share a wall too.

If ds is awake while we shower, we have baby proofed the bathroom and he plays in there while we get ready. We have his swing in there and a bunch of toys if he just wants to crawl around. It works well as we can still see him and know he's safe without losing even more sleep by having to wake up before him daily.

[bexincanada]

Apr 18, 2017 8:33:02 GMT -5 mgk207 said:

Apr 17, 2017 20:32:07 GMT -5 bexincanada said:

It was good, thanks! I started a new job and they didn't fill it for a couple of months so it was busy, but I think it will be a good fit.

The nanny was sick so DW stayed home... so I didn't get a real try at the morning routine today.

We're having disagreements about night time division of labour now that I'm back at work though. *lol* Not a happy camper about that. Hopefully Is sleeps through the night tonight...

The division of labor is tricky when one partner gets accustomed to the other one being home. I didn't intend to go back to work full time after LO was born, because I had a private practice I was planning to resume 2 days/week (I'm a Licensed Mental Health Counselor). Then, an amazing opportunity presented itself 5 days/week, so here I am. There has definitely been a learning curve with us. I was really clear before I started that I was no longer going to be doing ALL of the shopping, cooking, planning, etc. He understood, but habits are hard to break. And really, who wants to take on MORE in the evening when you're already tired from working all day? We both just try to be gracious with each other, knowing that we're both tired, and if we can't, we keep our mouths shut

We are twins... I'm a Mental Health Counsellor as well (Registered Social Worker).  I also wasn't planning to go back full-time, have a private practice, but found a new position that was too good to pass up!

Thankfully I got the new employer to agree to 4 days per week as I started the private practice a few months ago so am locked on to a lease/have clients.  I'm now looking for a subletter, but am super busy trying to do both.  I'm sure it will even out once I get a handle on the new environment.

[bexincanada]

Apr 19, 2017 5:56:32 GMT -5 Stringy said:

How is it going bex?

I struggled with mornings for a long time. My older daughter will happily watch tv while I shower and honestly before she was mobile I'd plop P down on the rug surrounded by toys too and shower fast- telling DD1 to come get me if needed.

Now that she's mobile I try to get up before them and shower (Wife leaves before dawn). If that fails for some reason then she goes in the pack n play and may just scream for 10 minutes. It's gotten easier since the very beginning when I was more reluctant for her to cry. Now I'm over it lol.

It's going!

The nanny only came one day this week, she was sick, so DW has stayed home a couple of days.  Yesterday was the first full-day with the nanny.  Is seemed to cope well, had a couple of stroller naps.  Last night was rough overnight though... very little sleep past 2am.  I think it was similar to what you went through with P and her wanting the night time snuggles after the change during the day.

Today at work was rough just because of sleep deprivation.  I'm planning on going to bed right after she's alseep!

[bexincanada]

Apr 19, 2017 17:59:31 GMT -5 mgk207 said:

Apr 19, 2017 16:40:04 GMT -5 bexincanada said:

We are twins... I'm a Mental Health Counsellor as well (Registered Social Worker).  I also wasn't planning to go back full-time, have a private practice, but found a new position that was too good to pass up!

Thankfully I got the new employer to agree to 4 days per week as I started the private practice a few months ago so am locked on to a lease/have clients.  I'm now looking for a subletter, but am super busy trying to do both.  I'm sure it will even out once I get a handle on the new environment.

How funny! It's a pretty big adjustment, isn't it? I went back in January. The new job came up so quickly that I didn't even think to negotiate for four days. It was a short term position in a high school (until the end of the school year), but through an agency. I'm now in the process of re-negotiating my position moving forward and am definitely going to advocate for myself to do four days instead. My boys are doing great in daycare, but logistically it would be great to have a weekday off!

I can't imagine trying to balance the private practice, too. I considered that, but then realized I would be biting off way more than I could chew. I hope you're able to find a good balance for yourself!

Thanks, I'm with a Family Health Team (doctor's office) and it's a mat. Leave contract so I figured I could juggle for now and then see if a permanent spot opens up or if I want to just go private. The key is the subletter to keep my overhead low... if that works out I can see 5-10 clients and will try to limit appointments to Fridays to keep weekend/evening work to a bare minimum.

[woodengirl07]

Hope things are going well! I try to get up about an hour before my LO so I can get ready. (I'm slow in the morning) luckily DH is home in the mornings too in case she wakes up, but a few minutes on her own won't hurt. We didn't alter our alarm or anything we do in the morning and she seems to sleep through it fine.

[bexincanada]

It's been hit or miss, on miss days I just don't shower. She had a little stretch of earlier mornings. I'm at a conference right now though so I get a hotel bed and full night's sleep... I'm going to revel in it.

I miss my monkey right now, but I won't at 2am.